Thank you Heather, and thank you again Jordyn
That does sound like a miscarriage and it is so heartbreaking. It's just the sense of loss of all that could have been.
I had the scan done this morning and as much as I was dreading it, it wasn't so bad. The sonographer and the nurse were lovely. It was an internal scan, which I hadn't had before, but despite my apprehension it was fine.
They said there has been progress since last week. The fetal pole is no longer there. Whether that means I've absorbed it or I've passed it they couldn't say, but that's a positive. The sac is breaking down and bleeding inside me which is another good thing.
They discussed my options with me - natural miscarriage, management with medication or a d&c. I had been thinking that maybe I should have the d&c to get it over with, but after the discussion I decided to go with the natural route. Firstly because it's already underway and they said that based on the look of the scan and the fact that I am already bleeding, they would expect it to be complete after 2 weeks. I have a repeat scan then to check that it is complete.
And secondly, they said that there is a risk, although small, that during a d&c the uterus can be perforated. I just can't take that risk. I need to have more children, I really do, and I can't take the risk of losing that. The nurse said that they do prefer women to go the natural route as it is better for the body. Of course there is the emotional side of it dragging on longer, but I'm ok with that given that it I am already miscarrying, so I would hope it wouldn't be too much longer.
Also, I was worried about seeing 'things' when I pass them, but the nurse said she didn't think I would because the sac is already breaking down inside me. So fingers crossed. I'm just bracing myself for the physical pain now.
Generally I feel ok. I feel calm. I feel better after talking things through and they were very gentle and respectful with me. I am happy with my decision and DH is happy with it too, he didn't want me to go through the procedure. Not that he would have pressured me either way, but he was relieved.
We had decided we wanted to stop at 3, but now this has happened, we have been discussing 4
DH brought it up, I would always have been happy with 3 or 4 but now he's saying he's thinking about it and I'm so tempted. I guess it has given us food for thought, how truly precious they are. Watch this space I guess. I don't know how that would fit in with my future (hopefully) career and training, it would take some planning.
Heather that sounds like such a lovely birthday
Did the kids enjoy the zoo? We went to the zoo on Sunday, just randomly because I needed to get out and the boys loved the sea lions and the bears, it was the first time they'd really enjoyed it.
Sorry you're feeling unwell Jordyn
How is Asher doing sleep wise? I will say that I've noticed that Noah is just starting to develop some empathy now that he's nearing 3, so it might not be too much longer with Alia. Last week he went over and patted and hugged Milo when he had fallen over, and whenever Milo's upset about something he tries to give him one if his Dumbos (his most precious comforters) to cheer him up.