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Gah! I love my boys! They are playing in the playpen in the sittingroom while I am having one cup of coffee after another in the kitchen. I just went to peak in to see how they are doing. The earnestness in which they handle things and play and the expression on their faces, slay me. When they concentrate they make a cute little stiff upper lip thing that is just too sweet! Ahh I am so besotted! 
Anyway.
Leikela that is so tough that you have to go back to work already! In the UK you get a year mat leave as far as I know. But not a year full paid. Still. Better than what you seem to get.
Borboleta glad I am not the only one with the unreasonable guilt in regards to our OHs looking after the boys for a bit. And mine loves to play xbox too! He plays the most hideous games! Such as BioShock, Left For Dead and other Zombie games! But also Assassins Creed which is at least great visually. What does your DH play?
And I am so sorry that your DH gets depressed about his work. I really hope he finds something soon.
As for Thiago and eating, maybe you could try to give him more fingerfoods and just see how that goes? If he doesn't like getting his hands dirty then maybe that is why he liked crackers and bits of cheese. They aren't sticky lol
Clio I am sure my OH would be similar if he had to cook or prepare something for the boys. He can manage giving them porridge from a jar and mix a small fruit pouch but that is the extent of it. And he is a chef, supposedly. And yeah I think from what you say about your DH there are certain similarities to mine.
But today OH managed to annoy me again! I know I am silly over the boys and I tell OH what cute things they are doing all the time, while he is in the next room on his computer. Today I was calling to come and look at something Sebastian did and he very audibly snorted and got up to come over to take a look. He then went back into the other room and I said passively aggressively Sorry Baby, Daddy isn't interested. Which I shouldn't have said, I know, but anyway. So OH got mad and threw himself on the sofa in the sitting room and did nothing but stare at the boys for a good hour.
I told him to stop sulking and go do his thing but he chose to remain in his vinegary silence till lunch time when he thawed. Sigh. Somehow I think he sometimes feels that if it was his night, he is entitled to not look after the boys that day which would be fine if he didn't also somehow convey the idea that if it is his night the following night he shouldn't do that much looking after them. Mind you maybe that is all in my head. It hard sometimes to know what the man thinks, as he is not exactly Mr Chatty.
But I do hope J starts eating better and you don't have to worry so much. I loved the way you described him eating noisily lol How does he eat soup? Does he know how to use a spoon?? If so wow!
I am so glad your first day back at uni went so well.
Sounds like you are a fun and lovely teacher 
I am sure you will end up rising serenely to the occasion when the real stuff starts next week.
But I am sorry that J seemed to have missed you so much that he sobbed! How heartbreaking! I hope he will get used to your being away some days quickly so that he doesn't have to cry like that again. Poor little thing!
Leeze I too agree that giving it quicker rather than slower is best when comes to feeding babies. I have noticed that when OH isn't there and I am feeding the boys on my own, that it can be strategically bad to stop feeding Sebastian and giving Dominic a few mouthfuls as it might mean that Sebastian will then start blowing raspberries again. Very frustrating. And when I tell him No and do clio's Sesame Street Bert face, he starts to cry, poor little boy!
Ok so all the above I had written yesterday morning and just now realised I never finished it and it was still sitting here in a separate window. I am opening a new window for my replies so that I can scroll back and forth and hopefully that way not forget anyone. I think it was clio who does that too and gave me the idea? But anyway, to continue.
Sabrina I am so sorry you didn't get your lie in! It seems that even when Finn is being good, something manages to rob you off your much needed sleep. You poor thing! As for noisy neighbours, I think that if your wall vibrates it must be deafening in their house and surely even a not so intelligent person could work out that this would not be acceptable? You are being way more patient with those neighbours than I would be. Once would be enough for me to go over there and tell them to turn it down.
I too have that anxiety about every snort turning into a cry etc. My OH now told me to put the video monitor face down and stop staring at it as it was seriously robbing me off my sleep. But I know since Finn sleeps in your room that is not possible. But maybe you could use earplugs? Afterall, it would only block out the smaller noises and you'd still hear him if he started crying? I use one earphone every night, even when I am on nightduty, and have my audiobooks on. I would seriously not sleep at all otherwise as OH makes the strangest noises in his sleep! But when the boys cry I can still hear it over the monitor.
