anixety panic attacks and depression surpport group

[LoobyLou75]

PepsiChic - That's just it hun, I don't have an understanding DH. He tries to be supportive but just gets frustrated with me and sulks which doesn't help. No matter how many times I try and explain to him I can't help it, he thinks I can

Sounds like your DH is a star

 

[PepsiChic]

PepsiChic - That's just it hun, I don't have an understanding DH. He tries to be supportive but just gets frustrated with me and sulks which doesn't help. No matter how many times I try and explain to him I can't help it, he thinks I can

Sounds like your DH is a star

i would try leaving him a letter/email to read. trust me my DH was doing the sulking thing, and he was driving me up the wall! just had to open his eyes that he was contributing to the problem but i knew talking to him would egt nothing but another tantrum sulking session from him, because he'd try and anwser back to everything id say. so i put it all in an email. that way he couldnt butt in every two seconds with a comment.

ive been so tired lately i was hoping for an early night. LO is normally in bed 7pm, even with the shots and stuff he was in bed by 8pm (although woke 7 times the first night and once the second)...so of course the night i decide i want to go to bed early....he didnt go down till 11:30pm.

slept through till 7:30am. which is when he normally wakes. and i just cant seem to nap during the day!!!!

 

[eblondie]

Lack of sleep or interrupted sleep is probably one of the biggest factors to my anxiety. If I don't get my sleep I easily become grumpy and then it all spirals. I struggle because my DH has a totally different body clock to mine I love my LO to bits but I do miss my long sleeps!!!

LoobyLou.... just wanted to say that I understand some as it's a struggle here too x

 

[Pink1981]

I am feeling so sick right now. I don't know why, but for some reason i thought it might be a good idea for me to start applying for some part time jobs. I guess i thought it might help mewith my confidence and in affect help me with my self esteem and anxiety. The thing is i got an interview today at 2.30pm, the job is exactly the kind of thing i want... Its a 6 month contract (maternity cover) so i figure the interview wont be as intenseand their may be a chance the job goes permanent, its only 20 hours a week so i wont be away from the kids for too long and its admin which is what i have always done.
Why oh why does the interview have to be this arvo?? I just want to get it over and done with. I know what i'm like, the longer i sit here worrying the less likely i'll be able to actually get out of the door to the interview.
Arrrrrggggghhhhh!

 

[Brosey]

Ooh i posted a new thread about depression and anxiety before getting to this! Can you please read my post and get back to me on this thread or the one I started? I think you lovely girlies could help me but I CBA to write it all again haha xx

https://www.babyandbump.com/your-health-wellbeing/522031-depression-anxiety.html

 

[carolyn_s]

hi all,

just a quick hello to let you all know im still here, had flu this weekso been busy looking after my poorly babies.Havent stepped outside the front door in 3 days and im starting to climb the walls!!

to those who need it xxx

 

[PepsiChic]

eblondie i know what you mean about the sleep, or lack of it. im so tired every day its a nightmare. sometimes i just dont want to get out of bed because i know being tired makes me more likely to have a panic attack.

Pink thats fantastic that you got an interview! im sorry its making you feel anxious though. Just remember that its an interview and at the end of the day if you dont get it its not the be all and end all of everything. Try your best, tell yourself you CAN do it and go get em! Let us know how the interview goes ok? good luck! x


Brosey i read your thread, its really a hard thing to anwser. Im 23, but I still wonder if i should of had a baby, we werent planning on trying for a baby till we were 25 but i fell pregnant while on the patch. If i were you, honestly id wait another year at least. your young so its not like you dont have plenty of time ahead of you yet. I would see a different doctor and before you go write down a list of everything you feel and think, and give it to the doctor or read off of it. so that if you dont feel confident you can still get the message across what is wrong. Tell them you want to go on medication to control the problem. I would stay on it a year and wean off it and see how you feel then.


carolyn im sorry you've had such a losey time the last few days, i hope you and your babies are feeling better soon *hugs*
x

 

[eblondie]

Pink how did it go? As bad as you thought? I bet you're glad you've done it though It always makes me feel proud of myself when I do things that I find difficult. Have you ever read the book "Feel the fear and do it anyway". I use that as my motto!

Carolyn it's horrible when you're poorly isn't it. I struggle when I don't go out at least once a day so no wonder you are climbing the walls

Thanks PepsiChic x It's great to have someone who understands.

 

[Brosey]

Brosey i read your thread, its really a hard thing to anwser. Im 23, but I still wonder if i should of had a baby, we werent planning on trying for a baby till we were 25 but i fell pregnant while on the patch. If i were you, honestly id wait another year at least. your young so its not like you dont have plenty of time ahead of you yet. I would see a different doctor and before you go write down a list of everything you feel and think, and give it to the doctor or read off of it. so that if you dont feel confident you can still get the message across what is wrong. Tell them you want to go on medication to control the problem. I would stay on it a year and wean off it and see how you feel then.
x

Well I've booked in for the best doctor in the surgery (hes always the hardest one to see lol) im in for next thursday at half 5, I think he'll be much more supportive than the previous 2 I have seen.

