Anyone LTTTC Number One?

[Rin731]

Dildocam it was - lubed up and freshly condommed (wouldnt want to give birth to a load of little probes now would I?)

and the news is................

The oven is A-OK and primed for baking
No sign of the 'roid growing back and although the nursie could see some scar tissue, it was all in order - nothing interfering with the baby chamber

So, we are back up next week for paperwork and injection training - and I have 2 blood tests to have: Chlamydia and HIV I think.
I think we'll know then if we're short or long protocol and what our significant dates are

So pleased for you!

 

[OiskyPoisky]

Excellent news Urchin!!
That news article is a joke, but I don't expect all that much coming from the Daily Fail!!

AFM I had my first fertility specialist on Monday, was incredibly nervous before and talking to my husband at the speed of light! I have been given Clomid 100mg days 2-6 a scan at day 12 and HCG shot, really wasn't expecting so much The FS thinks I ovulate too early and to weakly (is that a wordit sounds weird to me) so hopefully it will work. Have tried not to get my hopes up but deep down I am on thinking that this will work...well they do say a positive mental attitude counts for something CD10 of this cycle and its going so slow, want it to be over and done with so I can start

I've not had a dildocam yet so i think that might be what I'm due to have on CD12

 

[urchin]

afraid the joy was short lived .... turns out there is a problem after all

Have put the details in my journal and really can't type it all again ... so have a look there if you wanna know

if not - the short version is 'it's all gone pants and it looks like IVF is off

 

[wannabemummyb]

Sorry to hear that urchin i guess wait till you see your gp and get your referral, it may not take 4 months for the appointment. Fx for you x x

 

[dodgercpkl]

Urchin - I'm so sorry to hear that. I have no sage words, but I want you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sending you lots of long distance as well.

 

[urchin]

Trouble is, it WILL take that long ... Mr Urch works for the NHS dealing with patient pathways and so booking times is what he deals with every day.

For life threatening conditions, the wait time is 5 weeks - for everything else the target used to be 18 weeks, but the government just abolished that so basically they can make you wait as long as they like

 

[mrs stru]

I'm a bit rubbish and haven't been on here in a while but thanks to all for the welcome. I am now on cd9 and managed to grab OH for our first session of this cycle before he left for work this morning as he is out tonight. Bought opks again this month to check for the big 'O' as my cycle was so short last month.

What's everyone doing tonight for bonfire night. As OH is out and I am picking him up at some unknown hour, I'm staying in with just the cats for company. Although if last night was anything to go by, they'll be hiding under the bed all night cos of the fireworks!

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Urchin I seriously can't believe this

I would be sorely tempted to apply for a 0% credit card and whack a private on on there, yes it is added debt that you could do without BUT it means your IVF money is safe and if you get a 12 month introductory 0% you could pay that back before you actually needed it. Extending over-drafts are also an option and although I am not aware of what your financial status is you will find that if the bank can't help friends and family may. I am so sorry about this hun xxx

 

[wannabemummyb]

Trouble is, it WILL take that long ... Mr Urch works for the NHS dealing with patient pathways and so booking times is what he deals with every day.

For life threatening conditions, the wait time is 5 weeks - for everything else the target used to be 18 weeks, but the government just abolished that so basically they can make you wait as long as they like

Oh that sux, was hoping that your estimate was the worse case scenerio.

 

[JustKia]

Sorry Urch Hopefully things will put themselves right soon.

AFM: I had a huge temp drop this morning, so I guess that means the is enroute.

 

[pinkfee]

Urch - i'm really sorry darling. I was looking forward to having an IVF buddy. I think you need to let yourselves grieve for this and then you can move forward. I know 4-5months feels like a lifetime but time can pass quickly and it'll be here before you know it. Also you never know in your area the waiting list might be quicker than that. I know Mr Urch has got an inside track but stranger things can happen! And i'm going to keep everything crossed that something miraculous happens for both of you. x

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Kia sorry hun

Well have another bee in my bonnet today A cousin of DH is pregnant (one of the types that was complaining it was taking forever when it was only 4 months ) Her husband to be has a beautiful 2 year old son. Most boys that I know are boisterous and a bit of handful but her step son although shy is the sweetest little thing I have met! They are a bit strict with him (not really any need to be as they are constantly complaining he is too shy to get into mischief and needs to be more outgoing ) but hey everyone has there own parenting techniques.

MIL confided in me last night that they have limited visitations with this two year old to just two a month! Apparently DH cousin feels that the very small child is cold towards her and they can't bond! So basically Step Mum and Dad are getting married with a wee one on the way and so first son is no longer wanted/needed Now although I don't agree with her attitude I do know from experience that step parent and child relationship can be difficult but I can't condone is father ditching him - how will he feel when the baby comes along knowing he has been replaced! I don't know what upsets me more the fact that as an unwanted step child myself I know how it feels once the new replacement baby arrives or the fact that we would do anything for a child and they are throwing one away

It is a sad, state of affairs when this happens! Even worse is the fact that DH cousin is very hippified and a teacher, her proclaimed beliefs mean she should know better.

 

[Djibou]

Oh urch that's so sad. Tons of and FX so that things move as quick as they can. Don't lose hope, it will happen eventually hun xxx

Kia, sorry about the bbt drop

 

[wannabeprego]

@Urchin, I am so very sorry that you wont be able to do IVF, my heart is breaking for you hun...I am sending huge hugs to you.


