Anyone else now trying again STRAIGHT after a mc? NTNP?

[fayewest]

Hi Ladies,

I am sorry to gatecrash but I just wanted to thank you all for sharing your stories. Its good to know I'm not the only one going through this.

Sadly I had a natural mc last week (after waiting nearly 4weeks for it to happen) and finally stopped bleeding on Wednesday. Our dr has told us we are medically safe to start trying again once the bleeding has stopped but they recommended to wait until I have one period for dating purposes. I really don't want to wait and feel ready to try again so it is good to read that I'm not the only one and from what I can gather we are now safe to crack on?? ;-)

xxxx

so sorry you have had to join us, but these wonderful women are amazing, and really really supportive. I started miscarrying on Saturday and think I am coming towards the end now, I have to get straight back on it, as it is the only thing that will lift this constant veil of black. Be strong and positive, I know thats easy to say xxxxxx

 

[filipenko32]

Hi Faye, how you doing today?

 

[fayewest]

Fili - I have been getting the sweats for a quite a number of months now usually around what I thought (just guess work) ov time and occassion AF time. It was really bad when I was pg, but then I didn't realise I was even pg. I'll see how things go but might see the GP if it happens agaiin next month.

Faye - how are you? Do you have plans this weekend? Getting out and about is difficult at first, I burst into tears just sitting in KFC and couldn't wait to get home but it is a bit by bit process.


emum - shame about your friend having to cancel. How about online xmas shopping to take your mind off things? Then you can have a nap when you feel like it.

Not sure really, DH has said we need to get out the house and do something fun. We are in the process of buying our first home, so maybe we'll do some planning and looking at design ideas, even that feels awful though, I wont be able to touch the room that would have been our nursery until I am pregnant again and past 12 weeks. Fortunately the physical effects are now starting to slow down, maybe a i'll go for a walk in the woods in the morning, and see how i feel from there. Going to starting temping tomorrow xx

 

[filipenko32]

Pink - here's a link about some people discussing hot sweats in early pregnancy https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080206061043AA6vv0n

Hope that's helpful

 

[loubyloumum]

This thread's got magical powers to make us all in to success stories very soon!! but in the meantime this is a post I just read by a lady called babyhopes2010 who is 36 weeks pregnant and this is what she said:

"i was ttc baby no 1 it took 2.5yrs and got pregnant last yr and sadly miscarried on 26/1 i bleed very heavy for few days and got pos test 5/3 which means i concieved 21/2 with no af in between.im due monday! so yes its totally possible x"

wow what a lovely story, that fills us all with hope!!
I think its definatly time to crack on with a bit of now then and hope for us all that we get our BFP soon enough

xxx

 

[fayewest]

Hi Faye, how you doing today?

Hi Flip, Now that the physical signs are slowing down, I am starting to think about trying again more seriously, I really feel as if I should be moving on, it's just so so hard, I cant imagine ever feeling better. Being back on the TTC roller coaster scares me too though, I needed clomid to ovulate, i don't have any left until I can see my doctor again

Kind of mourning the end of my friendship with my supposed best friend too, I really think if people are not there when you really, really need them during the bad times, you don't need them there in the good either.

It will be good to try and get out of the house tomorrow and be a bit more normal, I have barely left my bedroom since Saturday

How are you? Feeling positive? x

 

[filipenko32]

Pink I found this for you: 'Hot and cold flashes for younger women tend to occur only during times of menstruation or pre-menstruation (when oestrogen is typically lowest).'
and this link https://www.medhelp.org/posts/Womens-Health/Night-Sweats-Before-Period/show/530679 which is a massive discussion about night sweats and one woman says she gets them really bad but has been tested for menopause and that was negative. Like you around ov and af.

 

[loubyloumum]

Hi Ladies,

I am sorry to gatecrash but I just wanted to thank you all for sharing your stories. Its good to know I'm not the only one going through this.

