April Diamonds!! [2016 Rainbows]

[NavyLadybug]

It fits with our theme soooo perfectly and they are unisex to me (even though they say they are for boys, Mint has always been a unisex color for me) I did buy one each of the boy and girl specific outfits, but if its a girl I have a god son due in late Nov who can have the boy specific ones (the ones that say Handsome) and if it a boy I can give the girl specific outfit to my cousin who is having a baby girl around Xmas time.

I THINK I've posted this here, but just in case, this is the bedding we are getting:
https://i.imgur.com/LtSVPLJ.jpg

 

[firsttimer123]

So cute!

 

[NavyLadybug]

How are we all doing today?

 

[Sophie2015]

Sleepy! Didn't sleep worth a crap today and have to work a 12 hr shift tonight.

 

[ksierra44]

August 14th hcg 117.9 3 weeks 5 days
August 17th hcg 440.2 4 weeks 1 day

 

[KozmikKitten]

Those numbers look good ksierra!

I am doing ok. Didn't sleep at all last night, either! This pregnancy brain will not shut off. Wondering, worrying....Currently trying to figure out how I keep this from my bff at her birthday party on Fri night since we still aren't ready to tell. We will only be 5 weeks then.

 

[NavyLadybug]

Ksierra, WONDERFUL numbers!!!!

Kozmik, I feel you on the brain not shutting off and Sophie, I feel you on the sleepy!!!!

 

[ksierra44]

Its so hard not telling and people knew we were trying so anybody who has asked me if i was pregnant got me blushing like crazy and their answer. Im glad people know because i always follow up with please pray for me butit's super weird to bring it up and tell people when im so early and but then people get their feelings hurt that i haven't told them yet when some people know. It is crazy.

 

[NavyLadybug]

When we found out, we told our parents and grandparents. That's it. Ok, I told my best friend who supported me through my losses and TTC journey but other than that, we told no one. We haven't had trouble with it yet as far as wanting to tell people but as I get further I will probably have more trouble keeping it secret haha

 

[KozmikKitten]

I am totally expecting people to ask me if I'm pregnant yet, simply because they know we've been trying for so long. I havent quite figured out what my response will be yet...

 

[NavyLadybug]

Just smile and shrug, Kozmik, and then walk away, it'll keep em wondering LOL

 

[NDTaber9211]

First hcg is at 426. I go in again Wednesday to see if it's doubled. I really hope everything looks good.

 

[NavyLadybug]

Great first number Taber!!!

 

[firsttimer123]

I am finally feeling nauseous! Lol and am happy about it! We had a housewRming last weekend and I just pretended to drink (hubby pretended to mix me them) I think you can just say we are hopeful for good news soon or something like that! I told my siblings and parents and best friend but no one else until at least scan... With my mmc, we told no one. So it was hard to then tell family and get the help we needed...

 

[NavyLadybug]

For me, it was always important to tell family such as parents and grandparents, the baby was their grandchild no matter the outcome and they deserve to know, thats just my take though. In my family, MCs and Stillborns are a big issue. My paternal grandmother had 8 (5 first trimester, 2 second trimester one of which was with twins, and one stillborn at 7 1/2 months. She only had one living child, my father, and he's dead now as well) and mother and maternal grandmother both had one. so the issue for us is honestly expected, we all hold our breath with each pregnancy, expecting the worst but hoping for the best. It's a sad reality for us, but it's ours and honestly, without that support system I would have broken down long ago.

 

[firsttimer123]

Yes nice to have ppl that understand... My sisters and mother all have never experienced mc so was hard for them to understand, luckily these forums exist

 

[NavyLadybug]

It can be hard for many people to understand and everyone handles it different. My mother and maternal grandmother weren't really supportive, they view it as something that happens and to just get over it as quickly as possible. My paternal grandmother however, was much more supportive and spoke to me about it and supported my therapy techniques proposed to my by my counselor, while my mother and maternal grandmother just brushed them off as being ridiculous. It hurt to know that they thought this, but with my paternal grandmothers help, i grieved properly each time and I still grieve.

 

[jtink28]

my stepmother was cruel about my mc and never even contacted me about it (she lives 2,000 miles away). no phone call, nothing. but none of my friends had ever had a miscarriage, and they were really awkward talking to me about it. i wished i'd never told them i was pregnant in the first place, that's why we are waiting this time.

the only person who was really kind about it was my grandmother's sister, who is in her 80's. (my grandmother passed away years ago). my aunt susan had one child, then tried for years in the 50's to have another, but had mc after mc. they finally adopted another child, and when i had my miscarriage she was so kind and understanding. but most people were very awkward.

 

[NavyLadybug]

That's awful Jtink and I understand the awkwardness part, but it really is something hard to completely understand and empathize with if you haven't gone through it yourself.

 

[KozmikKitten]

After I had my first m/c back in 2011 I realized how unsupportive I had been to a couple friends who had let me know they had had a m/c. I got a lot of terrible comments with that one from friends who did not understand. Now that I've had 3 and I do not stay quiet about that, I have learned ways to help others get through. Unfortunately it is terrible what people will say when they don't understand. :/