anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[onmymind17]

Ladies fantastic news from all of you!!! I am so keeping my fingers crossed for all of you.

AFM it looks like we will be doing IVF with donor eggs, it took me the past couple days to wrap my mind around the idea, i had a total melt down on friday. I talked to the new doctor and loved her, and she is all for us using my own eggs, but at only a 2% chance, where if we used donor eggs its would be more like a 65% chance. I really wanted to have a child that was dh and I, but i figure you know what my blood will be pumping through it so it will be my baby!! For now i have to do a ton of tests, i have to wait until af shows and then go in for cycle day 3 tests, then i have to have a mamogram done, and because i am type II diabetic they want me to see a MFM to make sure all is well and i am healthy enought to have a baby. I was a little irritated that i have to do all this stuff, but i guess i can see why, although it does irritate me that women who are doing drugs, can pop out kids, but i have to jump through hoops to try and get pg Anyway, hopefully this will all come together.

Wow onmymind, that all sounds so exciting! You know, I had never thought of IVF with donor eggs before, but yes, your blood would be pumping through your baby so of course it is YOUR baby! That is amazing. Do you get any choice in whose eggs you get? I am really excited for you!

Thanks so much, yes you do get a choice, they have a gallery you can view so you can pick someone who has the same eye color, or hair color, or features, i am sure when we get more into it they will give us other information too. I am happy with my decision, and i cannot wait to see a bfp that i know will stick around!!

 

[onmymind17]

Ladies fantastic news from all of you!!! I am so keeping my fingers crossed for all of you.

AFM it looks like we will be doing IVF with donor eggs, it took me the past couple days to wrap my mind around the idea, i had a total melt down on friday. I talked to the new doctor and loved her, and she is all for us using my own eggs, but at only a 2% chance, where if we used donor eggs its would be more like a 65% chance. I really wanted to have a child that was dh and I, but i figure you know what my blood will be pumping through it so it will be my baby!! For now i have to do a ton of tests, i have to wait until af shows and then go in for cycle day 3 tests, then i have to have a mamogram done, and because i am type II diabetic they want me to see a MFM to make sure all is well and i am healthy enought to have a baby. I was a little irritated that i have to do all this stuff, but i guess i can see why, although it does irritate me that women who are doing drugs, can pop out kids, but i have to jump through hoops to try and get pg Anyway, hopefully this will all come together.

Great news!!

One of my closest friends has a son from donor eggs.
She was pregnant with him, breastfed him, and she is raising him. She's his mom, and he's her son. Oddly enough, he looks just like her!
It's not awkward for her. She was a victim of circumstances and choose the route that would give her a pregnancy/baby. Just like you.

I think 65% success is the best route to go. I'd choose that hands down over 2%.

Good luck!

See thats what i love to hear, and have read that many women who used donor eggs, say their child looks just like them. I am so excited to start now lol.

 

[Desperado167]

Chris it seems now like your dreams within reach ,am actually peeing my pants with excitement ,

 

[onmymind17]

so had CD8 ultrasound this morning: I have 1 follicle @ 1.5 and 1 @ 1.2....Im going back on Tuesday so Im hoping the 2nd one will have grown. Good news is Im to continue Gonal F @ 75iu so I wont have to purchase another pen So injectables cost me $668 (plus ovidrel $80 plus IUI $325) so not too bad. But next cycle Im sure they will increase the dose to get more follicles so I will pay nearer $1000 for the injectables.

Im hoping on tuesday I will have a 1.9 and a 1.6 and can trigger, then IUI could on thursday (CD12 so nice and early)

so my question is, do you think I should BD Monday night or Tuesday night....If we BD monday night thats 2 days from the last BDing, and if I have my IUI/ovulation on Thursdays thats 2 and a half days before. But if we BD tuesday night thats 3 days from the last BDing (so more sperm) but 1 and a half days from IUI/ovulation (so less count). Hubby had 5 million after 1 day abstaining and 29 million from 4 days. I think we will BD monday night so theres more sperm for the IUI, and 2 and a half days before means there will be some up there waiting hopefully in addition to the IUI.

onmymind I was thinking about the donor egg thing the other day after reading a depressing article about fertility over 40...I would definitely go for that ....yes its not your dna but you create the child and raise the child and he/she will have your OH's dna so I wouldnt feel much different about it. the stats are so much more promising, thats very exciting!!!!

Sarah, its so hard to decided when to bd, i think if you had the best count with 4 days abstaining then you should try for that, but i know for us, we always did back to back IUI's and believe it or not every time my dh had more the very next day than he did with abstaining for a few days.

