Afraid of ruining another holiday

[victoria1987]

Hi there,
So I lost my first pg at 6 wks on Christmas Eve, obviously this ruined my and DH's Christmas (and I am sure it will affect Christmas' to come). I am now pg again, I ended up conceiving first cycle after mc without ever having a first AF. My first u/s is scheduled for Valentines day and I am convinced that they are going to find that they baby has died, not formed properly or that there is just nothing there! I worry that this will ruin yet another holiday for DH and I

I am so scared, I am trying to stay rational and remember that I have good symptoms, no bleeding or cramping and my Dr. said everything looked good at my appointment. I'm just making myself crazy and don't know how I will handle bad news on yet another holiday.

 

[Kasey84]

Wishing you all the best with this pregnancy. I hope Valentines Day brings you the best news! Pregnancy after loss is tough and I think it's natural to worry about things going wrong again.

As for holidays being ruined, I can certainly relate. I lost my first baby at 14 weeks on Christmas Eve 2012. Although I was 24 weeks pregnant by this past Christmas, it was still hard remembering the loss of the previous Christmas. The loss becomes a part of who we are and I will always feel a little sadness around that time of year. I will tell you though that I was still able to enjoy the holidays and feel joy. The holiday won't ever be quite the same, but it also doesn't have to be completely ruined.

Keep us posted on the results of your ultrasound.

 

[londongirl]

I relate completely. Had a MMC at 10 weeks - only spotted it at a routine scan. I'm terrified of my first scan at 12 weeks. Terrified!!

X

 

[MrsGax]

I can totally relate. I had my first MC/D&C on mothers day in 2011. The day after our first year wedding anniversary. For a few years, it ruined our anniversary and mothers day for me. I know the fear of ruining another day for yourself. It sucks, but I will pray that everything is good inside with your little one.

 

[Kezzybear]

Hi Hun, I miscarried at 6 weeks, didn't get an AF and fell straight away too. I had my first scan yesterday and our little bean was In there with heartbeat flicking away!
It's going to be fine. Although I understand the stress.
Think positive thoughts and talk to your little one. Good luck!!

 

[dairymomma]

I was in the same situation. I found out around the 4th of July that my 14 week baby didn't have a hb and I needed a D&C. Got pg just one cycle later but found out it was blighted ovum in early Oct. Then BAM, I got pg (we honestly weren't trying) without a period after that miscarriage and I was worried sick the whole first trimester. Even had bleeding, spotting, clotting, and cramping for 5 weeks to make things extra hard on me. Didn't breathe easy until I passed 15 weeks but here I am at 18 weeks and baby looks good. Hang in there and hopefully this is your rainbow!