I didnt know you could have a blood test to determine gender? How does that work I wonder? Exciting though!! xxx
We had lunch with my parents yesterday and my mom dropped quite the bomb yesterday: she wants to move in with us after the LO is born... EEEEK! I'm glad DH didn't hear her saying this. I told her she is welcome to come and help around during working hours (9-5) and in particular to help around the house, bring us lunch, do dishes etc. But there is no way it is convenient for anyone to live in. What about am feedings, she asked. And I answered, what are you going to do in the am? Milk me like a cow? I'm going to BF so there is no way you can help with the baby. You can help me, but there is no need to help with the baby in the early days. When it is a little older she can babysit all she likes.
Notes: she was appalled on the words BF (she didn't BF me or my sis) and she was disapointed that she is not allowed to play mommy on my expense.
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We had lunch with my parents yesterday and my mom dropped quite the bomb yesterday: she wants to move in with us after the LO is born... EEEEK! I'm glad DH didn't hear her saying this. I told her she is welcome to come and help around during working hours (9-5) and in particular to help around the house, bring us lunch, do dishes etc. But there is no way it is convenient for anyone to live in. What about am feedings, she asked. And I answered, what are you going to do in the am? Milk me like a cow? I'm going to BF so there is no way you can help with the baby. You can help me, but there is no need to help with the baby in the early days. When it is a little older she can babysit all she likes.
Notes: she was appalled on the words BF (she didn't BF me or my sis) and she was disapointed that she is not allowed to play mommy on my expense.
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Oh my gosh I would die if this happened!!! I cannot believe she wants to move in! You guys need time as a family, and this is YOUR baby. Also, i actualy lol when you said "milk me like a cow". So funny!!!
Obviously all help is appreciated, but there is a line!!!
When our in laws come over the first time (they live in another country) I am considering asking them to stay elsewhere, as I feel like having them in the house 24/7 would be too much for me when I am just getting used to my baby!
We had lunch with my parents yesterday and my mom dropped quite the bomb yesterday: she wants to move in with us after the LO is born... EEEEK! I'm glad DH didn't hear her saying this. I told her she is welcome to come and help around during working hours (9-5) and in particular to help around the house, bring us lunch, do dishes etc. But there is no way it is convenient for anyone to live in. What about am feedings, she asked. And I answered, what are you going to do in the am? Milk me like a cow? I'm going to BF so there is no way you can help with the baby. You can help me, but there is no need to help with the baby in the early days. When it is a little older she can babysit all she likes.
Notes: she was appalled on the words BF (she didn't BF me or my sis) and she was disapointed that she is not allowed to play mommy on my expense.
Those with kids how do you prevent those too eager to parent your babies for you without your consent? I know it is going to be a toughy for me and my mom. She doesn't really want to help me, she just wants to play with the baby all day, while I do the housecleaning.
I didnt know you could have a blood test to determine gender? How does that work I wonder? Exciting though!! xxx
I dont think its available in evey country because of the ethical issues it raises. In some countries like in India and China people would probably get it done jus to make sure they dont have girls. There is some info on the net.
Over here, in Spain, is called detesex (it has different names in different countries) and I think what they do is look at the chromosomes or something. When we are pregnant we get baby's DNA on our bloodstream, the quantity increases with time, so to be completely sure they recommend doin it from week 8, but its more accurate from 9 onwards. If the find any fragments with a Y chromosome its gonna be a boy, if they don't there its a girls. Its nearly 100% accurate. If the lab isnt sure for whatever reason they repeat the test before letting you know.
The only thing is its not realiable with multiples or after a miscarriage. A few months have to have past so your system is "clean" again.
kealz- you sound exactly like me! I had to laugh at your post, because I am exactly the same with my OH, he has no common sense either. His job is to clean the bathroom at the moment, he cleaned the toilet and the sink but left the bath!!! Then he thought he had ''earned'' the right to play FIFA!!! can you imagine!?! such a douche! lol
lily - Its good that you set your mum straight, my ex MIL was over bearing and wouldn't let me breast feed my daughter, she said my daughter was too fat, even though the midwife said she was on the right centinile for her age, every time we went there she refused to let my daughter feed and stuffed a dummy in her mouth in stead my milk dried up from the stress and lack of feeds and I regret so badly not telling her how I really felt about it. But I was young and didn't want her to hate me so I let her carry on. I think that people can mean well but babies mummy knows best and that sometimes part of being a good mum is telling the rest of the world where to shove their ''help'' lol.