As for Seb being on French time, I think you are right although it is more likely Summer time lol. Also I suppose some babies just sleep 10 hours at night as opposed to 12? And yeah I guess he does want mummy time. He is much more cuddly than Dominic. Sebastian wants to just be held quite often, where as Dominic will wriggle and look around and want to play. He is just not that cuddly. But he has to submit to mummy's kisses and squeezes sometimes hehe!
Rowan Poor M with her persistent cold and her painful teeth! I suppose they are beyond Calpol then? And what you say about her choking would frighten the life out of me! Good thing you manage to stay so calm or she might get more frightened too I guess.
14 weeks wow that does seem soon! And yeah while lifting a newborn with a csection scar, I don't think lifting Martha would be so adviseable. Mind you, if she is on the skinny side and not a chunky monkey like my Dominic, you might still be ok? Better ask your doctor though. Still, I hope Michael will be an easy birth
Storm (again) Glad the second day was ok too. When you say PC application police, does PC stand for personal computer or politically correct? But either way, I have no idea what you do lol.
But I must say reading about all you ladies going back to work makes me so grateful that I don't have to. As such.
As for L and eating breakfast. I know what you mean about it driving you mad how long it takes. For us that is usually lunch. Depending on what we give them, how well and how long ago they napped, it can take up to an hour, and we don't even give that much fingerfood, only the odd biscotti or carrot puff. I think this is one of the reasons why OH likes to be absent for it lol
kosh don't worry about catching up! Just drop by anytime and let us know how things are. I would love to see a recent picture of Gael. I am glad he is so much fun during they day, though I wonder where he takes the energy from when he sleeps so badly lol. But what do you mean when you say he needs to feed more at night when he has been at nursery? Do they not feed him well there or do you mean just for mummy comfort and re-bonding? I hope your MIL visiting won't be such an ordeal and that things will settle back into a routine even with her there!
Clio (again) would you take 5:30 in a heartbeat when you had been up at say 1:30 till 1:45 feeding the boys?
I honestly don't think I would mind so much if my boys slept from 7 through to 5. At least that would mean 7 uninterrupted hours of sleep for me if I managed to go to bed by 10.
Poor J and having a bump on the head! Your nephew sounds dreadful! But do share some of the insights you have gained re parenting? I would love to be prepared for possible brattishness. One thing that worries me a tiny bit is that while Dominic doesn't mind sharing with Sebastian, Sebastian will cry if he cannot get something Dominic is playing with. I know they are way too young to understand the concept of sharing and so forth but might this become a problem if I don't nip it in the bud?
As for your method of CIO, yeah I agree that when you offered all those things you can basically only let them get on with it. It is a little more difficult for us cause although at night Sebastian will usually sleep through Dominic's crying, he will wake again if he has just been put to bed and then start crying too. And we cannot let Sebastian CIO as he will go hysterical and will only calm down if we pick him up and cuddle for a good moment. He is very sensitive and fragile that way.
But yeah when you say you have to turn the tv up so you don't have to hear him, I totally know that feeling! It is hard to listen to them cry isn't it. 
Glad it wasn't too long for you though.
Seems like your pedi is useless. Couldn't you find another?
Things are mostly ok here though poor OH reports that Sebastian got him up 3 times last night. Midnight for a feed and then at 2 and 4. Both boys were up for a good while each time but then they did sleep till 7. I wonder if Sebastian's waking has something to do with the new Zipadeezips I got for him instead of the woombie. They are so cute but made from poli/spandex and might be a bit warm? Or possibly he is just getting used to have his arms free? Dunno. But I wish they were made from cotton as I usually avoid all man made fabrics for the boys, especially for Sebastian with his eczema
Anyway, I have been on here for ages now and I better go and take over or I'll feel guilty again lol
xxx
Anyway.
