anixety panic attacks and depression surpport group

[Miss_d]

Hi all, I just found this thread and wondered if it would be OK to join in?!

I've been registered here for a couple of years but have just lurked until now!

I have had anxiety, panic attacks and agoraphobia in varying degrees for about 10 years. After leaving my stressful job last year, things have been on the up again for me, my confidence is growing and I'm able to do a lot more on my own. So much so, my partner and I were able to at last get married last week after a 3 year engagement, and wondering how best to do it so I wouldn't feel too nervous!

We'd both love to TTC soon, but what's holding me back at the moment is wondering how I'll cope with the pregnancy etc. I think I've accepted that my problems may never go away, but just go up and down throughout life, also my husband is quite a few years older than me and we don't want to wait forever. I wish I knew the 'right' thing to do, but maybe there is no right answer.

Anyway, I hope I can get to know a few of you, it really helps when you know you're not alone!

Congratulations on getting married

i think maybe the best advice on this would be to speak to your gp and see what they say, anxiety is horrible and i hate dealing with it, i wish you all the best for the future x

 

[Peony]

Thanks for your reply, Miss_d, that might be worth a try. It's so frustrating, we are ready in all the other usual ways, lovely home, security etc!

 

[sanjalica]

Hi all, I just found this thread and wondered if it would be OK to join in?!

I've been registered here for a couple of years but have just lurked until now!

I have had anxiety, panic attacks and agoraphobia in varying degrees for about 10 years. After leaving my stressful job last year, things have been on the up again for me, my confidence is growing and I'm able to do a lot more on my own. So much so, my partner and I were able to at last get married last week after a 3 year engagement, and wondering how best to do it so I wouldn't feel too nervous!

We'd both love to TTC soon, but what's holding me back at the moment is wondering how I'll cope with the pregnancy etc. I think I've accepted that my problems may never go away, but just go up and down throughout life, also my husband is quite a few years older than me and we don't want to wait forever. I wish I knew the 'right' thing to do, but maybe there is no right answer.

Anyway, I hope I can get to know a few of you, it really helps when you know you're not alone!

Hey Peony, congratulations on getting married! I understand where you're coming from... I was/am stuck in quite a similar situation. And like you I've accepted that I am the way I am. I think you're right that there is no right answer... I think you just have to go with the flow and thank god you have good friends, family and an awesome husband to keep you from going too far in the deep end. And it IS great knowing there's other people out there in the same boat

 

[Peony]

Hi sanjalica, nice to meet you! I wonder if you, like me, worry what others think of you? Even these days some people can have a 'pull yourself together' attitude. I do have a great support network so am really lucky, but still find myself wondering what others think, even strangers!

 

[sanjalica]

Ohh I fully understand what you mean. I am constantly wondering what others think of me. I fully admit that I realize it myself and know I shouldn't care but I still do. My husband constantly tells me to tell certain people exactly how I feel rather than just let them walk all over me but time after time... My husband is from Serbia and hasn't seen his family in 3 years and so we decided that we'd go for a visit this year... I am so scared and worried about this though... all of his friends and cousins are all married and have kids and I just know they're going to look at me and think 'what a useless pile of ___!'. He says he doesn't care and they won't think that but I know they will.

 

[LoobyLou75]

Hi babydevil1989 and congratulations on your wedding, Peony!

I am the same sanjalica. I can't enter a room or shop or anywhere without thinking someone is staring or wondering what they think of me. My DH says I'm paranoid as he's sure they have more important things to think about.

Does anyone on here suffer from OCD?

 

[9babiesgone]

I am just so dang depressed today and none of my friends or anyone is here to talk with me. My anxiety is sky high, and I am thinking I need to take an xanax, but since I am ttc soon, I dont think that is a good idea. I am so emotional and cryey today!

I dont even know why. I hate clinical depression and anxiety. ; (

 

[Pink1981]

Feel rubbish today, just got an email confirming what i already knew I didn't get the job i applied for on friday. Feel so gutted, i really wanted it and i know i could do it and the money would have helped so much

 

[LoobyLou75]

9babiesgone and Pink1981.

Don't give up hope though, Pink1981. I know it's disappointing when you don't get a job you want but I'm sure the perfect job is just round the corner. xx

 

[9babiesgone]

thanks I needed those hugs.

 

[eblondie]

Pink I'm so sorry. You did so well going through with the interview. Something good will come through for you so don't give up.

