Anyone watching this morning?

[omfgski]

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[linzylinz]

i co sleep and have a side sleeper if me and oh wanted to get it on when lo was asleep id move her over to her cot and we would quietly get on with it once she become more alert as she got older we wouldnt incase she woke up even tho shes hardly going to have a clue whats going on as it was allways under the covers.

i dont feel offended that people think its wrong or sick thats there opinion xx but child abuse seriously i think it says more about them than me

as for getting turned on when a babies in the room yes i can easily just like i can get turned on with a waldrobe in the room both things TOTALLY non sexual to me

 

[special_kala]

This was really riling me up on the FB page of this morning.

It is not sick, disgusting or abuse. If the baby is asleep whats the problem? How does the thin bars of a cot and a little distance make it all ok when in the bed not...its not like your doing it on the baby!

How do people think child rearing and reprodcung has been done prior to the last few hundred years that cots have been around.

Sex is just sex. Its a normal natural thing to do and its not dirty.

The british culture really needs to stop being so frigid and making sex a taboo. We have one of the worst STD rates and teen pregnancy rates around..maybe if sex wasnt such a big deal we wouldnt have those problems

 

[Courtcourt]

oh right, im just saying what ive been taught and learned during training in my job, like i said i didnt mean to offend, was just saying what i know, and my opinion.

xx

I quoted you by accident actually...

However, that said, I have done lots of CP training and what you describe (boy in a wheelchair) is different. If a child of an age that can understand is made or allowed to watch anyone having sex, to watch porn or shown photographs of a sexual nature, it is regarded as child abuse. Quite rightly so. Having sex with a child who is not only asleep, but also who would be unaware and extremely unlikely to remember in future what had happened if they were to wake up (not to mention are unlikey to see very much as obviously the parents would stop immediately) would not be classed as abuse. Obviously it is not, otherwise social services and the police would have been waiting to arrest the woman that appeared on This Morning.

Just want to add that I remember a lot of things from my babyhood! Not newborn times but I remember crawling and my dad giving me bottles. Mostly from about 1 year, but flashes of earlier things. With that in mind I would NEVER! I'd be so afraid mine would remember it. I don't think most people do, but I do! ( can't remember what I had for breakfast yesterday though, lol)

Interesting that you can rememeber those things.

Out of interest. Does it also mean you never have sex when your children are in the house at all, even when they're in bed at night asleep? Surely there's a chance they could walk in if you did?

Mine is too young to escape her crib, but when she is old enough to do so we will probably lock the door, or have the monitor up a bit. It's very sensitive- I can hear her breathing sometimes.

 

[mrs.amillian]

I gotta say, I wouldn't especially not in the bed with us! We would wake her up in a second, and how tame is the sex *yawn* boring.

I did feel uncomfortable DTD with her in our room, we moved her out last thursday and OH and I had a celebration on sat, it was great

We had been going downstairs on the sofa, it was rubbish, although OH would have been happy to do it with her in the room, but not the bed!

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I personally disgree with most people here. I don't co-sleep but I have DTD many many times with LO in the room. He is still a baby who has no understanding of what is happening.

As special_kala the british attitude to sex is one of the main reasons our STD & teen pregnancy rates are through the roof. Maybe if more people showed thier children that sex is not dirty or wrong, teens would go off & do it just to rebel against their parents (that is a sweeping generalisation I know, but you get my point)

Also...I am a mummy yes. But I'm a woman also. & y'know what, sometimes its nice to have sex with my OH & feel like Karlee again.

I personally wouldn't do it with LO in bed with us, cos he's at a very touchy-feely age & I think its inappropirate. But I see no diff between a cot/crib/basket next to the bed & LO actually being in bed.

I think some people are over-reacting calling it child abuse. But each to their own. Thats my 2 cents

 

[LittleBoo]

Ahh sick, disgusting child abuse, should be done in private... I hear some people say the same about breastfeeding

I've not done it, but I would.

Giggles for the wardrobe comment

 

[Tacey]

We have done a few times when Alice was a baby. Not my preferred option - being very quiet and not too -ahem- vigorous doesn't make for the best experience, but needs must! I'm not entirely sure why this is even an issue, and certainly not one for national debate. So many people seem happy with doing it in the same room, so why not in the same bed? I'm really surprised by many of these comments.

 

[Amygdala]

I won't get involved in the child abuse debate as I think the whole thing is silly and like others have said shows a very unnatural relationship with sex. So no more comments on that from me.

But I will say that categorically, there is NO chance of a baby remembering anything. Babies cognitive systems are still developing. A newborn can't even distinguish between themselves and others, let alone understand what his parents might be doing in bed beside them. Older babies might be watching and wondering so I personally would feel weird having an older baby in the room but they categorically will not remember. There is not one verified account of genuine memories from under the age of about 3. People usually think they have such memories but they have been shown time and time again to be false memories.

 

[Courtcourt]

I won't get involved in the child abuse debate as I think the whole thing is silly and like others have said shows a very unnatural relationship with sex. So no more comments on that from me.

But I will say that categorically, there is NO chance of a baby remembering anything. Babies cognitive systems are still developing. A newborn can't even distinguish between themselves and others, let alone understand what his parents might be doing in bed beside them. Older babies might be watching and wondering so I personally would feel weird having an older baby in the room but they categorically will not remember. There is not one verified account of genuine memories from under the age of about 3. People usually think they have such memories but they have been shown time and time again to be false memories.

