Hi Louby, if you do want to have a private scan there is babybond, they have clinics all over the UK, it was where I was going to go for a gender scan (that would have been this week too
they have decent reviews)
The impression that I got from the people I saw over my MMC, that the word 'reassurance' when asking for a scan during pregnancy is almost like a keyword, much like 'breach of the peace' said in a call to the police to get them to arrive fast (I just heard that, no idea if its true lol). 'Early scan' implies that you just want an early peak, and I expect they get asked alot to do early peeks by women who have no real need to be reassured. At the end of the day, if you cant eat sleep or relax due to not knowing, and needing to be reassured about your pregnancy, then its a health issue and they should do a reassurance scan asap. Forget the midwife if she cant see the need to be reassured, and go straight to EPAU, they have a much better understanding as they have the women in there daily, having dc's or medicals. I'm not knocking midwifes, but I heard nothing from mine since my scan appointment, they clearly don;t have any dealings with miscarriage victims. I had a doctor, a young clearly studenty doctor, telling me that because I had MMC I NEEDED A D AND C IMMEDIATELY ELSE I WILL GET AN INFECTION I use caps because I am demostrating the urgency in which he delivered me this info. I was livid, I gave him what for, and demanded to see a 'proper doctor' which resulted in a consultant visiting me. I informed this consultant of what I had been told and he was rather angry at this young doctor, who started spluttering then left the room. Needless to say, the young one kept well out of my way apart from when he absolutely had to see me. The point of this tale, is that sometimes you have to fight hard to get your reassurance. The young doctor also refused to scan me after the main MC, but I put my foot down, and he gave in. And then I was reassured that nothing was still attached, just waiting to come out. I even got another scan 3 weeks after hospital to confirm no retained tissues. They usually use HCG test to determine that, but again, I put my foot down. DO NOT be afraid to put you foot down about your reassurance. AS long as you do it without becoming aggressive to the staff, otherwise you go down a bad road.
Sorry for the super long post! When I feel strongly about something, I dont shut up!