Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

thanks angel and mrs unicorn for your feedback. It's taking me a while to get used to this temp stuff. forgot to log my temp this morning but will do so tonight. it went up so I guess that's consistent w FF saying I did O. too bad I didn't BD on any of the fertile days. will do better next cycle

Angel it's so exciting that you got your bfp! I hope everything continues to go well for you! and glad your principle and vp were supportive. makes all the difference I'm sure. Good luck w your us scan. and I'll test out the Wondfos. I think my pcos does mess them up though. but I might as well try since those ones are inexpensive.

mrs unicorn Gluck w this cycle!
 
Hey everyone:

gagrl: it's still early so you don't know for sure yet. Just that dreaded TWW. Fx for ya!

angel: That's so great your school is so supportive! What a relief!! I get that it would seem way too early to be talking to them about this, but I'm glad you did because you're going to need that support from your employer throughout the entire process.

star: I've had that same cm on CD14-17, so if I did end up ovulating sometime between CD14-15 then I would have had that cm too. Unfortunately, as we know, my body likes to keep me guessing so no clue if I had that cm and did o. I'm not in the habit of talking to my friends about their cm so I only know what others post here about their experience. I'm really hopeful that one of your follicles burst and you were able to o on your own. Time will tell if AF shows! Again, odd on this board to be excited about something like that but for you that'd definitely be good news.

To answer your questions, AF is due for me on Monday and other than feeling somewhat bloated and having some minor cramping low in my pelvic area Monday and Tuesday, I have felt totally normal. Even symptom hunting I'm not noticing anything. I'm also not getting my normal PMS symptoms of extremely sore boobs a week out from AF that I was getting earlier this year, but I didn't get those last cycle either and AF showed right up on time. So I'm just in wait and see mode right now. Since it's unclear when my od was, I'm going to wait on testing until this weekend I think. Or...well I'll probably break down and test again before then but I'm not putting too much stock in any BFNs at the moment because I could only be on dpo5, 6, or 7 at this point. I think I'll have to wait it out till Monday to see if AF shows on time or not. She's been extremely regular since January.

Some context to my situation--which I may not have discussed here before--is that I'm TTC after coming off of 4 years of Depo. So my body has been all kinds of messed up. It took about six months for AF to return, which it first did back in Nov. 2015. It's was irregular as hell for the first two months but has been like clockwork since Jan. 2016. So for all I know, my body is just getting to the point where it's really worked out all the depo from its system--they say it can take a year since your last injection and I went off of it in April 2015. That's why I'm having a harder time even knowing what symptoms are "normal" for me. Honestly I'm still not convinced that I'm ovulating at all, but is it possible to have a consistently regular cycle (5 months running now) and not be?

mrs. unicorn: Yes the digis supposedly "learn" your levels and alert you when there are changes. I can't totally vouch for their accuracy though because I first used them last cycle and probably around CD5 or 6 iirc I started getting a "high" reading (which reads as a flashy smiley face), meaning an estrogen surge was detected. The thing is though you'll get that reading no matter what until a LH surge is detected and you get a "peak" reading. So I got that high reading for nine days straight with no peak. The instructions said you should disregard the test at that point and start again next cycle so I stopped using them. This time, I had two digis--the leftovers from last cycle and the new on for this cycle. So I figured, what the hell, I'd try both. One I started using on CD1, which is counter to their instructions, and the other I started using on CD5 which is when they recommend starting with my average cycle length (25 days without fail). Neither of them ever registered a high reading but both of the registered the peak reading on CD7. So clearly they picked up something and it wasn't a fluke because it was two different tests. However, the cheapies didn't pick up a surge then as you can see by my previous pictures. After the digis pick up a "peak" reading, it will only give you a peak reading for two days. You can stick it in a can of coke and it will still register as peak. They say they do that to remind you so you don't miss your fw. The instructions also say to discard and stop testing after you get the peak reading so I quit using them but continued to use the wandfos. The wandfos picked up that surge for CD13-15. I think next time if that happens again, I'll discontinue using the digis for a couple days and let them reset then start using again to see if anything changes. Oh also I did go back and entered the other positive opk on FF just to see but it didn't update the chart. so :shrug:

Fx for you for next cycle. I'm assuming AF showed up on time as you predicted?
 
Hi ladies!

I'm 33. This is our first cycle where we paid attention to when I would be ovulated and made sure to BD. In VERYYYY new to TTC. Never took birth control btw. Started prenatals Feb 28th. Expected AF tom (if she is on time, last month she was 17 days late!!!!!!!!! - first time ever) I also got a trans vaginal ultrasound done this month to rule out PCOS. My dr is leaning towards no. Never realized how hard it is to actually get pregnant. I have no temped or opked yet. Last month was crazy with my late AF, I was sure I was preg since she was so late and I started noticing all these 'symptoms' (obviously all in my head) also we didn't even 'try' last month. Took so many tests and the emotional strain that takes on you!!!!!! I thought I was strong enough to wait and I kept taking them (earlier than I should prob - my dr said to wait til I'm 2 weeks late from now on!) sigh! This is so hard ladies! Any tips or tricks?
 
