Anyone else now trying again STRAIGHT after a mc? NTNP?

[Lozdi]

Good evening Ladies

I've been out all day seeing santa ad OH's family. It wiped me out- I havent been to his parents house since the MMC, as I worked out that while I was there was the last time my baby had a heartbeat. I found myself needing to POAS while there (I had supplies in handbag for my first non-home poas.) Then I remembered the last time I had (TMI) pregnancy constipation was there, then I got upset about that, then mood shifted and I had a laugh at myself for crying over the last time I had constipation!

Fili thats excellent about the digi, what did I say? This bean will be ahead, not behind!

On the subject of dreams during pregnancy. TRUST THEM. I never had nightmares til I was in my last pregnancy, and those nightmares never started til after the baby's heart stopped. After that point, I dreamed of alot of babies stillborn or early and stillborn, and I once dreamed I got shot in the chest, and the feeling was just like the feeling I had in that scan room when I saw it. Next time I get PG if I have a nightmare I'll go get a scan, simple as that.

 

[filipenko32]

Yeah I completely understand emum, but there's no way you're not going to get your baby and no way that time is running out. You're doing everything you can and you will get there. You were pregnant hardly any time ago and so it will definitely happen again. Also ahem, feeling emotional is one of the first signs I'm sure! It always is for me, and it is funny because I have had fits saying 'I'm going to be childless forever' much to the disdain of hubby and the next day a bfp have you got any other symptoms?

 

[meandrod]

Hi ladies,

I just miscarried 3 days ago and I am all over the place about my feelings. I want my first child so bad i can taste it. Anyways, I was told after the scan that I have fibroids and a swollen left tube. I don't know what to make of this. It was if they were speaking a foreign language to me and I still haven't processed it all. I don't know if I should immediately start trying again or if i should wait! I have no clue.

 

[meandrod]

Yeah I completely understand emum, but there's no way you're not going to get your baby and no way that time is running out. You're doing everything you can and you will get there. You were pregnant hardly any time ago and so it will definitely happen again. Also ahem, feeling emotional is one of the first signs I'm sure! It always is for me, and it is funny because I have had fits saying 'I'm going to be childless forever' much to the disdain of hubby and the next day a bfp have you got any other symptoms?

Hi fili was just reading your signature and wondering if you waited anytime after miscarrying or did you go right for it again? By the way congrats! i hope this one sticks!

 

[filipenko32]

I agree whole heartedly about the dreams loz, every night I dread having a nightmare and wake up searching my brain for one I may have had but not remembered, I'm getting up to pee a lot too so I think when sleep is broken you remember dreams and I have not remembered any thank god. I never would have thought dreams would have such an impact on me, didn't ever really think much of them but do now! That is strange about the shot gun thing, think it was obviously a premonition!

Welcome mean, can I call you that? Lol I'm so sorry it is very hard. Yes you should definitely try again but only when the bleeding has stopped and if you feel ready for it you should start trying to track your ovulation and catch that eggy! BUT i am not quite sure about the tube situation, what did they say?

 

[filipenko32]

No I never wait, but I only get pregnant in my first proper af after miscarriage but just can't keep them!

 

[Emum]

Welcome mean, can I call you that?

That's made me smile a bit. I think the poster's name is me and rod (her partner's name I guess) so seems a bit harsh to start calling her "mean"

But welcome meandrod, sorry you are here. Do you have a follow up appointment planned with the doctor where you could ask for some clarification or could you make one? The issues you raise are a bit out of the ordinary I think for most of us on this thread. Though if it helps a lot of ladies have fibroids (me included) and they are usually only problematic if they are big. Mine is about 3 cm in diameter which is apparently fine, some women have fibroids the size of grapefruits which is less fine. The tube thing I don't know about.

 

[Lozdi]

Hi Mea, I'm sorry for your loss- I don't know about the tube situation, but if I were you I'd wait til you have seen a doctor about the tube and fibroids before you TTC again, just incase some treatment is required that is incompatible with TTC and pregnancy. Have you got another appointment soon?

Fili, I think you mean 'couldn't' keep them, not cant....because you can now!

 

[filipenko32]

Yes that is a bit harsh sounding! i tried typing me and rod in and my predictive text won't let me do it so it might have to be meandered, is that ok?

 

[filipenko32]

Thanks loz! Yes couldn't PMA!

 

[Mrs Miggins]

I was going to shorten it to "Drod" but my phone changes that to Droid, which is perhaps worse.
Anyway meandrod, welcome and sorry for your very recent loss. I hope you get sorted and you have your first baby very very soon.
Emum, sorry you feel cack. I know how you feel, I keep thinking about that 20 week scan I should be having this week, or the month old baby that should be spending it's first Christmas with us. You cope fine, and then things remind you of how bloody cruel life can be sometimes. Like Fil said, you were pregnant so recently, it will happen again for you very soon.
Fil, love the photo of hubby!
Loz, I was the same last time I went to my mums thinking about the last time I was there, struggling with morning sickness.
I am babysitting for my friends 4 month old tonight! So she could go on a night out with her hubby and all our friends that my OH and I couldn't afford to go on. I'm hoping I get good karma points for it.

 

[Chele78]

Hello ladies.... I've been stalking this thread for a few days and thought I'd jump in and introduce myself.

On 1st Dec, we had an early ultrasound following some bleeding and they confirmed I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks, my very first pregnancy after 18 months of ttc. We had been so very excited and then obviously have been dealing with the massive blow of our baby and our plans vanishing in a second.

