Alcohol while ttc?

[DaisyDuke]

If i were u i would test? If u get e enjoy a few drinks

Ooh, I would if I had a test. But I don't! Nice idea though. xx

well just have 1 small glass then good luck.

 

[DaisyDuke]

Daisyduke- do you not think that maybe, just maybe, ive been through the agony of a mc and that i am awake every night wondering if the fw glasses of wine i had was the cause of it?
Thats why i call it a risk- because i dont have a clear conscience i dont know and will never know if thats what caused it.
I never once said anyone that drinks has no regard for their unborn child.
This really is my last post on this thread now.
xx

No in all honesty consdering earlier today u posted saying u had never been pregnant or had a bfp???

https://www.babyandbump.com/trying-to-conceive/99830-never-ever-had-bfp-ever.html

If u have had a mc then im terribly sorry u have been tho this. However why did u post u have never been pregnant or had a of u have been thro a mc?

Just wanted to bump this up, cos i'm very confused? Can u please come back and explian?

 

[Ilovemysoldier]

I never took a test, i never had a BFP to look at. I didnt know i was pregnant.
I got clots in my period which wasnt normal for me i took it to dr and they said id have a mc.
Its a bit difficult to explain just i was for 2 weeks then wasnt. I didnt know i was preg so to me ive never had a BFP.
Its not something i wanted to announce to everyone to be honest but there we go.
In my mind as soon as i get this BFP itll be my first
xx

 

[DaisyDuke]

I never took a test, i never had a BFP to look at. I didnt know i was pregnant.
I got clots in my period which wasnt normal for me i took it to dr and they said id have a mc.
Its a bit difficult to explain just i was for 2 weeks then wasnt. I didnt know i was preg so to me ive never had a BFP.
Its not something i wanted to announce to everyone to be honest but there we go.
In my mind as soon as i get this BFP itll be my first
xx

This is still weird, purely because one minute u have never been preg or had a then ur saying 'ive been through the agony of a mc and that i am awake every night wondering if the fw glasses of wine i had was the cause of it?'

Plus i have never heard of a dr confirming a m/c without confirming u are or were pregnant?

However ill give u the benefit of the doubt and assume noone would make up having a m/c.

 

[Ilovemysoldier]

I can quite assure you she did.

"You'll give me the benefit of the doubt" rofl. Well i am glad i have YOUR approval.

I hope we can move on from this difference of opinions lark
xx

 

[DaisyDuke]

I can quite assure you she did.

"You'll give me the benefit of the doubt" rofl. Well i am glad i have YOUR approval.

I hope we can move on from this difference of opinions lark
xx

No u dont have my approval, like i said 'benefit of the doubt'. It's also weird u say ur have been thro the agony of a m/c but ur next preg u will class as ur first?

 

[Ilovemysoldier]

Well, i really dont see what its got to do with you what i class as what. The way i do things really seems to have put a bee in your bonnet and i dont know why.
I really couldnt care less if you believe me or not.
This whole thing is really childish!
Can we just get on with it and call it quits?
xx

 

[NickyT75]

Well, i really dont see what its got to do with you what i class as what. The way i do things really seems to have put a bee in your bonnet and i dont know why.
I really couldnt care less if you believe me or not.
This whole thing is really childish!
Can we just get on with it and call it quits?
xx

can i suggest you stop posting and let the thread calm down? its getting a bit personal & you really aren't helping the situation by being argumentative towards someone who has been TTC a lot longer than you & is speaking from experience

If you don't want to drink any alcohol then i applaud you but please dont tell people "it is a big risk" when it clearly isnt

 

[hopefulfor09]

Thanks for your post Nicky. I started reading this because I too like to enjoy my occassional glass of wine and wanted to see what the consensus was. I asked my doctor and he actually said the best thing to do whilst ttc is to act like you're not. He said have lots of sex and don't stress about it. It is widely recognized that stress is a huge contributor to difficulty ttc and I think obsessing about every little thing does more harm than a couple of glasses of wine now and then. If it was such a "huge risk" to have any alcohol whilst ttc - I think he would have told me that.

Everyone is entitled to thier opinion - and if you choose not to drink soldier, my hats off to you - but I trust the opinion of my medicallly licensed doctor. I respect the opinions of others, especially in this wonderfully supportive place. But I have to say that your comment was more than an opinion soldier, it was a judgement and BnB is not the place for that. We are not here to judge one another, we are to support and inspire and encouage. If you can't do that on a thread....then don't comment.

I hope we all get our BFP's soon ladies.....babydust and big hugs.

 

[kasey]

Oh man, should my hubby not be drinking beer?? I never thought of that!

