Anyone over 45 TTc ?buddies needed <3

[Delphine11]

@ battyatty - how are you doing? any updates?

Good morning Dmama nothing to report lol, Still waiting for MS to really hit, apart from that no real symptoms, The cramping has eased, also the back ache. So Now just waiting for my 8 week check up at my GP and then hopefully I should get some kind of appointment with the maternity hospital. They normally scan around week 14 here, but I may get called in earlier due to age, but honestly not sure....

Oh, I'm so happy everything's still going OK for you, battyatty! I've been almost too nervous to check here because you hadn't posted for a few days. It must be SO exciting for you! Such fantastic news! I hope everything goes absolutely perfectly for you *hugs*

 

[Delphine11]

Afm, I'm ovulating within the next few days, DF has been good with his supplements finally, so much so that he decided to retest in a couple of weeks instead of this week, he wants to give it more time for them to work. Honestly, I'm in the middle of moving and this would have been a terrible time to be pregnant, lol so all is well

I'm just a little worried my temps are not down bellow my usual cover line, they are almost as high as after O. But with the move and exhaustion plus not sleeping well in the new house, it all adds up, but I hope it doesn't interfere with O this month.

Don't worry too much about your temps, BBbliss. I've noticed that mine can be much higher after a disturbed night or even if I've slept badly and tossed and turned.

I should be ovulating soon. Got lots of BD planned for the weekend and early next week, and I'm trying to psych my partner up for it and stress the importance but without making him nervous! I keep trying to be casual about it when in reality I want to grab him and say "You cannot leave the house for three days!!! There's an egg coming and you MUST be ready at all times to catch the little thing! No going out, no excessive coffee or alcohol - total focus required!" !!!!!! But that'd make me sound mad Annoyingly, his family have something planned but he won't tell them that he might be 'busy'

Am I the only one who feels that the window of opportunity is so very small each month? I don't want to waste a single chance.

 

[Delphine11]

I am going to the RE when AF arrives! Will start whatever they say is next....I guess they will count my follicles and let me know if we are a go for IUI...so will be starting soon and starting to get nervous....

Best of luck, dmama! Do keep us updated on what your RE says. It's good to hear different opinions and find out what different doctors suggest. Keep calm and think happy thoughts. I do think our minds can help our bodies if we keep calm and focussed. I know it's not a magic answer, but even a tiny thing can help.

 

[BBbliss]

Delphine, I'm exactly the same, haha with my DF and the feeling that time is running out. I need to relax and let things happen, this TTC is so obsessive I sometimes think I'm booking it from happening because there's a hint of desperation and urgency I know is not good for me. I try to be positive and genuily happy for other pregnant girls, my sister included, I'm so happy for her! I also walk around "feeling pregnant" and I think that helps to easy the feeling... I need to spend more time in that happy space and less time worrying about the time.

 

[Delphine11]

Delphine, I'm exactly the same, haha with my DF and the feeling that time is running out. I need to relax and let things happen, this TTC is so obsessive I sometimes... I need to spend more time in that happy space and less time worrying about the time.

Yes, it's a really hard balance to strike - concentrating and doing everything right but also trying not to think about it too much! I do think that pregnancy can happen when you least expect it.

This sounds a bit daft, but it relaxes me: I try to spend a couple of minutes 2 or 3 times a day repeating positive thoughts out loud or in my head. If I can, I stop, put my hands on my tummy and repeat positive statements to myself about TTC - things like "I'm still menstruating" or "I got a positive OPK last month" etc and then I imagine being pregnant and try to visualise it.

Staying as relaxed as possible is really important, I think, but not always easy when the clock's ticking and you spend all day thinking about your monthly cycle, where you are, if you had your vitamins, etc I try to think those things in a calm way not a panicky way, and then I hope they're OK and won't be stressful. I do get anxious prior to ovulation though because it's like waiting for a brief moment that you might miss. I wish that daft egg stayed there all healthy and lovely for a week or so! That's be more relaxing, I think. That and a magic button on my tummy that I could press to get pregnant whenever I wanted!

