Any solo mum's out there?

[Rags]

Any solo mummies (or daddies) to be currently TTC via assisted conception? Wonder if we can form a solo parent-to-be thread. There are plenty of lesbian support threads, or IVF support threads - but struggling to find a group for the single parents currently planning to conceive

This is my first ever post, so bare with me if I do it wrong. I too am a single (straight) Parent - to - be, and would love to have a forum for us with assisted pregnancy

Hi Lphoto. I to am a single straight women and have a donor concieved son. I have previously requested a single mum by choice forum but it was felt that there were other forums I could post on such as the single parent section and here on assisted conception. I would be very happy if there were another area to post about all of our quite unique issues as single parents by choice.

 

[K.N]

Welcome Lphoto . Will you be trying soon? Or still in the Wtt stages for a bit longer hopefully all our journeys of currently ttc you'll be able to get questions answered etc! Or even just the support etc - unfortunately there are a lot of people out there ttc - but not too many planning to do it by themselves. I agree rags! There should be. A specific forum for single parents to be. I got a lot answered in the same sex parenting forums, but a lot if theirs was couples rather than singles. And in the assisted conception, there is mostly ivf etc - which is fine, but just still not a lot of help for a singleton wanting to be a mum.

Also melody fair enough about the vitex and changing I soy isoflaves. I'm on a soy diet thanks to allergies - I've heard mixed things about how that can affect fertility etc, but nothing in stone. I haven't taken vitex this month because I was getting headaches and wasn't sure if it was those or not - but I didn't wanna stop taking them for a week then start again. So I'll start taking them when af comes next. I'm officially in the 2ww now since Monday, so I'm a few days into it now. But I'm not hopeful, my donor got a call out on Monday so couldn't make it, so we did Sunday and Tuesday and I'm not sure when actually ovulation was and if we got
It in time or not - my charts are a bit hectic this month

 

[Caite]

KN good luck for the 2ww. I don't know how you do it going through the 2ww - I don't know how I'll do it - I hey excited enough for you all in your 2wws

 

[Lovelymo79]

Ultrasound scheduled for CD 10, next Wednesday. Last time I had 5 follies, but only 1 mature one at 20 mm. Hoping to have more mature follies this time since I'll be adding an injectable!

 

[K.N]

KN good luck for the 2ww. I don't know how you do it going through the 2ww - I don't know how I'll do it - I hey excited enough for you all in your 2wws

Hahaa! Thanks . I'm not sure when my ovulation actually was this cycle - my cycle has been a bit weird this time round! So it's gunna be touch and go. My period could be late if I ovulated late, or it could be early if I ovulated early OR what I'd like to happen - I ovulated on time - and managed to fertilise an egg - and hopefully there's a little seed growing cells by the minute inside of me . (positive thinking, but it is SO crazy to think of how a baby starts out in the first weeks!)

It's super hard waiting! But each month it's just gotten a bit easier and easier. Especially after 11 months! (well technically only like 9 months actually ttc though).

Mo - Not toooo sure what that all means! But I know that it's important to have healthy mature follies in there! So hopefully you've got some nice mature follicles for your ultra sound .

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Welcome LPhoto . Hope you enjoy it here. Everyone's lovely. x

FX for you KN during your tww. In fact everything crossed! lol. I hope this is it for you! I hope the Vitex wasn't causing your headaches, but best to be safe. I do believe that it can help a lot of women. Maybe I should have stuck with it for longer. I was just so disappointed by this lengthy cycle that I lost faith. But I think AF comes, and I get that cycle out of the way with the Soy, i'll start Vitex again properly.

Lots n lots of Baby Dust KN

Good luck with your Ultrasound Mo. Praying for more follicles.

Afm: My doctors app was upsetting. She said there is nothing they can do for now as 50 days isnt lengthy enough for medical assistance. Oh well I had a little cry afterwards. I think I'm just tired and frustrated, but feeling much better today.

The doctor advised me to wait a month and if still no af, go see her again. I pray the shows soon lol. I've started drinking Parsley tea. Its an old wives tale. Apparently it helps bring on af.

I will let you know if AF shows, but until then thanks so much for the support ladies

 

[KelWin]

Hey everyone, come this September, I will be TTC with a good friend's baby juice. I am a single mum by choice, and after having (hopefully) 2 kids, I will be a single DAD by choice.

I wanted to carry and birth my own children before undergoing gender reassignment, instead of having my eggs frozen then using a surro.

K.N. where in Aus were you thinking of going in March?

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Hey Kelwin Welcome. Its awesome to have you here. I think its a wonderfully brave thing you're doing and I wish you loads of luck. x

 

[K.N]

Thanks for all the babydust melody . I haven't tested yet - still waiting patiently. Keep symptom spotting though - that I can't help. Hunger - for everything!, Reflux/heartburn, Tiredness, Headaches - BUT also; It's mid summer here, and NZ gets a real humid/muggy summer - so it could just be heat related.

