Anyone TTC #1 and 30 or older?

[star_e]

I caved and took an IC (Wondfos) test and BFN. Not even a shadow of a line. Blank. We were so sad this morning. Technically it's not over yet. FF says I'm 13dpo but clinic would say I was 12 and based on my cramps on the Saturday after the iui that's when I would suspect I Oed so that could make me at 10dpo. So it might still be too early. Maybe wishful thinking. My temps dropped a bit today. Not by much. If they keep dropping then I'm out. I'm so sad. I hope I have a chance but Im feeling negative now. All the drama w the blood draws, the 30 day stimulation! It was so so so long and hard this one cycle.

If this cycle is a bust, DH and I are going to tell doc we want a higher dose bc we want more than one follie to work with. But then we run the risk of over stimming. There is an option to convert the cycle to IVF which is cheaper than just doing IVF from the get go bc our insurance will pay for the initial scans if it's iui.

Our insurance covers iui but not IVF. So iui is very affordable for us. We don't even have to pay for any of the injections. But we don't want to do several of them only to end up having to do IVF. It's so confusing and terrifying. The conversion method is less expensive but still very very expensive. Just wish there was a way to know how to get me to grow More than one follie. Like 2 or 3. So the odds were better. It's just a tricky process.

 

[Angel5000]

Star - I'm hoping you aren't out, but don't base it all on temps either. My temps after my bfp kept dropping after 10dpo, every day they dropped a little more up through 15 dpo and then I stopped temping because I was freaking out. From my research it's pretty common for you to have to go through several IUI cycles before the bfp, because the chance % of a positive is about the same as that as naturally trying for "healthy couples", which is no more than 20-25% chance each month. This is really only your first real shot so don't let yourself feel down yet

 

[star_e]

Thanks angel! I'm going to try to keep my spirits up if it is a bust. I've been trying since January but this has been my first real shot. So as long as we can keep on getting me to O, I have to believe that I'll get the bfp eventually. Im hoping I still have a chance this cycle. I'll know on Thursday with the blood test.

The blood test will be an accurate result, right? I'm taking Thursday so it might be 15 days after O if I Oed on Thursday or it could be 13dpo if I Oed on the Saturday after my iui.

angel so sorry about your migraines. Did you end up getting a prescription for it? And congrats on reaching your milestone! So happy for you!

 

[star_e]

Miss doc good luck w your tests tomorrow. Keep us updated.

Etis- glad to hear you and your bean are doing well.

I appreciate all the support and feedback from all of you.

 

[MissDoc]

Angel, bleh on those migraines. Sorry you got the crappy end. Hopefully after the little one arrives you go back to the previous frequency and they go away.

Etis, thank goodness no real yucky symptoms right now. Glad to hear you're doing alright!

Star, I'm sorry those ICs are negative. But I'm with Angel here, you still have a great shot, even if it's not this month. You're finally o'ing and your insurance covers IUI. Hopefully within a few months, you'll be pregnant, and this will be a memory. At least you have an option for converting to IVF, but I wouldn't be too hasty with it as you're just now getting to a place where your chances are better. It just may take a bit. Hugs to you. How hard to have such a rough cycle and feel like it didn't work. It's a numbers game. Sooner or later (hopefully sooner), you'll get there!


Had my blood work yesterday and go next week on Thurs afternoon to discuss results and do a sono. So won't know much for a little over a week. Today is only CD 4, so nothing to really do but wait until the bd phase rolls back around. We are driving about 4.5 hours away this weekend to visit friends for a couple of days, so that should be a nice distraction, and by the time we come back that next week will likely be fertile week.

 

[Angel5000]

Star - The blood test should be an accurate result. It can pick up as little as an HPT of 1, where as urine tests need a higher amount. HPT <5 is considered not pregnant, 5-15 is indeterminate. I think >15 or >20 is considered pregnant. I don't remember the exact numbers for that.

I didn't get a prescription for the migraines. I am just dealing right now. I have an OB check up the first week of August so if they are continuing to be real bad I'll mention it then.


MissDoc - have fun on the trip! At least you may have a little distraction to keep you busy while waiting for the fertile week.

 

[Etisgonnab]

Sorry to hear about the bfn star. Naiive question here but can you not BD when you're doing IUI? Just curious. If Angel's right, then the stats don't back up this feeling, but it does seem like IUIs give you less of a chance because you have to get the timing perfect with that one shot rather than having multiple days of BD to better try and cover your bases. Good luck with the blood test tomorrow. FWIW the Wandfos were much slower to register a bfp for me, but I did see a shadow of something after a long while of drying. It was just so incredibly faint that it was almost impossible to tell.

It's so frustrating how expensive IVF is and how insurance won't cover it. It's total BS because it's obviously all about the money, as it is an effective treatment for a legitimate medical condition.

Miss Doc: Keep us posted on your tests! Hopefully it'll shed some light on things.

Angel: Sorry about your migraines. I hope they go away or become more manageable soon.

