Anyone over 45 TTc ?buddies needed <3

[Delphine11]

I don't know how long sperm take to mature, but I'm sure taking the supplements will help however long it's been, and it's good to keep an eye on how things are going anyway. I really feel nutrition is important, especially as you get older. I rattle with all the supplements I take. I even have alarms on my phones for some of them.

I'm interested that you're planning to take Clomid. I'm having a weird hormone month (no idea what's going on) and I've been tempted to just go along and get some drugs - any drugs that might help. But I'm also scared of messing my body's natural rhythms up. It's hard to know what to do. I had trouble conceiving my first child and I was really young then. I took Clomid and various hormone shots, but they didn't work. In the end I got pregnant naturally, albeit with the help of a homeopath.

I feel fertility is so fragile when you're in your 40s so I'm worried about taking something and messing a month or more up. May I ask what dose of Clomid you'd be taking? Do you feel it helps? Do you need to take anything else with it to get the egg to be released?

Sorry for all the questions!

Good luck for Friday - keep positive. X

 

[BBbliss]

I think I read it takes 72 days, or something like that, for sperm to mature from a cellular level, but I saw someone on a thread here who got a BFP after only one cycle on the supplements, I mean her DH

Delphi, I think my decision is purely because I want to exhaust my every try before IVF, my DF would do it now and was trying to just go for it. I really really want to avoid the cost and roller coaster. I conceived very easy with my 2 but now I had a few challenges. I did one cycle of clomid, but that was the one I found out DF had 0% morphology so that was a waste. I O on my own every month as it looks like I finally have my hormones doing what they are supposed to. I O last week after clomid so it didn't mess up my cycle. I just think if maybe I release more then one egg my chances are higher, since my eggs are older. I'm just going with the flow and always just trying the next step until we get it right

 

[Delphine11]

BBbliss, I completely understand why you want to try the Clomid. And if you have success with it, I'll be running to my doctor to get some too! I think I'm just nervous because last year my cycle was messed up for a few months and that scared me, so now I feel like it's balanced very delicately and I don't want to risk knocking it off balance.

I have considered trying a small dose of Clomid though (for the same reasons as you - to try to get more eggs) to see what effect that has. If I knew that something had a good chance of helping me conceive, I'd take it like a shot. Some days I even think about IVF (I normally don't think about it as an option as I don't have the money really) because I get fed up and frustrated with the whole TTC thing. It should be so simple! My partner and I even make jokes about it because laughing is better than getting stressed. We were both feeling quite positive today, so that was good. It breaks my heart to see him worried and to know how much he longs for a baby, so to see him smiling and positive was lovely

Good luck with your appointment tomorrow. I hope everything goes well. I'm sure it's just a case of finding the right thing, the right adjustment, or the right treatment - and that special golden egg. It's there somewhere - and remember, it only takes one single sperm to fertilise it

 

[BBbliss]

Delphi, I took the small dose of 50mg a day. That was prob enough for me. I really wish my insurance covered infertility, I'd have loved to had known if indeed I had more eggs last month.

It sounds like you and your Partner have a great relationship, l think being able to laugh together is a great gift to any union.

 

[Delphine11]

Thank you for putting what dose of Clomid you're taking. That's the dose I was considering when I was investigating it. It seems a sensible dose to try. I'm definitely keeping it as an option.

Yes, being able to laugh together is great - and it really does relieve the stress and worry. Sometimes we make the stupidest jokes and end up curled up with laughter I am a bit of a worrier so anything to take my mind off the anxiety is good.

Thinking of you and your DF today and KMFX you get good news.

 

[BBbliss]

Delphi, thank you for that nice note you left on the other thread, I'm always hopeful and do believe in miracles...

Just wanted to give you a quick update. My DFs SA came back much much worse then before. We don't understand how it could. I know the supps haven't had time for a complete new batch but we didn't expect it to be so poor. So we have decided to just go for IVF. Clomid would not make a difference and I don't have 6 months to wait and see if his sperm can improve so it looks like its our only option at the moment and I'm trying to be ok with it. I'm just not ready to jump in next month, and with holidays coming up I think I just want to relax a little, so much has happened already since we started I need a break. It will be nice not to temp or do opts for a couple of months.

I hope you are well and you and your DF are still looking at the bright side of things and having some good laughs together still it really is a gift to be able to

 

[Delphine11]

BBbliss - so sorry about the bad news about your DF's SA That must have been crushing. I think you're absolutely right taking a couple of months off. Just relax and be happy together without the awful pressure and worry of TTC and watching every symptom.

Because of my mad cycle this month, I've eased off on the obsessing and have done things like missing taking my BBT and not using OPKs. I do feel calmer because of that, and I actually feel more positive.

I think your decision to go for IVF and not mess around any longer makes total sense in your situation. At least it should give you a feeling of being a bit more in control - ie things are being done rather than it all being left to chance. I've never had IVF and I can't afford it now, but if I had the money I'd certainly consider it.

Thank you - my partner and I are still happy and having fun, and trying to relax about TTC. He says "If it's meant to be, it'll happen". I'm a little more anxious than that, but his calmness and confidence have rubbed off on me quite a lot I think I'm just very impatient!

Look after yourself and enjoy your holiday from TTC

 

[BBbliss]

Batty, I've been thinking about you since last night, I hope you are ok. I can't imagine what it must feel like right now, I was on other threads just browsing and I read one of your posts. It feels so sad. I really pray you are ok.