My brother is super close to me, we went through some stuff together as kids so he is the only one ever allowed to turn up without asking first. My dad generally does too but if he knows I'm tired he will usually ask me first. But yeh I'm like you readytomum most people aren't allowed to just turn up so soon after. I like a few days of me and baby to ourselves too, so we usually wont see friends or family for the first 2 days, just my kids and OH.
Today I got my first belly bands from newlook, 3 for a tenner isn't bad! and a gorgeous top with butterflies on! I felt the waddle taking over today. I feel my hips are looser now. Our boiler was written off this morning because it was leaking gas and carbonmonoxide, I've been told that baby is safe and the kids are safe though as levels were super low but they have shut it off, which also means no hot water until tomorrow at least STRESS!!!
Hope everyone is doing well.... At the moment I am staying with my parents. My DH has decided to resort back to his college days & do nothing but drink beer & let his kids run the house. I tried to lay down yesterday evening for a short nap but he decided to let the kids play the wii game so he could drink beer & play his facebook game. Well yall all know that kids playing the wii is not a quiet house. So between doors slamming & kids screaming & yelling I got absolutely no rest. When I finally gave up & went to the bathroom, he smiled at me & said "Are we bothering you?" He knew damn well they were keeping me awake & he was doing it on purpose. Now mind you all last week from the time I would get home from work to the time I would go to bed all he would do was sit in our office playing his facebook game & drinking his beer. He didn't say 30 words to me all week. Then on Friday he drank an entire 30 pack of beer until 4am Saturday which led to him sleeping most of the day Saturday until he woke up & started it all over again. I just don't know what has happened. I'm so lost, confused, angry, sad. I want to crawl into a corner & fall apart, but I'm stuck here at work trying to hold it together...
Hope everyone is doing well.... At the moment I am staying with my parents. My DH has decided to resort back to his college days & do nothing but drink beer & let his kids run the house. I tried to lay down yesterday evening for a short nap but he decided to let the kids play the wii game so he could drink beer & play his facebook game. Well yall all know that kids playing the wii is not a quiet house. So between doors slamming & kids screaming & yelling I got absolutely no rest. When I finally gave up & went to the bathroom, he smiled at me & said "Are we bothering you?" He knew damn well they were keeping me awake & he was doing it on purpose. Now mind you all last week from the time I would get home from work to the time I would go to bed all he would do was sit in our office playing his facebook game & drinking his beer. He didn't say 30 words to me all week. Then on Friday he drank an entire 30 pack of beer until 4am Saturday which led to him sleeping most of the day Saturday until he woke up & started it all over again. I just don't know what has happened. I'm so lost, confused, angry, sad. I want to crawl into a corner & fall apart, but I'm stuck here at work trying to hold it together...
Thank you! It really sucks bad!Aw Hun sorry your dh is being an arse at the mo and hope its gets easier for you! Hugs x
I have tried talking to him. His way of handling things is to get drunk & avoid them. I have tried sitting down & talking. I have tried emailing him (he doesn't respond). I have tried bringing up possible counseling (where he told me straight up he doesn't need it, maybe I do, but he doesn't). At this point I don't know what else to try.Oh YUCK! Sorry your dealing with this!
Have you tried to talk to him? I knows its easier said then done but I find it usually works better. If I wait until I'm really upset, then he just gets defensive and shuts down. But maybe just sitting him down and telling him how upset and hurt you are by his behavior, may help?
Last time I send it in a text (silly I know, but it was the only way to do it without getting to mad) and just explained that I felt hurt by his behavior and just wanted him to know, before it turned into a fight. It did work.
I have tried talking to him. His way of handling things is to get drunk & avoid them. I have tried sitting down & talking. I have tried emailing him (he doesn't respond). I have tried bringing up possible counseling (where he told me straight up he doesn't need it, maybe I do, but he doesn't). At this point I don't know what else to try.Oh YUCK! Sorry your dealing with this!
Have you tried to talk to him? I knows its easier said then done but I find it usually works better. If I wait until I'm really upset, then he just gets defensive and shuts down. But maybe just sitting him down and telling him how upset and hurt you are by his behavior, may help?
Last time I send it in a text (silly I know, but it was the only way to do it without getting to mad) and just explained that I felt hurt by his behavior and just wanted him to know, before it turned into a fight. It did work.