I'm feeling much better emotionally, and am trying to not go completely tic crazy, but I'm afraid I'm failing that completely! I'd be so excited to be able to conceive again quickly. But not sure what my body will do in this in between cycle. It's my first month charting, though I have been using a CBFM for most of this year. I'm excited to try to get some control back after the miscarriage, that's for sure.

Anyway, glad to see there has been some very positive news for some of you on this thread, and hoping I won't be too far behind you. I'm sooooo ready to get our family started.

 

[filipenko32]

Hi chele, so sorry,i can't imagine your heartache after 18 months ttc 1million hugs coming your way. The good news is you're more fertile after a mc so it's likely you'll catch the egg. To be honest with you 18 months is too long and indicates you may need some tests done, hope you dont mind me saying. have you had any tests done?

 

[Chele78]

Hi chele, so sorry,i can't imagine your heartache after 18 months ttc 1million hugs coming your way. The good news is you're more fertile after a mc so it's likely you'll catch the egg. To be honest with you 18 months is too long and indicates you may need some tests done, hope you dont mind me saying. have you had any tests done?

Hey Fili, The OB we saw when they confirmed the miscarriage didn't seem concerned about the 18 months, though he did say if we weren't successfully pregnant again within 6 months, we could then go back for the fertility specialists to get some testing done.

I maybe should have qualified that we were more NTNP for the first year really, decided we'd stop preventing it at least, but really didn't start educating myself on my cycles until April this year when we finally bought the CBFM. After years of preventing pregnancy, you always feel it's going to happen easily. It was only after the first year, when we had other major stuff happening, like moving to the Netherlands, that we decided to take a bit more active stance on it. We have also both changed our eating habits this year, and we're both getting closer to our healthy weights, which I know should help our fertility too.

Anyway, like you say, you're meant to be more fertile after a miscarriage, so here's hoping. Annoyingly, my hubby will be gone visiting his family in the UK for most of next week, when I'm likely to ovulate, unless of course the miscarriage will delay my normal ov day. Time will tell.

 

[filipenko32]

Ahh ok! Yeah there's a lot to be learnt about cycles when you start looking, I didn't really know nothing before! Do you use opk kits?

 

[Chele78]

I dabbled in using opks before I got the CBFM, but never had very much luck with them. I have started using them again this cycle to try to help get more information on what's happening. Hopefully with the weight loss and the now obvious capability of getting pregnant, I'll actually get a positive opk sometime soon.

 

[filipenko32]

You will!! X x

 

[Hope39]

I need some advice as i'm stressing now, Fili you might be able to help as you are so clued up these days.

I have finally had some tests done with the recurrent miscarriage clinic (thurs) - AF hasn't shown up yet and i am getting quite concerned i might be pregnant. Would my blood tests give false readings if i was pregnant. I might have lieden factor 5 as Prof Q did a screening test for this and told me to get it tested

I would be so god damn pleased if i weren't waiting on test results and our consultant told us not to try and conceive until we had the results, next appt is feb!

Maybe my cycles are still out of wack, before the last miscarriage my cycles were anything from 28-32 days. I am now on day 34

I didn't temp this month or poas as we are not trying and if i am honest we have only dtd twice, really early in my cycle and really late in my cycle so totally avoiding when i normally ovulate. I dont even want to think about the alcohol i have consumed, OH and me drank a bottle of port last weekend

If AF not here tomoz i am gonna have go buy a test

 

[ickle pand]

Hello ladies. Haven't been about much today. I had another break down at lunchtime. I've been throwing myself into Christmas to try and take my mind off things but I just can't escape thinking that I should be getting ready to give birth and would probably be having Christmas at my folks etc etc.

I tried to talk to my Mum last week about losing the baby and she just said something about how there was obviously something wrong and it just wasn't meant to be. I know she means well but it didn't help. I tried to then talk to my DH about it and he said something really stupid and inappropriate on a completely different subject. He did apologise for it, but I'm left feeling like I have no one to talk to. 3 of my friends have all had miscarriages but they've all given birth this year too so I don't feel like I can talk to them about it.

DH keeps suggesting counselling but I feel like counselling's for when you're not coping and are becoming overwhelmed with a situation. Whereas I feel like this is completely normal but I just have no one in real life to talk to who understands. Which is pretty depressing in itself.

God this is a very down post, when I'm actually feeling ok just now, but this is what I how I was feeling earlier.

We're supposed to be going to a party in Glasgow with a couple we know for hogmanay (new years eve) but with the due date being on the 2nd, we're starting to wonder whether or not to go. Half of me thinks we should go because it'll take our mind off what's going on, but the other half thinks that we should stay at home just in case. I just don't know what to do for the best.

I really don't know what I'd do without you ladies. But it's still not quite the same as having someone to listen in real life.

Oh I've decided I'm definitely taking the month off temping. I think I'm stressed enough so just going to use the CBFM this time.

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Ickle - this is going to be a bit jumbled and not much help I fear, the reason being i have just had my own mini breakdown. Counselling may or may not help, I don't know, I quite admire your hubby for suggesting it though cos its not the usual route for men to want to take, even (or especially) for partners. It sounds like a month off will do you good, to just take the pressure off. Coming up to the due date is hideous, but hopefully once it is passed you will feel a bit stronger. A bit of a breather around now to adjust to the end of "I should be pregnant" time might help. We are here for you no matter what.
Like I say I apologise if I am rambling I am in a bit of turmoil myself right now.