Alcohol while ttc?

[Sambatiki]

Just a thought.......

Didnt research show that even for pregnant women, an OCCASIONAL small glass of wine is actually ok.

 

[leelee]

Do you know what im not even going to bother posting on this thread anymore. Why should i sit here and defend my personal opinion?
I said originally its each to their own.
Someone asked a question i gave my opinion end of.
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It's not an attack on your opinion. I think if you can keep off alcohol and want to then fair play to you. It is more the way you said 'big risk'. There are a lot of people coming on to this forum for advice and unless you have evidence to prove it is a big risk then you will probably frighten some people, as you nearly did me.

 

[Sambatiki]

Do you know what im not even going to bother posting on this thread anymore. Why should i sit here and defend my personal opinion?
I said originally its each to their own.
Someone asked a question i gave my opinion end of.
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I think its more scare-mongering tactic.... The its a BIG risk comment.
No-one here is suggesting that youre not entitled to your opinion, at all.... I think its more that your comment suggested that some us have no regard for our potential unborn child.
There are lots of ladies here that have been TTC for a VERY long time and have been ttc without success using every trick in the book. That are also allowed to express their opinion without being told theyre risking their childs life.

 

[DaisyDuke]

Just so u know i have made nearly 5000 posts on this site and not once had an argument with anyone.

Your opinion, and i quote has been 'it's a big risk' and 'it could potentialy cause a m/c or problems'??? Please put urself in my shoes, how would that make u feel?

If you don't want to reply then that's fine, but please next time respond with i personally would rather not. Because your response could be taken as you think we are being iresponsible and putting our babies at risk. I pray u never have a m/c but from a women who has experiences one, and beaten herself up over anything little thing she did while pregnant, she really doesnt need someone telling her that something she might have caused her m/c.

I was sent for counselling cos i was so upset and blamed myself, and my counseler has spent many hours convincing me nothing i did caused the outcome, least of all a few glasses of wine before my

 

[chocolatecat]

I've had a few months of being very careful with my alcohol consumption and a few months with 2-3 glass before ov and during AF. No BFPs so far. I agree that thinking up excuses for not drinking when you have a busy social life is hard, esp when you don't want people thinking your pregnant when you're not.

I think it depends on lifestyle somewhat. If you don't drink a lot anyway, stopping altogether gives you a feeling that you're doing something positive.
I've cut back fro a 2-3 glasses 2-3 times a week, but I haven't stopped altogther.
I believe it has no affect on the baby before implantation, but I don't really drink after ovulation. 2 weeks out of 4 is ok and I try and plan as much fun social stuff in that time as possible. Besides, when I do get knocked up thats going to be a Looooong dry spell!

Ilovemysoldier, I'm happy to listen to your opinion but I think since you don't think it's much to give up and you don't miss it you're coming at the question from a different angle to most of us on this thread. I do miss it, especially when I'm with my friends or it's been a really bad day. I've not been drunk in months, but I enjoy a glass of wine. I'd give it up in second if I thought it would affect my fertility, but I really don't think it does and I think it would affect my happiness. I don't want to be on "hold" until conception.

Cheers

 

[colsy]

I ain't even going to get involved with the argument, but ChocolateCat, where in South Yorkshire are you? Are you a Sheffield lass?

 

[Ilovemysoldier]

Daisyduke- do you not think that maybe, just maybe, ive been through the agony of a mc and that i am awake every night wondering if the fw glasses of wine i had was the cause of it?
Thats why i call it a risk- because i dont have a clear conscience i dont know and will never know if thats what caused it.
I never once said anyone that drinks has no regard for their unborn child.
This really is my last post on this thread now.
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[chocolatecat]

I ain't even going to get involved with the argument, but ChocolateCat, where in South Yorkshire are you? Are you a Sheffield lass?

Probably a wise move! But I had to put my two-pence worth in as I also found the 'big risk' comment upsetting and I've never even had a BFP!

Yep, I'm in Sheffield, S6. Where are you?

 

[bobobaby]

Oh man, should my hubby not be drinking beer?? I never thought of that!

He usually has 1 beer after work. So probably like 5 a week?? He rarely gets drunk, like twice a year if we are having a good time with friends. And sometimes we'll have wine with dinner. AND last night he bought a bottle of whiskey to sip on. Is this really going to make a difference with his sperm??

 

[colsy]

Yep, I'm in Sheffield, S6. Where are you?

Used to live in S6 Now in the Peak District

 

[berrukins]

I watched "Pregnancy for Dummies" on cable & the doctor in the show mentioned that having the occasional glass of wine is fine (if I remember right!) Well if you didn't know you're pregnant & did drink during the unknown period, she said it's fine .. well I guess, so long as you don't overdo the intake. I'll think the heavier stuff, like liquor & mixes, should be avoided at all times?