 

[inkdchick]

hi everyone im 46 and still sort of trying. Having a weird day today tho cd16 8 days to af and i have a bleed today browny red not heavy just there getting lighter now and had it since 2pm today no pain, or cramping just annoying and totally unexpected and never had this before and am a bit concerned as everything else ok and nothing to report apart from ive been having dizzy spells on and off for the last 4 days but that's it

 

[BBbliss]

Inkdchick, welcome to the board! Do you think it could be implantation? I have never in my life had spotting before AF so I hope it's a good sign

Delphine, you and I think alike I've been feeling more positive and concentrating on the positives, also walking around rubbing my tummy as if I'm already caring... I feel happy about it... My birthday is in 3 wks and it would just be great to get a bfp as a divine gift.

My opk is getting darker so I'll prob O soon, like you I feel it should last longer, it almost feel like you could miss it its so fast. My giving DF the night off so tomorrow and the next day BD IS ON!

 

[dmama]

hi everyone im 46 and still sort of trying. Having a weird day today tho cd16 8 days to af and i have a bleed today browny red not heavy just there getting lighter now and had it since 2pm today no pain, or cramping just annoying and totally unexpected and never had this before and am a bit concerned as everything else ok and nothing to report apart from ive been having dizzy spells on and off for the last 4 days but that's it

hope it is a good sign....

I am 46 too, so I hope this is a good sign.....

 

[dmama]

Inkdchick, welcome to the board! Do you think it could be implantation? I have never in my life had spotting before AF so I hope it's a good sign

Delphine, you and I think alike I've been feeling more positive and concentrating on the positives, also walking around rubbing my tummy as if I'm already caring... I feel happy about it... My birthday is in 3 wks and it would just be great to get a bfp as a divine gift.

My opk is getting darker so I'll prob O soon, like you I feel it should last longer, it almost feel like you could miss it its so fast. My giving DF the night off so tomorrow and the next day BD IS ON!

hope you catch the O.....hope you get that great bday present!

 

[dmama]

anyone hear from battyatty?

 

[BBbliss]

I'm wondering the same...

Thinking about you you batty! How are you?

Btw, I hope this was a good cycle, we bd 2x day before and once the day of O. I thought I was it was Tuesday but come morning on wed and my temp was still not up so I said "we have to do it again, haha, I'll give you 2wks off after today" my poor DF was working OT

 

[inkdchick]

depending on what my blood tests come back in two weeks I don't think I will ever get pregnant again I have a had a mid cycle bleed since the 19th my cd16 I didn't even get ov so she thinks it could be the start of peri-menopause so trying all these years has felt like a waste of time and now today im still bleeding and still feel shattered but she says that I have to wait til tests come back before she can let me know what to take to help me so I just don't know what to think will let you all know in case anyone else goes through this

 

[BBbliss]

Inkchick, don't lose hope. TTC is a beautiful commitment and it should never be looked at as a waste of time, your mid cycle bleed could just be a fluke, also I encourage you to try herbs to regulate your hormones/cycles as in TCM or do a little research and look into some OTC supplements like vitex, tribulus, black cohosh, royal jelly, dhea, etc... Some of these have been proven to help with O and cycle. Not all is lost, I've heard women get pregnant naturally just before menopause, my best friend being one of them.

 

[dmama]

I'm wondering the same...

Thinking about you you batty! How are you?

Btw, I hope this was a good cycle, we bd 2x day before and once the day of O. I thought I was it was Tuesday but come morning on wed and my temp was still not up so I said "we have to do it again, haha, I'll give you 2wks off after today" my poor DF was working OT

I saw battyatty's post on another thread...seems she and bean are doing well!!!

LOL! about DF! I don't think men mind at all when it comes to DTD....Good luck!

 

[battyatty]

Hi Girls, Sorry I havent been around, seems B&B hasn't been notifying me? I haven't received any for days then one yesterday evening and now one from this thread during the night???
Anyway I'm ok Just counting down days till appointments, MS has hit full on and so has dysgeusia urgh! I am feeling a little lost due to DF leaving, I will shake out of it when I get used to it......
BBbriss I am thinking of you too........ dmama how are you?

I wanted to ask all you lovely ladies, do you mind me being on here chatting, because you are all TTC and I have hopefully succeeded? I feel sort of guilty.... Like maybe showing off, argh I am not explaining myself very well....
What I am trying to say is I suppose is if you don't mind me winging a bit about my symptoms when all of you are TTC?

 

[BBbliss]

Batty, what do you mean DF leaving? Are you not back together? I thought he was back! I hope it's all good between you.

