Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[Button#]

Hi ladies can I join. I started TTC number 2 in September and got a BFP on 23rd February but I started bleeding earlier in the week and have just passed the sac.

I'm sorry for your losses OP.

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi button yes please join us! Sorry for your loss. Even after a late loss like I've had I don't feel like it's necessarily easier if you lose earlier on. And in some ways I found my first 12 week loss harder xx

 

[slg76]

Hi button. I'm sorry about your miscarriage. I hope you are starting to feel better.

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hi button, sorry for your loss Hun and welcome x how has everyone's Sunday been? X

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi mrs w. We've had a good day. Went to our new country club and swam with my dd then did some running and went on the rowing machine. The gym is new for me so it's quite exciting and definitely helping my mood and energy levels. 2 weeks ago today I was in labour with Rowan. Feels like a life time ago.
I'm back at work tomorrow and got a 4 day week (usually work 2-3 days) so hopefully the week will go quickly although I'll miss my dd I don't know how people work full time!
Next weekend we're away for my birthday and Mother's Day. I should've been about 25-6 weeks pregnant which is very sad but we will have a lovely weekend anyway xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hi munchkin, I'm glad you've had a nice day. I think gentle exercise is brilliant for giving a positive frame of mind and energy, I need to start doing some as well. It's good to have some focuses to keep busy and healthy.

2 weeks ago already, gosh, time does fly past. It's impossible even when keeping those positive thoughts up what would have been. I would have been around 24 ish weeks pregnant now. Hard to believe really. I hope you will have a lovely time away next weekend, it's good to have special times to look forward to.

We had my in laws come for the day today, absolutely love spending time with them and our daughter loves them to bits. They live a few hours away so unfortunatly we don't see them as much as we'd like to.

 

[tootyfruity]

yes slg thats right, wow 111 days thats long, glad theyre back to normal now though.
sorry about your loss button! its such a difficult time.

Today we went to my mums for dinner, my sister and her family were there, her lo is 2 and my lo is 3 so they have so much fun together, my sister is due to give birth on tuesday which im excited about! it was upsetting for me at first as id just found out that i was going to miscarry but obviously now im really excited to have a niece.

 

[Button#]

Thank you ladies. I've got the usual playgroups this week and my mum is coming up to stay on Wednesday and going home Sunday which will be lovely as LO loves his nanny.

Just been doing cleaning this weekend as we had two parties last weekend with a lot of travelling to get there.

 

[Munchkin30]

How's everyone this mirning? I've just arrived back at work for the first time and so far I've cried twice! Everyone's being really lovely and I really want to talk about it but I'm unbelievably teary! I've been fine whilst I was at home. Just need to keep it together!!

 

[celine]

Hi munchkin hope you dont mind me barging on here too ...i wonder if the first loss is a more "emotional" loss because its also the loss of innocense, especially if you have had a perfect pregnancy before? I too was much more affected by my first loss where with my second loss was physically harder i felt emotion-less and numb to it all.

Hope your day at work gets easier xxx

 

[Button#]

Munchkin it must be so hard. I hadn't told anyone except my mum so I haven't had to deal with questions. Hopefully you'll be able to settle back into the swing if things again soon.

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks guys xx well since I went off work my old boss has returned. I'm casual staff and work 2-3 days a week but she's just landed on me that for various reasons I can either work full time or not at all from April. It's pretty terrifying. My dd is happy in nursery and I could increase the days but I really don't want to work full time and without working my dd would have to come out of nursery and I'd really miss the stability and grown up time I have from work. She's also given someone else the job I was doing which I liked so if be doing other shifts which might be different times and weekends and not such nice work She landed this on me on a really bad day. I've spent half of it in tears. So fed up after being so strong and then today I'm just a mess
What shall I do ladies??

 

[Button#]

That's a tough one. Maybe look for another part time job? It doesn't sound like there's an ideal answer whichever way you choose. They could have given you a day to settle back in before springing it on you though.

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks. Yes it's agreed that she's a total b***h. She has 2 young children as well! I'm a radio journalist so there's only really this station locally, although I could work further afield but wouldn't be able up collect my dd from nursery, and I'm not in a frame of mind for new challenges right now. I thought I was doing reallg well til today!!

 

[slg76]

oh Munchkin. I'm sorry that your first day back was so hard. I bet if you take a day or two to think about the answer will seem clear. Hang in there

 

[Button#]

oh Munchkin. I'm sorry that your first day back was so hard. I bet if you take a day or two to think about the answer will seem clear. Hang in there

I agree definitely don't rush into a decision before you have to.

 

[babyjan]

Hi ladies can I join. I started TTC number 2 in September and got a BFP on 23rd February but I started bleeding earlier in the week and have just passed the sac.

I'm sorry for your losses OP.

Oh hun, I'm so sorry for your loss


It seems like I'm struggling to conceive no2, I got pregnant pretty quick with my son but I wasn't on any birth control prior to that, now I got one shot of depo back in November 2012, periods returned August 2013 and regulated from December last year but I'm still waiting, I think depo has just made things difficult


Sorry for anyone else who's had a loss on here xx

 

[celine]

How awesful to spring this on you today on your first day back at work

 

[Mrs W 11]

I take it your boss knows about everything has happened with loosing Rowan? I can't believe she would spring this on you, on your first day back after loosing your daughter?! Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry Hun

I agree with the others, take a few days to think it over. For me, i always think, ultimately when I'm old and near the endof my life, will I wish I worked harder and got those promotions and earnt more money or would I wish I'd spent more time with my family, my children and having a good time. If this is how your employer has treated you, they don't sound like a great place to work sadly. Good luck whatever you decide. X

 

[slg76]

Munchkin: Not that this really helps you at all but...when I was pregnant and diagnosed with cancer this is what my boss offered me. I could work as much or as little as I wanted but I had to submit a schedule a week in advance. If I couldn't make it in on a day I said I would (or was late) I would be written up and fired. This was after me working there for 3 years and having a very personable relationship with my boss. It went downhill from there and I ended up filing a discrimination suit against them. Ug. Why can't people just behave respectably?

You will sort this out! What else can you use your skills for if you looked for a different job?

Hi babjan!

laugh of the day: my 3 year old was playing with a toy. She set it down, sat down on the floor, let out a big sigh and said, "that was exhausting!". LOL!!