i would me more than happy if i could get eithier of those options... i have had contact with my daughter who is 2 year 7 month for her whole life , her mother has not met a new partner and has refused all access now and will not have any communication , my sol has sent a letter requestin weekends and weds. but i no she will refuse , while all of this paper work is being sent back and forth im not seein my daughter and it feels as tho it could be a very long time before i do and im scared of my daughter losin the bond she has with me
i need to correct my earlier post i just re read.... not was meant to be now. she stopped all my contact when she met this new partner.
yeh i am doing but all the solicitor says is we have to allow the mother time to respond to my requests , in the mean time i have no idea whether my daughter is safe well and happy , dont understand why she can just take our daughter out of my life and i can do nothing about it any time soon i just have to wait !
yeh i am doing but all the solicitor says is we have to allow the mother time to respond to my requests , in the mean time i have no idea whether my daughter is safe well and happy , dont understand why she can just take our daughter out of my life and i can do nothing about it any time soon i just have to wait !
To be honest, it is your choice what you do and the solicitor is only there to advise, you know your ex and if you really don't think she is going to respond, then personally I would be making the court application now. I think that she deserves a maximum of a fortnight to respond to letters, phonecalls, emails etc and if you hear nothing at all then you definitely need to make the application.
I know it is very frustrating, I have been on the receiving end of this, being taken to court when my son's dad has always had regular access to him. I told him of Dad's like yourself who have a genuine reason to go through the courts due to not being allowed to see their children, yet he has wasted tax payers money taking me only to be told by the judge he wasted everyones times bringing me to court when he has regular contact! It disgusts me!
Unfortunately you will have to offer mediation first and wait for her to respond but then you can make the court application and just sit tight for the hearing date. I can't imagine how awful it must be to not be able to see your little girl and I really hope your ex bucks her ideas up quickly for your sake. Even if she does though, I would still take her to court and get a contact order in place so that she can't do anything like this to you and your daughter ever again. How did this all happen? Did you just turn up one day for contact and she didn't turn up??
She is technically right that it is not your business who she dates, BUT if that man is around your daughter then I think you have every right to know and she certainly shouldn't have reacted the way she has. Could you not turn up at the house on a day you would normally have contact and see if you can speak to her? I am not sure what else you could do if she has blocked you from phoning? Do you speak to any members of her family at all like her mum, dad or siblings?
That's terrible behaviour on her part. Well I would definitely recommend you keep a log of the days and times you have turned up for contact and she has ignored you and the days and times you have attempted to call etc and just crack on with the court case. I think the judge will be able to see you have tried your hardest. Are you paying maintenance and if so is it to her directly or through csa?
yeh i am doing but all the solicitor says is we have to allow the mother time to respond to my requests , in the mean time i have no idea whether my daughter is safe well and happy , dont understand why she can just take our daughter out of my life and i can do nothing about it any time soon i just have to wait !
To be honest, it is your choice what you do and the solicitor is only there to advise, you know your ex and if you really don't think she is going to respond, then personally I would be making the court application now. I think that she deserves a maximum of a fortnight to respond to letters, phonecalls, emails etc and if you hear nothing at all then you definitely need to make the application.