AFM, I am trying to spend less time on B&B for a little while, I think at least until I am ready to finally move forward with the IUI procedure. After last month's cycle I realized how depressed TTC was making me, As you girls know my mom was down visiting, and when we were at the gardens we visited there was tons of women with babies everywhere and pregnant bellies, and I was holding back tears, literally... Than when my period came on Halloween day my mom was asking me if I was sad, and I didnt want her to see me upset so I didnt say, I ended up locking myself in my bedroom and cried for about an hour, and spent that entire day holding back tears.. long story short I was becoming majorily depressed to the point where it was affecting my daily life... Halloween was a bust because of the Noreaster and shitty weather, so me and DH didnt end up going out to a night club in our vampire costumes, so it was a horrible weekend for me....

So as a result, I am refocusing my energy on other things and currently I am doing the "Special K Challenge" and so far it is going really good. My short term goal is to shed some pounds and be smoking hot in my New Years eve dress.

https://www.specialk.com/challenge/reso

Plus my sister and me have a bet going that the two of us both loose 10 pounds by Thanksgiving, so that when we see eachother if we have both met our goals than we are going to go shopping together as a special treat and she will buy me a new outfit. So I think that is pretty good motivation. My entire family gets together at my brother's house in Boston for Thanksgiving.

I also felt like part of my problem was spending to much timme on B&B and obsessing over everything.... So I wont be coming on B&B as much anymore, but I will check in every once and a while just to see how all of you lovely ladies are doing because you have been such great friends to me... I just need to try to preserve my sanity right now and refocus my energy, TTC has really been kicking my ass and I need a vacation from it..

I am doing 50 mg of clomid this cycle, days 3-7 because I was hoping that the HSG may have opened up my one good tube so the clomid might help us get our BFP this month, but I am promising myself that i will not to obsess over TTC this month and not doing the early testing anymore either...

Tonight me and DH are going to check out a haunted attraction together since this is the last weekend for Halloween attractions.... This place was featured on Ghost Hunters, it is Pennhurst Asylum, it used to be a mental insitution back in the days, and I think it will be super scary, because it is really supposed to be haunted....and of course I love scary stuff, so i think it will be fun....LOL....

This is where we are going...

https://pennhurstasylum.com/flash/index.htm

Here is a video about it from Ghost Hunters, Part 1 of 3 videos....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ULKNwD-fzik&feature=results_video&playnext=1&list=PL591228E1122F56C4

I hope all of you wonderful girls are having a great weekend so far!!!!

https://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh126/izzybee22/weekend_flower.gif

 

[wannabeprego]

Sorry Urch Hopefully things will put themselves right soon.

AFM: I had a huge temp drop this morning, so I guess that means the is enroute.

I am so sorry hun...

 

[cooch]

I know what you mean wannabe. I banned myslef from the internet for a while only to go right back to it. I see it as a release of my tensions etc. Its also the only place where I can fully express what I'm feeling (other than to DH). You all know exactly what its like and that is worth an awful lot. I don't feel obsessed with it right now but I do feel supported. Thank you all. xxx

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Oh Wannabe you will be missed hun but I do understand what you mean

I know that January is my 'off' month so as hard as it is going to be I will be banned from here for a while.

 

[dodgercpkl]

@FF - Ugh! Those kinds of things make me so mad/sad! I can't believe how people can give up a child like that.

I was reading about something kinda sorta similar (but not really) on another forum where it was an article about an engaged couple that had been dating for 5 years and were preggers with their first child together. They finally introduced their families to each other because they were getting married and having a child, and found out that they were actually brother and sister that had been seperated very young! One had grown up with the father, and the other with the mother... I can't imagine being in that situation, but I feel so sad for them. Anyway, one of the posters on that forum said she would run screaming to have an abortion and it just made me want to hit something! Why would you punish EITHER the brother and sister who did nothing wrong because they weren't ever told, OR that baby who is innocent of any wrong doing what-so-ever?!

@wannabeprego - I totally understand how you feel. I've done that too, but like another poster said, I found that the internet really gave me an outlet to put all my disappointments, frustrations, and a place to get support and encouragement. I have wonderful family and friends, but I really have only one or 2 people that I can talk to in 'real' life that understand what I'm going through. I think putting your focus on losing some weight is a great thing! It definitely has helped me to have other things to think about, be greatful for, and celebrate. *hugs*

 

[urchin]

FF that's a disgustin thing to do to a small boy, they truly should be ashamed of themselves. How on earth can a two year old be cold? He's probably confused about the various adult relationships in his life, it's very hard for children who are old enough to put their questions into words, let alone for a small reserved boy without the language to ge his head round it all. And how seeing LESS of him is supposed
to help is beyond me

wannabe - we will miss you (and your sparkly welcomes for the newbies) but totally understand. You need to do whatever helps you get through this difficult time ... And if that means stepping away from B&B for a while, or forever, then that is all ok. We will of course be pleased to see you if you pop in, but don't stress about it, just look after yourself however you need to xx

ay up to Mrs Stru!

Kia - I'm sorry about the temp drop hon ... Big hugs and chocolate to ya

thankyou everyone for your kind thoughts, we have done a bit more thinking and talking and have found some very kind family peoples who are going to lend us the money to go private. I'll have to wait til tomorrow to find out if this will mean we can keep our donor (if the results of the hystroscopy are ok)
if they aren't, then it's probably game over for us - a very sad thought indeed

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Urchin I am keeping it all crossed for you! xxx