Anyone watching this morning?

[baby_mama87]

The debate about sex in the same bed as your baby? What do you think? I personally wouldnt just wouldn't feel comfortable, I wouldn't go as far as calling it child abuse as one of them is saying but not something I would do

 

[babyfenway]

I dont co sleep and i dont have anyone to have sex with atm, but no way. I think its distusting. I know they wont have a clue whats going on, but its weird...

 

[Loubpop]

Wouldnt do it personally but I think it's fine if she wants to. Especially as she is explaining LO was asleep and she was co-sleeping every night.

 

[sophie c]

i think the idea of having sex in bed with your baby there is disgusting, sorry if it offends, but yes, if you look at child protection training, learning about abuse and neglect, letting them experience things outisde of their appropriate age group is classed as child abuse. for example watching innappropriate tv infront of them like porn ect. we have a child in my work who had a case opened, he is in a wheelchair and was subjected to being sat in a hotel room in his chair in the same room as his father whilst him and his gf DTD, im sorry i know the baby is more unaware but its the same set of standards. ALL IMO obvcourse.

 

[babyfenway]

Wouldnt do it personally but I think it's fine if she wants to. Especially as she is explaining LO was asleep and she was co-sleeping every night.

Surely she could of put her LO in another room once she was asleep?

 

[Kate&Lucas]

I wouldn't. I'd always put him in a pram/basket next to the bed, and even that felt a bit wierd. I guess it's age too, Lucas was newborn to about 8 months so was generally unaware. I'm not watching though so not sure what's being said, will have to turn my TV on

 

[MummytoSummer]

Yep, my opinion may offend but I think it's pretty vile to do that. If your that desperate to dtd then either move your baby or go in another room yourselves to do it if the baby is in your bed.

X

 

[Loubpop]

Wouldnt do it personally but I think it's fine if she wants to. Especially as she is explaining LO was asleep and she was co-sleeping every night.

Surely she could of put her LO in another room once she was asleep?

I have no idea. I don't know her personally.

 

[2ndtimeluckyX]

We never did but I dont think it's child abuse. The woman against it kept going on as though the baby was awake and watching and taking it all in, that wasn't the case. The baby was not a 'spectator' lol.
I personally couldn't get 'into it' with lo next to me

 

[omfgski]

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[Hunbun]

I couldn't do it.

I feel it's wrong but I can't really explain why.

I don't think they will understand or remember if they wake up... but it still feels really wrong to me.

 

[MrsBandEgglet]

No, I most certainly wouldn't. Although my DD was probably conceived whilst my DS was still in his cot in our room we barely BD'd four times before I was pregnant again. I couldn't do it again, I don't think, I didn't really feel comfortable. I have read before (and as a PP pointed out) that exposing children to situations that are inappropriate for their age group can be deemed as abusive behaviour. I wouldn't go as far as to say it's maliciously abusive, obviously, but I think it's highly inappropriate and we should try to preserve our LO's innocence about these things for as long as we can. Personally, I just think there's a time and a place and when your LO is in bed with you then you abstain

 

[sophie c]

p.s i didnt watch "this morning" so cant comment on what she sed, its just purely opinion x

 

[Loubpop]

We never did but I dont think it's child abuse. The woman against it kept going on as though the baby was awake and watching and taking it all in, that wasn't the case. The baby was not a 'spectator' lol.
I personally couldn't get 'into it' with lo next to me

I agree with this. As I said before, I wouldn't do it.

 

[liz1985]

I wouldn't do it with LO in bed, but we do do it with LO in same room, I do find it a bit weird but he's fast asleep, doesn't no what's happening. I couldn't do that when he's a bit older though. But I don't think it's child abuse x

 

[AP]

Not IN my bed. I find the idea just wrong but I wouldnt know how to explain it. My baby deserves her own space when it comes to these issues

 

[2ndtimeluckyX]

So what about the comment about somebody who is 9 months preg and still DTD? The baby is full term and right there between them. Is there a difference between that and then the baby being born and lay next to them?
I hadn't thought about it that way before.
I was far too uncomfortable at 9 months to lay down let alone have sex haha

 

[sophie c]

the baby then cant wake up and see them though? totally different situation x

 

[MummytoSummer]

So what about the comment about somebody who is 9 months preg and still DTD? The baby is full term and right there between them. Is there a difference between that and then the baby being born and lay next to them?
I hadn't thought about it that way before.
I was far too uncomfortable at 9 months to lay down let alone have sex haha

I personally didn't feel at all right about having sex once i had a bump and could 'see' there was a baby in me.

I don't see that as a big a issue though if women do choose to have sex at 9 months pregnant. It's not like the baby could open their eyes and see anything of what's going on.

X

 

[cosmosmum]

When i was pregnant my husband didn't want to dtd. Was worried about hurting me or baby! I was pulling my hair out lol. Now he is here and nearly 5 months hubby wants to dtd and i don't! Not with Cosmo in our room. Really doesn't feel right. Hubby thinks its time Cosmo goes in his nursery now!! Can't think why, its good birth control though lol