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi to all the new people.

Pink, I'm sorry you didn't get the job. You did really well coping with the interview don't let it knock your confidence.

9babies gone, how are you feeling this evening?

I'm feeling very stressed at the moment. I've got an exam next Tuesday and I'm really struggling to take everything in. I used to be so confident at this. I've got 6 units left after this but I'm not sure if I should take a break. I feel I should but I don't want to fall behind.
Also worried about my uncle and cousin, they live in mission beach/cairns. I know they've gone further inland to Mena Creek but their homes are right in the eye of the cyclone.

I am doing something postive this week. I'm going to a mum and Baby coffee morning round a local mums house. I'm so shy, so I'm really nervous. I can do this for Kate, I want her to have some friends her age.


Take care all of you. x

 

[9babiesgone]

I am ok!!!


just struggling with today!

 

[sanjalica]

Blah. Feeling crappy. Was alright for most of the day until a while ago... just feel so useless.

 

[PepsiChic]

sorry i havent been around much, hi to anyone new that joined, i'll read back the hread tomorrow to do a proper catch up.

pink im sorry to hear about the job, im sure you'll find another one you like, dont give up chick! every time you go to another interview your taking another step forward.

9babiesgone *big hug* sending all my love your way tonight x

sanjalica is there anything you like doing that can help life you mood? maybe read a book or put a dvd on?

raggydoll, forget about the exam, there is no point stressing over it today, tomorrow or the next day. it wont do you any good and it wont change anything. Think about other stuff and pretend the exam doesnt exist till tuesday. im sure you'll do great! as for the going out with Kate, thats such a great idea and im sure you'll both LOVE it!

eblondie how are you doing today? thinking of you x

Ive had a pretty shit few days hence why i havent really replied much on here, my seperation anxiety seems to be in overdrive and i havent slept good the last few days which has not helped the slightest. i should of gone to bed hours ago but i stayed up incase i had to go hel through cinders and salt down the hill again for my husband to get the car up it with all the ice we have right now.

sigh.

 

[carolyn_s]

ive been doing so well and in the last 24 hours have gone so downhill, cant do anything right and nothing is going my way.
wish i wasnt here

 

[Miss_d]

ive been doing so well and in the last 24 hours have gone so downhill, cant do anything right and nothing is going my way.
wish i wasnt here

xxxxx

 

[PepsiChic]

ive been doing so well and in the last 24 hours have gone so downhill, cant do anything right and nothing is going my way.
wish i wasnt here

lots of big hugs your way hunny x

 

[9babiesgone]

thanks for the support ladies! today I am packing a lot of toys and going to spend time in the rv. bc I am sick of seeing the same four walls. I am just struggling, with life completely and I dont know how to get out of it.

 

[Raggydoll]

sorry i havent been around much, hi to anyone new that joined, i'll read back the hread tomorrow to do a proper catch up.

pink im sorry to hear about the job, im sure you'll find another one you like, dont give up chick! every time you go to another interview your taking another step forward.

9babiesgone *big hug* sending all my love your way tonight x

sanjalica is there anything you like doing that can help life you mood? maybe read a book or put a dvd on?

raggydoll, forget about the exam, there is no point stressing over it today, tomorrow or the next day. it wont do you any good and it wont change anything. Think about other stuff and pretend the exam doesnt exist till tuesday. im sure you'll do great! as for the going out with Kate, thats such a great idea and im sure you'll both LOVE it!

eblondie how are you doing today? thinking of you x

Ive had a pretty shit few days hence why i havent really replied much on here, my seperation anxiety seems to be in overdrive and i havent slept good the last few days which has not helped the slightest. i should of gone to bed hours ago but i stayed up incase i had to go hel through cinders and salt down the hill again for my husband to get the car up it with all the ice we have right now.

sigh.

Thanks hun. I got the results of my mock today and I'd passed so I'm feeling more confident about it today. I'm actually having a really good day toay and I'm looking forward to the coffee morning tomorrow.

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time, you're always great support here.
Do you have trouble getting off to sleep or do you keep waking up?
Sorry if you've mentioned this before but does your husband work nights? I used to really struggle with my husband going to work, he ended up taking extended paternity leave and also working from home but I did end up having to face my fears as it couldn't go on.
I spent days with my sister and slowly reduced the time I was with her. I also joined some baby groups.
Take care of yourself. x