Star - your chart is looking good! I've got a good feeling for you this cycle, I think af will show on time.

Etis - wow, they sound fairly complicated!!! I hope you manage to get the digis working for you next cycle.

Sassy - welcome!!! Wow 17 days late? What a roller coaster! And yep ttc can be harder than you think! It's so silly that we spend years and years avoiding it, thinking that with one slip up we'd be pregnant. But truth is, it's unlikely to have happened! Tips and tricks? I guess the only thing you can do is keep yourself busy with lots of distractions - which is seriously hard. But the more we obsess the slower time goes. I had a mmc a couple of months ago so my coping strategies have changed slightly - I used to poas from 7dpo and enjoyed it. Now I find it harder to deal with so I'm going to give myself a test date of around 11/12 DPO and not test before then. I cannot imagine anyone waiting until they are 2 weeks late as your doc suggested!!! Maybe set yourself a date, say a day late or something? Do you chart so you know when you ovulate?

AFM - af did arrive yesterday right one time. She's behaving too, a fairly normal one (I've heard they can be heavy and painful for a couple of months after the ERPC) But I am super busy looking after our new kitten, and it'll be my fertile week before I know it!!
 
With temp drop and stark bfn at 10dpo..I'm thinking AF will be on her way soon... I'll admit, I'm a bit disappointed.
 
Gagrl - sorry you're feeling out. Try not to let your temps get you down, you see plenty of charts that are up and down that turn out to be positive. I know what you mean about seeing nothing at 10 dpo - I felt the same last cycle, although whether we are right or not to consider we are out by then I don't know! Fx for you. xx
 
Gagrl - sorry you're out. :( :hugs:

Sassy - Welcome! I can't imagine 17 days late! Wow! The best tips I can think of for the TWW is to try to keep yourself occupied, but that's really hard to do. The part that helped me was temping and OPKs because then I could pinpoint when I ovulated and I knew exactly (mostly) when to expect AF after that. I typically started testing at about 9-10DPO, but I use Wondfo's (internet cheapies) for that and then used a FRER or something after I got a faint BFP on the Wondfo.

I know that the doctor says to wait until you are a week or two late before testing, but I couldn't ever wait and I'm glad I didn't because I was able to catch 2 CPs by not waiting. It was devastating to have the chemical, but when I finally got my referral to my RE they were able to use that information to help determine why I wasn't getting pregnant. It's not for everyone, but I'm a POAS addict. :haha:
 
Gagrl - sorry you're feeling out. Try not to let your temps get you down, you see plenty of charts that are up and down that turn out to be positive. I know what you mean about seeing nothing at 10 dpo - I felt the same last cycle, although whether we are right or not to consider we are out by then I don't know! Fx for you. xx

Thanks unicorn,
I think I was just hoping so bad id be pregnant because my father in law passed away last Wednesday at 62 and I was really hoping that this would be something happy and cheerful for us to lean on as we begin to cope with all this. God always has a plan... Just not always in our timing.
 
Mrs. unicorn: OMG I'm so sorry I missed that you got a kitten!! That's awesome! How's the little fluff ball doing?

gagrl: all hope isn't lost yet. If FF is right about your od, you did BD the day before so there's still a chance. I can't help much with the temping, as mine is all over the place as it is, but mrs. unicorn has proven to be a good chart reader for sure! So fx for ya still. I may have missed this but do you use opks? if not, i'd suggest starting next cycle if AF shows this time around. It might help you get a heads up on when you're going to o so you can even better time your BD

sassy: welcome! Isn't it ridiculous how hard it is to get pregnant when you actually want to? Blows my mind for real. I'd suggest starting to track your temps and using opks to help you get a handle on your cycle so you know when to time your BD. Upon the recommendation of these ladies here, I started using Fertility Friend (FF) this time and have found it to be more helpful than the other app I was using prior (Ovia). some things I've learned: temp every day at the same time, update your stats religiously, learn to id your cm and start to track that as well, and use opks to detect the LH surge that occurs prior to od. Even if you don't get it right at first, collecting this data over time can help to better zero in on when to BD to maximize your chances. Also, if I were 17 days late I would have been at my doctor's office demanding a blood test. I don't get these doctors sometimes--wait until you're two weeks late before testing? That's crazy!

