Any solo mum's out there?

[Rags]

Melody huge congratulations and hugs to both of you. I've been checking in a few times a day waiting for your news. So pleased it all went smoothly, your wonderful memory of his birth will stay with you always. Here's to many enjoyably wakeful nights you've worked long and hard to get here enjoy every blessed moment. Xx

 

[Cinderella]

Oh Melody congratulations! He's absolutely beautiful and such a little peanut! I'm sure you're enjoying every second with your little man. Great birth by the sounds of it, will have to give this hypnobirthing a go should I ever get lucky and become pregnant


(as an aside, AF showed up on the 19th, no bfp for me this time, or it was a very early chemical, I don't know... not too disheartened as it was only the first go and already have donor lined up for the first week in August! Hope everyone else is well x)

 

[Oxygen7880]

Sorry it wasn't your month cinerella but glad your feeling positive I hope next month is your month.

I'm chugging along here. 5 weeks 2 days by my calculations and 6 weeks 2 days according to lmp. I forgot what a nerve wracking time first trimester is. It's so hard not knowing what's going on inside you. Booking appointment with midwife is on 11th August. I'm trying to take it a day at a time.
I'm feeling totally exhausted and very irritable, a little groggy but not too sick....YET!

 

[InVivoVeritas]

Melody, a huge congratulations to you! Your son is an absolute stunner, just look at those big eyes.

Oxygen, don't worry, the sickness will come. Enjoy your last week or two of feeling human.

Cinderella, I'm sorry this wasn't your month. Next time!!

 

[K.N]

Nawww Melody - you already know how ecstatic I am for you! And so proud!! He is absolutely gorgeous xx

 

[Cinderella]

How's everyone doing?
I'm 1dpo - got one donation last night (8hrs after positive opk) and trying to see if donor is able to come over tonight for another. I thought it was too late but my app says to get BDing so I figure it can't hurt to get another, if he's available.

A question for UK based ladies, have you admitted to your GPs that you're SMBC? I've mentioned TTC to my old GP and she never questioned my status, as the obvious assumption is a male/female couple and I never said anything. But I've just moved and signing up to a new GP and I'm unsure whether to mention I'm single and TTC, just in case I need fertility tests etc. Would they still give me the tests if I'm single? Would I still be eligible for NHS help, IUI, IVF etc. if I was single? Or do I lie and say I'm in a couple and get donor involved with providing samples at a clinic? I know this might not be necessary if I get my BFP over the next few months, but signing up to a new GP has got me thinking.

 

[Oxygen7880]

I'm currently almost 7 weeks now and feeling terrible. Never felt so exhausted in my life and also feeling nauseous all day everyday. I remember now just how much first tri sucks. It all seems so much more bearable after you see that little life inside you but before then it's physically and mentally exhausting (for me anyway).

 

[Rags]

Cinderella, my gp was well aware of my single status. After I tried for a few months unsuccessfully at home I approached my gp to ask to be referred to an NHS fertility clinic - I'd already spoken to them an knew they were happy to treat single women. My gp was great (a male in his early 60's). He didn't bat an eye and made the referral so quickly I had my first appointment about two months later (I was working away so couldn't attend any sooner). Another gp in the practice was happy to do all of my monthly anti natal appointments and no one has ever made a negative comment. Good luck.

 

[Cinderella]

Thanks Rags and Oxygen!
I'm tempted to tell my GP in hopes they'll go forward with fertility tests. I suspect there's some endo/PCOS problems so I don't want to delay anything. I'm going to research my local NHS trusts policies anyway just incase they're not single mother friendly!

Oxygen: Sorry you're going through the ringer, only 5 weeks until you're out of first tri! (God... that sounds quite far away, you can do it!) I suppose it's even harder with a toddler at home too. I have my niece and nephew at home with me for half the week and I can barely manage to look after myself!

AFM: 3DPO - No early symptoms, last month I was so bloated and crampy and this month there's none of that so hoping it's a good sign, although I'm not too hopeful. Donor couldn't make it for a 2nd donation so this month I'm relying on one well timed one. We'll see. Trying desperately not to get too crazy with it like last month, no early testing, no symptom spotting etc. Just taking it easy.

 

[InVivoVeritas]

Cinderella, I've never mentioned to any of my care providers that I was single, but I didn't lie either, just never mentioned the subject. Funnily enough I was admitted to L&D Friday evening and the midwife just assumed that my sister (who was with me) was my partner. Sis was very amused. This is in a small town in the west of Ireland -- I think that medical people accept now that the world is a big and diverse place.

Oxygen, hang in there! You're right in the depths of the hardest part of pregnancy, but in only a few weeks you'll start to feel a bit more human. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[Rags]

Cinderella, phone the clinics directly and ask to speak to the manager or one of the senior nurses, it's the quickest way of finding out. Also remember that your gp practice want/need women of child baring age as that's how they get their money - smear tests, vaccination programs and other screening programs are all paid based on the number of patients at the practice who fall into that catogary. Although I paid the cost of the sperm at the clinic I attended that was my choice and they made it clear that I was welcome to apply for funding, all tests and investigations and appointments were free on the NHS ( I am in Scotland though and I know our health service is run differently).