Yea we just had to go with the donor eggs, besides the great chance of having a baby, we also reduce the risk of downs. And a side benefit, i dont have to go through the retrevial so it will be way easier on my body, and my emotions. Plus with a donor we will probably have extra eggs that i know i would not have. At first i was really upset, i really wanted my dna in there, but like my sister said whats more important, some dna, or having the chance of being pg, and feeling them kick and giving birth and raising that child. And i really believe that that child will have a part of me with my dna running through it!!

 

[onmymind17]

Chris it seems now like your dreams within reach ,am actually peeing my pants with excitement ,

LOL, you crack me up honey!! Trust me i am practicly peeing my pants too, i so want to run out and buy some baby stuff, which is stupid because we dont have everything set yet, and dont know if it will work, but i still want to go out and buy something lol.

 

[Desperado167]

Chris it seems now like your dreams within reach ,am actually peeing my pants with excitement ,

LOL, you crack me up honey!! Trust me i am practicly peeing my pants too, i so want to run out and buy some baby stuff, which is stupid because we dont have everything set yet, and dont know if it will work, but i still want to go out and buy something lol.

It will work huni,keep the faith ,I can feel it in my bones

 

[sarahincanada]

so had CD8 ultrasound this morning: I have 1 follicle @ 1.5 and 1 @ 1.2....Im going back on Tuesday so Im hoping the 2nd one will have grown. Good news is Im to continue Gonal F @ 75iu so I wont have to purchase another pen So injectables cost me $668 (plus ovidrel $80 plus IUI $325) so not too bad. But next cycle Im sure they will increase the dose to get more follicles so I will pay nearer $1000 for the injectables.

Im hoping on tuesday I will have a 1.9 and a 1.6 and can trigger, then IUI could on thursday (CD12 so nice and early)

so my question is, do you think I should BD Monday night or Tuesday night....If we BD monday night thats 2 days from the last BDing, and if I have my IUI/ovulation on Thursdays thats 2 and a half days before. But if we BD tuesday night thats 3 days from the last BDing (so more sperm) but 1 and a half days from IUI/ovulation (so less count). Hubby had 5 million after 1 day abstaining and 29 million from 4 days. I think we will BD monday night so theres more sperm for the IUI, and 2 and a half days before means there will be some up there waiting hopefully in addition to the IUI.

onmymind I was thinking about the donor egg thing the other day after reading a depressing article about fertility over 40...I would definitely go for that ....yes its not your dna but you create the child and raise the child and he/she will have your OH's dna so I wouldnt feel much different about it. the stats are so much more promising, thats very exciting!!!!

Sarah, its so hard to decided when to bd, i think if you had the best count with 4 days abstaining then you should try for that, but i know for us, we always did back to back IUI's and believe it or not every time my dh had more the very next day than he did with abstaining for a few days.

Yea we just had to go with the donor eggs, besides the great chance of having a baby, we also reduce the risk of downs. And a side benefit, i dont have to go through the retrevial so it will be way easier on my body, and my emotions. Plus with a donor we will probably have extra eggs that i know i would not have. At first i was really upset, i really wanted my dna in there, but like my sister said whats more important, some dna, or having the chance of being pg, and feeling them kick and giving birth and raising that child. And i really believe that that child will have a part of me with my dna running through it!!

that is just so exciting! so when do you start? does your clinic arrange for the donor egg?

I dont want to wait the 4 days again as I really want some sperm up there waiting AS WELL as the IUI sperm (my first IUI we basically relied only on the IUI sperm, no BDing before). I dont think theres any point only relying on the IUI sperm as what if I ovulate before the IUI. So Ive decided not to have such a big count for the IUI but spread it into another BD session before. Its just the timing, but I think Ive decided on monday night!

 

[readyformore]

Sarah-about when to have sex.

I'd hold off for 4 days.

My DH has a great count, but it drops with bd.

2 of my pregnancies have been from one time shots. The first was IUI once, and the second was conceived from a one night event after a 2 week dry spell.
My daughter was conceived from every other day, but I know the one that took was from sex 24 hours prior to ov.

For me, we CAN have too much sex. This is why I believe it all comes down to timing.

I guess my husband and I aren't the type of people that permit sperm to live for 2-3 days. Must be something about our chemistry, idk. But, I have never gotten pregnant from sex greater than 24 hours prior to ov. So, if he has a higher count with holding off, I'd wait.

Good luck.

 

[Mon_n_john]

Thanks so much, yes you do get a choice, they have a gallery you can view so you can pick someone who has the same eye color, or hair color, or features, i am sure when we get more into it they will give us other information too. I am happy with my decision, and i cannot wait to see a bfp that i know will stick around!!

Wow, that is amazing that you can see pictures of the donors! I have a great feeling that you are going to find a donor you feel a connection with and your baby is going to look just like you.