Leikela that is so tough that you have to go back to work already! In the UK you get a year mat leave as far as I know. But not a year full paid. Still. Better than what you seem to get.
Borboleta glad I am not the only one with the unreasonable guilt in regards to our OHs looking after the boys for a bit. And mine loves to play xbox too! He plays the most hideous games! Such as BioShock, Left For Dead and other Zombie games! But also Assassins Creed which is at least great visually. What does your DH play?
And I am so sorry that your DH gets depressed about his work. I really hope he finds something soon.
As for Thiago and eating, maybe you could try to give him more fingerfoods and just see how that goes? If he doesn't like getting his hands dirty then maybe that is why he liked crackers and bits of cheese. They aren't sticky lol
Clio I am sure my OH would be similar if he had to cook or prepare something for the boys. He can manage giving them porridge from a jar and mix a small fruit pouch but that is the extent of it. And he is a chef, supposedly. And yeah I think from what you say about your DH there are certain similarities to mine.
But today OH managed to annoy me again! I know I am silly over the boys and I tell OH what cute things they are doing all the time, while he is in the next room on his computer. Today I was calling to come and look at something Sebastian did and he very audibly snorted and got up to come over to take a look. He then went back into the other room and I said passively aggressively Sorry Baby, Daddy isn't interested. Which I shouldn't have said, I know, but anyway. So OH got mad and threw himself on the sofa in the sitting room and did nothing but stare at the boys for a good hour.
I told him to stop sulking and go do his thing but he chose to remain in his vinegary silence till lunch time when he thawed. Sigh. Somehow I think he sometimes feels that if it was his night, he is entitled to not look after the boys that day which would be fine if he didn't also somehow convey the idea that if it is his night the following night he shouldn't do that much looking after them. Mind you maybe that is all in my head. It hard sometimes to know what the man thinks, as he is not exactly Mr Chatty.But I do hope J starts eating better and you don't have to worry so much. I loved the way you described him eating noisily lol How does he eat soup? Does he know how to use a spoon?? If so wow!
I am so glad your first day back at uni went so well.
Sounds like you are a fun and lovely teacher I am sure you will end up rising serenely to the occasion when the real stuff starts next week. But I am sorry that J seemed to have missed you so much that he sobbed! How heartbreaking! I hope he will get used to your being away some days quickly so that he doesn't have to cry like that again. Poor little thing!
Leeze I too agree that giving it quicker rather than slower is best when comes to feeding babies. I have noticed that when OH isn't there and I am feeding the boys on my own, that it can be strategically bad to stop feeding Sebastian and giving Dominic a few mouthfuls as it might mean that Sebastian will then start blowing raspberries again. Very frustrating. And when I tell him No and do clio's Sesame Street Bert face, he starts to cry, poor little boy!
Ok so all the above I had written yesterday morning and just now realised I never finished it and it was still sitting here in a separate window. I am opening a new window for my replies so that I can scroll back and forth and hopefully that way not forget anyone. I think it was clio who does that too and gave me the idea? But anyway, to continue.
Sabrina I am so sorry you didn't get your lie in! It seems that even when Finn is being good, something manages to rob you off your much needed sleep. You poor thing! As for noisy neighbours, I think that if your wall vibrates it must be deafening in their house and surely even a not so intelligent person could work out that this would not be acceptable? You are being way more patient with those neighbours than I would be. Once would be enough for me to go over there and tell them to turn it down.
I too have that anxiety about every snort turning into a cry etc. My OH now told me to put the video monitor face down and stop staring at it as it was seriously robbing me off my sleep. But I know since Finn sleeps in your room that is not possible. But maybe you could use earplugs? Afterall, it would only block out the smaller noises and you'd still hear him if he started crying? I use one earphone every night, even when I am on nightduty, and have my audiobooks on. I would seriously not sleep at all otherwise as OH makes the strangest noises in his sleep! But when the boys cry I can still hear it over the monitor.
