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anixety panic attacks and depression surpport group

carolyn it might seem selfish to do it, but im sure that your LO would love to see her granny and her granny to see her, even if your only doing it to get some sleep. could you try taking a nap when your LO naps? i know thats easier said then done, but it might help. once or twice when LO gets up, i give him his milk and put him in his bouncer next to the bed while i get a bit more sleep, it might be 30minutes, it might be an hour till he stats fussing for some attention, but if im so tired im fallin aslep when i just got u, i know i need it and we'll both be better for it.

eblondie, i understand the safety thing, i go curl up on the bathroom floor when im having a panic attack. i dont know why but i always bolt to the bathroom. having somehwre, anywhere, playpen, bathroom, bed, closet, garden...anywhere to go when you feel you need to be somewhere is a good thing (as long as its not dangerous). :hugs::hugs:

Welcome Miss d, do come back and join us, we are very good listeners and very caring friendly people. :hugs:


raggydoll, i know 110% what you mean about how you feel, i get this ALL the time. I'll just start feelign anxxious, no idea why, or what set it off, and it wont be towards anything in particular, but i'll walk around all day feeling like SOMETHING is going to happen, something bad or scary or upsetting. and i feel so aggitated and worried all day. it normally doesnt go away until i go to bed and sleep either. though sometimes a hot shower/bath helps, or some dosage of gordon ramsey on the fox website. :hugs:

I was doing ok all day UNTIL my husband had to leave for work, my seperation anxiety kicked in big time, i refused to let go of his sweatshirt, i screamed, cried, begged, cried more, hyperventalited, cried more. and in the end he wiggled out of his sweatshirt and bolted to his car.

I knew he had to leave, i know he couldnt stay we need the money because im not working. but when it kicks in, nothing matters, i HAVE to have him with me. luckily LO was in bed napping and didnt see/hear any of it. I went and collapsed onto the bed hyperventaliting and crying so hard i was sick a little, i think i passed out, i came to about 20 minutes later, and then curled up and cried myself to sleep. LO woke me about 40 minutes later when he was done with his nap.

and here i am now, feeling shakey, weak, exhuatsed, my abdoman hurts from the hyperventaliation. and i still feel sick and anxious as hell. if it wasnt for LO id just hide under the bed covers for the rest of the night. I refused to anwser the phone to my DH too...i know its not his fault but i feel angry that he left. and hurt that he left. even though somewhere deep inside me i know he had to. :cry:
 
:hugs: for everyone.

Whilst I don't suffer from separation anxiety as such, I do feel I function better and have more motivation when DH is around.
I don't go to Mother & Baby groups and don't really socialise that much, well never if I'm honest. I have issues with what people think of me. I'm always scared I will say the wrong thing and when I'm out I constantly worry about people staring at me. I have massive confidence issues. I feel much better when DH is with me. I am really surprised at having turned out like this as 6 years ago I had loads of confidence and socialised lots.
 
Hi ladies,

I just want to say how great it is knowing there are others out there that feel the same way. So anyway, when I was 13 I was diagnosed with depression and put on medication. But at that age... I kind of said to hell with it and did my own thing. I'm now 25, got married 2 years ago and TTC for about 6 months now. Probably about a month ago BAM it hit me like a kick in the face. I was literally out of my mind, tried to kill myself, pushed everyone I love away from me. The whole thing. But now, to add to this all it seems that I have been having more and more panic attacks. I feel bad because I don't know how to explain them to my husband. Take this evening for example; we went over to a friends place for coffee and to see their new puppy, another couple was there with their 2 year old son and their dog, and then another couple came in talking about their dog and whatnot. Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that my dog (my bestfriend in the world) was put down a year ago. Anyway, I just started feeling my heart pounding harder and harder and then my leg shaking. I felt like I was going to scream, explode, cry. I don't even know. Luckily my husband grabbed my hand and said 'it's ok, let's go home and relax'. So we left and when we got home I took 2 ativan and slept a bit and now here I am. I feel horrible. I feel like I am ruining my husbands life. From all my medical issues, to TTC, and now this crap with my head. I just feel like a horrible person. I feel like maybe there's a reason I'm not pregnant... maybe I am unfit to be a mother.

I'm sorry for my long cry baby rant. Just feel like crap.
 