 

[onmymind17]

so had CD8 ultrasound this morning: I have 1 follicle @ 1.5 and 1 @ 1.2....Im going back on Tuesday so Im hoping the 2nd one will have grown. Good news is Im to continue Gonal F @ 75iu so I wont have to purchase another pen So injectables cost me $668 (plus ovidrel $80 plus IUI $325) so not too bad. But next cycle Im sure they will increase the dose to get more follicles so I will pay nearer $1000 for the injectables.

Im hoping on tuesday I will have a 1.9 and a 1.6 and can trigger, then IUI could on thursday (CD12 so nice and early)

so my question is, do you think I should BD Monday night or Tuesday night....If we BD monday night thats 2 days from the last BDing, and if I have my IUI/ovulation on Thursdays thats 2 and a half days before. But if we BD tuesday night thats 3 days from the last BDing (so more sperm) but 1 and a half days from IUI/ovulation (so less count). Hubby had 5 million after 1 day abstaining and 29 million from 4 days. I think we will BD monday night so theres more sperm for the IUI, and 2 and a half days before means there will be some up there waiting hopefully in addition to the IUI.

onmymind I was thinking about the donor egg thing the other day after reading a depressing article about fertility over 40...I would definitely go for that ....yes its not your dna but you create the child and raise the child and he/she will have your OH's dna so I wouldnt feel much different about it. the stats are so much more promising, thats very exciting!!!!

Sarah, its so hard to decided when to bd, i think if you had the best count with 4 days abstaining then you should try for that, but i know for us, we always did back to back IUI's and believe it or not every time my dh had more the very next day than he did with abstaining for a few days.

Yea we just had to go with the donor eggs, besides the great chance of having a baby, we also reduce the risk of downs. And a side benefit, i dont have to go through the retrevial so it will be way easier on my body, and my emotions. Plus with a donor we will probably have extra eggs that i know i would not have. At first i was really upset, i really wanted my dna in there, but like my sister said whats more important, some dna, or having the chance of being pg, and feeling them kick and giving birth and raising that child. And i really believe that that child will have a part of me with my dna running through it!!

that is just so exciting! so when do you start? does your clinic arrange for the donor egg?

I dont want to wait the 4 days again as I really want some sperm up there waiting AS WELL as the IUI sperm (my first IUI we basically relied only on the IUI sperm, no BDing before). I dont think theres any point only relying on the IUI sperm as what if I ovulate before the IUI. So Ive decided not to have such a big count for the IUI but spread it into another BD session before. Its just the timing, but I think Ive decided on monday night!

Well i am figuring we will be able to start either november or december. I have to get a mamogram done, they require it for women over 40 and thats set for the 24th of Sept, and then i have to go see a High Risk OB and make sure i am healthy enough to have a baby, because i am type II diabetic. After i have that all done and DH gets his bloods done and his SA we will be able to sit down and discuss when we can start. The clinic i am going to has a donor program so they have it right on their website that you can see the donor gallery. It works out very well, they also have financing which we are probably going to have to look into, because we are going to have to pay out of pocket for all the meds. How about you, does your clinic have a donor program connected to it, or do you have to get your own donor. We could also use a donor that we know, i have several friends that are willing to donate their eggs, but DH and I would rather have it be annoymous. Oh and i agree, spread out the bd sessions, i really only think you need a couple of days, and like you said its better to have it spread out in case you ovulate early, see for me i just relied on the IUI, because for some reason we just cant seem to get his swimmers up there.

 

[onmymind17]

Thanks so much, yes you do get a choice, they have a gallery you can view so you can pick someone who has the same eye color, or hair color, or features, i am sure when we get more into it they will give us other information too. I am happy with my decision, and i cannot wait to see a bfp that i know will stick around!!

Wow, that is amazing that you can see pictures of the donors! I have a great feeling that you are going to find a donor you feel a connection with and your baby is going to look just like you.

I have gone in and looked at the donors already, and there are several women in there that i like, one of them has such a nice smile, it really drew me. But since it will be a couple of months before we can do the IVF, i dont know if she will be available, i believe they only use the donor once so that they dont have a whole bunch of women getting pg with the same donor. The only thing i was looking for was a women with brown hair and eyes, i have got to be able to have a chance at my coloring lol, although if i had to guess, my dh's red hair is the one that will show lol. The great thing about our families we have so many different colors, my mom and my sister were blonde, they both have blue eyes, i have dark brown hair and brown eyes, dh has dark red hair and hazel eyes, and his mom has brown hair and blue eyes, so we could have any combo of colors come out and it would match lol.

 

[readyformore]

onmymind........

Just well I'm thinking of it, I'll mention my friend with the donor egg baby again.

She choose her donor b/c this particular donor had a fabulous track record. The donor had done egg donation 2-3x previously, and everytime, the recipient got a bfp with a sticky baby on the first try!!!!!

My friend had to try twice to get her sticky baby though (she has immune issues).

She didn't pick exclusively on coloring etc, but it somehow worked in her favor!

