I don't think I'm overreacting. People have had their children taken away for less than this. He would have been able to come home the following day but because they are investigating this, they won't let him home.
I don't understand how anyone could say I'm potentially overreacting when innocent families have their children taken from them, sometimes for things less than this. I've stupidly read some horror stories on situations like this. One lady took her daughter to hospital because her 3 year old fell on her leg and fractured it. The hospital came to the conclusion that they didn't think this could have caused the injury. They took her children away from her.
I don't know any of the peoples history or past in these cases obviously but it puts the absolute fear of god in me.
And no, I don't have any form of depression, post natal or otherwise. I can't eat, I can't sleep. My children are the most important things in my whole life. And if there is even a slight risk that they could be taken away from me, I'm going to feel like this! I don't think I'd be human if I didn't feel this way.
My sister in law has experience with social services. Nothing to do with her. It's her partner. He's been in prison but has never ever harmed a child. She has said numerous times that they are an absolute nightmare. And just from googling it (evil I know!), there are just too many horror stories.
But I do know that they have to do their jobs and they have procedures to follow. I just feel like they are tearing my family apart. If my son was being kept in as they wanted to observe him, that would be fine. But he isn't. They said he would have been allowed to come home but because it was an "unwitnessed" accident, he can't. They have said the fracture is very minor and will heal on its own.
My son isn't even allowed to leave the ward. Yesterday, my husband was there while I went home to get some stuff and the nurse came in and almost had a panic attack when she couldn't see where my son was. He was sleeping in his buggy.
It's so difficult and I keep trying to rationalise with myself that there's nothing I can do about it. He's in safe hands. I just can't get it out of my mind that there could be a risk that he's taken away from me.
My 2 year old is missing his brother so badly. He never wakes in the night but woke last night crying in his sleep and saying "no no no". When he got up, I said "shall we go see the bub (that's what he calls his brother) and he got so excited and ran to his room but he wasn't there. So then he ran to the top of the stairs thinking he was down there. When we got downstairs and he realised he wasn't there, he started crying and saying "bub" over and over again and only calmed down when I told him that we needed to get his shoes on so that we can go see the bub.
My sister and mum have both said they've never seen my youngest so sad. He's such a happy boy. He was eating fine until we took him to hospital. Now he barely wants to eat and his diet is mainly formula at the moment. He's stressed, my other son is stressed, my husband is stressed. We are all going through emotional hell yet people on here say I'm overreacting x
Oh my goodness, this story is terrifying!! Big hugs to you! I just can't understand how this is social services doing their jobs and following procedure and I work with children!! How can it possibly be normal procedure to investigate every family whose child bumps their head? Especially given the stage of development that your child is at? My LO is at the same stage and falls several times every day even with me right there! It only takes a second! What, exactly, do they think you've done wrong? Doesn't every child at this stage of development fall over and bang their head?
Did the children of these social workers and/or whoever reported you never bang their heads at this stage of development? It's just pure luck that mine has only ever banged her head on carpet (once on the glass in the living room door but no bump thankfully). My friend's LO is similar age but is walking and starting to run and he has a good few wee marks on his face and head from falling over loads. I was in for an hour earlier and he must have tripped about five times in that hour! How on earth are you supposed to avoid that? Xx
My sister in law has experience with social services. Nothing to do with her. It's her partner. He's been in prison but has never ever harmed a child. She has said numerous times that they are an absolute nightmare. And just from googling it (evil I know!), there are just too many horror stories.
But I do know that they have to do their jobs and they have procedures to follow. I just feel like they are tearing my family apart. If my son was being kept in as they wanted to observe him, that would be fine. But he isn't. They said he would have been allowed to come home but because it was an "unwitnessed" accident, he can't. They have said the fracture is very minor and will heal on its own.
My son isn't even allowed to leave the ward. Yesterday, my husband was there while I went home to get some stuff and the nurse came in and almost had a panic attack when she couldn't see where my son was. He was sleeping in his buggy.
It's so difficult and I keep trying to rationalise with myself that there's nothing I can do about it. He's in safe hands. I just can't get it out of my mind that there could be a risk that he's taken away from me.
My 2 year old is missing his brother so badly. He never wakes in the night but woke last night crying in his sleep and saying "no no no". When he got up, I said "shall we go see the bub (that's what he calls his brother) and he got so excited and ran to his room but he wasn't there. So then he ran to the top of the stairs thinking he was down there. When we got downstairs and he realised he wasn't there, he started crying and saying "bub" over and over again and only calmed down when I told him that we needed to get his shoes on so that we can go see the bub.
My sister and mum have both said they've never seen my youngest so sad. He's such a happy boy. He was eating fine until we took him to hospital. Now he barely wants to eat and his diet is mainly formula at the moment. He's stressed, my other son is stressed, my husband is stressed. We are all going through emotional hell yet people on here say I'm overreacting x
I would be absolutely beside myself if this happened to me. I'm so sorry your family has to go through this.
I don't have much advice to offer, except that maybe googling stories isn't the best way to pass your time. I'm sure it's easy to find horror stories when you look for them.
I hope everything is put right very soon for you, and if I was in your shoes I think I'd just have to trust that the social services system will not fail you when they realize there is no potential danger to your babies.
I can assure you that innocent families do NOT have their children just taken away and stories stating otherwise are exaggerated, missing information or scaremongering. As I've stated before on a previous thread, obtaining a child removal order is extremely difficult and rare. And I say this having friends who are social workers and working with them in a professional capacity.
I understand that this is upsetting for you but it's simply not the case that your child would be let home the following day following a skull fracture. A head injury is dangerous at the best of times let alone in a child. I had an adult patient become self injurious to the point where they developed a minor skull fracture and they were kept in the head injury unit for a week. This is entirely normal.
The reason your son is not allowed to leave the ward is because of how quickly a complication with a head injury can develop. Likewise his BP being taken frequently - it's an easy to monitor test that will show any issues quickly. He's in the best place he can be.
Thank you but innocent families do get their children taken away, even if it's temporary. My mother in law was telling me about her friend whose child managed to hurt themselves by the ironing board or something falling on them. Then their uncle came to see the child later and he kind of lifted the child in the air, you know, harmless kind of thing that children love, and he accidentally banged her head on the light. She took her daughter to hospital because she'd bumped her head (I don't think it fractured). They took her daughter away until they had further investigations.
I can't help but worry and I think anyone in my situation would be the same.
I can assure you that innocent families do NOT have their children just taken away and stories stating otherwise are exaggerated, missing information or scaremongering. As I've stated before on a previous thread, obtaining a child removal order is extremely difficult and rare. And I say this having friends who are social workers and working with them in a professional capacity.
I understand that this is upsetting for you but it's simply not the case that your child would be let home the following day following a skull fracture. A head injury is dangerous at the best of times let alone in a child. I had an adult patient become self injurious to the point where they developed a minor skull fracture and they were kept in the head injury unit for a week. This is entirely normal.
The reason your son is not allowed to leave the ward is because of how quickly a complication with a head injury can develop. Likewise his BP being taken frequently - it's an easy to monitor test that will show any issues quickly. He's in the best place he can be.
I just don't agree with this. The doctors said the only reason we are staying in is because it's an unwitnessed attack. It happened almost a week ago. They've given him a CT scan, they've x-rayed him which has confirmed it is a minor skull fracture. It hasn't depressed into the skull (something like that).
And innocent families DO have their children taken from them - even if it is just temporarily. My mother in law knows a family that it happened to. I know there are always going to be horror stories on the internet but people do go through this. I just hope that my family isn't one of those because we've done nothing wrong.