Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[brunettebimbo]

Welcome omarsmum, I'm sorry to hear about your losses.

Brown cm spotted last night so af is on the way and clearly my lp will be no longer than last cycle. I'm 8dpo!! I'm going to see the drs I think

Awww Hun I'm sorry. I agree, go and see your Doctor, sounds like you may have a luteal defect. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

 

[Munchkin30]

So sorry Omar's mum you are very welcome here xx

Sig I've heard parts of your story before but my heart truly goes out to you. You deserve a happy and peaceful experience with baby number 2 so much. We all do but I was able to wallow in my dds babyhood and I am so grateful for that.

LPF that wouldn't cause the mc. You'd have to be under severe physical stress to the point your body didn't think you could carry a baby and even then I'm sure it would be incredibly unlikely. Although in my last pregnancy it helped me to focus on having a positive mental attitude in the hope it would cause a positive outcome, and hey, if we hadn't made the decision we did or known about the heart defect it'd still be going swimmingly I'm sure!

I think every pregnancy I'll check for blood the whole time. I honestly can't remember the last time I wiped and didn't look at what was on the paper!

Mrs W that's so infuriating. I would go to the dr and see if they can suggest anything, and hopefully by the time they refer you it will have sorted itself out xx

AFM my opk is still squinter faint. I feel like I'm getting nowhere it's so infuriating, and I should be happily in the 3rd tri by now I'm usually pretty positive but today is a hard day. I've ordered some lovely exoensyve cloth napped for my dd to cheer myself up, I'm taking dd swimming in a bit and off to acupuncture later. So grumpy

 

[brunettebimbo]

Munchkin. I'm at Center Parcs at the moment. I too should be in 3rd trimester, 17 weeks and 13 weeks! The place is full of pregnant women and it's been tough

 

[babyjan]

Got a pretty much negative on IC today which is good right? Feels odd being relieved about negative but at the same time a lil sad as it seems completely over with now iykwim?

 

[Button#]

It's good you're getting back to normal so quickly BabyJan. It's an awful thing to happen but hopefully you'll be ready to try again in no time.

 

[Munchkin30]

Babyjan it's so bittersweet. I feel your pain.

I'm having a pretty awful day which I'll share later when it's less raw but I think it's time for some more positivity! So what will you do with/for baby number 2 that you didn't with baby 1??

I'll get you started....

1. Use cloth nappies from birth. I started with dd at 2!!
2. Babywear more. I've got a beautiful ellaroo wrap I bought for Rowan ready and waiting.
3. Use a co sleeper cot. Again that's sitting waiting

Your turn!!

 

[Bevziibubble]

Got a pretty much negative on IC today which is good right? Feels odd being relieved about negative but at the same time a lil sad as it seems completely over with now iykwim?

 

[Button#]

With number 2 I'll babywear more around the house, possibly because it will be necessary.

I got this today on my OPK

https://i267.photobucket.com/albums/ii298/Lucy25-07-08/Mobile%20Uploads/image-8.jpg

 

[Munchkin30]

Awesome bubble!! What did I say yesterday?!? I'm totally jealous. Send me some ov dust please!

 

[babyjan]

Yaaaay button!

 

[Munchkin30]

Awesome bubble!! What did I say yesterday?!? I'm totally jealous. Send me some ov dust please!

Why did I call you bubble?? Clearly cracking up!

 

[babyjan]

Ahaha I was wondering who bubble was lol!

 

[Button#]

Of course Munchkin, hope yours is soon.

 

[Button#]

I figured it was one of those days!

 

[slg76]

looks great button!!!

Big hugs for you today Munchkin I hope whatever is wrong gets sorted out soon.

For baby number 2:
1. Worry much less about every little cry and noise.
2. Ask for more help from friends.
3. Have a finished nursery...dd's never really got finished
4. start potty training sooner....before he/she develops such a 3 year old attitude!

 

[Munchkin30]

Love it sig. I think with number 2 I'll not bother potty training at all! I've tried really hard with dd and now I'm leaving her to it, wish I hadn't bothered!!

 

[Button#]

I'm leaving Ashley to it, he's so stubborn I know we'd fall out about it. He sits on his potty with no nappy on and sings row row row your boat, that's good enough for now! I bought him a book on it with a cheer button and he just wants to press the button all the time so he won't let me read it to him.

 

[LPF]

Hello all,

I'm feeling a bit better today. My bleeding has slowed right down - it's only day 4 of MC so it was very quick and painless. If I'd not known I was pregnant, I certainly wouldn't of known any different, which is a blessing.

I was sat in a meeting today thinking about what I'm going to do. My head is slowly coming to terms with having an only child but my heart isn't quite ready to give up yet.

I'm thinking about taking the next 4 months off (hopely recurrent MC testing could get done in that time - what do you think?) and really concentrate on ds and have a fab summer with him making nice memories that don't relate to MC (my MCs happened just before our summer holiday last year, just before Xmas and just after a holiday at Easter!). I want to spoil him rotten and do as many lovely things as I can (without smothering him which I'm doing at the moment as I'm scared of something happening to him.....)

I also want to concentrate on work (which I'm not doing at all and I have a very professional job, it's a wonder I've not been sacked!) and lose weight.

I've got this nagging feeling that my weight is causing my MC. I was over weight with ds (bmi was about 28) and after having him and 3 pregnancies/MC later I've put on a stone and a half and bmi is a shocking 33.....

Then in the autumn we might give it one last go and see if we get any success. If not, we'll draw a line under it and move on.

What do you think? I'm looking forward to no cycle watching, tablet taking and POASing!

 

[Munchkin30]

We've got the girl version of that book! I got the one for big girl beds too. My dd now sits on the potty AFTER she's fine a poo (she pulls her nappy off-total mess!) and then asks for a sticker. Not really the point!!

 

[celine]

Hi ladies

Wow button thats the darkest line ive ever seen on an ic! Goodnluck xxxx
Munchkin im sorry youve had a rubbish day i was thinking of you because ive had a rubbish day with my two and i was thinking to myself i actually have so much to be thankful for i shouldnt be a whingebag. But tbh if i had a euro everytime my four year old tattled or said "maaaawwwwwwmmm!" Id be so rich right now....

What ill do differently with next baby

1. This one will bottle feed..im getting the maturnity nurse to help me from day 1, a good friend of mine is selling me her double breast pump so if that doesnt get much milk out then ill combi feed and not feel guilty.
2. Blw & trad weaning combo, i dont need to get into blw fights (i saw once on here one lady said if your lo has even once been given a spoon even by grandma he isnt "blw") so im taking a relaxed approach. In fact, i just want my kids to eat their dinner...im just a mom trying to do whats best.
3. Like someone else mentioned not jump right away with every whine or cry. Trust my mama instinct

Alot of things i did differently with baby 2 than baby 1 are a few youve mentioned, babywear and cloth diapers, ds i started at just under a year so dd had from birth, just a few sposies in the beginning while she built up "chunk". She loved and still loves being worn