Sadly I had a natural mc last week (after waiting nearly 4weeks for it to happen) and finally stopped bleeding on Wednesday. Our dr has told us we are medically safe to start trying again once the bleeding has stopped but they recommended to wait until I have one period for dating purposes. I really don't want to wait and feel ready to try again so it is good to read that I'm not the only one and from what I can gather we are now safe to crack on?? ;-)

xxxx

so sorry you have had to join us, but these wonderful women are amazing, and really really supportive. I started miscarrying on Saturday and think I am coming towards the end now, I have to get straight back on it, as it is the only thing that will lift this constant veil of black. Be strong and positive, I know thats easy to say xxxxxx

Im so sorry for your loss I know how difficult it is to try and come to terms with!
I fell exactly the same as you, that the only thing that will help me to overcome this is to get pg asap....heres hoping.
xxxx

 

[filipenko32]

Just leave your room when you feel ready. My dh started pushing me about 2 days after the op (!) to do something outside and i just couldn't leave the house - had to explain this to him and he stopped pestering me then and supported me. Having said this when i finally left the house for a lovely long walk i felt so much better and more normal as you say. Then maybe you could make an appoinment with your doc to get some more clomid - being proactive medically really helped me to get better. You really just have to be kind to yourself and do what you think is best for you when you're ready. Don't forget you've been through a huge shock and an emotional trauma x x

afm I am quite positive - suppose I have a 50/50 chance!!

Hi Faye, how you doing today?

Hi Flip, Now that the physical signs are slowing down, I am starting to think about trying again more seriously, I really feel as if I should be moving on, it's just so so hard, I cant imagine ever feeling better. Being back on the TTC roller coaster scares me too though, I needed clomid to ovulate, i don't have any left until I can see my doctor again

Kind of mourning the end of my friendship with my supposed best friend too, I really think if people are not there when you really, really need them during the bad times, you don't need them there in the good either.

It will be good to try and get out of the house tomorrow and be a bit more normal, I have barely left my bedroom since Saturday

x

 

[filipenko32]

And the lady who started this thread is 20 odd weeks now I think!

 

[fayewest]

@Flip - My fertility specialist is on holiday for 2 weeks so I cant speak to her until then, my own doctor is utterly useless so i will have to wait until the specialist gets back in a few weeks.

We run a supperclub once a month, so maybe we'll try out some fab recipes as thats easing my way in gently. We have 20 pheasants to skin and pluck, I can't face that at all!

Really am hoping for you, fingers crossed for some amazing news xxx

 

[filipenko32]

ohh 20 pheasants wow!! Will you make a pie or have you a special recipe? Did your OH shoot them, or did you? Supperclub sounds like a lovely idea, how many people will you cook for, 20??

2 weeks is not long away but it will probably feel like it. Why do these consultants go away when you need them the most!!

Well I have just had more retching and waves of nausea but ic's are definitely extremely faint and no positives on the big guns like clearblue yet so... Think the sickness is a good sign tho and my boobs are so swollen that my dh has just been looking at them while talking to me!!!! They're bugging me tho, my boobs i mean, do you know what i mean? I just feel fat and bloated tho so hope it's for a good reason! I don't think i normally feel quite this bad before an but it would be an unusual af i.e. the 1st after mc. x x

 

[fayewest]

@ Flip

We are planning to use them for 2 different supperclub events, we can squeeze in 16 people, hopefully in the new house 20 people will fit as we are getting more and more people who want to come. We are thinking of doing the breast in a red currant jus for this upcoming one, and for NYE we are planning to do pheasant 3 ways, and confit the legs/make a mousse out of the liver. Not sure how thats going to taste yet, but we love experimenting. The birds were donated by a lovely guest who shot them a few days ago, so kind!

My experiences are that I have never had a faint/evap line on cheapy tests at all, they only appear faint when I am def pregnant, and the waves of chronic nausea were the first sign for me as my boobs always hurt after ovulation, perhaps a bit more nipply painful when I was pregnant though, am so excited and majorly hopeful for you. Sorry if I missed this, how many dpo are you?