 

[JanetPlanet]

Hi Sarah!
Glad you hear your follicles are growing! So you think you’ll do your IUI around CD12? It's awesome you're going to have a short cycle! Less drugs to buy and less time to worry.

What did you decide to do about the BDing? Everyone has different theories on this. I think you’re right to get as much sperm up there as you possibly can.

I had my u/s this afternoon. I have around 8 follicles on my right side, the largest is 13mm. Another 3 follicles on my left side, the largest is 18mm. My lining is 10mm.

And then, the same thing happened to me that happened to you, I got a natural LH surge today before my appointment. I could feel it coming. This totally freaked me out because of the timing of the IUI. Luckily we BD’d last night. The Dr. said we’ll do the IUI tomorrow. AND I forced him to give me a trigger shot. He gave me Lupron.

Then we literally ran home, ran past my 22 year old son and his 21 year old girlfriend into the bedroom to BD. LMAO. I wish I could take some tranquilizers right now. Basket case. They don't know we're TTC, so they must just think we're nut-job-perverts.

How are you feeling? Do you have any side effects from the meds? How’s your hubby handling all this?

Best of luck! I hope you catch that egg and have a giant BFP this month!

 

[readyformore]

Then we literally ran home, ran past my 22 year old son and his 21 year old girlfriend into the bedroom to BD. LMAO. I wish I could take some tranquilizers right now. Basket case. They don't know we're TTC, so they must just think we're nut-job-perverts.

OMG, this is hilarious!!!! LMAO.

Good luck this cycle Janet.

 

[JanetPlanet]

Thanks readyformore, good luck to you too hun.

It was funny, I heard cartoon music and sound effects in my head as we ran by them. lol

 

[JanetPlanet]

Do we have a list of testing dates for everyone?

 

[readyformore]

Do we have a list of testing dates for everyone?

AF due 9-23 (I don't test)

 

[onmymind17]

onmymind........

Just well I'm thinking of it, I'll mention my friend with the donor egg baby again.

She choose her donor b/c this particular donor had a fabulous track record. The donor had done egg donation 2-3x previously, and everytime, the recipient got a bfp with a sticky baby on the first try!!!!!

My friend had to try twice to get her sticky baby though (she has immune issues).

She didn't pick exclusively on coloring etc, but it somehow worked in her favor!

Right now since i am not on the program yet, i cannot see anything besides their pictures, but i will defiantly check out their stats too, hopefully something pops out at me. I sure hope i get it on the first try, i dont know if we would be able to do a second one, we may only have one shot at this.

 

[onmymind17]

Do we have a list of testing dates for everyone?

AF is due for me on the 17th but i dont think i will bother testing, sigh.... it never works natural for us anyway.

 

[sarahincanada]

Hi Sarah!
Glad you hear your follicles are growing! So you think you’ll do your IUI around CD12? It's awesome you're going to have a short cycle! Less drugs to buy and less time to worry.

What did you decide to do about the BDing? Everyone has different theories on this. I think you’re right to get as much sperm up there as you possibly can.

I had my u/s this afternoon. I have around 8 follicles on my right side, the largest is 13mm. Another 3 follicles on my left side, the largest is 18mm. My lining is 10mm.

And then, the same thing happened to me that happened to you, I got a natural LH surge today before my appointment. I could feel it coming. This totally freaked me out because of the timing of the IUI. Luckily we BD’d last night. The Dr. said we’ll do the IUI tomorrow. AND I forced him to give me a trigger shot. He gave me Lupron.

Then we literally ran home, ran past my 22 year old son and his 21 year old girlfriend into the bedroom to BD. LMAO. I wish I could take some tranquilizers right now. Basket case. They don't know we're TTC, so they must just think we're nut-job-perverts.

How are you feeling? Do you have any side effects from the meds? How’s your hubby handling all this?

Best of luck! I hope you catch that egg and have a giant BFP this month!

omg that hilarious!!!!!
hubby is great, he takes it all in his stride and is always the optimist. I was feeling really nauseous the first 3 days of taking Gonal F but it seems to have gotten better. I will see on Tuesday but Im hoping for an early ovulation seeing as one of my follies was already 15mm on CD8.

so if your follicles on the right are under 13mm thats too small and probably wont release, right? the 3 on the left under 18mm do you know the sizes? Im told anything over 17 is mature but it might be 16 when on injectables. So hopefully you had 2-3 release

Im not testing, will go for my blood test 14 days after my IUI so it will be the last week of the month. My birthday is Oct 1 and I dont think I will be so lucky to have a bday BFP, Im just not that lucky with this TTC business

oh and good news, I think I may have found the $$$ for IVF in November, so going to see if I will be allowed to switch on CD1 or if I will need to miss next months cycle, I meet with my FS in a couple of weeks.

GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR IUI!!!!!