 

[battyatty]

Batty, I've been thinking about you since last night, I hope you are ok. I can't imagine what it must feel like right now, I was on other threads just browsing and I read one of your posts. It feels so sad. I really pray you are ok.

hi bbbriss and all you other wonderful ladies!

well i am now 10+4 and just back in from my second visit to the hospital this week! the scan tuesday showed the sack was irregular and my baba had shrunk even more! now only measuring 4+6

Still nothing happening after spotting for 10 days, so today i was in for my first pill then back friday to be admitted till its over!

i still have full pregnancy symptoms which is really a kick in the teeth, my body just doesn't want to admit defeat!

so anyway i have come to terms with it, and just want it all over now, who knows maybe another miracle at my age and i might be back with another bfp real soon. apparently you're very fertile after a miscarriage!

 

[Delphine11]

Batty, I've been thinking about you since last night, I hope you are ok. I can't imagine what it must feel like right now, I was on other threads just browsing and I read one of your posts. It feels so sad. I really pray you are ok.

hi bbbriss and all you other wonderful ladies!

well i am now 10+4 and just back in from my second visit to the hospital this week! the scan tuesday showed the sack was irregular and my baba had shrunk even more! now only measuring 4+6

Still nothing happening after spotting for 10 days, so today i was in for my first pill then back friday to be admitted till its over!

i still have full pregnancy symptoms which is really a kick in the teeth, my body just doesn't want to admit defeat!

so anyway i have come to terms with it, and just want it all over now, who knows maybe another miracle at my age and i might be back with another bfp real soon. apparently you're very fertile after a miscarriage!

There aren't enough words, batty

I'm so, so sorry to hear your news. I had no idea as I mainly just stay here on this thread and a couple of others.

I really believe that another miracle is possible for you - you are obviously still fertile. I don't believe for one moment that was your last chance. I really don't. I hope you can get through this and that everything is over soon and in the best way it could be for you.

Sending you all my sympathies - and a huge, huge virtual hug I'll be thinking of you XX

 

[BBbliss]

Batty, I'm so so so very sorry for your loss. As Delphi said, there are not enough words... We feel your loss and are sadden by it. I pray you find yourself in good health and can start over soon.

You must be missing your DF by your side too, I'm sure he wants nothing more than to be with you now.

Hugs my BnB friend

 

[battyatty]

Well girls I'm having breakfast in bed at the hospital. Was admitted yesterday and started on the pills. Well I passed everything very easily with nothing more than a few cramps! The midwives have all been so wonderful and kind. They gave me a really beautiful little white box to take home.... I think if the weather permits I shall climb Mount Callan and bury my baby up there. The views are spectacular with the Atlantic Ocean for company.... I think it will give me peace....
To all you wonderful ladies who have been so supportive and kind I wish you all happy and healthy babies. Bless you all x

 

[BBbliss]

This brought tears to my eyes...I'm so sorry

Hang in there(hugs)

 

[Delphine11]

Batty, your idea about Mount Callan is beautiful. I too had tears in my eyes reading what you wrote.

I hope you're recovering physically at least. I wish you peace and strength to get through this. I can't imagine what it must be like.

All my sympathies and love go out to you XX

 

[suzie599]

Battatty not been on for a while so saddened to read of your loss, I just wanted to send you some good will thoughts and say that you will get through this ,,its so hard but you will. God bless and take care,,xx suzie

 

[dmama]

batty - so very sad to hear your news....sending healing thoughts and hugs

 

[battyatty]

Hello ladies Im back, damn its very quiet in here, are you all out christmas shopping?
I needed a little break, but I have started BBTing again, so here we go again!
HO HO HO, Merry Christmas x

 

[dmama]

Hello ladies Im back, damn its very quiet in here, are you all out christmas shopping?
I needed a little break, but I have started BBTing again, so here we go again!
HO HO HO, Merry Christmas x

Batty...so glad you are back! Yes the thread has been quiet!
Hope the charting goes well...
In the meanwhile, I have had a chemical from an IUI and waiting to do another round

 

[battyatty]

Hello ladies Im back, damn its very quiet in here, are you all out christmas shopping?
I needed a little break, but I have started BBTing again, so here we go again!
HO HO HO, Merry Christmas x

Batty...so glad you are back! Yes the thread has been quiet!
Hope the charting goes well...
In the meanwhile, I have had a chemical from an IUI and waiting to do another round

OH dmama I am so sorry, It must be very hard to have a cmc after all that hard work! You must of been so excited by your BFP to have it dashed so so soon....

My chart is all over, I am still bleeding on and off, still getting over the flue, 8 days now and the chances this month between all that are not great, but better than I thought it would be..... I started to chart only to see what was happening, never thinking that I would get the chance to BD. What with DF working in another country, But he surprised me and turned up at the door! Short 2 day visit, but oh I was so happy! I hadn't seen him in 5 weeks. It was hard going through the mmc all alone. My poor DF nearly lost his new job, trying to cope with it all and not being able to be near me..... He will be home for Christmas, best present I could ask for!

Anyway onward s and upwards they say.....

 

[BBbliss]

Hello girls! Batty I like your attitude! It's good to see you back and trying again. It must have been so hard without your man next to you, but it sounds like you are very connected regardless of the distance.

Dmama, so sorry for your chemical but at the same time I'd see it as a positive that your body is still working and trying to make it happen

I'm charting only to keep an eye on things as well. With DF's poor sperm with have no chance. We have an appointment to see a new RE on January 2nd to see how we can start the IVF process. I'm more relaxed now and just going to let life takes its turns. I started to think it will be ok if it doesn't work out. It's just sad for DF who's dream is to have a child of his own. I'm still doing my part, he's an amazing man and deserves it.