Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Hi all, how is everyone

Just checking in while waiting for our evening meal (df has gone for drinks!!) Have had a lovely day by the sea. Had ice creams and rock and looked around tacky shops! Loved it!! The sun has been shining mostly, although there was a big thunder storm just as we arrived at our hotel! Good timing!! Tomorrow we arrive at my mum and dads, I can't wait to see them. Have brought all the pictures foster carer gave of little pink to show them. No doubt mum will want to scan them all and print and add to her rather large collection on the fridge!!

Love to all xxxxx

 

[karenh]

So glad you are having such a good time!

I am exhausted because my coworker is on vacation for two weeks, we are in the second week now, and so I am really busy at work. An hour and a half to go at this job, then off to my second job, followed by BINGO with my MIL who is in town this week.

 

[nexis]

We had a call from the agency today. It looks like I'm going to have to go for the bariatric surgery after all. They said that my weight will be a problem when I have to have a medical.

 

[Lolly1985]

I have heard of many who have been told similar things but as long as they have been showing they are trying to lose weight, for example by joining slimming world, their medicals have been ok. Also heard that different agencies view things differently when it comes to weight. There have been quite a few threads on the adoption section of the fertility friends site, may be worth doing a search on there. Really sorry nexis, must be a blow xxx

 

[nexis]

I have heard of many who have been told similar things but as long as they have been showing they are trying to lose weight, for example by joining slimming world, their medicals have been ok. Also heard that different agencies view things differently when it comes to weight. There have been quite a few threads on the adoption section of the fertility friends site, may be worth doing a search on there. Really sorry nexis, must be a blow xxx

Thanks. I think I might reconsider bariatric surgery, as my bmi is 50 at the moment. I'm 19st but only 5'2", so to be the correct bmi I need to lose 10st.

 

[aimze]

Nexus that's not good I hope it doesn't put you off and maybe if an agency sees you actively joining a club type thing?

Talking of drs...how much did UK people pay if at all? I'm just about to book an appointment an according to google it's about £74 each!!

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[Lolly1985]

If yours are £74 each I'd go for it!! Ours were £77 but a friend of mine is over £100 each and I have recently seen a thread on adoption UK with someone having been quoted £250 each!! Basically GPs can charge what they like which is wrong. I think what Google has told you is what is recommended but each to their own scarily xxx

 

[aimze]

Oh no lolly really!! So looks like I could be haggling with my gp then! Eeck!!

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[Lolly1985]

Ring up and get a quote hun, what we did first xxx

 

[karenh]

Nexis: Sorry you are running into that issue. I don't know how stone translates into pounds and what not, but I hope that you are able to get things worked out where you can still adopt.

 

[nexis]

Nexis: Sorry you are running into that issue. I don't know how stone translates into pounds and what not, but I hope that you are able to get things worked out where you can still adopt.

It's about 266 pounds.

 

[karenh]

I weigh more than that and they haven't said anything about me needing to loose weight. I hope they don't.

 

[zero7]

I agree and i have no patience for those that complain about their pregnancy symptoms "oh YEAH??? well, screw you AND your stupid fetus!"

Lola - that is so harsh and quite inappropriate in my opinion.

 

[Loski83]

We paid £100 for both of our medicals it should have been more but our doctor did us a deal. The doctors can charge what they want so you will just have to check.
Our holiday is nearly over I will be home for 3 weeks then me and little one are going away for 5 days so she can meet my family from Cornwall.
I hope everyone is doing ok with whatever stage they are at. Zero I agree that the comment was out of order every child is special whether you adopt or whether your pregnant. Some people really struggle to get pregnant, some are lucky and some just don't deserve to be but if it wasn't for that fetus us as adoptive parents wouldn't have our beautiful children. Every pregnancy is a blessing in its own way.

 

[karenh]

While I do agree it isn't the fetus that should be looked at in that way, I am overly tired of pregnant people complaining about being pregnant and all thier symptoms.

 

[dreamofabean]

Sorry to hear that nexis
I think we were incredibly lucky, our la paid for the medicals! Apparently that is changing under the new process though! X

 

[aimze]

Well you know how I was moaning about £70 each...I was wrong...it's £179 each...

I'm beyond annoyed. I have no choice but to credit card it as I've had to pay for a new back door, blinds & new carpet this month! Grr

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[dreamofabean]

Oh no!

 

[Rainy123]

My medical was also paid for by my LA but my doctor was shocked so it can't be common.

Nothing to report here. Just reading what you're all up to and hoping that when I return from holiday tomorrow I get a letter confirming panel dates. Did you get letters?

 

[dreamofabean]

Yeah but it was quite close to the date, probably a week or so before Hun!
Well I'm home after a lovely time camping had such a laugh and were very lucky with the weather!
I can't believe that the summer is almost over and I'm back at work on Monday! God how I love being a teacher for those 6 weeks of the summer
On a bright note, little mans court date is a week tomorrow! So the wait is almost over!! Whoop!!