Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[drjo718]

Etis- I'm sorry you're going through this. Sometimes not knowing is worse than knowing somethings wrong. Miscarriages are different for everyone, but I can tell you what mine was like... I knew there was a good chance I would miscarry for over a week due to blood work, but the numbers were still in the questionable range. Then my progesterone tanked and I started bleeding later that night. It was painless at first. The next day I had horrible intense abdominal cramps for a few hours. I sat doubled over on the toilet, sobbing. It was very much like having contractions. I'd have waves of cramps occurring about every 2 minutes. I finally took a Toradol and got in the tub and the pain improved. The next morning when I got up I had passed a clot of tissue about the size of a golf ball and I knew that was it. I continued having mild cramps for several days and bled for about 2 weeks total.

That being said, at the beginning of my pregnancy with Nora, I had 2 bleeding episodes. One was around 5 weeks and another around 6. I had ultrasounds both times and she was just fine. I'm also a labor and delivery nurse, and some people honestly do have bleeding at random times throughout pregnancy, particularly during the 1st trimester, and nothing is wrong. Sometimes it can be due to sex, straining during a bowel movement, or exercise, and sometimes the cause is unknown.

I know from both personal and professional experience that your situation is frustrating and emotional. As you said, stressing won't change anything and nothing can be done right now. Just try to take it easy and don't do anything too strenuous. I hope everything turns out just fine.

 

[Etisgonnab]

Thanks everyone.

Drjo: it was helpful to hear about your experience as horrible as it sounded. I'm sorry you went through that. Right now I'm just in wait and see mode. Fwiw I developed a new food aversion today and have been peeing constantly. So maybe that's a good sign...?

 

[Angel5000]

That sounds positive Etis. Keeping EVERYTHING crossed for you

 

[star_e]

so the iui went well. it's uncomfortable but it does not take long. i was able to do it during my lunch hour without any problems. was very happy about that. doc says i have an 8 to 10 percent chance. higher chance if more than one follie from what i've read. for some reason the doc wanted there to just be one. maybe clinics prefer one over multiples. who knows. if this does not work, im going to ask them if we can play around with the dose to get more than one follie for next round.

i also asked the doc about taking progesterone since ive heard so many people say it has helped them. he didn't know if i needed it b/c my doc wasnt the one who did the procedure it was this other doc b/c my doc was not there. but he said it could not hurt, but might not help. i thought if it does not hurt, and it could help, might as well take it. he said i can start taking it tomorrow. when do you all take progesterone? (for those of you who take it or will take it).

also temp went up today, but im sure it was due to the hcg injection, not b/c i actually O. cause after trigger i should O 24 to 36 hours later and it was already up by this morning. i did a search an other people seem to say the hcg made their temps rise too. apparently i need to wait the two weeks to test b/c due to the progesterone and the hcg shot a test will likely give me a false positive.

 

[Angel5000]

Good luck Star! I started progesterone when I got my bfp because my test came back low. A lot of women who take it start it around 3dpo I think. I'm trying to remember. From what I've read, If you start it before you O then it can delay or stop O. Your temps may not rise when you expect with a trigger/IUI. Some people find that their temps rise in conjunction with what O should be, but I've seen some ladies who have a trigger shot, and a confirmed O, and don't get a temp rise for many days. The hcg and stuff can mess with your system.

And yes, the stuff they gave you will definitely give you a false positive. Depending on the dosage I've seen women take pregnancy tests after the shot just to see how long it takes to get out of the system and I've see them say anywhere from 6-10 days after the trigger shot they stop getting positives, and then they can "test for real". Basically, for your own mental health, they say don't test for 2 weeks to avoid the false hope.

 

[Etisgonnab]

Good luck star! I wouldn't test before the two weeks because of the hcg. A friend of mine has done iui a few times now and always broke down and tested the week later, only to get her hopes up with the false positives she got. Probably better to just wait it out so you know for sure if the results are valid.

 

[star_e]

yes I'll wait it out. thank you so much for the info angel. my doc had not suggested progesterone but I on my own asked about it and I was told it couldnt hurt but might not help. he said I could start it after O which he speculated would be tomorrow but then again we don't actually know. especially too bc of the temp rise from the hcg. maybe I should start taking it after a few days. I'm not sure what to do bc my doc only gave it to me bc I asked about it. I don't want to lower my already not high 8-10% chance.

 

[star_e]

I just did some research and it does seem to prevent O if you take it before O. so people say not to take it unless you can confirm O. so I either need to go for a scan or get a blood test to confirm. I kind of don't want to take it anymore. the doc would not have given if I had not asked so there has been no determination that I even need it. when do people usually get a progesterone blood test to confirm O? it's annoying bc I feel like my clinic gets annoyed if I ask any questions.

 

[Angel5000]

Star - I don't think they give a blood test to confirm O very often. They never did for me. They would do an ultrasound scan to confirm O had already happened because they were tracking me very closely. My sister gets a blood test to confirm O (she's also on meds because her PCOS doesn't let her Ov recently), but they can't get a good look at her ovaries (one of them is located in an odd spot and hard to see) so they do blood work to make sure that she did indeed Ov. Honestly, the progesterone isn't necessary unless you have low progesterone. It won't help you get pregnant, all it will do is help it stick if you have way low progesterone. Have they scheduled you a post-O appointment to do blood work to check progesterone and stuff? My RE scheduled me to come in approximately 7DPO to do follow up blood work.