Hiya everyone,

Just came across this thread yesterday, ive suffered with anxiety and panic attacks for 14 months now, it started with me having a cold sore virus and it attacking whatever it is that controls my balance (cant remember its name) the dizzyness was so bad that i panicked that i was going to pass out when my kids were with me and basicly its just snowballed from there, i must say the dizzyness has got alot better, there is times like the last where it gets worse, i just hate having anxiety it really does control my life, i hate going out on my own or with the kids on my own incase i pass out which tbh i never have done, its just in my head, i hate it so much, but what i am proud of is that i started taking my driving lessons last May and as hard as it was going out with my instructor and dealing with anxiety sometimes i had to get him to bring me home as i felt terrible, but the minute i was in my house i felt safe, better, so i think its all my head and dont know how to control it or talk myself out of anxiety attacks, anyway i passed my test 2 weeks ago, which is a huge achievement considering what ive been going through!

:hug:
 
:hugs: Sanjalica

Please don't ever think you're the reason you're not pregnant yet or that you will be an unfit mother and I'm sure you are not ruining your husband's life.
Have you ever had counselling? Perhaps it's an option for you. You can offload to someone who can understand you a bit better and itmay help you to talk about the loss of your dog.

It can take a healthy couple a year to conceive so don't give up hope yet. I know it's easier said than done but perhaps if you could relax a bit more than maybe it would happen.
Like I said, I know it's easier said than done as I find it hard to relax and not worry about things too.


:hugs: Miss_d.
I know how you feel with regards to dizzy spells. I have suffered for years, although I have been told they are anxiety related but the anxiety gets worse when I have one!
Congratulations on passing your test!
 
:hugs: Sanjalica

Please don't ever think you're the reason you're not pregnant yet or that you will be an unfit mother and I'm sure you are not ruining your husband's life.
Have you ever had counselling? Perhaps it's an option for you. You can offload to someone who can understand you a bit better and itmay help you to talk about the loss of your dog.

It can take a healthy couple a year to conceive so don't give up hope yet. I know it's easier said than done but perhaps if you could relax a bit more than maybe it would happen.
Like I said, I know it's easier said than done as I find it hard to relax and not worry about things too.


:hugs: Miss_d.
I know how you feel with regards to dizzy spells. I have suffered for years, although I have been told they are anxiety related but the anxiety gets worse when I have one!
Congratulations on passing your test!

Yeah i read that too that they can be anxiety related but my doctor wouldnt confirm or deny it was that, but when i am really bad with anxiety i am so dizzy, its horrible, glad ive came across this thread :hug:
 
and here i am now, feeling shakey, weak, exhuatsed, my abdoman hurts from the hyperventaliation. and i still feel sick and anxious as hell. if it wasnt for LO id just hide under the bed covers for the rest of the night. I refused to anwser the phone to my DH too...i know its not his fault but i feel angry that he left. and hurt that he left. even though somewhere deep inside me i know he had to. :cry:

PepsiChic if it wasn't for LO I would hide under the bed covers a lot.... that's what I used to do.... but it's not exactly practical with a little one is it. The problem is that anxiety doesn't understand sense. Yes you know that your DH has to go to work but that doesn't mean you can deal with it. Do you have a close friend that you could spend some time with when your DH leaves? Is there a routine that you could get yourself into leading up to when your DH has to leave so that you can start to make things easier on yourself? This must be so distressing for yourself and your DH :hugs:
 
Hi ladies, do you mind if i join in?
I have GAD, panic disorder and depression and everyday is a struggle. Im currently going through the tribunal for my ESA as they said i was fit for work (they are a joke). I have suffered for about 6 years and mine came out of the blue, i get it daily, 24/7 and it can reall make me unhappy and frustrated. I am desperate to go back to work, but with the severity of my attacks i dont think i could cope, does anyone else have a job with this horrible thing going on? x
 
I work in an office so it's not too bad. When I feel one coming on I close the door and I usually go for a walk or call my husband to help me through it. So far I haven't had a full on attack while at work so I'm kind of scared about that. Hoping it goes away.
 
