Any solo mum's out there?

[Caite]

Melody, I'm so sorry you got your BFN

 

[K.N]

Aww Melody - Sorry to hear Had my hopes so high for you & all my fingers crossed. Don't feel stupid for thinking you were pregnant - It's natural to think you are when af is late and you're actively ttc! *hugs*

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Aww thanks ladies. Means a lot

I was terribly low the day I got my results, but now I'm back to trying to be positive and optimistic. TTC is rarely easy. I'm back at the docs next week to discuss inducing my period, and we'll take it from there

 

[Caite]

I hope you get your self and your cycle sorted out soon Melody.

Mo - how are you getting on? You must be coming to the end of your 2WW now?

I'm starting to get really excited about TTC now. My ticker moved over today to 4 months and something, from 5 months and something. I know it was only a day, but it seems a whole month closer now. And whilst I'm really, really excited, I'm also absolutely terrified.

I have spent so much time researching clinics and costs and stuff and it just seems to be getting more and more real now. I have actually been thinking about all the practicalities (about TTC and not about labour and stuff like I went on about before), and they've all just suddenly panicked me a little bit. It's just things like who will look after my animals which must be fed every day whilst I nip over to Denmark? I suppose, if I caught an early morning flight out, for some appointments, like maybe the initial consultation, I could perhaps even catch a late evening back, or at the latest, one fairly early the following morning? I don't know. I was planning on having everything I needed doing done over there, but I will see if I can get as much as possible done over here, like if I need scans and stuff, see if I can get them done privately here and any reports/results faxed over.

Anyway, this last week, I have found out 2 more people I know are pregnant! That's 3 in total. I'm so happy for them all, but wish it was me. They've all got children already! The one is my cousin and I thought my nan would be happy as it will be her great-grandchild, but all she kept saying was that they're silly as they won't be able to afford it and the house isn't big enough. Makes me wonder what she'll say when I get pregnant (trying to be positive and say when and not if!).

Sorry for the long post.

 

[Lovelymo79]

Hey all! So sorry I've been so MIA! So, I'm 14dpo/IUI and all my hpts have been negative (last one was taken 13dpo/IUI). So just waiting for AF to rear her ugly head, even though I don't have any signs of her yet. So we'll see...

I'll keep you guys posted!

 

[Caite]

Mo - so sorry they've been negative to date. But FX you get a BFP soon, especially if you've got no usual signs of AF. How was Vegas?

 

[Lovelymo79]

Vegas was really cool. Helped me get my mind off of things! I suggest you leave town for any part of your 2ww!!

I'm praying AF keeps her head away but we'll see...

 

[K.N]

Caite - don't apologise for long posts! Mine are always long, it's allgood understandably worried! Hopefully things just slot into place and it all falls into the right path for you . It would be much easier to have scans etc in your home place! So cross fingers .

Mo - I wish I could pop to Vegas for my 2ww! I am going to inseminate Sunday and Monday (tomorrow and the day after), then that will be me for feb - 2ww at home, but if another bfn - I'll inseminate - then on the 9th march I fly to Australia for 2 weeks, so that will be in my 2ww . Hoping for a bfp for you!!

Melody - how you going? How would they induce af? Just hormones or something? So she hasn't shown her face yet then? .

I've had an interesting few days, yesterday I found out that I definitely won't be using the midwife I had planned too. About a year ago, just under a year someone I know quite well lost her baby shortly after birth as a result of undetected/untreated preeclampsia - all at the fault of the midwife and dr. Apparently the blood tests taken etc told them what it was, but the midwife just told her to ignore them it'll be ok basically.
WELL anyway. I found out yesterday that midwife I wanted is the one responsible, and although still practising midwifery - is going through a big court battle at the moment. Sooo, I'd no longer choose her as my midwife. I could, but I don't think I could look at her the same Anymore. I know a couple of people who have had her and said she's nice, but knowing what she caused - I couldn't go through with her. So back to square one in terms of midwife knowledge! Something so small, because you don't choose anyway till your pregnant - but still. I always think about that kinda stuff and like to research who the good ones are . Which apparently she's not anymore!

