Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[CherylC3]

Hey ladies :wave: how u doin?

Yeh for the 3rd Tri, hope ur eye gets better soon..xx

I think pregnancy can cos wacko dreams lol...x

When are u ladies ordering furniture? Hav u seen anything nice?xx

 

[lj2245]

I thnk we're going to look at furniture after the 11th jan, when Stephen has a week off and we can get the nursery decorated. Not much to do in there, just paper, paint and get a carpet fitted. I'm excited about getting everything ready

Tesco have the tommee tippee breast pump reduced from £30 to £12!! Bargain!

 

[arlene]

OH doesn't get paid again til the 15th and me on the 20th so we're gonna get the car seat we want and maybe the cotbed then. We're not buying any other furniture as we've got some ikea stuff in the spare room not getting used.

Just as a wee aside, I was lying in the bath today and baby was kickibg me pretty hard. I could actually see my belly moving!! Wee toerag stopped everytime I watched my belly and would start again when I went back to my book! Lol x

 

[bbymc]

Lol. That's cute Arlene! My wee rascal kicked my so hard in the bladder today as I was walking round Costco that It actually made me jump and let out a wee yelp lol. The people around me must have thought I was a right oddball lol.

I'm not gona buy any furniture Cheryl. We managed to get some drawers and stuff second hand. Just basic ikea stuff but it'll do the job. I could go crazy on the furniture in baby shops though! It's all sooo beautiful lol.

Karen, I really feel for you,still being sick! Has it eased at all? Mine has reduced to just nausea every other day. Not been sick since I've been off work. Just hoping it stays that way!

We've finished painting the nursery now. Just the wee border to go up now and all the wee bits that hang on the wall. We've pretty much got everything now, except a cot mattress. Haven't really bought any every day stuff like blankets or clothes or hat yet. Ryan's mum keeps getting stuff in the sales so I reckon by the time baby comes we'll have more than enough stuff! It's just annoying that its all neutral lol!

 

[lj2245]

I thunk were just going to get drawers from Ikea. We have white malm ones in my room and Shaun's room already and they are brilliant and so cheap! I can't wait to get the nursery decorated. I'm starting to get really uncomfortable now, my pelvis is in agony and it crunches and pops all night long so I'm not getting the best sleep! Wee baby is having a ball now though and watching my belly jump about is definitely a favourite pastime.

I decided I'm not doing the steak pie tomorrow night. Stephens aunt is still not budging on the lift/staying over saga and my Dad has pissed me off recently too so sod them. I have bought some finger foods to go in the oven and if they don't like it they can lump it.

My dad - after I told him I wasn't doing anything for anyone after Christmas he keeps phoning me with demands. He's to get a 24 hour ECG done over the 22nd and 23rd jan and told me I NEED to drive him the 50 mile round trip both days. A phone call to his social worker later and it turns out my dad was assigned a home help AND a support worker to help him with housework, shopping and getting to and from his appointments when he moved here and he told them not to come any more after 1 visit because apparently 'Laura will do it all'. I'm only finding this out 2 years later. To say I'm pissed off is an understatement. I told the social worker to re-refer him as he wold be needing the help again. I've told my Dad if he doesn't accept the help he's on his own because I'm not doing it any more. Hopefully they can get the home help back but I'm so full of resentment towards him for doing that now that I'm not looking forward to new year at all.

 

[arlene]

Oh my goodness Laura, can't believe that! Do you think he meant it in a bad way towards you or is he just one of those that doesn't want to put people out but you don't count as people? Thing is, you won't be able to do it all with Shaun and a newborn so it's best he gets used to it now xx

 

[bbymc]

Wow, no wonder you are pissed off Laura! I'm shocked that social work would pull out the services without consulting you as its you he nominated to take over. He'll no doubt be put on a waiting list to undergo an assessment before a care package is put back in place. I really hope that doesn't take too long! I'm pretty sure though that if you refuse to help, the social work dept will put emergency carers in if need be and he will be bumped up the list. That's how it works in my team anyway, with children with disabilities. Xx

 

[lj2245]

