Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[celine]

Ldf might be a great idea to focus on a fun summer also summer is a great time for weight loss cos ice lollies and fruit are easier to choke down in the heat. Also the testing should be done to give you a clear idea of whats going on and also mental peace of mind?

 

[LPF]

Ldf might be a great idea to focus on a fun summer also summer is a great time for weight loss cos ice lollies and fruit are easier to choke down in the heat. Also the testing should be done to give you a clear idea of whats going on and also mental peace of mind?

Thats what I thought too!

Up to now I've been stressing that any age gap will be too big and it's not the 'norm' but now I realise that's it's not worth worrying about whats normal and what people think!

 

[Mrs W 11]

Sorry you are having a tough day munchkin

Button, lovely positive opk! Bd time!!

What I would do differently next time:

1) ill try to enjoy pregnancy more. I know first tri will be tough but I wished the rest of it away and now I am so jealous of anyone who is pregnant! I will try to cherish it more.
2) I want to use a wrap next time, I didn't with Freya only a baby bjorn occasionally.
3) worry less about the ironing, washing, hoovering etc. in 2 years time when I have more time to do it it won't matter that I didn't do it 2 years ago!! Enjoy the baby instead.

I've had a pretty rough day too. Woke up feeling tired with a headache (possibly a glass too many of red wine last night!!) and it's lingered all day. The brown bits in my cm meaning af is coming and way too early again. Then a good friend who had a baby just before I had my dd told me she's pregnant most days I'm ok and can be positive but today I just want to sob!!! It really isn't fair

 

[Munchkin30]

Oh mrs W and LPF I wish I could just give both of you a big hug and we could drink wine and cry and bitch about pregnant people other than Celine. She doesn't count I'll reply properly once dd is in bed but just wanted to send my love.

Button I hope you're VERY busy xx

Celine you're still allowed to moan, kids are hard work!!

 

[Button#]

Hee hee Munchkin, waiting for LO to go to bed first, he's in the bath.

 

[celine]

Oh mrs w im so sorry what a knife to the heart feeling, hope you have a quiet peaceful evening.

Lpf isnt it true that we worry about age gaps. I have a two year gap between 1&2 and for ages thought it was a large gap...its not really, and now i was worried about having a larger gap, ill have a three year gap now and its also not that large in the long run...in fact i do beleive its the personality of our kids that decide weather they get alpng or not (this week has been a not get along week) my mom is a third child herself so it was her brother, two years later her sister, and five years later her. And she says she was so close to her sister, sadly she passed away when i was in my teens (my aunt not mom) but i know they were very close.

So after my rubbish day i do have one sweet thing to emntion, i checked on the kids and dd was clearly knackered, she is literally sleeping like a baby, on her back with hands up like when she was a newborn awwww

 

[Button#]

Aw that is cute Celine!

Sorry for all the ladies who are having rough days. Hope tomorrow is better for all of you.

 

[Mrs W 11]

Thanks Celine

Munchkin, I wish we could all get together and drink wine too! I'm having wine but its not quite the same with hubby haha! Xx

 

[babyjan]

So I took an OPK (I know I should wait for my next cycle but I can help it lol) and its not positive but close, do you think it's ok to use now since I've got my negative hpt now or should I not bother at all yet? I'm POAS addict so really can't control myself

 

[Button#]

I think you're fine to use them

 

[Munchkin30]

It's fine to use then but I find in that first cycle it can look 'nearly' positive a lot. After my first mc though I got a proper positive and ov'd. Once they aren't positive anymore after a pregnancy and then they go pos again it's a true positive xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

My opks were pos or had lines for most of my first cycle after mc but my levels would have been much higher and my hormones totally crazy. I'd say you are probably ok to use them.

How's everyone feeling today?

My brown cm ramped up today, there's much more and cervix is open. I just feel broken. The feeling each month is just awful. I don't know how to carry on. I just feel so upset

 

[Munchkin30]

Oh mrs w I'm so so sorry we have all felt that pain over and over again. It's heartbreaking. I think that is the worst worst bit of the cycle and once AF starts it somehow feels better than that pre AF bit. And the hormones are worst at that bit too. you will feel better and you will get there I absolutely promise xx

I'm terrified I'm completely infertile now! My opks still have no real second line, no improvement and I'm something like cd21. What if I never ov again? What if my cycles are so messed up I never get pregnant again!?

 

[babyjan]

Yeah I think because it was a positive and now isn't then I can trust the next positive if I get one that is x

 

[Munchkin30]

Yes definitely that!

 

[Mrs W 11]

Thanks munchkin. I'm sorry to be on such a downer. I just absolutely hate this. Every month. And my edd is getting closer and closer.

You won't be infertile Hun your first cycle after such a late loss was bound to be a bit messed up and confusing. It might take a few cycles unfortunately to sort themselves back out to being regular. They say 3 cycles after a loss to get back to normal. However, it's longer for me as 4th cycle and clearly some kind of lp defect still. And for others it's much quicker.

I know how you feel though. I can't even go there as I wouldn't get up in the morning. I have to keep believing it will be soon wine tonight.

 

[babyjan]

Munchkin hun, of course you will ov again, I think with a later loss your body may need that extra time to recover, I know it isn't easy but hang in there

 

[babyjan]

Here's a pic of the OPK I just took now, I will just take it daily and see what happens if it goes lighter or darker

 

[babyjan]

And this is 4 hours ago, I just had to take as these OPKs have been staring at me lately, I ordered it a day or two before I discovered the pregnancy x

 

[Button#]

Sorry mrs W. Hope the next cycle is a better one for you.

Munchkin - you'll get there, like the others have said it may just be taking a few cycles for your body to bounce back.

BabyJan - keep posting piccys!