AFM: after entering my temp this am, FF did actually update and is now guessing that my od was on cd15, which is what mrs. unicorn predicted. Nicely done lady! So, I'm going to hold firm on waiting till this weekend to test again since I may only be 6dpo. FF also doesn't think that AF is going to show until next weekend now, which I disagree with completely because my cycle has been consistently 25 days like clockwork. Like not even a single day deviation. So it may be that I just have a short luteal phase, which is rare but not unheard of. We'll see. I have zero symptoms though so I really doubt I'm pregnant. I'm still expecting AF on Monday and if she doesn't show then, I'll become more optimistic. Until then :coffee:
 
gagrl - so sorry to hear about your FIL passing away, and so young too :hugs:

Etis - ah you're making me out to be an expert on this temping thing!!! I've just picked it up from chatting to ladies on here. I didn't even know you have an O day and an lp before we started TTC! Guess you'll have to see if af shows when you expect her. It could be that you have a short lp, plenty of women do, so it's fairly common I think.

Oh our kitten is so gorgeous! I'm totally smitten with him! I cannot believe how much better I feel about everything since getting him. They do say a pet can help you get through a loss - he's certainly doing that :cat:
 
oh forgot to say, I chat to a couple of ladies on here that have 10/11 day lps and they were saying if it was any shorter it could be a problem (not enough time for implantation) so they are taking vitamins in an attempt to lengthen them. i wouldn't go worrying about that though until you know for sure. xx
 
Etis- that's the plan. If AF comes I'm ordering some wondfos and opks on Amazon.

Unicorn- thanks.. My LP is usually 12-14 days so I'm hoping that I just tested too early. I'm slated for AF to come on Monday, so we'll see I guess...
 
Etis

Well I had asked her when I went in to get my blood drawn for the future when should I be taking home pregnancy tests and she said 2 weeks after missed period.

Also does anyone know, could starting my prenatals (over the counter) make my period that (17 days) late? Really the only thing that changed and my uncle passed away and I was down for a few weeks. Anyhow AF is due today. We will see again!

do you ladies recommend any specific OPKs? also what cheap pregnancy tests should I get? (I went thru 4 expensive ones last month and seems like such a waste of $)
 
This might be a stupid question but is it possible to get a bfn at 10dpo & still be pregnant?
 
Congratulations Angel. Wow Kat almost halfway.
Garlingpit 10dpo is still early for a bfp. It depends on when you would have implanted. I think I had my bfp about then but its all hormone levels and timing. Maybe wait and retest in a couple days. Its possible though...
 
Congratulations Angel. Wow Kat almost halfway.
Garlingpit 10dpo is still early for a bfp. It depends on when you would have implanted. I think I had my bfp about then but its all hormone levels and timing. Maybe wait and retest in a couple days. Its possible though...

Thanks for the encouragement. I think I'll wait until Saturday depending on how my temps go tomorrow. If they go up I'll test Saturday, if they don't I'll wait until after AF is due.
 
Gagrl - 10 dpo is still early. On my previous BFPs I didn't get a BFP until 11 and 12 dpo and even there it was very light. I was very surprised to get my BFP at 10 dpo this time.
 
I've been lurking but also been kind of busy for a couple of weeks and what do I see!! Angel's got a bean!! Congratulations Angel! Hope for a strong sticky bean!! :dance:

Also KatO, how time flies already! Glad to see you're still doing well.

Sassy: I used clearblue digital OPKs but my O is pretty predictable so I used maybe 2 sticks a month. If your O is less predictable, definitely recommend a cheapie. As for cheapie HPT, I used surepredict which I got from amazon.com. I've never gotten a false positive or false negative on surepredict and that's the one I took when I got my BFP. Still do recommend having some FRERs on hand just to confirm but those are more expensive.

Still lurking and thinking of everyone, hoping for a sticky bean for all you ladies. :dust:
 
Etis

Well I had asked her when I went in to get my blood drawn for the future when should I be taking home pregnancy tests and she said 2 weeks after missed period.

Also does anyone know, could starting my prenatals (over the counter) make my period that (17 days) late? Really the only thing that changed and my uncle passed away and I was down for a few weeks. Anyhow AF is due today. We will see again!

do you ladies recommend any specific OPKs? also what cheap pregnancy tests should I get? (I went thru 4 expensive ones last month and seems like such a waste of $)

I use the wandfos on Amazon. Used to use easy @ home but the wandfos are better. And it comes with hpts as well
 
oh forgot to say, I chat to a couple of ladies on here that have 10/11 day lps and they were saying if it was any shorter it could be a problem (not enough time for implantation) so they are taking vitamins in an attempt to lengthen them. i wouldn't go worrying about that though until you know for sure. xx

Oh interesting. Good to keep in mind for the future potentially
 

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