As for Seb being on French time, I think you are right although it is more likely Summer time lol. Also I suppose some babies just sleep 10 hours at night as opposed to 12? And yeah I guess he does want mummy time. He is much more cuddly than Dominic. Sebastian wants to just be held quite often, where as Dominic will wriggle and look around and want to play. He is just not that cuddly. But he has to submit to mummy's kisses and squeezes sometimes hehe!
Rowan Poor M with her persistent cold and her painful teeth! I suppose they are beyond Calpol then? And what you say about her choking would frighten the life out of me! Good thing you manage to stay so calm or she might get more frightened too I guess.
14 weeks wow that does seem soon! And yeah while lifting a newborn with a csection scar, I don't think lifting Martha would be so adviseable. Mind you, if she is on the skinny side and not a chunky monkey like my Dominic, you might still be ok? Better ask your doctor though. Still, I hope Michael will be an easy birth
Storm (again) Glad the second day was ok too. When you say PC application police, does PC stand for personal computer or politically correct? But either way, I have no idea what you do lol.
But I must say reading about all you ladies going back to work makes me so grateful that I don't have to. As such.
As for L and eating breakfast. I know what you mean about it driving you mad how long it takes. For us that is usually lunch. Depending on what we give them, how well and how long ago they napped, it can take up to an hour, and we don't even give that much fingerfood, only the odd biscotti or carrot puff. I think this is one of the reasons why OH likes to be absent for it lol
kosh don't worry about catching up! Just drop by anytime and let us know how things are. I would love to see a recent picture of Gael.
I am glad he is so much fun during they day, though I wonder where he takes the energy from when he sleeps so badly lol. But what do you mean when you say he needs to feed more at night when he has been at nursery? Do they not feed him well there or do you mean just for mummy comfort and re-bonding? I hope your MIL visiting won't be such an ordeal and that things will settle back into a routine even with her there! Clio (again) would you take 5:30 in a heartbeat when you had been up at say 1:30 till 1:45 feeding the boys?
I honestly don't think I would mind so much if my boys slept from 7 through to 5. At least that would mean 7 uninterrupted hours of sleep for me if I managed to go to bed by 10. Poor J and having a bump on the head! Your nephew sounds dreadful! But do share some of the insights you have gained re parenting? I would love to be prepared for possible brattishness. One thing that worries me a tiny bit is that while Dominic doesn't mind sharing with Sebastian, Sebastian will cry if he cannot get something Dominic is playing with. I know they are way too young to understand the concept of sharing and so forth but might this become a problem if I don't nip it in the bud?
As for your method of CIO, yeah I agree that when you offered all those things you can basically only let them get on with it. It is a little more difficult for us cause although at night Sebastian will usually sleep through Dominic's crying, he will wake again if he has just been put to bed and then start crying too. And we cannot let Sebastian CIO as he will go hysterical and will only calm down if we pick him up and cuddle for a good moment. He is very sensitive and fragile that way.
But yeah when you say you have to turn the tv up so you don't have to hear him, I totally know that feeling! It is hard to listen to them cry isn't it. Glad it wasn't too long for you though.Seems like your pedi is useless. Couldn't you find another?
Things are mostly ok here though poor OH reports that Sebastian got him up 3 times last night. Midnight for a feed and then at 2 and 4. Both boys were up for a good while each time but then they did sleep till 7. I wonder if Sebastian's waking has something to do with the new Zipadeezips I got for him instead of the woombie. They are so cute but made from poli/spandex and might be a bit warm? Or possibly he is just getting used to have his arms free? Dunno. But I wish they were made from cotton as I usually avoid all man made fabrics for the boys, especially for Sebastian with his eczema
Anyway, I have been on here for ages now and I better go and take over or I'll feel guilty again lol
xxx
here's his passport picture 
. So glad to hear you MIL is with you for a month!! What a treat
I like the fighting games like soulcalibur but don't have much attention spend for that either
! Today I felt terrible because I took him to the mall and when I came back and changed his diaper he had diarrehea in it and he started crying as I wiped his bottom. 
! Think how wonderful Sabrina is as a mother at 44 (?) 
. Hope you have a lovely day).