 

[Etisgonnab]

any updates on the blood test star?

 

[star_e]

Got a blood test today - BFN. I knew that considering the fact that I started my period this morning. DH and I met w doc today to talk about next steps. We talked about trying to do IUI and getting more than one follicle and she says it's very difficult because I have PCOS to get two or three that it's probably more likely to either overstimulate. She recommended taking the very conservative route of long and slow to get one.

but she said she was up to the challenge and she would try for more follicles and we told her we don't want to overstimulate but it's just this long tricky process. so we got to talking more and we decided to take the plunge and do IVF this cycle. It was a big decision and definitely stressful but we're going to do it. I'm so scared that it won't work. And we will be out the money. But we just don't want to do iui for several months and then end up back here anyway. I don't understand why the insurance companies would rather pay all the costs for several months of IUI but not just give a free IVF. I mean it doesn't make sense technically they could end up losing more money in the long run if someone kept doing iui after IUI after IUI.

Tomorrow I start my injections at the 75 unit dose.

I'm totally winded from all the stress. From thinking about the money, to thinking about the meds, the procedure, how I'm going to manage doing it with work. It's all going to be so stressful.

 

[star_e]

Thanks for asking about my test etis and to answer your former question you can BD doing IUI but not the day before iui. At least it's not recommended. And that's what we did this cycle and I honestly think we shouldn't have followed that advice that's all over the Internet because I actually ovulated the day before the IU why so it's just hard to predict.

I'm feeling totally depleted right now. Nervous about everything. it's just a lot of stress w also scheduling all this stuff into the workday etc. I also just started AF so my cramps have been awful.

Wanted to wish miss doc the best of luck w the tests.
Angel and etis hope your little beans stay healthy and happy!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Star I wish you the best of luck. My sister did ivf and ended up pregnant with my twin nephew's.

 

[Angel5000]

Sorry about the bfn Star. But hopefully IVF will be successful for you!


AFM - doing okay. Still not eating much. earlier this month I thought I had UTI - had some pretty bad bladder pains, etc. The tests all came back negative as no UTI. Yesterday evening I started having similar pains. It's ridiculous, and I don't want to go back to the urgent care clinic if it's not a UTI. They said last time that they suspect it could be that my bladder is irritated. Well, it's definitely irritated today. Got no sleep because of it (pretty severe pain) and today it's back and forth.

I still had some left over "pain" pills they give for UTI. Took one last night finally around 2am and managed to get some relief and fell asleep at 3am. :/ I'm taking another one before I go tutor or I don't think I'll make it through my tutoring session. Overall, this sucks. I actually suspect its from soda. both times I have had it occurred the day of and after having had a couple sodas (I am drinking non-caffeinated soda like sprint but carbonation maybe?). IT's the closest connection I could come up with. Going to talk to OB about it at my next appointment but if it doesn't go away in a couple days I'll have to go back to the walk in clinic or get a dr appointment. I cna't keep this up.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Aww angel I'm so sorry about that. I'm sure it's rough.. I've been slightly crampy today which is weird for me at this point into my cycle... Who knows.

 

[star_e]

Star I wish you the best of luck. My sister did ivf and ended up pregnant with my twin nephew's.

Thank you gagrl! Did she get it on first try? So cute your sis has twins!

 

[star_e]

So sorry about the pain Angel. Not sleeping is the pits and then Add physical pain. Good to know it might go away without soda but hope u feel relief very soon. could you call your doc just to checkin abou the pain since you said it's severe?

 

[Angel5000]

I decided to get through today and if I was still in really bad pain tomorrow I would go to the walk in clinic affiliated with my doctor. I've been taking the bladder numbing pain pills and it's gotten easier on as we've moved later into the evening. Hoping tomorrow is better.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Star I wish you the best of luck. My sister did ivf and ended up pregnant with my twin nephew's.

Thank you gagrl! Did she get it on first try? So cute your sis has twins!

She did. They put two embryos in and both took.. Hence the twins. They are seven and then she has a two year old little girl. Never thought she'd get pregnant naturally after ivf and low and behold five years later.. She did.

 

[star_e]

Star I wish you the best of luck. My sister did ivf and ended up pregnant with my twin nephew's.

Thank you gagrl! Did she get it on first try? So cute your sis has twins!

She did. They put two embryos in and both took.. Hence the twins. They are seven and then she has a two year old little girl. Never thought she'd get pregnant naturally after ivf and low and behold five years later.. She did.

Wow! That's great! I hope I get it on first try. I'm trying to educate myself on the process. I'm overwhelmed w info right now.

How are you doing?

 

[star_e]

Angel I hope it's gets better. So sorry you are having so much pain.

 

[Angel5000]

Thanks Star. I am doing better today. Of course, the bladder numbing stuff is still in my system (you can tell because it turns urine bright orange ) but yesterday even with the stuff in my system I felt a lot of pressure and uncomfortable. So far today seems okay. . . . Keeping FX that it stays that way!