 

[Caite]

KN - that sounds awful about the midwife. It's a bit easier over here (in my area at least). You get the midwife who covers your GP surgery, unless you specifically request to change, or you get most of your care elsewhere. If you have a home delivery, she may deliver you (if she happens to be on call) or if she is based in a midwife led unit, then if she is in the MLU that day, she may deliver you, otherwise, you just get whoever is working as your midwife for delivery. Unless you are under a case loading team, or have a lovely student (like me *big cheesy smile*) who provides most of your care and is on call permanently for your delivery.

Everybody sounds like they travel so much - just popping to Australia and Vegas. I can't remember the last time I went abroad - actually, I can, and it was that long ago it is depressing - unless you count going a few minutes up the road and walking in to another country? Although, when they're all in the UK, that probably doesn't count, does it?

Any news, Mo?

 

[Lovelymo79]

No news yet and no signs of AF yet. But I'm thinking since I took Femara this cycle, I heard it lengthens your LP so I'm guessing that is what it is. Period was due yesterday and definitely by today but still no signs. So I'll wait to Monday to test again. Don't want to get too hopeful!

 

[Caite]

I'll get hopeful on your behalf, Mo

 

[Lovelymo79]

Thanks but I just want my period to come so that I can get my new protocol on

 

[K.N]

Caite - Midwives hear are usualllly pretty good (except this one!), you choose one yourself - there is a midwife directory where they all have a photo and blurb about themself, and then you just ring/email them and see if they'll suit your birth plan, some will deliver wherever you want - some will only deliver in specific places. She will deliver baby, UNLESS you get induced or have a c-section, which of course then the dr's at the hospital will take over - and your midwife will stay in the room and assist, but wont have full care.

Hahaa scary thing for us NZers - is popping over to Australia is WAY cheaper than popping to the other island of our own country! It costs about $300nz each way to get to the south island from the north island (i live in the north), My australia trip flights were $160 there, and a little over $200back. I wish I could pop over to Vegas though . I sooo want to travel properly! Baby gear over there is so much nicer . I've been desperately emailing stockists to find somewhere that will bring carters clothes to NZ for an affordable price, as well as brands from the UK (especially mamas and papas & clarks). But not many places ship to NZ over there. It's a hard life being in such a small country Have you guys bought anything for baby-to-be? I can't resist all the end of season sales :/. It's terrible. I hope it's not jynxing my ability to conceive lol.

How're things going for everyone else? Any news Mo? Hopefully you get a BFP after all, or hopefully your body sorts its self out so you can get plans under way for the next cycle! How about you too Melody? Did you manage to get AF to show her ugly face?

 

[Lovelymo79]

Started spotting today so CD 1 and full flow should be tomorrow. Ready to get this party on the road!

 

[K.N]

Started spotting today so CD 1 and full flow should be tomorrow. Ready to get this party on the road!

Aw Mo Was really hoping for a no-show with AF and a BFP! . Least you can get started for your next cycle though .

 

[Lovelymo79]

Awww, thanks K.N! But it's ok. I actually have full flow so today is CD 1. Even better to get this show, new protocol and new donor on the road!

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Hey ladies,

Haven't been on for a bit. Not much to report really. I stopped temping etc. No point lol. Still no AF. I think i'm like cd55 lol. Anyway, got the docs on Thursday. KN I'll probably chat to her about Progesterone pills. They often prescribe it to force af. I've stopped the Vitex because i plan to try Soy Isoflaves when my next cycle starts and I've read you should not take them at the same time.

I'm feeling good though. Staying positive. Even been out a few times drinking with friends lol. Might as well live it up while I still can.

Mo I love you're outlook on ttc. Of course its sad you didnt get your bfp, but you're so right. Time to get this party started!

Hows everyone else? Anyone inseminating soon? x

 

[Caite]

Sorry you get AF, Mo.

Melody, it's nice to hear you being positive, and I'm glad you're getting everything sorted out.

 

[LPhoto]

Any solo mummies (or daddies) to be currently TTC via assisted conception? Wonder if we can form a solo parent-to-be thread. There are plenty of lesbian support threads, or IVF support threads - but struggling to find a group for the single parents currently planning to conceive

This is my first ever post, so bare with me if I do it wrong. I too am a single (straight) Parent - to - be, and would love to have a forum for us with assisted pregnancy

 

[Caite]

Welcome LPhoto. Are you currently WTT then? Will you be TTC via a clinic or home insemination or another way? I'm WTT at the moment, too.