anyone ttc or ntnp before there child is a year old?

[Spiffynoodles]

Lalila, I'm sorry to hear about TTC being put on hold, but you are still NTNP, so maybe it will just happen when it's meant to happen. I do hope Lilli gets a sibling someday, but I understand that your circumstances make it hard right now. DH and I don't really know how we're going to afford the amount of kids we want, but so far God has blessed us. When we were pregnant with Alia, we found our fourplex, which gave us just enough rental income for me to quit and be a SAHM, and then when we got pregnant with Liam, my DH got a promotion at work that made it possible for us to afford another baby. I guess we'll just keep praying and asking God to make it possible for us to have more kids as they come.

Rojo, that's always so exciting when you can see the word "pregnant" on a digi! I can't wait to hear what your betas are.

Haking, glad to gear that things are still going great with Sam's daycare. I bet that's such a relief! How have things been with your SIL since you switched?

As for me, I had a terrible night last night, and I can't even blame it on Alia! I went to bed at 9pm, but it took me until after 11pm to fall asleep, and then I kept waking up throughout the night and having a hard time getting back to sleep. What made it worse, is that the whole time I was just feeling so frustrated at my stupid body for not sleeping when I needed it so bad. I even had dreams about laying in bed trying to fall asleep.

 

[HAKing]

Spiffy, so sorry about the bad night. I have those sometimes too, and its horrible because I keep thinking "if I fall asleep now, I'll be good with X amount of hours of sleep..." then I look again a half hour later... Maybe you have a lot on your mind keeping you awake? That seems to always do it for me.

As for how things are with my SIL...very awkward! I really don't like her. She came over on Sunday for Easter which to say the least was awkward for me. She did announce that she is pregnant which I already heard but now it is "official" and I can't say that I'm super excited for her because she can't handle the 5 year old she has now! Maybe I'll come around but I've never really been super fond of her and after having her do a horrible job watching Sam it confirms it that I really don't like her for good reason. Sorry for the ramble...its just very frustrating for me since I'm basically stuck with her for life.

Lallia, I forgot to ask too...what kind of puppy?!

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Yeah, it's unfortunate that you can pick your friends but not your family. I'm pretty lucky in that I get along fine with my two SIL's and my BIL (I had a psycho SIL, but my brother and her got a divorce recently to all of our relief). I hope that things get less awkward with your SIL, and hopefully maybe she'll get easier to be around. If not, then hopefully you can just avoid her as much as possible!

As for why I slept so badly, who knows. I did have another dream that I was having twins (I'm blaming that on the conversation with Rojo yesterday ) and I also had a dream that Liam's heart stopped beating, which was very sad, but I think that happened because I was telling DH yesterday about V-day being on Friday for me, and how if anything happened before that point, doctors would do nothing to try and save him.

Lalila, I'd like to see pictures of your puppy, too!

 

[lalila0007]

Thanks for the support. I uploaded pictures of our puppy. Her name is Maize and she's a Huskey/Australian Shepherd mix.

Talking about God providing - I have just started a Mary Kay beauty consultant business after lots of prayer, talking, listening and research. Some of these women's stories are amazing and they are able to do this as their full time/pay all the bills job! I really hope it works out that well for me too. I would then be able to work from home, make as much or more in only half the time and stay with Lilli. That would make me the happiest mommy in the world!

 

[HAKing]

Thanks, Spiffy! That's the plan...avoid, avoid, avoid!!! We have nothing in common anyway and are two totally different people and raise our children completely opposite. I'm much happier not seeing her and knowing she is no longer watching my child.

On a side note, DH and a business partner are working on starting up their own on the side. He plans on the extra money that it brings in will eventually equal what I make in 2 years and I will be able to quit my job if I decide to. I really am liking the idea because since we plan to have a 3rd, I was looking at daycare costs and it can get expensive!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed it works out!!!

 

[lalila0007]

Spiffy - I often have nights like the one you and HAKing described. I have always been quite the insomniac and I think Lilli has inherited it too

HAKing - I can also relate to the SIL situation. I'm not fond of her and she doesn't handle her 3 year old...at all. That child is really very unpleasant to be around. She and my brother are constantly fighting too! Now, they're having a baby....and talking about divorce now!

 

[HAKing]

Awe, Maize is cute!!! And I love her name too!

I hope that the Mary Kay business works out and eventually you'll get to quit your job and be home with Lilli full time!

It sucks in the meantime, but I just keep thinking that all the sacrifices that we make right now will pay off in a few years and be worth it in the end.

 

[HAKing]

Spiffy - I often have nights like the one you and HAKing described. I have always been quite the insomniac and I think Lilli has inherited it too

HAKing - I can also relate to the SIL situation. I'm not fond of her and she doesn't handle her 3 year old...at all. That child is really very unpleasant to be around. She and my brother are constantly fighting too! Now, they're having a baby....and talking about divorce now!

That totally sucks that they are pregnant with a second and talking divorce but it might be worth it if all they do is fight.