Please come back and always tell us how you are. I guess I'm just so happy for you. I think most women TTC get really sensitive about others pregnancy but for me... I'm of a different mind set and I don't look at pregnant women as "them" and me looking in from the outside, I look at them as one of us and if its possible for them it's def possible for me too

I'm 3dpo and I hope we nailed it! Haha I just hope it was a good combinations this month of a good egg an a good sperm, he sure has been taking all his supps on time now


Oh batty! My sister is exactly 7wks too!

 

[battyatty]

Hi BBbriss Wow sounds like a positive attitude raging through you! Way to go! Have toes, fingers, arms, legs and eyes crossed for you!

The DF thing is he has been unemployed for over a year, desperately seeking work, he tried for nearly a year to get work even just in our country, but with the recession, no chance. So he started looking over the water into the UK. Well success at last he got a job, and a damn good one to! I am so proud of him! Because we have been very tight for money there is no way we can all move over together. He had to borrow money from his parents just to get himself over. So its going to be a long lonely 3/4 months until he can save enough to move over the whole family together...... He left last week and it is very upsetting as he won't be here for my appointments, or even scans.... Were hoping we can see each other between now and Christmas )

 

[suzie599]

HI im 46 (16 days ago uuurgh),had gave up ttc for a few months but after a talk to my oh im back taking the supplements etc! for now anyway to see what happens!! how encouraging to find this thread and hope you don't mind me joining in..any advice for this oldie wud be great thanks xx

 

[battyatty]

HI im 46 (16 days ago uuurgh),had gave up ttc for a few months but after a talk to my oh im back taking the supplements etc! for now anyway to see what happens!! how encouraging to find this thread and hope you don't mind me joining in..any advice for this oldie wud be great thanks xx

Hi Suzie and a very warm welcome! You have found the thread with the most amazing bunch of ladies, they are all absolutely wonderful! They don't even mind me hanging on in here!!! (wink BBbriss) I am not the one to ask about anything helpful, I haven't been on the train that long, but all these other ladies will have loads of great help and advice!

BTW BBbriss I am exactly 7 weeks too! Doh of course you know that, its on my signature lol! Hormonal brain!

 

[Delphine11]

Hi Girls, Sorry I havent been around, seems B&B hasn't been notifying me? I haven't received any for days then one yesterday evening and now one from this thread during the night???
Anyway I'm ok Just counting down days till appointments, MS has hit full on and so has dysgeusia urgh! I am feeling a little lost due to DF leaving, I will shake out of it when I get used to it......
BBbriss I am thinking of you too........ dmama how are you?

I wanted to ask all you lovely ladies, do you mind me being on here chatting, because you are all TTC and I have hopefully succeeded? I feel sort of guilty.... Like maybe showing off, argh I am not explaining myself very well....
What I am trying to say is I suppose is if you don't mind me winging a bit about my symptoms when all of you are TTC?

Hi battyatty - so pleased you're back. I don't mind you posting on this thread while pregnant - in fact, I really like it. I'm so pleased for you. You give us all hope, and I like to know how things are going for you. I don't have time to check lots of threads here, but I always check this one. Oh, and I certainly don't mind you mentioning your pregnancy symptoms Also, I think it's useful because, if other ladies here get pregnant, they'll know what to expect. I've got two older children already but I was pretty young when I had them and I'm sure being pregnant in your 40s is a whole different ball game.

Are we allowed to interrogate you about your 'secret'? What do you think was the magic thing or things that did it for you? Ooh, and how long did it take you to get pregnant? It seemed like it was pretty quick but that just might be me getting muddled. Also, was it completely natural or were you on any medication like Clomid or whatever?

Positive vibes and any tips no matter how small very, very welcome

I'm feeling a bit bleurrggh this month because my cycles being a bit weird. I usually ovulate on CD11 or 12, but it's now CD14 and no temp rise yet. It's really annoying as last month everything was perfect - great temp chart, good CM, everything all on time and perfect BUT my partner was away for almost 3wks and came back too late to catch the egg that month So I was all geared up for this month, thinking "Great! He's back now and I know what day I'm due to ovulate so all systems go!" but it seems my stupid hormones have a different idea. I'm trying not to get stressed but it's very frustrating as I feel each month counts when you're in your 40s.

Anyway - I rambled there! Please - do stay on this thread, and do tell us your secrets about conceiving!

Best of wishes to you x