I have very clear memories from under the age of three! Very, very specific ones verified by my mom and dad. I can remember the reason I won't touch milk. I was about a year and a half according to my mom (when we were talking about why I don't drink milk. She never knew!). I woke up and my dad got me out of bed, gave me a cup of warm milk and I puked it up it was so gross. I still remember the chair we were sitting in, very vividly! That is just one of them. I've probably got 10 of those clear memories. Some were exciting things and some were just every day things, no reason to stand out. I wont bore you with them, but like I said, aside from some of the obvious exciting ones, I do have memories from this age. Brains are magical

 

[babyjan]

For those who think its wrong did you dtd whilst pregnant?
only cause i see no difference, sure the baby cant open their eyes to actually see you but their still there iykwim? x

 

[EarthMama]

I've done it and see nothing wrong with it at all

but my LO is such a light sleeper that we've started leaving the room and doing it in the living room so that we don't risk waking him.

 

[..katie..]

I have sex with him in the same room as me. Wouldn't do it on the same bed because I'd be afraid to squish him.

 

[bumpy_j]

Lol it's not exactly child abuse if they're not aware

 

[Brookey]

So those people that say its disgusting, but they do it when the baby is in a cot? Surely there is still a risk the baby would wake and "see" what the parents are doing?

And even if the baby did see...how will it know that its parents are having sex? Babies have no understanding of "sex".

Seriously some of these comments are crazy. Child abuse.......seriously????

 

[Courtcourt]

For those who think its wrong did you dtd whilst pregnant?
only cause i see no difference, sure the baby cant open their eyes and actually see you but their still there iykwim? x

Now that is just patronizing.

 

[highhopes19]

I don't like it and not something o would do with oh whilst Isabelle is in our bed but I wouldn't say it's child abuse .

We DTD with her in the room asleep but i wouldn't do it with her in our bed with us I just couldn't bring myself to do it .

X

 

[Amygdala]

I won't get involved in the child abuse debate as I think the whole thing is silly and like others have said shows a very unnatural relationship with sex. So no more comments on that from me.

But I will say that categorically, there is NO chance of a baby remembering anything. Babies cognitive systems are still developing. A newborn can't even distinguish between themselves and others, let alone understand what his parents might be doing in bed beside them. Older babies might be watching and wondering so I personally would feel weird having an older baby in the room but they categorically will not remember. There is not one verified account of genuine memories from under the age of about 3. People usually think they have such memories but they have been shown time and time again to be false memories.

I have very clear memories from under the age of three! Very, very specific ones verified by my mom and dad. I can remember the reason I won't touch milk. I was about a year and a half according to my mom (when we were talking about why I don't drink milk. She never knew!). I woke up and my dad got me out of bed, gave me a cup of warm milk and I puked it up it was so gross. I still remember the chair we were sitting in, very vividly! That is just one of them. I've probably got 10 of those clear memories. Some were exciting things and some were just every day things, no reason to stand out. I wont bore you with them, but like I said, aside from some of the obvious exciting ones, I do have memories from this age. Brains are magical

They are indeed, I study them for a living. And I know it's uncomfortable to think of your own memories as false memories. But if those memories were genuine you would be unique in the world and should get yourself to your nearest memory lab asap. Brains simply don't work like that, they need time to mature.

 

[staralfur]

I find it kind of humourous that people are like "Ew, that's creepy/gross! But we do have sex with our baby in the same room, in their bassinet which is two feet away from the bed..."

Not that big of a difference, really.

 

[Courtcourt]

I won't get involved in the child abuse debate as I think the whole thing is silly and like others have said shows a very unnatural relationship with sex. So no more comments on that from me.

But I will say that categorically, there is NO chance of a baby remembering anything. Babies cognitive systems are still developing. A newborn can't even distinguish between themselves and others, let alone understand what his parents might be doing in bed beside them. Older babies might be watching and wondering so I personally would feel weird having an older baby in the room but they categorically will not remember. There is not one verified account of genuine memories from under the age of about 3. People usually think they have such memories but they have been shown time and time again to be false memories.

I have very clear memories from under the age of three! Very, very specific ones verified by my mom and dad. I can remember the reason I won't touch milk. I was about a year and a half according to my mom (when we were talking about why I don't drink milk. She never knew!). I woke up and my dad got me out of bed, gave me a cup of warm milk and I puked it up it was so gross. I still remember the chair we were sitting in, very vividly! That is just one of them. I've probably got 10 of those clear memories. Some were exciting things and some were just every day things, no reason to stand out. I wont bore you with them, but like I said, aside from some of the obvious exciting ones, I do have memories from this age. Brains are magical

They are indeed, I study them for a living. And I know it's uncomfortable to think of your own memories as false memories. But if those memories were genuine you would be unique in the world and should get yourself to your nearest memory lab asap. Brains simply don't work like that, they need time to mature.

I could say that I study brains for a living too! In fact, I study brains for a living. . Also what I dot understand is how one can be called crazy for thinking its gross to have sex with a baby in the room. Isnt everyone entitled to an opinion or do some of you feel threatened?