Hi ladies, do you mind if i join in?
I have GAD, panic disorder and depression and everyday is a struggle. Im currently going through the tribunal for my ESA as they said i was fit for work (they are a joke). I have suffered for about 6 years and mine came out of the blue, i get it daily, 24/7 and it can reall make me unhappy and frustrated. I am desperate to go back to work, but with the severity of my attacks i dont think i could cope, does anyone else have a job with this horrible thing going on? x

I am not working at the moment, my oh works and provides for us, i dont feel like i could go into a job feeling like that, i know this sounds strange but if i was in a job and i had a panic attack i would feel worse as i wouldnt be able to escape work, like i would be stuck there feeling trapped, where as if i am not working and an attack comes on i can try and do something to calm down, sounds so strange when i write it down but i dont feel well enough, I would love to be able to feel well enough and confident to work but right now i cant :( and i take my hat off to those that do work.
 
Hi tilly-maggie

Good luck with the tribunal.

Is it possible that you could reduce your hours at work when you do feel ready to go back to see how you get on. Usually if you are off sick for so long then your employer should offer you a phased return to work meaning that perhaps one week you will do just 1/2 days and see how you get on and increase it from there.
 
Welcome Sanjalica,

I was 14 when i was diagnosed with manic depression and anxiety attacks. And im now 23, so i completely understand what its like to have suffered for many years. Its really good that your husband saw you were anxious and getting upset and took you home. Having that kind of support is so essential when your with someone.

I often say i ruin my husbands life, that i shouldnt be a mother,t hat i should just leave my husband to look after my son because im unfit to be a mother and that im a bad person. It hurts him when i say these things. but its how i feel when im anxious. so again i really do understand how you feel :hugs:

you dont want to start thinking these things, you sound like you love your husband very much, make sure he knows this. it can be hard for our partners because they dont fully understand whats wrong even though they try so hard.

Having anxiety doesnt make you an unfit mother, being a nasty mean person, a bad person. an abusive person, can make you an unfit mother. but not anxiety. I would never intentionally hurt my husband, and i would never intentionally hurt my son. i love them both unconditionally. i do everything i can for them every single day regardless of the depression and anxiety. its hard but when i see my LO and his daddy playing and laughing i know they are both happy so i cant really be that bad of a mother or wife.

Hi miss d,

Im sorry you had such a rough time with the virus recently, and that its completely affected you this way. :hugs:

but well done you for not only going out and doing your driving lessons, but taking the test (which can be stressful for anyone let alone someone who suffers from anxiety) and PASSING! :hugs::hugs::happydance:

congrats hunny x


Ive tried routine, hes even tried escaping while i was busy like feeding LO or taking a shower, but then i feel tricked and get really upset and still panic. so far the best solution has been if i take a nap, and he leaves while im sleeping. i still wake up feeling anxious but i dont panic as bad. but most of the time im too anxious to go to sleep. so that rarely works. its also why i dont go to bed till 1am, because i wait for my husband to get home from work before i go to bed otherwise i can sleep knowing hes not here. :cry:

Hi Tilly, welcome to the group :hugs:
Im sorry your having such a hard time with work, i really hope the tribunal goes well for you, keep us updated ok?

I have a job but i dont work because i really dont want to be around allt hose people. i used to love my job, but ive been off for 6 months on maternity leave....but if i think about going back i start to panic. the thought of being around all those people again just stresses me out.

you should take all the time you need to feel better without worrying about work, i really hope things get sorted for you x
 
Welcome Sanjalica,

I was 14 when i was diagnosed with manic depression and anxiety attacks. And im now 23, so i completely understand what its like to have suffered for many years. Its really good that your husband saw you were anxious and getting upset and took you home. Having that kind of support is so essential when your with someone.

I often say i ruin my husbands life, that i shouldnt be a mother,t hat i should just leave my husband to look after my son because im unfit to be a mother and that im a bad person. It hurts him when i say these things. but its how i feel when im anxious. so again i really do understand how you feel :hugs:

you dont want to start thinking these things, you sound like you love your husband very much, make sure he knows this. it can be hard for our partners because they dont fully understand whats wrong even though they try so hard.

Having anxiety doesnt make you an unfit mother, being a nasty mean person, a bad person. an abusive person, can make you an unfit mother. but not anxiety. I would never intentionally hurt my husband, and i would never intentionally hurt my son. i love them both unconditionally. i do everything i can for them every single day regardless of the depression and anxiety. its hard but when i see my LO and his daddy playing and laughing i know they are both happy so i cant really be that bad of a mother or wife.