 

[Cinderella]

Hi Rags, thank you for the info... am still not sure what to do with regards to my GP, have read a lot of angry people on other message boards disgusted that healthy single women would be offered any sort of NHS fertility help which has just rubbed me up the wrong way... literally comments saying why don't we just go and have sex with someone, anyone... anyway, I digress.

AF turned up today and I'm in a bad mood. Only 1 insem last month. Two the month before. Just doesn't seem like anywhere near enough. He said he was willing to help whenever I wanted it, but when it comes down to planning a time right for both of us it's just not working out. Am taking a substantial pay cut to be home more and don't have the money now for frozen sperm/clinics etc... so pondering whether to find another donor, whether to have two donors on the go, whether to just give up (this is my hormones talking btw. Have terrible PMS right now.)

I hope you're all doing well, hope baby is doing well for you Melody, hope you're coping in first tri Oxygen. Spent a few days with my best friend and her beautiful 2 month old baby girl which was just a dream.

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Hey ladies! It's been a while. Things have been really hectic over here. Just a quick update. Wee man was 4 weeks yesterday! Can't believe it. We have had a difficult time since he was born. I have struggled immensely with breastfeeding and i also have/had major baby blues . The last thing you expect after you finally get everything you've ever dreamed of is to feel depressed! So needless to say most of my time has been spent on the sofa, boobs out, crying lol. But things are looking up. The fog is finally lifting, and we are slowly settling into our new life.

SpudsMama Thank you!Tell me about it. He's growing and changing ever day! Aww 5 months already. Can't believe how quickly time passes :O

darkriver Thanks hun x

Oxygen7880 Thank you. I will write more as soon as i can xx

boopin4baby Aww thanks Yeah they are huge puppy dog eyes lol. x

Rags Thanks hun!!!! I can't believe he's actually here. xxx

Cinderella Thank you so much. Yes i 100% recommend hypnobirthing. I'm sorry AF got you last cycle, but good luck with this one! xx

InVivoVeritas Thank you! Andi can see a congrats is in order for you too! I'll go over to your journal after this but congratulations mama!

K.N Thank you my darling. He loves his gorgeous clothes x

 

[Oxygen7880]

Great to hear from you melodyy. I'm really sorry you have had such a rough time since the birth. I had the same baby blues after my lg. It was awful but it does get better so hang in there and don't be afraid to get help if needed.

 

[fairytales87]

Just stopping by with
Congrats, baby dust, love & hugs
Hope everyone is well��

I've not been about for a while
Things aren't going great for me at the moment
I've been blogging in a personal blog which
seems silly as I know nobody reads it but it's helping me so that's all that counts just now

Hugs J xx

 

[darkriver]

Thought I would check in and see how things are with everyone? I am 31 weeks and had a couple of scares but I am trying to take a laid back approach.

 

[Oxygen7880]

Fairytales I'm really sorry to read that your having a tough time

Darkriver how ru feeling? Sorry to hear you've had a couple of scares.

I'm currently 11 weeks (12 by lmp but I know ov date). I have my first scan next Monday and if alls ok then I'm going for a private scan and harmony test next wed. I'm really nervous. You just can't relax until you see the baby and know everything is ok in there. I've been feeling terrible since 6 weeks. Not being sick but feeling sick constantly and totally exhausted. Been extremely difficult to look after my lg and it hasn't helped that it's been the summer hols so no nursery. I feel so guilty that we haven't done anything or been anywhere.

 

[darkriver]

Oxygen dont feel guilty we havent done anything either. I am pretty tired and we have spent a lot of time at the park. There little and dont understand really at the mo. Hope your scan goes well on monday.

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Oxygen7880 Aww thank yu, means a lot. Thankfully the fog did lift a couple of weeks ago and things are going great. I still get a bit anxious but nothing like before. Sorry to hear you're struggling a bit with the first tri, but at least you're not actually throwing up all over the place. You're doing a wonderful job handling your pregnancy and a child. x

fairytales87 Blogging definitely helps! Even if it's private. x

darkriver 31 weeks! wow not long now. I hope you can stay calm and relaxed. x

afm Things are much better with me and baby. Breastfeeding is going great, and I'm no longer weepy or feeling flat. Still a bit anxious but I've always had pretty bad anxiety so combating that with meditation and long walks.

To all you amazing women who are in the tww or have a cycle coming up, I've got everything crossed for you. Let us know where you're at!

 

[darkriver]

Oxygen7880 Aww thank yu, means a lot. Thankfully the fog did lift a couple of weeks ago and things are going great. I still get a bit anxious but nothing like before. Sorry to hear you're struggling a bit with the first tri, but at least you're not actually throwing up all over the place. You're doing a wonderful job handling your pregnancy and a child. x

fairytales87 Blogging definitely helps! Even if it's private. x

darkriver 31 weeks! wow not long now. I hope you can stay calm and relaxed. x

afm Things are much better with me and baby. Breastfeeding is going great, and I'm no longer weepy or feeling flat. Still a bit anxious but I've always had pretty bad anxiety so combating that with meditation and long walks.

To all you amazing women who are in the tww or have a cycle coming up, I've got everything crossed for you. Let us know where you're at!

Thank you Melody! I have read your blog and I am going to google macca root and see if its safe for me to take. I have a blog but have only just started up.