Bellys to Bumps

[4magpies]

Traskey good luck for today honey hope everything goes okay.

xxx

 

[april05]

Hey Traskey, Good luck today pet xxxx

 

[EmmyReece]

can I join in too please?

I'm Emily and have been ttc on and off since May 2008. I currently weigh 159.3 kgs, which is something like 350 lbs I've been working really hard and have lost 11.4 kgs or 25.08 lbs since June last year due to a weight management programme that the dr put me on when all of my pcos tests came back clear.

From November 2009 until July last year I didn't have a single af visit, but as the weight started coming off the started making visits to me again. My last cycle was 40 days long, but this one seems to be a bit longer as I'm on cd 43 today and no sign of af turning up or a bfp, so I'm petrified that I'm going to have either another really long cycle or the has decided to disappear on me again

On a lighter note we're booking a holiday to Turkey in December, which I'm using as an extra incentive to try and lose the weight.

I just want a baby bump so badly and am willing to do anything to get there

 

[4magpies]

Welcome Emmy, lovely to see you in here.

Awesome group of ladies.

xxxxx

 

[EmmyReece]

thanks for the warm welcome hun

 

[Love2bamummy]

Welcome EmmyReece, and well done for your weight loss so far. Look forward to having many chats with you on here. They're a bunch of great ladies, we have a good laugh and moan!

 

[Love2bamummy]

Is everyone examining their mucus!! lol

 

[4magpies]

It's one of my fave hobbies in the 2WW love2b!!

xxx

 

[EmmyReece]

yeah I do it too ... mine is thick and white atm

 

[zowiey]

Hello Ladies!

Funnily enough Heather, I have been checking mine today! But I never note down what type I have at certain times of the month, so I have no idea if it's good or not!

I have my weigh in today, and I'm not feeling very hopefull for a loss, just feeling a bit fat today!

 

[Love2bamummy]

Well Zoe (you make me laugh!! ), I've been reading into this very subject..... lol. My findings are as follows...

Moist or Sticky Early Mucus: Scanty, Thick, White, Sticky, Holds its shape (Not good for conceiving, the can't get through!)

Wetter Transitional Mucus: Increasing Amounts, Thinner, Cloudy, Slightly Stretchy (getting better - might have a chance!)

Slippery Highly Fertile Mucus: Profuse, Thin, Transparent, Stretchy (like raw egg white) Woo ha! Get going ladies!!

So you see ladies the wetter the better!

 

[zowiey]

The wetter the better!!

 

[Love2bamummy]

You got it!

 

[gingerroxi]

Does anyone else feel the - often embarrassing - need to jump their DH/OH when they come in the door, proclaiming "I've got (fill in blanks) type of CM/gobs today!!!

I sometimes think he's going to walk back out again!!

Having a hard time at the moment. AF was due yesterday but I've only been spotting - this has happened for months now but I was reading on a website that this is abnormal and could be the result of low progestrone. I got my bloods taken at day 21 back in June but they never mentioned my level, just said that I was ovulating

I can't help but obsess that this is the reason we're not having a bean that sticks!!

I've also been MEGA hungry the past few days - odd considering that normally I'm extremely nauseous just before and during my period. Trying not to get my hopes up as I have for the past 18 months; I just get upset when the arrives and OH has had to mop up many a tear!

Decided to stuff the diet tonight and we're heading out for our 2 and 1/2 year anniversary. Will worry about the weight loss/gain tomorrow.

Also, EmmyReece and good luck with the weight loss.

 

[Tarkwa]

Does anyone else feel the - often embarrassing - need to jump their DH/OH when they come in the door, proclaiming "I've got (fill in blanks) type of CM/gobs today!!!

I sometimes think he's going to walk back out again!!

LOVE IT!!! I do exactly that!!! I tell him "I'm eggy" and rather than take the hint, he goes "how do you know that?"!!!! Honestly - each time I've had to tell him, but last month I offered to show him my EWCM and I don't think he'll be questioning me any more!!!

Welcome Emmy, you'll love it on here - such a great bunch of ladies. We have a laugh, we have a moan, but we're always here for each other. You've made a FANTASTIC start to your weight loss - well done you! FX'd for a series of BFPs in February!

Traskey, hope today went well for you chick - let us know how you got on, won't you.