Hi miss d,

Im sorry you had such a rough time with the virus recently, and that its completely affected you this way. :hugs:

but well done you for not only going out and doing your driving lessons, but taking the test (which can be stressful for anyone let alone someone who suffers from anxiety) and PASSING! :hugs::hugs::happydance:

congrats hunny x


Ive tried routine, hes even tried escaping while i was busy like feeding LO or taking a shower, but then i feel tricked and get really upset and still panic. so far the best solution has been if i take a nap, and he leaves while im sleeping. i still wake up feeling anxious but i dont panic as bad. but most of the time im too anxious to go to sleep. so that rarely works. its also why i dont go to bed till 1am, because i wait for my husband to get home from work before i go to bed otherwise i can sleep knowing hes not here. :cry:

Hi Tilly, welcome to the group :hugs:
Im sorry your having such a hard time with work, i really hope the tribunal goes well for you, keep us updated ok?

I have a job but i dont work because i really dont want to be around allt hose people. i used to love my job, but ive been off for 6 months on maternity leave....but if i think about going back i start to panic. the thought of being around all those people again just stresses me out.

you should take all the time you need to feel better without worrying about work, i really hope things get sorted for you x

Thank you so much, i didnt think i would get through it but i did x
 
I work part time. There's no way that I could work full time and have felt that way for quite some time now. There are parts to my work that I struggle hugely with but I take a deep breath and try to get on with it without thinking about what I'm doing. Sometimes I get hyper and people actually believe that I'm enjoying the task... if only they knew!
 
Hi can i join please?
im 21 in the past i have had depression (at 18) and suffer with panic attacks and general and health anxiety!
its actually the worst feeling in the world and im constantly anxious about panic attack/cancer/dying etc.
i have been on citalopram for 6 months after coming off for a year!
i have been dealing with anxiety quite well but i can feel it creeping back in!

thanks xxx
 
Hi babydevil, welcome to the group :hugs:

Im sorry you've been having a rough time with the anxiety and depression, its good that your on medication though, do you find that the citalopram helps? or do you feel like you need to try something different?

big hugs chick :hugs:
 
sorry ladies i need a rant :cry:

Ive been doing so well then i witnessed a man being knocked over this morning and im waiting in just now to give a statment to the police.(story in GS - i cant face going over it again)

Im just a mess this afternoon, fulll of 'what ifs' and i keep shaking! Ive even had 2 cigarettes today and i stopped smoking weeks ago!! :dohh: There is a bus stop outside my house and i jump with every noise :nope: Ive been doing so well :cry:
 
sorry ladies i need a rant :cry:

Ive been doing so well then i witnessed a man being knocked over this morning and im waiting in just now to give a statment to the police.(story in GS - i cant face going over it again)

Im just a mess this afternoon, fulll of 'what ifs' and i keep shaking! Ive even had 2 cigarettes today and i stopped smoking weeks ago!! :dohh: There is a bus stop outside my house and i jump with every noise :nope: Ive been doing so well :cry:

:hug: for you, no one can blame you for a having a couple of cigarettes, i read your story and you done the right thing in telling the women not to move him, i hope you start to feel better soon and i really hope the man is ok, :hug: xxxxx
 
Hi all, I just found this thread and wondered if it would be OK to join in?!

I've been registered here for a couple of years but have just lurked until now! :P

I have had anxiety, panic attacks and agoraphobia in varying degrees for about 10 years. After leaving my stressful job last year, things have been on the up again for me, my confidence is growing and I'm able to do a lot more on my own. So much so, my partner and I were able to at last get married last week after a 3 year engagement, and wondering how best to do it so I wouldn't feel too nervous!

We'd both love to TTC soon, but what's holding me back at the moment is wondering how I'll cope with the pregnancy etc. I think I've accepted that my problems may never go away, but just go up and down throughout life, also my husband is quite a few years older than me and we don't want to wait forever. I wish I knew the 'right' thing to do, but maybe there is no right answer.

Anyway, I hope I can get to know a few of you, it really helps when you know you're not alone!
 

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