Did you chart this cycle, am wondering if I can ovulate without the clomid, I usually ovulate around day 20/21 xx

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Louby - welcome. Sorry you have found yourself here, but hopefully you will find the support here will help you focus on the future with people who have recently gone through the same horrible, painful ordeal. It has helped me massively. I hope you get that BFP really soon.
Faye - it's nice to hear you sounding brighter. With my first m/c (natural) I found once the bleeding and physical pain subsided I was more able to look forward. I never stopped grieving for the pregnancy I lost - I would have been due this Wednesday - but I found that actually, I could cope. As for your friend, it is a real shame she hasn't stepped up to the mark for you. I just hope that in time, and soon, she will realise and come back to you with an apology or a gesture of friendship, and if she does you can respond to her however you feel you need to. In the meantime, focus on people and things that will help you keep that positivity. Bad news about the fertility specialist.

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Fili - (I have to post these damned replies in two sections as I STILL have zero concentration and memory. Your friend I'm sure will understand. Most decent people woule realise that at 8 months pregnant somebody who has been through what you have been through this year is going to find them difficult company, no matter how much they love them. This time 4 years ago I was in the same situation with my cousin. She had a baby, and I had recently split up with my husband as a year into our marriage he informed me that he didn't want children, no way, no compromise. It was difficult for me, but a total deal breaker so we split. I offended my cousin, her twin sister, and my aunt and uncle as I didn't want to go and see them at Christmas as seeing her with the baby was just too painful for me. The baby is 4 tomorrow, and me and my cousins are all friends again. The thing about pregnancies is it is the one thing I have discovered makes you totally self centred, as you are the only person going through your own particular struggle, or even if it is a healthy pregnancy, it is just you doing it. And I kind of think you have to go with that really. If that makes any sense.
Pink - I hope you get to the bottom of the sweats (that sounds wrong...). Maybe going to see your GP is a good idea. I tend to get them around ov and AF time though, but not dramatically.

 

[fayewest]

Mrs Miggins - How was Wednesday, that must have been really hard, I'm sorry you have had to go through it ;0(

Not sure about my friend, I honestly think if you cant be there for someone you have been friends with for over 23 years when they desperately need you, esp when they drop everything to be by your side time and time again then you are not a real friend anyway, she didn't even pick up the phone to call me. On the positive side of things, some people have really pulled through for me, you have to focus on yourself sometimes and ignore those people who don't treat you well enough ;0( xxx

 

[pinksmarties]

fili - thankyou soo much for teh info. I read both articles you found and feel much reassured. I'll see how things go but might seeif I can get my thyroid levels chacked, just in case.

Mrsmiggins - how are you this afternoon? Here's hoping the cold is just a short one.

loubyloumum - welcome and sorry you have to join us. I know thinking about ttc straight away definitely helped me, and I am sure it was the same for the other ladies on here.

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Thanks Pink. I'm ok, just hope it doesn't linger. I'm working tonight doing a party but it shouldn't be a late one. Did really well yesterday going poas cold turkey but caved today and did one of each. Both bfn. Faye, due date would have been next wednesday, not this one just gone. It's tough, strange because the more recent loss is more on my mind, which does make me feel guilty too. But its my daughters second birthday this weekend so i'm letting that take my mind off it, concentrating on her.

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Thanks Pink. I'm ok, just hope it doesn't linger. I'm working tonight doing a party but it shouldn't be a late one. Did really well yesterday going poas cold turkey but caved today and did one of each. Both bfn. Faye, due date would have been next wednesday, not this one just gone. It's tough, strange because the more recent loss is more on my mind, which does make me feel guilty too. But its my daughters second birthday this weekend so i'm letting that take my mind off it, concentrating on her.

 

[fayewest]

Just spoke to the clinic, my specialist is leaving, she'll be gone in a few weeks after her holiday, I don't want to change after all this time, it's knocked me for six, set me back massively ;0(