 

[star_e]

angel - your clinic always sounds so so so good. i wish i had that!

my clinic told me to get bloods taken in two weeks to see if i im pg. but not to confirm O. when you would scan to confirm O, when would you go in? shortly after O or a week later? did you do bloods and scan to confirm O?

i guess i can call them and ask if they can do something like this for me. everytime i call my place they seem annoyed. and i know they will get annoyed if i call and say i want to confirm O. b/c obv they don't do that otherwise they would have told me.

my temps have been rising but even FF told me to adjust my O date manually given that I recorded the hcg shot. so who knows if or when i Oed. i definitely did not feel any O pains.

do any of you feel O pains?

 

[Angel5000]

Star - my RE is a small clinic, they're amazing. I'm so glad that my doctor referred me to them! My sister goes to a compeletely different specialist, hers is on the military base (she's a military wife) and they do very similar to mine in terms of blood work and scan to confirm O. The trigger shot will force you to O, so they may not need to do a confirmation scan. With my sister and I we both don't take a trigger shot - I O on my own and my sister O's on her own after taking her meds during the beginning of the cycle (no trigger shot). When they scan me to confirm O I would go in around the day that I suspected that Ovulation was going to happen (I was fairly regular by then), in my sisters case she goes in sometime after getting a positive OPK, usually a couple days, so they can confirm Ov actually did happen. In my case they only did an US (transvaginal) to confirm, they could see fluid around the ovaries to see that it had burst. In my sisters case after a scan they also do bloods because they can't always tell since they can't see both of her ovaries well.

Because the trigger shot forces O, I doubt they will do a follow up scan also. Also, you aren't necessarily going to feel O pains. In fact, you probably won't. I never have. And most women don't. It's a pretty rare thing to actually FEEL O pains.

Just keep taking your temps. You will eventually get a temp shift, but it could be delayed because of the hcg shot.

 

[star_e]

I took the trigger shot Wednesday at 11 AM. My IUI was scheduled for Thursday at 2:30. On Thursday morning when I took my temp it had risen. But because I've read that ovulation takes place 24 to 36 hours later I assumed the temp rise was due to the trigger shot. But maybe I Oed early. I don't know. I'll keep monitoring my temps. a d do some research on whether hcg can make temps rise. maybe it's possible to O before the typical 24-36 hour window.

 

[Angel5000]

I took the trigger shot Wednesday at 11 AM. My IUI was scheduled for Thursday at 2:30. On Thursday morning when I took my temp it had risen. But because I've read that ovulation takes place 24 to 36 hours later I assumed the temp rise was due to the trigger shot. But maybe I Oed early. I don't know. I'll keep monitoring my temps. a d do some research on whether hcg can make temps rise. maybe it's possible to O before the typical 24-36 hour window.

You could have O'd early, it's unsure but it was probably close to 30 hours later, so Thursday afternoon/evening. Your temp rose again today, so it's very likely you O'd on Thursday. I'd give it another couple days because to confirm O you need 3 days of increased temps.

 

[star_e]

today temp rises again but I took it after I got up to go to bathroom. I accidentally forgot. I made a note of it and will keep monitoring. I actually had three sharp but short pains today. so I was thinking what if I O today. and temp rise initially was do to the trigger. i'm not sure it's really impossible to know. I have my fx though that tthis cycle works. i'm not going to test early at all though due to the false positive from the trigger shot. I'm just going to wait a full two weeks.

how is every one doing?

 

[Angel5000]

I'm doing good. Made it to the gym the last few days. Feeling much better.

Looks like you got CH's Star!! They might be a day early because of the trigger but still, you have definitely kept high temps. This is good.

 

[MissDoc]

Star, excited to see your chart progression. Hang in there!

Etis, my thoughts are with you this Monday. I hope your doctor visit goes well.

Angel, glad you're feeling well! I bet every week it feels more and more real.


AFM, today is 8dpo. Friday and Saturday I worked like a maniac. 15 hrs on Friday and about 11 hours on Saturday. And then I proceeded to feel sick yesterday. Just fatigued and hot flashes all day and night. And still with hot flashes today (feel
Feverish and flushed, sweating easily, but no fever). I think I jut made myself sick from stress but a small part of me has the teensiest bit of hope that maybe it's related to implantation. Some people say they experience hot flushing around that time. If it is miraculously for that reason, then maybe I'll get a pleasant surprise with testing in a few days.

 

[star_e]

miss doc! fx! I hope it's implantation flushes!!! keep us updated.

Angel glad you are feeling well!

 

[Etisgonnab]

Sooo had my appointment today and it's a healthy pregnancy!! I'm so excited and relieved. Baby's measuring at two cm and had a heart rate of 171. We got to see and hear the heartbeat! 171 bpm so a girl if the wives tales are true lol. I've attached some pictures for you all. Next up is genetic testing in 3 weeks and since I'm 35 I have the added bonus of getting the cell free DNA test so I'll get to learn the sex really early. One bonus of being an "old" mom!

 

[star_e]

etis- amazing news!!!!! so happy for you! must be such a huge weight lifted off your shoulders!

 

[Chiccbunny]

Hi ladies, Starting my 2ww today! Had my FET this afternoon. What did you ladies get up to while you waited?