anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[Milty]

There is also the benfit with brith that you know what the pain leads too. There is no question you are getting your baby.

 

[sarahincanada]

well thats good to know ready! I feel much better about pregnancy and you are right, having all these treatments with no results is the worst, and this is why I went from just clomid to IVF in 5 months The first month while having the bloods tests and ultrasounds with clomid I said to hubby if Im doing all this already might as well add the IUI, so we did the next 2 months. Then when I tried the injectables I thought hey this is not much different from doing IVF, and look at me now!!

I had a little moment last night.....I suddenly was sad thinking why did we leave it this late and what if I never experience my own biological child....one where I can look at them and see my eyes or my smile or something. It feels so close to the end as I will probably only do 3 IVFs, (then perhaps 1 with donor egg). Hubby gets annoyed that Im thinking negatively and Im not, but I did have those thoughts last night. There are sooo many first time successes in the Assisted folder, many of them with bigger problems than me so Im hopeful. Then theres people who say the first IVF cycle is sometimes a practice session (expensive practice!) and the 2nd one gets it right. I hope I can stay strong if this first one doesnt work.

I wish there was someone else doing IVF with me this month! I was going to post in the assisted folder but every seems to know everyone else already and I dont have time to get to know another group of people some of you are so good at chatting away but I get confused easily

 

[dachsundmom]

Sarah....

 

[readyformore]

well thats good to know ready! I feel much better about pregnancy and you are right, having all these treatments with no results is the worst, and this is why I went from just clomid to IVF in 5 months The first month while having the bloods tests and ultrasounds with clomid I said to hubby if Im doing all this already might as well add the IUI, so we did the next 2 months. Then when I tried the injectables I thought hey this is not much different from doing IVF, and look at me now!!

I had a little moment last night.....I suddenly was sad thinking why did we leave it this late and what if I never experience my own biological child....one where I can look at them and see my eyes or my smile or something. It feels so close to the end as I will probably only do 3 IVFs, (then perhaps 1 with donor egg). Hubby gets annoyed that Im thinking negatively and Im not, but I did have those thoughts last night. There are sooo many first time successes in the Assisted folder, many of them with bigger problems than me so Im hopeful. Then theres people who say the first IVF cycle is sometimes a practice session (expensive practice!) and the 2nd one gets it right. I hope I can stay strong if this first one doesnt work.

I wish there was someone else doing IVF with me this month! I was going to post in the assisted folder but every seems to know everyone else already and I dont have time to get to know another group of people some of you are so good at chatting away but I get confused easily

Sarah, you're just being realistic, not negative.
Having a biological child is obviously really important to you. It's ok to want it and be disappointed that you've been working hard and don't have it yet. And to regret your previous decisions when you get hit with the shit stick (aka-infertility and failed fertility treatments). I regret waiting as long as I did to ttc as well.

I sometimes compare myself and my situation to others as well. It absolutely doesn't help, but I do it anyway.
I feel that I am looking for a reason why it's not happening for me, but it is for others. Then, I think of why has it worked in the past for me rather easily compared to some women (I've been stalking journals. It just makes me cry for some of those women, what they have to go through ).

Sometimes, I think the not knowing is the hardest.

I think that you have every reason to be hopeful. But, I totally understand the self-preservation of trying not to get too excited.

We'll be excited for you even if you are reserved!

 

[hockey24]

Well said Sarah and Ready. Have those same thoughts all the time. I have tried to stop reading the LTTC threads as I do think its great when there is a happy ending to the story but just breaks my heart to hear how long some of the journeys are. Not sure my heart or my body could take that.

I love reading the success stories in the over 35 site though! And following the journeys of women who are going through exactly what I'm going through now or will soon. That inspires me immensely!!

So Sarah - I can't wait to follow your IVF journey this month!!

 

[35_Smiling]

My fs office just called just now (its 11:56am Bermuda time) and she said my levels are very low and she is considering this a positive. She wants me to get to the office 6:45am for my second Beta blood work and she would call me by 4pm tomorrow to make sure they double.

My 1st Beta is 6.43 done on Wednesday, Nov.2, 2011 at 7:30am.
My 2nd Beta will be Friday, Nov.4 at 6:45am

On another note it am not sure if this is real but yesterday my husband has been running to the bathroom vomitting and complaining of upset tummy, body ache and he has a temp but not a fever....could he be getting the morning sickness instead of me?

 

[dachsundmom]

 

[Indigo77]

Smiling!

Sarah......

 

[sarahincanada]

yay great news 35_Smiling....hope those betas go up and up!!

 

[GreenFingers]

35_smiling that is great news, can't wait to hear how the second beta goes!!!