Not only Shaun and a newborn but I was diagnosed with a rare form of arthritis a year ago and he knows how much pain I've been in but obviously thinks his not being cared for by strangers is more important than me getting a break. It's not just that, he has 3 daughters and the other 2 ignore him when he phones them and I get him moaning at me about it, him constantly asking when they are coming to visit. When they do visit it's maybe twice a year and only when he's giving them money. The last time my sister carol was here she offered to change his bedding and he told her it was ok as I would do it. I'm so angry with him. He's good to me and Shaun when it comes to buying us things but not more so than he is with my sisters and its not fair that he's put all this on me. He was able to drive and do his own shopping fine before he moved here but it's like he's decided he doesn't need to bother now he has me to do it all. He lives across the road and he phones me about 5 times a day telling me I NEED to do this and that. If I'm out or asleep he will phone every 3 mins until I answer. I've gone to the shops and come back half an hour later to 12 missed calls from him. He never lets me rest...I can't even have a bath without him phoning. He always calls when I'm having dinner too. I feel so frustrated and suffocated. I'm so annoyed with him and annoyed with my sisters for dumping me with him.

I was doing the questionnaire thing in my booking appt to find out my chances of getting PND and I had to laugh. Most of the questions were like 'do you have anyone to support you?' And I honestly don't, everyone in my life relies on me! I hadn't even realised it until then. I'm surrounded by people who can't take care of themselves and I'm adding another person to care for to that...I must be mental!

The social worker is sending a support worker out weekly until a proper care package can be rearranged. She called me today to tell me she'd been out to arrange it with my dad yesterday. Despite me telling him he'd be on his own if he refused the help, he tried again to say he didn't need the help. I've told her to arrange it anyway. If he doesn't accept the help from people who are paid to help him, he's on his own. I'm not going to help him any more. I'll continue to provide him with home cooked meals but only because its no extra work for me if I'm cooking for us anyway but that's it.

Sorry for the rant lol. I don't think I've been this angry in a long long time and I honestly want to kick something!

And the aunt who's coming for new year isn't answering her phone to make arrangements so no doubt she'll phone tomorrow night to find out where her lift is. She can go to hell too lol

 

[lj2245]

Wow, no wonder you are pissed off Laura! I'm shocked that social work would pull out the services without consulting you as its you he nominated to take over. He'll no doubt be put on a waiting list to undergo an assessment before a care package is put back in place. I really hope that doesn't take too long! I'm pretty sure though that if you refuse to help, the social work dept will put emergency carers in if need be and he will be bumped up the list. That's how it works in my team anyway, with children with disabilities. Xx

Apparently he refused to let them into his house so they had no choice but to pull the care package. When his CPN questioned it, he said he had no need for them as I would do everything. At the same time he was telling me he'd never had any help and if he needed a home help he'd have to pay for one.

 

[CherylC3]

Hey ladies

Bbymc ur so organised Hun...xx

Arlene do u kno wot ur goin for yet?x

Laura I'm so sorry ur going thru this with ur dad Hun, hope u get the carer situation sorted soon..x

Well me and hubby went daft at mama and papas yesterday everything was on sale ordered our furniture wallpaper and picked up the bubble blue bedding and curtains all of the bubble stuff was half price still to get a mattress and crib mattress and loads of other stuff tho...xx

Hope u have fun tonight I'm heading to my mums for the bells then the Chinese tomoro. Xx

 

[bbymc]

Aw Laura that's awful! Very selfish of your dad too. I don't blame you for being full of resentment! Have you tried to talk to your sisters? Maybe if they knew more about how hard it is for you and how demanding he is, they might step up and help you?

 

[Kaybee]

Hey ladies

Bbymc ur so organised Hun...xx

Arlene do u kno wot ur goin for yet?x

Laura I'm so sorry ur going thru this with ur dad Hun, hope u get the carer situation sorted soon..x

Well me and hubby went daft at mama and papas yesterday everything was on sale ordered our furniture wallpaper and picked up the bubble blue bedding and curtains all of the bubble stuff was half price still to get a mattress and crib mattress and loads of other stuff tho...xx

Hope u have fun tonight I'm heading to my mums for the bells then the Chinese tomoro. Xx

Cheryl it sounds like you had fun in mamas and papas enjoy your chinese - i've not had a chinese in ages. Am very jel!

Aw Laura that's awful! Very selfish of your dad too. I don't blame you for being full of resentment! Have you tried to talk to your sisters? Maybe if they knew more about how hard it is for you and how demanding he is, they might step up and help you?

Emma this is what I was thinking as well. Laura really hope you can get something sorted out soon. It cant be easy for you

 

[lj2245]

Awk they don't care as long as he's not bugging them. On the odd occasion they do try to help he tells them not to. I'm done with it now anyway.

 

[arlene]

Hapy new year girls!! Can't wait for an exciting 2013!!

