Anyone else now trying again STRAIGHT after a mc? NTNP?

[Mrs Miggins]

ickle, pleased to hear you feel a bit better, wish i could be any help at all re the confusion but i'm totally confused myself! fili, just realised my question sounded laden with doom and gloom and it wasn't supposed to. I was just thinking these all sound like good positive signs, and if none of us have had a bfp before an AF before then we won't know how much like AF symptoms it feels like. Just really hoping for you. Christiana, hope you are well. Pink, hold onto that resolve! I have been strong today and resisted the urge to poas. What i didn't say yesterday is i noticed a darker patch in my CM. It could have been faint spotting. At first i thought it was the start of AF but there was no more. So of course i got all excited about implantation spotting, but being unsure of any dates and not being able to get on any internet sites on this stupid phone, apart from this one bizarrely i just don't know. But i'm going to try and lay off the tests for a few days. Maybe.

 

[pinksmarties]

So much happens when I am typing my posts!! I must type really slowly!

Ickle - can't help you with FF as still getting to grips myself. Hope the stiffness eases during the day and you are ready to boogie in Friday.

 

[filipenko32]

Oh no mrs mig your q was not doom and gloom at all!!

 

[Emum]

Temp still slightly up today, so hope this means I have ovulated. I know I need 3 higher ones in a row so let's see what tomorrow brings. Do they need to be much higher to count? My normal for the first week or so was around 36.08 and for the last two days 36.28. Is that a significant enough rise to signify ov?

Any tips for the 2ww anyone? I am going to try not to test too early this time haha: who am I trying to kid) as the BFNS are dispiriting. I read that gentle heat on the tummy for short periods in the day can help with implantation. Has anyone else heard this? Or have any other ideas which might help things along?

 

[filipenko32]

ickle glad it's not too serious

 

[filipenko32]

emum that's true, i do this with a hot water bottle

 

[fayewest]

Faye- the day i told my friend i mc'ed (12 weeks) she told me she was very sorry and went on to show me her 10 week scan of her baby! God knows what she was thinking!!!My mum is very much like fili's mum...when i mention ttc again she goes mental...so do most of our friends and my brother....so we havent told a soul yet!

wow how insensitive, dont people think before they open their mouths? You just expect a bit more dont you? xx

Aww faye it's so hard, i know just what you mean, i started to think that maybe people thought I wanted to hear about new babies all the time. Er no! You know I ignore it now but if I ever have a baby and someone i know miscarries i'll be sure to support them with no talk of babies x x

I can forgive my Mum for talking about my nephews constantly, but I cant really forgive other people for talking about their babies/getting pregnant and all talk of 'well at least you know you can get pregnant now' grrrrrrrrr. Of course there is nothing people can do/or say to really make it better but all you want is for people to listen to you, agree that it is awful and bring you cake. xxx

 

[fayewest]

Why do some people say you have to wait until after you have had a natural cycle to try again, I want to assume thats for ease of dating rather than any fixed medical reason? I have read of people falling pregnant straight away after wards so it must be possible. My fertility specialist is away for 2 weeks on holiday so I cant see any one until she returns. I honestly think I have to get straight back on it, and that will lift my mood xxx

 

[pinksmarties]

Faye - I was advised to try after 1 month (I am assuming he meant after first AF) but I didn't wait. It may depend on what the problem was and the number of mc people have but it does seem to vary widely. I don't necessarly expect much to happen this month but just the act of trying and starting opk etc really gave me something positve to think about and work towards.

I just realised that if my AF starts it will be when my Dad is visiting the end of next week. This may be good thing for extra support but I've read how bad the first one can be so am a bit worried.

emum - I hadn't heard using a hot wter bottle could be good but I suppose it makes sense if progesterone increases temp to help make the environment nice and cosy. I too seem to be waking at 4.30 4.45 and have to check temp then. Was is it with that!! I'm knackered

 

[filipenko32]

You're addicted to taking your temp emum!!

This is where i'm up to so far:-

Tests today

Frer -
Clearblue digi -
Internet cheapies 10miu - faint lines
LH - getting darker again

Symptoms from 2-7 dpo:

Irritability
Bloatedness
mild heartburn but definitely there
Swollen slightly tender bbs
spots (when they had all gone last week)
A bit crampy
Very heavy feeling in uterus
Just feel like af is coming
Lower backache
sickness started yesterday evening and carried on to this morning
Vivid dreams have stopped for now
Intense hunger which has subsided with the sickness today
Craving salt one minute then not at all the next
gassy
'out of it' feeling

The sickness throws me most of all - how can I have sickness when i am not testing positive yet?