Sarah you are not doing it alone, we are all here for you

 

[crystal443]

Sarah- I had 2 sh*t cycles but we learned from both so they weren't totally useless You're being very reasonable to allow yourself 3 cycles to get pregnant as well. It doesn't always happen the first time and you're giving yourself time. You have a fantastic attitude toward it and I guess the bonus of chatting here is that we've all had different experiences with IVF from really good to really sh*t and everything in between,lol. Self preservation is a good thing sometimes The only advice I can give you is to keep your life as normal as possible during treatment, it makes time pass and its less stressful

35_Smiling- Great news..can't wait to hear your Betas Friday

 

[dachsundmom]

Crystal, what supplements did you end up taking? I am sorry if you have this posted somewhere, but I cannot keep up, lol.

 

[crystal443]

LOL..I know I'm getting very confused on here lately, the acupunturist put me on CoQ10 75mg-150mg, prenatals,injectable B12(I take that anyway) folic acid, and zinc. She put DH on zinc, CoQ10 150mg, and vitamin E and she said no peppers of any type including green peppers etc. a 250 ml glass of water with a squeeze of lemon 4 times a day.

Apparantly if you just start drinking water your body will not absorb it so if there's a sqeeze of lemon or orange your body thinks its food and will then absorb it. I thought she was a bit but when I drank the water with lemon I didn't run to bathroom 20 times so I'd say she's right on that lol.

She didn't bother doing a herbal supplement for me because she said its probably more blood flow and hydration and just regular zinc etc I'd be lacking

 

[crystal443]

Oh and she said to drink the water at room tempurature that was hard to get used to but its ok now...just took awhile to get used to it. Also no cold food but if I do have say a cold salad then it has to be eaten with a warm drink..this I haven't followed because I cannot drink a warm drink with anything. YUCK!!!

 

[googly]

Blimey those are some strict rules Crystal! What's the deal with the peppers (capsicums you mean?) - never heard that before... In fact I think I heard green capsicums were good for spermies...??

 

[crystal443]

Yep capsicums...no green, red, yellow lol. but I can have garlic, onions etc..I don't why I guess I should have asked...its one of those things that I want to eat what I want but I want to give it a good go as well..so besides drinking something warm with cold food I've pretty much stuck to what was asked.

Can you buy DHEA in NZ? I've looked everywhere here and apparantly it can't be bought at the chemist or health food store. I ended up buying it from amzon.uk but just wondered if it was available in NZ

 

[googly]

Yep capsicums...no green, red, yellow lol. but I can have garlic, onions etc..I don't why I guess I should have asked...its one of those things that I want to eat what I want but I want to give it a good go as well..so besides drinking something warm with cold food I've pretty much stuck to what was asked.

Can you buy DHEA in NZ? I've looked everywhere here and apparantly it can't be bought at the chemist or health food store. I ended up buying it from amzon.uk but just wondered if it was available in NZ

I've not looked for DHEA actually... But I dont tend to buy supplements/vitamins etc locally because they're sooooo freakin expensive here! Instead I buy most of mine from www.vitaminlife.com - they have a massive selection, are pretty cheap, post internationally for not too much $$, AND have always been pretty quick

But yeah, otherwise buying things like CoQ10 would bankrupt me pretty quickly!

 

[Milty]

Smiling

Sarah it does help to do the what if's...what if you had started earlier and still had the same troubles...I wouldn't beat yourself up for waiting at all...

Hockey: I havn't even clicked the button on the LTTC folder...heck I think it took me 2 months before I would even come to the 35 and up section. ..

 

[crystal443]

Yep capsicums...no green, red, yellow lol. but I can have garlic, onions etc..I don't why I guess I should have asked...its one of those things that I want to eat what I want but I want to give it a good go as well..so besides drinking something warm with cold food I've pretty much stuck to what was asked.

Can you buy DHEA in NZ? I've looked everywhere here and apparantly it can't be bought at the chemist or health food store. I ended up buying it from amzon.uk but just wondered if it was available in NZ

I've not looked for DHEA actually... But I dont tend to buy supplements/vitamins etc locally because they're sooooo freakin expensive here! Instead I buy most of mine from www.vitaminlife.com - they have a massive selection, are pretty cheap, post internationally for not too much $$, AND have always been pretty quick

But yeah, otherwise buying things like CoQ10 would bankrupt me pretty quickly!

Thanks, I'll check the website out everything is expensive here as well but yeah I've noticed there's an AUS price on things and under it there's a NZ price that's always more Lovely countries to live but just soooo far away from everything...thankfully there's online shopping

 

[hockey24]

Good luck today Sarah! Let us know how the scan goes!