It is horrible when you're around someone else (especially family) and they can't control their own child and it makes things miserable. My nephew is a total brat and he should know better to not at the way he does but they let him get away with it because of pure laziness! And now a second...ugh!

 

[lilrojo]

Aww sorry about the twins dreams spiffy lol..

Im excited and nervous for my bloods.. but if its meant to be it will

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Haking and Lalila, I hope you're both able to become SAHM mom's at some point. Lalila, my SIL sells Mary Kay and loves it.

Maize is a cute puppy! I've always wanted a husky. I just think they're so beautiful.

As for your SIL's, I know how hard it is to watch people who can't seem to handle their kids. My brother and his ex-wife got married because she got pregnant, so it wasn't planned, and they definitely should not have had a child. My brother is still pretty immature, and his ex-wife has a lot of psychological issues, plus she just doesn't have a lot of common sense. They came to visit when my niece was 11 months old, and she was giving her sips of her energy drink!

Rojo, I'm sure your bloods will be fine! As for the dreams, I can't really blame you. We all know how prone I am to dreams about multiples

 

[lilrojo]

lol.. my dreams have consisted of positive pregnancy tests.. lol

 

[Spiffynoodles]

That's awesome! I love those dreams, especially when I'm actually pregnant! I've had dreams about taking pregnancy tests and having them be positive, and then waking up and testing just to see a bfn.

So what time are you going in to get your betas checked?

 

[Pielette]

Oh my God rojo congratulations! That was amazing news to come back on to! What's the due date? And when are you getting your beta results? Twins would both delight and scare me at the same time

Lalila you and your DH are clearly doing what's right for you and I'm sure that your next baby will come along at the right time Your new puppy is gorgeous! I would love a dog like that but I know we wouldn't have the time or energy to devote to him/her. We'd probably need a coach potato of a dog And yay for Lilli walking!

Gosh spiffy and HAKing, how do you put up with these people?! I'm lucky in that I don't have anyone around me like that but it would really try my patience. Luckily my DH's family are all able to look after their kids properly.

We had a lovely weekend and DH had five days off so it was really nice to have some family time.

We had roofers and asbestos specialists round to our new house today so I'm looking forward to finding out what they think tomorrow. Got to get a gas man and an electrician round to check that stuff out too, and call the solicitors to find out what the status of everything is. Seems to all be getting there though! I so can't wait to not live behind a pub

 

[lilrojo]

Thanks Pie..

Im home from the drs so just waiting on the results..

edd would be dec 15th

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Rojo, did they tell you how long you'd have to wait for the results? And Dec. 15th is your anniversary, right?

Pie, I'm glad to hear that things are moving forward on your new house. It will be so exciting when you get to move in and get it set up! (Well, the moving part sucks, but the setting up part can be pretty fun )

 

[Harley Quinn]

Wooooooo!!!! Rojo, that is so exciting! So happy for you. I had a lot of posts to catch up on, and I was thinking, "gotta read these fast to get the post about rojo's HPT!" Then I saw the ticker in your signature! :doh: Anyway, congrats!!!!

And you can count me as part of the "new bed" club! I also put my foot down and told DH that I would NOT sleep on our old mattress past 6 months once I was pregnant again. We got a new mattress just over a month ago, and it's glorious! That and the snoogle pillow are making my sleep MUCH better this time around.

I wish I had time to reply to everything I've missed, but things have been so busy at work, I don't have as much time to sneek on during the day. I'm going to try to keep more up-to-date on this thread!

AFM, everything is great still. I had a four day weekend over Easter, and I'm taking this Friday off, so I'm only working three days this week! So excited about that!

 

[lilrojo]

Thanks Harley

well I was hoping for the results today but never got called so hopefully first thing tomorrow.. boo

and yep 15th is our anniversary of 6 years

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Harley, it's good to hear from you! I'm glad you're sleeping better these days. My hips don't seem to bother me as much as they used to, but my shoulders ache pretty badly after laying on one side for too long. So do you have any fun plans for your three day weekend?

Rojo, I hope they get back to you first thing tomorrow! I know how impatient I would be if they kept me waiting for too long (I'm already impatient, and it's not even my betas. )

 

[lilrojo]

lol spiffy.. I was not happy that I didn't get that call.. but should be tomorrow and again Friday.. I know I wont go the weekend without knowing..

 

[Harley Quinn]

Aaah! Well, at least you will have the results before the weekend, rojo.

Spiffy, yes! We have some fun plans. I'm taking Friday off because Daniel's band is playing a show in Vancouver that night. So, we are dropping Ozzy off at his parents' that afternoon then driving down there for the show. We'll stay in a hotel that night and then we're going to a show the next day (also in downtown Vancouver). We're going to see Stars and Said the Whale, and it's an early show, so we'll be able to pick Ozzy up that night in time for bedtime back at our place. I'm looking forward to a mini vacation! And only one night without Ozzy I think I can handle. Not sure if I could manage two! We'll start small.

What's the longest any of you have spent away from your LO's?