susan_1981
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Sorry this could be a bit of a long one but I was just wondering if anyone had any experience with this.
I took my 10 month old to softplay on Wednesday. I was with my mum, 12 year old niece and 2 year old son. I don't entirely remember what happened because I didn't think anything significant about it at the time.
Anyway, I was over in another part of the softplay (it's all open plan), my mum was watching my youngest who is climbing all over the place. He's at the stage where climbing is his hobby but he falls a lot as he's obviously just learning about balance. So anyway, my mum was watching him. He was literally just in front of her but she got distracted for a moment and he fell in this time. Unfortunately he fell outside of the mats and hit his head on the parquet flooring (which is obviously very hard). He was really crying but my mum picked him up straight away but he wouldn't settle on her so I took him. He eventually calmed down. As I said, he falls a lot and I didn't think anything particularly of it as he always gets tired and grumpy around that time. So I took him off my mum and he finally settled (he wasn't crying for particularly long). He had a nap in the car on the way home, when he got home, he had his lunch and then had his afternoon nap as usual.
I got him in the bath after his nap and my husband came home while I was bathing him and noticed the bump. He'd actually just knocked his head on a toy that was stuck to the side of the bath but he didn't even cry but I just assumed that he'd got the bump from that. I'd forgotten about the fall earlier that day.
So this was Wednesday. I've just started a new job and haven't seen much of my children this week because I've been leaving before they get up and getting home in time to make their dinner, bath them and get them to bed. Yesterday, me and my husband noticed that the lump was still there and hadn't got any smaller. We decided just to be safe to take him to the local walk in centre. He'd been absolutely fine in himself, no sleepiness, no sickness. Nothing, he was as alert and active as he always is so I thought I could possibly be overreacting but you can never be too careful. They couldn't tell if there was a small fracture so sent us to A&E. We took him to A&E where he had an x-ray which confirmed a small fracture (but it hadn't depressed - something like that). They said it was a very minor fracture but as it was a head injury, they needed to report it to Social Services. I said this was obviously upsetting as I only brought him to A&E out of caring and love for him. But I said I understood they have procedures to follow.
Thought that he would be able to come home today but they said he needs to stay in until at least Wednesday as, because the accident was "unwitnessed" (I don't know what difference this makes), they need to do a full bone scan of his body to check for anything else. I've been through with them time and time again what happened. It's impossible for me to have my eyes permanently on my children, they are going to explore and they are going to fall every now and again. The point is that I am always there if they fall. I never leave my children unattended.
I am just beside myself with worry. I don't understand why he can't come home. They have me and my husband sharing a private room with our son at the hospital, they are letting me come home to my 2 year old. We have no criminal records, no history of any violence or anything else. We are the best parents that we can be.
I know they have procedures but it does seem ridiculous that they can let me home to my 2 year old but it's not safe for my 10 month old to come home.
I've now been reading up some horror stories on parents who have lost their children because of things like this. Has anyone had experience with a situation like this or a minor skull fracture? They've said that the fracture should heal on its own. I understand they have procedures but I feel like I'm being persecuted for Social Services not doing their jobs properly in the past, resulting in high profile cases in the press.
So has anyone had any experience? My sister in law (who has the same surname as me) has social services involved with her children but that's nothing to do with her. It's to do with her boyfriend who was in prison. So I don't know if this is making them even more wary of us.
I took my 10 month old to softplay on Wednesday. I was with my mum, 12 year old niece and 2 year old son. I don't entirely remember what happened because I didn't think anything significant about it at the time.
Anyway, I was over in another part of the softplay (it's all open plan), my mum was watching my youngest who is climbing all over the place. He's at the stage where climbing is his hobby but he falls a lot as he's obviously just learning about balance. So anyway, my mum was watching him. He was literally just in front of her but she got distracted for a moment and he fell in this time. Unfortunately he fell outside of the mats and hit his head on the parquet flooring (which is obviously very hard). He was really crying but my mum picked him up straight away but he wouldn't settle on her so I took him. He eventually calmed down. As I said, he falls a lot and I didn't think anything particularly of it as he always gets tired and grumpy around that time. So I took him off my mum and he finally settled (he wasn't crying for particularly long). He had a nap in the car on the way home, when he got home, he had his lunch and then had his afternoon nap as usual.
I got him in the bath after his nap and my husband came home while I was bathing him and noticed the bump. He'd actually just knocked his head on a toy that was stuck to the side of the bath but he didn't even cry but I just assumed that he'd got the bump from that. I'd forgotten about the fall earlier that day.
So this was Wednesday. I've just started a new job and haven't seen much of my children this week because I've been leaving before they get up and getting home in time to make their dinner, bath them and get them to bed. Yesterday, me and my husband noticed that the lump was still there and hadn't got any smaller. We decided just to be safe to take him to the local walk in centre. He'd been absolutely fine in himself, no sleepiness, no sickness. Nothing, he was as alert and active as he always is so I thought I could possibly be overreacting but you can never be too careful. They couldn't tell if there was a small fracture so sent us to A&E. We took him to A&E where he had an x-ray which confirmed a small fracture (but it hadn't depressed - something like that). They said it was a very minor fracture but as it was a head injury, they needed to report it to Social Services. I said this was obviously upsetting as I only brought him to A&E out of caring and love for him. But I said I understood they have procedures to follow.
Thought that he would be able to come home today but they said he needs to stay in until at least Wednesday as, because the accident was "unwitnessed" (I don't know what difference this makes), they need to do a full bone scan of his body to check for anything else. I've been through with them time and time again what happened. It's impossible for me to have my eyes permanently on my children, they are going to explore and they are going to fall every now and again. The point is that I am always there if they fall. I never leave my children unattended.
I am just beside myself with worry. I don't understand why he can't come home. They have me and my husband sharing a private room with our son at the hospital, they are letting me come home to my 2 year old. We have no criminal records, no history of any violence or anything else. We are the best parents that we can be.
I know they have procedures but it does seem ridiculous that they can let me home to my 2 year old but it's not safe for my 10 month old to come home.
I've now been reading up some horror stories on parents who have lost their children because of things like this. Has anyone had experience with a situation like this or a minor skull fracture? They've said that the fracture should heal on its own. I understand they have procedures but I feel like I'm being persecuted for Social Services not doing their jobs properly in the past, resulting in high profile cases in the press.
So has anyone had any experience? My sister in law (who has the same surname as me) has social services involved with her children but that's nothing to do with her. It's to do with her boyfriend who was in prison. So I don't know if this is making them even more wary of us.