Hello Ladies,
Sorry that I have not been online lately. I've been in the middle of Drama so it ended with me having to move because I was living with an alcoholic, so he was kicking me out every other day. So my friend whom I have known for 23 years asked me to move in with him. We're not dating, but we each want another baby so we've been discussing the pros and cons of having a baby together even if we are not together. I really want another baby, and he's an amazing father, he's the type of guy that would stick around for the baby even if we aren't together. So before that happens, it wouldn't be till sometime in the next year anyways, I have other goals to obtain, I want to finish my diploma program for photography first. Anyways I just wanted to come and say hi to you ladies. I also wanted to say if however I decide that he and I will not be having a child together I will be trying to concieve via IVF next year if I have not found a partner by then.
Hey Sweetmama,
It's great to hear from you, I was wondering how things were going. After the other ladies' replies I'm not going to seem near as sweet and supporting. But I really do understand your urgency...I've been there. But I hope that you won't do either of the above possibilities you're entertaining. Let your focus be on finding Mr. Right. Chances of that happening are quite high, as he is also out looking for you. I hope you find each other.
I believe YOU deserve a man who will cherish you throughout your pregnancy and who will be your true partner in parenting AND in life. Knowing someone for years, isn't the same as raising a child with them. There are so many things to disagree with when a child is involved. And thinking about having a baby with a man who is willing, is different than actually experiencing it. What I mean is, when you think about it, your fantasy will reveal an adorable baby with trips to the zoo and a man who is on board with everything you want. BUT the reality is, you will have things you disagree with. What if he wants the child raised in a certain religion you are opposed to? Or perhaps he wouldn't want the child raised in any religion, but you would. Maybe neither of you find that important now, but will change later? What if you don't like the new woman this man gets, the one you will have to share Christmas, Easter, Halloween, etc. with? What if he doesn't like the man you get? Maybe he won't like some dude being his kids' dad? These realities probably are not in your fantasies...I'm thinking.
As someone who has been counseling women in unplanned pregnancies for 10 years, I've seen many situations. Trust me, you don't want to purposely put yourself and a child in this situation. I keep in touch with many of these women, and have become friends with some of them. I get to see how their choices in men and situations have affected their lives.
Even in a good marriage, parenting with a husband can be HARD. In fact, just last night my husband pissed me off! LOL. It was a minor issue, but still! But in a marriage, you can better work through your parenting disagreements. I have a good friend who married her high school sweetheart. But about 14 years ago, while she was pregnant with their 2nd child, he started cheating on her. He then left her for that other women. And her life has been a living hell ever since. I can't count how many holidays she has spent alone, while her ex and his sweet thing, celebrate with her kids. And when her baby was born she had to turn him over on the weekends to sleep in bed, between her ex and his lover. Oh my gosh!!! What I'm trying to get at is, these people loved each other at one time, but parenting together, while they are not together is not a good situation (not that them being together is the answer! You have to
choose well when deciding who to share your life with and make babies with!!). Like the time her ex came to pick up her kids, but was drunk. She called the cops to tell them she wasn't going to release her kids to him because he was drunk. But the cops told her that because it was "court ordered" she had no choice. And this fool has even taken her to court recently for child support, because the poor guy is out of work.
Okay, so I have done a terrible job of expressing my thoughts. I've never been good at putting my thoughts in print. If you were right here, and I could talk to you face to face, I'd do a much better job. Plus, you'd hear in my voice that I truly care about you and worry about how this decision may have an outcome that would cause you much pain. Please know that I do understand where you are coming from! When I thought my time was running out to have another...I was thinking of similar ways to make it happen, too! I totally understand!
Warm regards,
Shellie
xx
We will find out the day of the sperm analysis whether we need ICSI as well. I know our FS is very over cautious and thats probably why they are doing this protocol ect...they have a very high success rate but that means more procedures and more meds for me.
Please put me in your positive thoughts that this works for us. I have to go on the pretense that it will no matter what!!!!
I start BCP on CD5 and continue BC for 21 days I think. 