And I may have to wait now! OH is considering joining the army because of money, support with buying a house and after the 4 years minimum, if he chooses to come home instead of sign on for longer, he'd be more likely to get the job he wanted - police or fire service. I don't know if thats a good thing or bad thing "/
x

 

[PepsiChic]

Brosey its great that your getting to see a good doctor, sometimes its very hard to get the help you need when the doctors arent very willing people. make sure you explain to him exactly how you feel, how life makes you feel, and what makes you anxious and what happens when your anxious. Ask him to refer you to a specialist, like CBT (cognative behavioural therapy) or a psychaitrist to help you control the anxiety/bi-polar. and above all make sure you let him know that you MAY be thinking about trying for a baby in the future and how any medication that you take for the anxiety etc can affect the pregnancy and what is safe to take and what isnt.

and thats especially important because accidents happen and things arent always in control...me and my DH said we'd wait 3 years after we got married, and i fell pregnant on the patch. i wasnt on any medication so it didnt affect my pregnancy. but had i been goodness knows what may have gone wrong.

 

[PepsiChic]

im really eager to hear how pinks interview went today, i hope she got through the anxiety and had a greta interview.

thinking about you pink! x

 

[carolyn_s]

Lack of sleep or interrupted sleep is probably one of the biggest factors to my anxiety. If I don't get my sleep I easily become grumpy and then it all spirals. I struggle because my DH has a totally different body clock to mine I love my LO to bits but I do miss my long sleeps!!!

LoobyLou.... just wanted to say that I understand some as it's a struggle here too x

same here, Ailah just started sleeping through the night when they both got poorly have both been up several times a night Dying for a long lie!!

I dont have a partner so im doing it all on my own which makes it hard

 

[Pink1981]

Well i did it I think it helped that DH wasn't here. I usually panic and tell himi cant do something and he will happily cancel it for me. But as he wasn't here to do that i just had to go!
When i was sat waiting in the office i had hot flushes and heart palpatations but once in there i was ok. The interview only lasted about 15 mins and i came out feeling really proud of myself! And to top it off DH was waiting for me outside, he'd taken a few hours off work and arranged for his parents too keep the kids for a while so we went to the pub!

x

ETA they are interviewing 2 more people monday and they are making the decision monday

 

[eblondie]

Well done Pink!!! I'm so pleased that you went and did it. If you get the job obviously it will be a huge bonus but I think it's great that you had a good interview. Things are rarely as bad as you think they are going to be.

 

[PepsiChic]

caroyln that must be so hard by yourself, do you have any family near by that could come watch the kids while you take a nap for an hour or 2? i try to take a nap when i get LO down but i can rarely sleep during the day, too much cleaning to do. So i've resigned myself to early bedtime....or so i keep telling myself, but i still seem to be up washing dises at midnight!


YEY! go pink! so proud of you and im so pleased you felt good about yourself, thats such an important thing to feel every now and then. you did a big thing and came out the otheside perfectly fine. And that was so sweet of your DH to do that awww, hope you had a good time at the pub! x

 

[carolyn_s]

Ive got my sister but she works and has a family of her own to look after. Abbys granny is an hour away and always happy to help but i feel bad dragging her all that way just so i can have a powernap. Most of my friends work or have kids too xxx

 

[eblondie]

Ugh a horrible afternoon OH and me had words.... he went out saying he was going to the shop and ended up going to the supermarket. This was after I had already asked him if he could look after LO whilst I got some housework done. I ended up climbing in the playpen and cuddling up to a cushion whilst I had a minor melt down. Poor LO couldn't work out what was going on as he was playing outside the pen! Cats were pretty freaked by it too. Looking back at it now seems a bizarre thing to do but at the time I felt safe

 

[Miss_d]

Ive just seen this thread, i suffer from anxiety will write a bit more about it, need to get back to decorating

 

[Raggydoll]

Ugh a horrible afternoon OH and me had words.... he went out saying he was going to the shop and ended up going to the supermarket. This was after I had already asked him if he could look after LO whilst I got some housework done. I ended up climbing in the playpen and cuddling up to a cushion whilst I had a minor melt down. Poor LO couldn't work out what was going on as he was playing outside the pen! Cats were pretty freaked by it too. Looking back at it now seems a bizarre thing to do but at the time I felt safe

sorry you've had a hard day hun. Don't feel bad about how you dealt with it. You did really well to keep yourself safe. xx

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi Miss_d welcome to the thread.

Well done on your interview Pink. Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Well I'm still not feeling right. The most frustrating thing is I can't explain why. I just feel so incredibly anxious. Things are well at home but I just can't seem to get rid of this feeling. I'm really on edge atm.