Any teens TTC?

[NickyT75]

I dont think anyone is really saying that under 18s cant make good mums or cant be ready to have children (as mentioned above - every case is different so it wouldn't be fair to say this),
The teen pregnancy section is really valuable & offers fantastic support to teens who find themselves in that situation but I think the issue is more that the forum doesn't necessarily want to be seen to be encouraging under age girls to TTC as this could be seen as irresponsible on their part? & I feel it would be very unfair to put the forum in a bad position if say for example a 16 year old girl joined & decided to get pregnant after being encouraged to do so by other members of this forum.
Then her parents discovered that she'd been posting on here prior to falling pregnant & decided to hold our admin responsible???

I hope you can see what im trying to say? the admin have got a lot bigger things to worry about & people need to see the bigger picture here.

Please nobody take offence I am only trying to help xx

 

[TashaAndBump]

also has anyone thought about the medical side. after all u have to be 16 plus to have sex and thats because ur body is just about ready to be able to cope with sex that doesnt mean ur body will be able to handle a pregnancy.

this point might sound stupid but i thought id add it lol

The law is actually to stop people who are not emotionally mature enough being taken advantage of by older, potentially harmful adults. This is a very controversial point and let me be VERY clear that I disagree with sex below the age of consent, I would not encourage sex any earlier than that - if the relatioship was right for sex, it would last out until the participants were both legally old enough, but the female body is 'ready' for sex at quite a young age - It's different for everybody, but I think the average age the female human body reaches that point in puberty is about 14?

so if u think that people under 16 who feel they are ready for sex should wait then why dont u think the same should apply for people to wait until they are classed as adults to wait to have babies!

They are two completely separate things. Also, the law is there because under the age of 16 a girl is considered unable to cope with a potential accidental pregnancy, this suggests that above that age a woman would cope?

There is no law against having a baby above the age of 16 - there is a law against having sex below it, though!

 

[Lyrah]

Forgive me if I'm being a bit blonde here (like usual haha) but..

What do you all mean about the fact there's going to be a ban on teens TTC?

I'm a little confused on what's meant by it.

xx

 

[moomin_troll]

I dont think anyone is really saying that under 18s cant make good mums or cant be ready to have children (as mentioned above - every case is different so it wouldn't be fair to say this),
The teen pregnancy section is really valuable & offers fantastic support to teens who find themselves in that situation but I think the issue is more that the forum doesn't necessarily want to be seen to be encouraging under age girls to TTC as this could be seen as irresponsible on their part? & I feel it would be very unfair to put the forum in a bad position if say for example a 16 year old girl joined & decided to get pregnant after being encouraged to do so by other members of this forum.
Then her parents discovered that she'd been posting on here prior to falling pregnant & decided to hold our admin responsible???

I hope you can see what im trying to say? the admin have got a lot bigger things to worry about & people need to see the bigger picture here.

Please nobody take offence I am only trying to help xx

this is a very good point n yes this is the reason we dont have a teen ttc forum because i no i wouldnt be impressed if a forum was telling my 16yr old its a goof thing to ttc and giving them pointers. would give the sitea bad name if someone took it further

 

[TashaAndBump]

I dont think anyone is really saying that under 18s cant make good mums or cant be ready to have children (as mentioned above - every case is different so it wouldn't be fair to say this),
The teen pregnancy section is really valuable & offers fantastic support to teens who find themselves in that situation but I think the issue is more that the forum doesn't necessarily want to be seen to be encouraging under age girls to TTC as this could be seen as irresponsible on their part? & I feel it would be very unfair to put the forum in a bad position if say for example a 16 year old girl joined & decided to get pregnant after being encouraged to do so by other members of this forum.
Then her parents discovered that she'd been posting on here prior to falling pregnant & decided to hold our admin responsible???

I hope you can see what im trying to say? the admin have got a lot bigger things to worry about & people need to see the bigger picture here.

Please nobody take offence I am only trying to help xx

This is very well written.

 

[TashaAndBump]

Phhhew, I think people have misunderstood my posts entirely. I want you to know I would never encourage a school age girl to TTC. My point has always been that you can never say that NO under 18s (above school age) are ready to TTC, although most would benefit from waiting a year or two. And that my point has never been about encouragement nor discouragement - I see how the forum would look bad for encouraging minors to start a family - especially if they are dependent and living at home with their parents, but there is a difference between encouragement and acceptance or understanding, and as for whether it is possible a 17 year old could know what they were doing, decide to have a baby and it be one of the best things they ever did? Entirely possibly in my opinion.

 

[moomin_troll]

Forgive me if I'm being a bit blonde here (like usual haha) but..

What do you all mean about the fact there's going to be a ban on teens TTC?

I'm a little confused on what's meant by it.

xx

u are blonde arent u lol u no im joking. everyone is saying there is a reason we dont have a forum for teens ttc because it could make the site look bad.

 

[moomin_troll]

Phhhew, I think people have misunderstood my posts entirely. I want you to know I would never encourage a school age girl to TTC. My point has always been that you can never say that NO under 18s (above school age) are ready to TTC, although most would benefit from waiting a year or two.

this is the same point we have all been trying to make!

 

[Alexis]

im 19 and my fiance is 18. weve been together for 2 years. he is doing basic trainging for the army right now. were TTC.

 

[Lyrah]

Lol I sure am Everyone laughs at my blonde moments.. I have them most of the time

Ahh I see, that's understandable. But.. does this mean I'm going to get a ban if I talk about the fact me and OH are TTC.. because I'm 18?

