anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[Mon_n_john]

LL I am SO excited for you, this is like a little soap opera!

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah...Have u tested?

yes....I had a dream last night I got a BFP so I did a FRER this morning and BFN its ok, this month was my least favourite month to get preggers. I WILL be pregnant by December!!
(2011, or 2012 )

you must be coming up for AF too as we are usually same....have you tested?

 

[Indigo77]

Nope....I will only test if I'm late....We only DTD twice and the timing sucked for the first one....This cycle is a dud....

 

[LLbean]

LOL Mom, I did soap operas in Venezuela...so perhaps this is a new one on my list too ;-)

Sarah and Indigo...and Mon too FXd for you

and yes, I hope I get enough to freeze as well

 

[readyformore]

Oh Sarah, I hate those dreams. I had a dream a few months ago that I just found out I was 20 weeks pregnant, lol. I could see the baby moving and everything. It was actually kind of sad when I woke up not pregnant.

LL-14 is great. If 7 make it, that's still way more than you'll need for 1 cycle. Cheering you on!

I'm on day 2 of femara. I'm really pushing hard for IUI but DH wants to try bd with meds for a couple of cycles. I'm not at all happy about that and I'm currently trying to figure out a way to get him to do what I want without pissing him off, lol! Any suggestions?

 

[dachsundmom]

Ready, why does DH want to wait?

 

[readyformore]

Ready, why does DH want to wait?

He says that it's really inconvenient for his work schedule to drop off a sample. Which I believe is a fake excuse.
I know he doesn't have issues with it, he did the deed for our first.

He admitted that any good feelings he had about ttc again are going in the crapper. Treatments really takes the joy out of it, kwim? I have to agree with him on that point. I am the one pushing for another baby in the first place. He reluctantly agreed (because I cried, begged, threatened) and now it's going to this. . . .

Last night he said that he won't argue, he'll do IUI because I want too. I'd take it and run, but it seemed too easy. I'm sure there's something he isn't discussing or being upfront with. And, I'm not going to pry because I'm sure I don't want to hear it. I just don't want it to come and bite me in the a$$!

 

[Mon_n_john]

It's interesting. I'm the one that thought I was done and it was DH that begged me to have another. Didn't want to at first (because of my mc history) but I finally caved. It seems to be the rarity around here when DHs ask for more babies.

I hope your hubby gets really enthusiastic about it soon!

 

[dachsundmom]

Ready, if DH agreed to do it, easily or not, just accept it without question.

I think TTC makes us want to look for the reason in everything; if he gave in bc he's tired and wants to be done TTC, that's ok...your end result is still the same.

 

[readyformore]

Ready, if DH agreed to do it, easily or not, just accept it without question.

I think TTC makes us want to look for the reason in everything; if he gave in bc he's tired and wants to be done TTC, that's ok...your end result is still the same.

True. I know he's tired and wants to be done. I feel the same way. . . . maybe that's all it is. He's speaking from emotional exhaustion.

 

[readyformore]

I hope your hubby gets really enthusiastic about it soon!

Thanks, but I know from personal experience that the 'really enthusiastic' part comes when he's looking at his newborn in his arms, lol. It literally has to smack him in the face.

 

[dachsundmom]

Ready, if DH agreed to do it, easily or not, just accept it without question.

I think TTC makes us want to look for the reason in everything; if he gave in bc he's tired and wants to be done TTC, that's ok...your end result is still the same.

True. I know he's tired and wants to be done. I feel the same way. . . . maybe that's all it is. He's speaking from emotional exhaustion.

If that is how he really feels; give DH credit for expressing his feelings without anger and move onto IUI.

 

[Mon_n_john]

I hope your hubby gets really enthusiastic about it soon!

Thanks, but I know from personal experience that the 'really enthusiastic' part comes when he's looking at his newborn in his arms, lol. It literally has to smack him in the face.

LOL, well, it won't be long before your new little one does smack him in the face. I have a good feeling IUI will do the trick for you!

 

[readyformore]

Maybe some of it is acceptance too? I told him that I had accepted that obviously having sex while fertile wasn't working for us. I had to accept it and move on.

Maybe he heard me and is just as disappointed as I am? I'm not sure. But, like I said, I'm afraid that if I ask, I'll hear something I don't want to hear.

I'll just take it and run.

 

[dachsundmom]

Ready, don't ask questions you don't want answers to and honestly, you really did get the answer you want, it just wasn't phrased well to you.

 

[readyformore]

Thanks for the psych consult Dmom!

Hey, if we do IUI, it will be within a couple of days of our 12 year anniversary!

(And yes, that sounds perfect, but I'm enlisting some self preservation and already telling myself it's only 15-20% of success.)

 

[dachsundmom]

Thanks for the psych consult Dmom!

Hey, if we do IUI, it will be within a couple of days of our 12 year anniversary!

(And yes, that sounds perfect, but I'm enlisting some self preservation and already telling myself it's only 15-20% of success.)

Normally that would be $125 per clinical hour, but I will prorate this one! LOL

 

[sarahincanada]

Ready, why does DH want to wait?

He says that it's really inconvenient for his work schedule to drop off a sample. Which I believe is a fake excuse.
I know he doesn't have issues with it, he did the deed for our first.

He admitted that any good feelings he had about ttc again are going in the crapper. Treatments really takes the joy out of it, kwim? I have to agree with him on that point. I am the one pushing for another baby in the first place. He reluctantly agreed (because I cried, begged, threatened) and now it's going to this. . . .

Last night he said that he won't argue, he'll do IUI because I want too. I'd take it and run, but it seemed too easy. I'm sure there's something he isn't discussing or being upfront with. And, I'm not going to pry because I'm sure I don't want to hear it. I just don't want it to come and bite me in the a$$!

definitely go for it! I think men find the whole TTCing thing a bit bizarre and often will just cave in and let us do what we want, and thats ok!! My hubby said the other day that he doesnt think he could justify $12,000 per cycle for IVF seeing as theres no guarantee. I replied saying we have to at least have a proper try and that we would be doing it if IUI doesnt work, I dont care what he says!! He will end up allowing it to go ahead. like you say your hubby will be happy once he has the baby in his arms so its all good. when do you think the IUI will be?

 

[sarahincanada]

Maybe some of it is acceptance too? I told him that I had accepted that obviously having sex while fertile wasn't working for us. I had to accept it and move on.

Maybe he heard me and is just as disappointed as I am? I'm not sure. But, like I said, I'm afraid that if I ask, I'll hear something I don't want to hear.

I'll just take it and run.

my hubby has always been positive it will happen, where I am much more pessimistic. before he was certain it would happen naturally once my polyp was removed. now that we are doing IUIs and its not happening he believes IUIs will work and we wont need IVF. If we get to IVF theres nothing more after that, so perhaps he will finally realize hopefully your hubby has just accepted it and 'given in'. Hope it doesnt take long for you

 

[readyformore]

. when do you think the IUI will be?

This is my first cycle on femara and I'm not sure when I'll ovulate on it. Doc said Ov happens later with femara. Typically I Ov cd 16-19. Clomid 9 years ago, was cd17. Last month, without meds, it was an unheard of Ov on cd13 ! I have NEVER Ov'd that early.

CD 16 is Sept 11, my 12th wedding anniversary and it's a sunday so DH couldn't complain about being late for work. It would be too perfect, lol.
I'm anticipating anytime from sept 10-14th.