That's a shame about having to wait another month I've heard vitamin C can also help? Something to do with vitamin c deficiency stopping periods, and so taking vitC tablets can help? But then you don't just wanna go taking tablets for everything I guess . Hopefully you get your period before the month is up Otherwise what a long wait . Hugs . Hang in there!! Everything is crossed for this cycle to fix itself! Have you pregnancy tested again? (just in case?) - could it be possible that you are pregnant and hcg levels weren't yet high enough?? The chance is slim - but it is there.

Also big welcome kelwin! What an amazing journey that will be for you Wishing luck for you & that it all works out Do you have any kids yet? Or are the 2 still to be made? Goodluck with it all! Hope you enjoy this convo . I'll be coming to Queensland - Gold Coast & Brisbane mostly . We have family in Brisbane, so we tend to fluctuate between the two when we travel.

 

[KelWin]

Thanks for the welcome guys, and baby dust to everyone!

K.N. I will be moving to Gold Coast in Sept just before trying for #2 then #3 after that. #1 was MC nearly 10 years ago. Then in about 6-7 years, we'll (me, kids, SD and his missus) all be moving to Canada. We won't be co-parenting, but they both want to be in the kids life and I'm totally excited about that.

 

[Caite]

Kel-win, you must be really close if you're all planning to move to Canada.

Good luck Mo - I hope you have more mature follicles.

KN - when's the test day? I really hope you get a BFP. I don't think we've had one yet, have we? And you've been trying the longest (and the only one in 2ww, I think) so you should definitely get the first BFP, this cycle.

Melody - that sucks that your doctor won't do anything. I've also heard that parsley in the vagina can induce menstruation (I don't know, though). I tried parsley tea once to induce a period. It was horrible, I only had one cup because I didn't like the taste so it didn't work. I also heard high doses of vitamin C, but they have to be specific type of vitamin C, I think

 

[KelWin]

Kel-win, you must be really close if you're all planning to move to Canada.

Yeah, we're all pretty close, he's like my brother (not actually related in any way) and we've also been talking about if I DO want more kids after my op, then they're happy to carry for me, as I will still be having some eggs frozen. Even just the planning stage is so exciting.

 

[K.N]

Caite - Test day is down as the 17th . I've got every limb in my body crossed (speaking figuratively of course). A BFP would just make my week/year - would be an awesome start to 2014! But we'll see . There were a couple of ladies who got their BFP when this post first started - But no more bfp's since!

Kelwin - Wow moving to Canada! Exciting! That's cool that they're so committed to helping, must make it a lot easier to plan for the future too. Especially if as you say down the track you decide you do want to have more kids.

 

[KelWin]

Yeah, I'm looking forward to September. I just want to be pregnant already.

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Caite- It really is disgusting. I've been drinking it for the last 3 days Everyone at work thinks I'm some weird witch doctor lol. I've not heard about inserting it into your vagina. Maybe im doing it wrong hahaha.

I have been trying vitamin c. It has to be 3000mg for 3 days in a row. But i only had the chewable ones lol.

KN - Aww i hope you can hold out until its time to test. Its soooo hard not to ss. Have you seen that thread where people list their symptoms by dpo then turn the text green if they got a bfp or red for a bfn. It helps pass the time lol.

I hadnt done a hpt since before my blood test. But i did this morning and nope.... still I know im not pregnant. Just need to get af to come quickly!

 

[Caite]

I don't blame them for thinking that about you, Melody, the smell is bad enough,

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Lol I know, but hopefully it will do the job. I've had cramps all morning today... Lets hope the is coming.

How's everyone doing? KN only a week till test time right? and Caite you've only got 4 months to go. That's going to wizz by!

 

[K.N]

Kelwin - I'm sure the time between now & september will fly by! Least you've got plenty of time for preparation

Melody - That parsley tea sounds grose hahaha; But I hope it works - Hopefully the cramps mean that AF is coming; and you can get prepared for next cycle!! Fingers and toes crossed!! Yepp only a week to go . Cross fingers that it is a BFP - and that all the symptoms I've been experiencing are actually for a reason not just because I'm waiting to test!

 

[KelWin]

Kelwin - I'm sure the time between now & september will fly by! Least you've got plenty of time for preparation

Yeah that's what I'm hoping for. Plus this week I'm getting prenatal vitamins and all that stuff.

 

[Lovelymo79]

Hey ladies!! KN, keep strong! Only one more week to go!!

AFM, finished last Femara pill yesterday, took 150 iu of Bravelle today in a shot, Wednesday ultrasound to see what's brewing. New donor's sperm was delivered today. So all ready to go for IUI on Friday or Saturday!

I have pledged this time to not test until 14dpiui! I'm hoping to keep that pledge!!