He usually has 1 beer after work. So probably like 5 a week?? He rarely gets drunk, like twice a year if we are having a good time with friends. And sometimes we'll have wine with dinner. AND last night he bought a bottle of whiskey to sip on. Is this really going to make a difference with his sperm??

I wouldn't worry about this bohobaby, sounds like your hubby is not a heavy drinker at all. My dh does like his beer (and does get drunk!) and works in a job where drinking and socialising are part of the game so I can't expect him to give it up completely, and thankfully his sperm results all came back normal recently.

I've been really stressed about the drinking thing over the last year, not that I get drunk a lot but I do love a glass of red and I feel like my life has been on hold a wee bit - which is v hard after a year ttc! So afer reading this thread I have decided i am going to chill and enjoy the odd glass -it makes sense because being relaxed is by far the most important thing we can do for ourselves right now. If a glass of red helps then we should just go for it. In moderation of course!

 

[DaisyDuke]

Oh man, should my hubby not be drinking beer?? I never thought of that!

He usually has 1 beer after work. So probably like 5 a week?? He rarely gets drunk, like twice a year if we are having a good time with friends. And sometimes we'll have wine with dinner. AND last night he bought a bottle of whiskey to sip on. Is this really going to make a difference with his sperm??

I wouldn't worry about this bohobaby, sounds like your hubby is not a heavy drinker at all. My dh does like his beer (and does get drunk!) and works in a job where drinking and socialising are part of the game so I can't expect him to give it up completely, and thankfully his sperm results all came back normal recently.

I've been really stressed about the drinking thing over the last year, not that I get drunk a lot but I do love a glass of red and I feel like my life has been on hold a wee bit - which is v hard after a year ttc! So afer reading this thread I have decided i am going to chill and enjoy the odd glass -it makes sense because being relaxed is by far the most important thing we can do for ourselves right now. If a glass of red helps then we should just go for it. In moderation of course!

good luck enjoy urself and ur oh

 

[Winter Belle]

I know the general conversation has been about beer and wine in ttc but these are two alcohols I don't really like... I'm afraid my weakness is an Archers and lemonade or Apple Sourz wih lemonade (not as a shot).. I think these are mild spirits and I always mix with a large amount of lemonade.. do you think these are ok or too strong? I only drink a maximum of three in a night and only drink once a fortnight (if that).
I am just curious for when I begin ttc ad will obviously consult doc at that time.. what do you think?

 

[DaisyDuke]

I would say it's fine Less alcohol than wine i would think. X

 

[ellie]

actually this thread has made me feel a bit better about the odd drink ... I love a drink! and have always enjoyed a drink at weekends ... but now have stopped totally for TTC, and I find it quite hard, I really miss it. i did stop before, got pg, then had an mc and have, as many others do, beat myself up ever since about having a couple of beers around the time of ovulation that cycle and what if was related ... however, if Af shows this cycle, I will certainly be having a couple of glasses of wine ... it is somewhat of a relief to read on this thread that it doesn't seem to be such a huge thing as I had thought. Thanks all.

 

[Kota]

hmmmm, I'm sitting here with OH and we're on our 2nd bottle of red for the evening, we also got through 2 bottles last night, and I dare say, will get through a lot more by the end of the weekend. But to be honest, right now, I don't care. I MC 6 days ago and found out today that I didn't get the job I went for, and during the month before getting my bfp I had maybe 2 or 3 glasses of wine, no caffine, no crappy foods. It didn't make a difference and while I now know that theres no baby, and we're just taking this month as it comes without the pressure of 'ttc' then I'm going to bloomin well enjoy my glass (or 4) of red.

From a researched point of view, as far as I'm aware, the 'baby' doesn't start to absorb anything from the monther until the 6 week mark, and between 6-12 weeks are the most important to not drink anything. the occasional glass up until conception, WILL NOT lead to a MC.

 

[ellie]

sorry to hear that kota.... take care, and enjoy your red ... I seem to remember after my mc I got ratted on champagne (as it was new years eve) - certainly not celebrating, it was the most awful nye ever, but it was good to blot it out. Do take care though and I hope you are okay ...

 

[DaisyDuke]

Thanks Kota, so sorry for what u have been thro, if u want to talk pm me, enjoy ur i know i am CHEERS. XXX

 

[Kota]

lol, thanks ladies, I didn't mean that to come across as a 'woe for me' post. I'm certainly enjoying it though, and it's nice to not be stressing for a few days. Sometimes you just gotta let your hair down hey!

 

[DaisyDuke]

U didnt babe

 

[Mrs G]

Hi girls, have been stalking this thread and I'm not gonna add to the alcohol debate.... just wanted to say....

Daisy - NICE PICTURE!!!!