Cheryl, we got the Graco Fusio pram from babies r us, it was down to £200 and included the newborn liner, cosy toe, footmuff and rain cover. Had a play with the Quinny Zapp Xtra and found I didn't like it anyway. We got the Tommee Tippee electric steam steriliser yesterxay from tesco for £30 too. We're going to wait and get the bottles anx accessories off amazon though as they're much cheaper.

Laura, glad the social workers are sorting out carers for your dad. We had a similar problem with my Nana in that she wouldn't look after herself or eat properly to control her diabetes but would tell the social workers and hospital what they wanted to hear, so I know how frustrating they can be!!

Did we all have a good Hogmanay? John and I went to watchan ice hockey game at Murrayfield last night followed by chinese food and a night in front of the tv. Exciting times eh? Lol xx

 

[lj2245]

Happy new year. We were all in bed by 12:30. Shaun is still sleeping now and Stephen is at work so I'm just enjoying the peace and quiet.

My dad came over for dinner last night but barely spoke to us and left about 7ish. He obviously knows I'm in a huff with him lol. Selfish aunt didn't phone us so Stephen phoned her at 5pm when he finished work and she said shed been sitting all day waiting on me picking her up and couldn't be bothered now so was just going to have dinner and go to bed. Load of rubbish lol. I wasn't bothered though, it was lovely to just have the 3 of us for the bells for the 1st time ever!!

 

[Kaybee]

Happy new year ladies.

We ended up getting a chinese takeaway last night and I couldn't decide what I wanted so settled for just chips, fried rice and curry sauce. Was delish though. We were starving so we about had the prawn crackers finished before we were even home. Because Kaiden had a sleep in the car he ended up staying up late and I didn't get him to bed until about 11.15! I ended up falling asleep in his bed, I usually do but I wanted to get up for the bells, anyway I slept through it

Laura that was nice you got to spend it just the 3 of you.

 

[bbymc]

Happy new year ladies! Seems like we all had fairly quiet ones. I just spent it with my parents, my bro, sis in law, 2 nieces, nephew and Ryan. Was lovely but I was in bed by just after 12.30 lol. My parents had a party last night instead. It was great seeing everyone but I obviously really overdid it! We went to a sled dog show thing during the day yesterday and walked there and back. Felt great until Half way home when I got severe sciatica! It's been a nightmare since tbh. Could barely move from back and hip pain! And on top of that, baby's obviously having a growth spurt or something as I've had excruciating ligament pain since last night. I've had two episodes today that were so painful I thought I was going into labour! Phoned the midwife and she reckons its spasming. Nothing serious thank god but agony none the less. Think I scared my parents half to death with my screams of pain. They were away to rush me to the hospital before I phoned the midwife. I felt terrible! I'm just hoping it subsides! It's so painful it's making me sick at the mo!

Any of you had ligament pain that bad? I've had aches and pains before but nothing that painful!!

 

[lj2245]

I had bad ligament pain during the night and my bump kept going really hard. I definitely think it's a growth spurt but it's worrying! My midwife said anything that paracetamol takes away is nothing to worry about so I took 2 and it went away. My SPD is another story. Turning over in bed is near impossible now. I have to wake Stephen every half hour so he can haul me round. I can't use my legs to help because lifting them or moving them from a lying position leaves me in agony.

Not long to go girls! Hopefully April will be here before we know it!

 

[bbymc]

I don't think I have spd, but my hips have been so bad at night that I've woken Ryan will all my moaning trying to turn over and now he usually just pulls me over lol. It's been way worse in the last few days too. Oh the joys eh? Lol. My bump was solid last night! You could clearly see where the baby was too. Looked mad. Was sooo sore, but pretty cool lol.

Still, its really not long now! OBEM starts tonight I think. You guys gona watch it? Xx

 

[lj2245]

Oh...I will have to Sky+ that and watch it another time I'm just about to go for a very long bath in the hopes of helping me sleep tonight!

We booked a 2 night stay in a hotel in Arrochar for the 1st weekend in Feb. I cannot wait to get away.

My SPD seems to be much worse this time. I can feel the bones in my lady garden area overlapping when I'm lying on my side and they grind and crunch all night. It went almost as soon as I'd given birth last time though so hopefully it will be the same again

One good thing...there doesn't seem to be any sign of the carpal tunnel syndrome I had when I was pregnant with Shaun I spent about 5 months with rigid claws for hands last time lol. My hair is soooo thick too! Hurrah!