I'm putting all my money on a 50/50 bet for either is coming or the bfp is imminent.

 

[fayewest]

You're addicted to taking your temp emum!!

This is where i'm up to so far:-

Tests today

Frer -
Clearblue digi -
Internet cheapies 10miu - faint lines
LH - getting darker again

Symptoms:

Irritability
Bloatedness
Swollen slightly tender bbs
A bit crampy
Very heavy feeling in uterus
Just feel like af is coming
Lower backache
sickness started yesterday evening and carried on to this morning
Vivid dreams have stopped for now
Intense hunger which has subsided with the sickness today

The sickness throws me most of all - how can I have sickness when i am not testing positive yet?

I felt hugely sick on the day of implantation, before a positive test, fingers crossed xx

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Fil, i felt sick before my bfp last time. Big emotional setback for me today, one of my work colleagues just gaily announced to me that she is pregnant. In the staff room full of people. I felt all eyes were on me. Obviously i am happy for her but i'm sure you all know where i'm coming from. Got to dash off to do a treatment now but i will be back later to cry!

 

[Mrs Miggins]

so this girl has only been trying since she got married on september 4th- the weekend i got my last bfp. I am thrilled for her, really i am, but its so bloody hard being surrounded by pregnant people isn't it? And it seems every time one of my friends announces she is pregnant AF arrives in all her glory. I don't begrudge anybody their happiness, pregnancies and babies, i just want it to be my turn again

 

[fayewest]

Fil, i felt sick before my bfp last time. Big emotional setback for me today, one of my work colleagues just gaily announced to me that she is pregnant. In the staff room full of people. I felt all eyes were on me. Obviously i am happy for her but i'm sure you all know where i'm coming from. Got to dash off to do a treatment now but i will be back later to cry!

Sorry to hear that, you want to be happy for people but at the same time want to slap the well wishers by the face! I keep hearing of pregnant people all around me, I think I am going to go out and drink wine on Friday night, allow myself a night of crab/mussels/cheese and then get back on it. It will happen, it has to xxx

 

[filipenko32]

Faye - thanks for your comment about the sickness, I hope so!! Good plan about the wine and cheese, living it up will make you feel so much better! It won't be any time at all until you're back to a 2WW and a bfp - you are so much more fertile after a mc no matter how long a time it has taken before. It's the same after a full term birth apparently (I plan to take advantage of that too!!! . I hope the pain is getting better for you. We're all here for you

Mrsmigg - quite honestly i can't think of anything worse than that for me personally anyway. honestly i would find it very hard to cope with. I'm not sure i can give advice in that case, but my hubby's advice always helps me, he says that it's got no impact on my life at all so not to worry. However i think that when you're working with someone who's pregnant it might start to grate. I feel for you . The ONLY thing i can think of that *might* help you is, is: it her 1st child? If so then perhaps you could rewind time in your head about when you were pregnant with your little girl!! It's a long shot, i feel for you and think a good cry will do you good. It will happen for you soon it really will, hang on in there x x x x .

 

[filipenko32]

emum - good news that the eggy has been released!! Wow it was hard to trace that eggy for a while wasn't it but think you've managed to pinpoint it's flight time and seat number!
I hope this is the month for you!!

 

[filipenko32]

Baby dust to everyone!!! It will happen for us! In depressed moments I think of b&b people who have so much more to cope with than me: ie parents of children who are poorly, parents of multiple stillborns, non supportive horrible OH's and i feel momentarily grateful for what ive got! x x x

 

[filipenko32]

Faye - you're making me want to eat all those things now! Haven't had muscles in ages! mouth's watering!

 

[pinksmarties]

Mrsmiggins - I know exactly how you feel. You think things are going well and you are coping then wham something hits you and reminds you of what should have been. It will be our turn again soon,I just know it in my bones.

There are 2 ladies that I work with that were about 2 months ahead of me and they are now really showing. I find I look ladies bumps more than the babies. Don't get me wrong I got uspset watching a mum breast feed her baby a while ago but its the pregnant people that just get to me.

As fili said we will get there!!

 

[pinksmarties]

fili - I did start writing about your tests and symptoms but for some reason it hasn't appeared. Everything is looking really good and it is still early for the test but I am sure they will change in the next few days - I can't wait till you see a BFP never mind you!!