 

[Tarkwa]

Ooh, and I've been to the gym today to make up for lunch yesterday. 45 mins on the machines and 30mins/lengths in the pool. Feeling very chuffed with myself . Am having lunch at work again tomorrow - have a feeling I've ordered far too much food for our visitors and I hate waste I just need to keep it under control and not stuff my face with the cake! DH is away again tonight; he has a uni exam so I'm on my own with puss for company. Have no idea what to make myself for diiner - I hate meals for 'one'. He gets back home tomorrow afternoon and then I have him all weekend . I'm getting close to O'ing so there's gonna be plenty of !!!
xxx

 

[Traskey]

Hey everyone and welcome to EmmyReece. What a fun time you guys have been having today. I wasn't sure whether to post this today, didn't want to bring the fun down but you have all been so kind wishing me well at the FS clinic.

Ok, here goes.

We saw a fertility specialist nurse who was actually really nice. Unfortunately, the news she had was not so nice

She took our general history, was I ovulating, length of periods, how often we were having sex, cervical secretions etc. Took details of my hystopscopy last year and then basic info from DH, who came with me. She did ask for my height and weight and calculated my BMI.

We were then told that DH sperm count was low. This was a shock as the doctor had told us that it was ok. Morphology is ok, there just aren't a lot of them. Combine this with my age our best chance of conception would be IVF.

Now for the bad news. The PCT guidance is no IVF or assisted conception unless my BMI is under 30. No flexibility at all. She was very kind and said she was very pleased I was doing WW and exercising but that the BMI limit was 30 and that was it. I of course couldn't stop the tears from leaking out my eyes at this point and she was really nice about it. You also need at least 6 months prior to being 40 for IVF to be considered so I would need to get the BMI down to 30 by my next appointment in April. Thats a weight loss of about 5lbs a week, every week for the next 10 weeks. Unless a miracle happens, I cannot see how that will be achievable.

The nurse knew this too and so started to talk to us about other options. Private IVF doesn't have BMI restrictions, could we afford that? Tbh, no. We spent all our savings on the wedding last year Our parents couldn't help out. Get a loan? Maybe, not sure. I was understandably upset but calm and polite to her and she appreciated it. She is giving us every test she can on the NHS to try and save us money if we can go private. DH is being sent for another SA, in a clinic in London this time. They are repeating my fertility tests with bloods at 7 days before my period (for progesterone) and day 2-4 bloods (for FSH and Oestradiol). They are also sending me for an HSG exam.

Frankly, I am devestated but I am glad I was at least a little prepared that it would be the case. DH says it's his fault. I say it's my fault because if his wife wasn't so fat they could have put the sperm in for us! I have cried, I still cry on and off. I will, of course, bounce back. I usually do. We will continue to try naturally as there is still a small chance we could get lucky and it never hurts to hope for a miracle. I just wish I had more time, maybe I could have lost the weight. I should have looked into this sooner and started the weight loss journey sooner but you never think you are going to have problems conveiving do you? Everyone around me has had no problems at all and my education on the potential problems was sorely lacking.

DH was meant to go back to work this afternoon. He called work and they gave him the rest of the day off so we went and had lunch together and just enjoyed being in each other's company.

Thanks for all your kind words and support. Giant and best wishes
Tracey x

 

[Traskey]

Oh, I asked about Clomid, but they said I wasn't a suitable candidate as it looked like I was ovulating on my own (which I hoped so too!). DH had to pop back after our bloodtests and the couple that went in after us had left the nurse in tears. They had been told they weren't suitable for IVF, for other reasons and the male partner had been really awful to her. She did say that she was sorry she couldn't help us as much as we would like, (not her fault) but that she was trying to save us as much money as possible by doing as many tests as was in her power to offer. I've always been glad that my parents taught me to be polite and dignified, even in adversity. You catch more honey with flies than vinegar, my father always said!

 

[EmmyReece]

ohhhh hun, I have no advice, but please, please, please don't blame yourself easier said than done, I know (I have moments where I tell my fella to find someone else so that he can be a daddy)

keep at the weight loss hun, it looks like you've made a brill start already

has anyone heard of drinking a glass of water when you wake up in the morning with a squeeze of lemon juice in it? my nurse recommended it to me as it helps to kick start the metabolism

 

[Tarkwa]

Oh Traskey, you poor thing . You've brought a tear to my eye reading this . I know exactly how you feel chick as we've had similar problems (DH SA ok, but really not brilliant and my BMI). It's hard and I so wish you every bit of luck I have. If I was with you right now, I'd be giving you the biggest hug I could, and not letting go until you felt a tiny bit better. Take your time taking this in - it's a lot of info with a lot of options. Anything I can do to help please let me know; we're all here for you.
xxx