During my last TWW, I did abstain from all alcohol .. it was so hard cuz DH and I would have our wine nights every weekend, so even he didn't drink since I didn't want to open a bottle. After the 2nd BFN, I thought what the heck, I'm not definitely not preggers so I had to drown my sorrows at my gf's wedding. What a nice way to end the disappointing TWW. It's back to wine till DPO starts!

 

[Backtoback]

Oh man, should my hubby not be drinking beer?? I never thought of that!

He usually has 1 beer after work. So probably like 5 a week?? He rarely gets drunk, like twice a year if we are having a good time with friends. And sometimes we'll have wine with dinner. AND last night he bought a bottle of whiskey to sip on. Is this really going to make a difference with his sperm??

Dont worry about it, I think from reading this thread one comment was blown out of proportion and scared half of us.

If you are worried I would consult a qualified doctor and get them to advise you and your OH, but I shouldnt think that occasional beers can cause that many problems - however, if it takes you a long time to conceive then it might be worth looking at?

 

[bobobaby]

Oh man, should my hubby not be drinking beer?? I never thought of that!

He usually has 1 beer after work. So probably like 5 a week?? He rarely gets drunk, like twice a year if we are having a good time with friends. And sometimes we'll have wine with dinner. AND last night he bought a bottle of whiskey to sip on. Is this really going to make a difference with his sperm??

Dont worry about it, I think from reading this thread one comment was blown out of proportion and scared half of us.

If you are worried I would consult a qualified doctor and get them to advise you and your OH, but I shouldnt think that occasional beers can cause that many problems - however, if it takes you a long time to conceive then it might be worth looking at?

Thanks... don't think my hubby would want to give up beer, lol. He is one of those 'let it happen naturally' guys, and he is already slightly amused/puts up with all my charting. But if I told him to put down the beer don't think he'd be as amused!

 

[DaisyDuke]

Daisyduke- do you not think that maybe, just maybe, ive been through the agony of a mc and that i am awake every night wondering if the fw glasses of wine i had was the cause of it?
Thats why i call it a risk- because i dont have a clear conscience i dont know and will never know if thats what caused it.
I never once said anyone that drinks has no regard for their unborn child.
This really is my last post on this thread now.
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No in all honesty consdering earlier today u posted saying u had never been pregnant or had a bfp???

https://www.babyandbump.com/trying-to-conceive/99830-never-ever-had-bfp-ever.html

If u have had a mc then im terribly sorry u have been tho this. However why did u post u have never been pregnant or had a of u have been thro a mc?

 

[Amberley]

I don't drink alcohol - not for ttc reasons - I just don't like the taste (of wine/spirits or anything). However I've always thought that drinking one or two glasses of wine a week during pregnancy does not harm the mental/physical development of the baby OR increse the chance of mc.

I do know how people feel about blaming themselves for m/c though - I bought some new boots as a present to myself when I got my BFP and wore them out shopping when it was raining - the soles were wet and I slipped on the floor in Superdrug and landed heavily on my back... I was devasted and so worried about what harm I'd done the baby... Two days later I mc - I'll never be able to convince myself that the two weren't related....anyway I digress....

I think it's personal choice and we all have our own opinions and doesn't mean to say there is a black and white answer to the question..

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[bke]

Thank you for all your comments!

I have decided to have my wine tonight - not getting wasted of course because I think moderation is the key here. Poor DH can have his beer but as well - in moderation! I sent my doctor an email about all this and she told me to relax, live my life and just let it happen. Easier said than done but I will try!

Have a nice weekend!

 

[DaisyDuke]

Thank you for all your comments!

I have decided to have my wine tonight - not getting wasted of course because I think moderation is the key here. Poor DH can have his beer but as well - in moderation! I sent my doctor an email about all this and she told me to relax, live my life and just let it happen. Easier said than done but I will try!

Have a nice weekend!

Good for u

 

[colsy]

I would love a glass of red this evening. Just one glass, that's all. But I'm a day or so late for AF and got symptoms and hoping, just hoping. So I wonder what the quoted fertility specialist or emailing GP (imagine having a GP who can email - that's soooo cool!) would have to say?

Have a nice evening, girls, with or without your wine xx

 

[DaisyDuke]

I would love a glass of red this evening. Just one glass, that's all. But I'm a day or so late for AF and got symptoms and hoping, just hoping. So I wonder what the quoted fertility specialist or emailing GP (imagine having a GP who can email - that's soooo cool!) would have to say?

Have a nice evening, girls, with or without your wine xx

If i were u i would test? If u get e enjoy a few drinks

 

[colsy]

If i were u i would test? If u get e enjoy a few drinks

Ooh, I would if I had a test. But I don't! Nice idea though. xx