 

[TashaAndBump]

Phhhew, I think people have misunderstood my posts entirely. I want you to know I would never encourage a school age girl to TTC. My point has always been that you can never say that NO under 18s (above school age) are ready to TTC, although most would benefit from waiting a year or two.

this is the same point we have all been trying to make!

That's what I mean about I think people have misunderstood my posts - this is all I've been trying to say throughout!

 

[StirCrazy]

I dont think anyone is really saying that under 18s cant make good mums or cant be ready to have children (as mentioned above - every case is different so it wouldn't be fair to say this),
The teen pregnancy section is really valuable & offers fantastic support to teens who find themselves in that situation but I think the issue is more that the forum doesn't necessarily want to be seen to be encouraging under age girls to TTC as this could be seen as irresponsible on their part? & I feel it would be very unfair to put the forum in a bad position if say for example a 16 year old girl joined & decided to get pregnant after being encouraged to do so by other members of this forum.
Then her parents discovered that she'd been posting on here prior to falling pregnant & decided to hold our admin responsible???

I hope you can see what im trying to say? the admin have got a lot bigger things to worry about & people need to see the bigger picture here.

Please nobody take offence I am only trying to help xx

Couldn't have put it better myself. Thanks Nicky

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

did anyone read my opionin or did it get lost on page 3? lol

 

[moomin_troll]

Phhhew, I think people have misunderstood my posts entirely. I want you to know I would never encourage a school age girl to TTC. My point has always been that you can never say that NO under 18s (above school age) are ready to TTC, although most would benefit from waiting a year or two.

this is the same point we have all been trying to make!

That's what I mean about I think people have misunderstood my posts - this is all I've been trying to say throughout!

i think people have maybe taken ur posts the wrong way because several of us have made this point n u have made a comment on another part of the post so it caused confusion.

no one has said under 18s will be bad mums but i think everyone will admit even the young mums themselfs its not the perfect age to start a family even tho i no they wouldnt change it for the world

 

[moomin_troll]

ok im nt here 2 argue fight or p!ss anyone off just 2 put my opionin across... the thought of under 18s TRYING to get pregnant does slightly annoy me. mainly for the fact i think your teenage years are for living... going out experimenting having fun. I got preg at 18 married at 19. im now nearly 21... i dont have a carrer, and i gave up my life 2 move away from everything and live with my husband.
if my kids came 2 me at any age under 18 and said mum i want a baby, i think id be mortified and cry.. some of you can use the * well its my life im an adult line* but just think maybe your parents want the best for you... yes im trying for a baby but im 21 and married.
yes there are teens who fall pregnant under 18, sometimes by accident or watever. i dnt agree with abortion thefore should look after what they made. and yes iv seen some great parents who are under 18 but thats only because they have to due to gettingt pregnant by accident..

dont sit there and plan a baby under 18.. go out get p!ssed and party untill your feet are blistered...

there will be a time when you think right iv partied hard.. iv drank untill i could now i wanna settle.
try when you no you have everything inthe world for you your partner and your baby

so i agree with u

hope that didnt affend anyone

even tho im so happy that im having my baby i do think sometimes im only 20 i should still be out getting drunk and having fun, but i no i wont regret it but i no if i was 18 and under and pregnant i would think wtf am i doing because yes teenage yrs are ment to be fun and ur at the age where u can drink n got get drunk with mates n dance the night away n go on holidays.

 

[Lyrah]

I think my question got lost too lol

 

[moomin_troll]

I think my question got lost too lol

i answered u lol think my post got lost too hahaha

 

[Lyrah]

Yeah I posted another question after your reply lol

 

[Alexis]

this seems to be more of a debate than a "Any teens TTC?" thread. ahaha i think myself and a few other girls have answered the origional question. thats it.

 

[oxSarahxo]

ok im nt here 2 argue fight or p!ss anyone off just 2 put my opionin across... the thought of under 18s TRYING to get pregnant does slightly annoy me. mainly for the fact i think your teenage years are for living... going out experimenting having fun. I got preg at 18 married at 19. im now nearly 21... i dont have a carrer, and i gave up my life 2 move away from everything and live with my husband.
if my kids came 2 me at any age under 18 and said mum i want a baby, i think id be mortified and cry.. some of you can use the * well its my life im an adult line* but just think maybe your parents want the best for you... yes im trying for a baby but im 21 and married.
yes there are teens who fall pregnant under 18, sometimes by accident or watever. i dnt agree with abortion thefore should look after what they made. and yes iv seen some great parents who are under 18 but thats only because they have to due to gettingt pregnant by accident..

dont sit there and plan a baby under 18.. go out get p!ssed and party untill your feet are blistered...

there will be a time when you think right iv partied hard.. iv drank untill i could now i wanna settle.
try when you no you have everything inthe world for you your partner and your baby

hope that didnt affend anyone

Can't say that's a good thing to advise either to be honest... For one, its still illegal. lol.

My partner (now 22), your average lad doesn't even drink/smoke/do drugs/party or whatever and never has. He spent his entire life in education and never had a partner until he met me...

I on the other hand did the partying, I used to be a DJ in clubs and it just sort of came with the territory at the time. Now I don't drink or anything.

I can't say I'll be advising my daughter to do what I did and get p*ssed etc, it gets you no-where. A decent night out on the "lash" now will cost the thick end of £100... and doing that even once a week... If you stay in for 10 weeks and have a social drink or just go to a quiet pub, you could have bought yourself a runaround car... That'd be more advisable lol



Back on topic : the original question, I'm personally not TTC and wasn't TTC when I fell pregnant.