I think it's really sad.
I think much of it is the fact that the definition of a parenting style ('attached parent') immediately creates a divide. There is no common definition for the opposite (hence the thread in BC that just calls them "Mums like this" or something like that) - so perhaps that creates the feeling that attached parents believe they are parenting on a more 'conscious' level - ie putting more consideration into their choices (I'm not saying it's true - I'm saying that maybe because a definition exists for AP but not for the opposite, that it might make people feel that way). It becomes a 'them VS us' situation - the feeling which lingers behind most of the debates on here (bf vs ff, erf vs ff, working mum vs sahm, etc etc). It's sad because the divide is totally unecessary - it's like the fact that we all mothers is totally forgotten.
I definitely get the sense that if you are a natural parent it isn't 'cool' in Baby Club at the moment. I've never defined my parenting style but many of my beliefs lie with natural parenting, and the way I parent is completely different to all of my friends so I'm very much used to being 'the odd one out'. The only difference is that in real life, my friends don't assume they must have nothing in common with me because I use cloth/breastfeed/feed my baby to sleep whereas they use disposables/FF/use CC - we just share stories about our children and we learn from each other, as it should be on here.
I think much of it is the fact that the definition of a parenting style ('attached parent') immediately creates a divide. There is no common definition for the opposite (hence the thread in BC that just calls them "Mums like this" or something like that) - so perhaps that creates the feeling that attached parents believe they are parenting on a more 'conscious' level - ie putting more consideration into their choices (I'm not saying it's true - I'm saying that maybe because a definition exists for AP but not for the opposite, that it might make people feel that way). It becomes a 'them VS us' situation - the feeling which lingers behind most of the debates on here (bf vs ff, erf vs ff, working mum vs sahm, etc etc). It's sad because the divide is totally unecessary - it's like the fact that we all mothers is totally forgotten.
I definitely get the sense that if you are a natural parent it isn't 'cool' in Baby Club at the moment. I've never defined my parenting style but many of my beliefs lie with natural parenting, and the way I parent is completely different to all of my friends so I'm very much used to being 'the odd one out'. The only difference is that in real life, my friends don't assume they must have nothing in common with me because I use cloth/breastfeed/feed my baby to sleep whereas they use disposables/FF/use CC - we just share stories about our children and we learn from each other, as it should be on here.