susan_1981
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I'm not telling the OP that she's over reacting. I'm acrudely trying to alleviate her worries by advising her that these actions are normal and to not panic that her child will be removed as it won't happen.
You've not said anything wrong
We have a difference of opinion on this. There are always two sides to every story and the family know the truth but there are so many cases of children being taken from them when they appear to be clearly innocent. There are even support groups for this.
https://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse...ff-43/1031592-accused-hurting-my-baby-69.html
I have read every single page of this thread. Everyone is behind this poor, poor woman yet it is looking very likely that her children will be taken off of her because of a freak accident.
https://www.forced-adoption.com/introduction.asp
https://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse...l-social-services-take-my-4-children-all.html - This is a clear case of innocent children being removed from their family.
And to be honest, I wouldn't expect anyone who works in the childcare industry to admit to these failings because it doesn't look good. Social Services in the case above didn't admit they were wrong. They just dropped the case because they didn't have a leg to stand on. No apology, they just congratulated her for getting her children back!!!
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...al-services-taking-child-gives-birth-son.html
All I'm saying is that it does happen to innocent families.
As I've said quite a few times, I understand that Social Services HAVE to make sure they don't put a child back into an unsafe environment (yet they run their checks on us while letting our 2 year old stay at home with us). I completely understand this but from two of those stories, there seemed to be no investigation into the parenting. Social Services have completely messed up as well with the first case. It was a first time, freak accident. SS lost her child's nursery file because that particular social worker messed up. She then went on sick leave which leads me (and most people on netmums) to believe it was lost on purpose as the Judge was very annoyed that Social Services had sat on this case for so long. I know they must be very busy but children need their parents. This case has been going on for almost a year now (if not longer) and she still doesn't have a final decision. Social Services need to do their job better! They don't understand the heartbreak they cause to not just the parents but the whole family. My 2 year old hasn't been the same since this happened and has now developed a bit of separation anxiety. He has never been a clingy baby.
He cries until he sees his brother in the mornings because he's not sure whether he's there. He's not sleeping as well. He woke the other night crying in his sleep saying "no no no". When my youngest was in hospital, when I got him up, he'd run into his brother's room then run straight to the top of the stairs where we go down. Then he realises that his brother isn't there and started crying "bub bub bub". My youngest wouldn't eat when he was at the hospital, he just survived on formula. It's all he would take - he'd been eating fine up until that point and has returned to eating fine since being home. My family said they'd never seen my youngest look so sad.
It absolutely destroyed my family and for anyone to even think for one second that I was overreacting, well all I can say is that I hope nothing like this ever happens to you. I lost half a stone in weight in 4 days, I didn't eat, I didn't sleep. They put my child through tests that were really tough on him. At one point, he cried so hard he fell asleep with the exhaustion of it.
If he had just been kept in for the 4 days (3 nights) purely for observations, then that's fine. I wouldn't want him to be anywhere else if that was the case but the fact is they'd told us that as it was an unwitnessed accident, he couldn't come home until all their procedures had been followed.
My health visitor called me on Thursday and said she'd like to come visit which she is doing on Monday. She said she didn't want to come this week as we have been through so much. She said that when Social Services called her, she told them that she was very surprised that they were involved with my family as they know us relatively well as I often take them to be weighed or for any concerns I have. She asked me if I'd heard from social services but I still haven't. She said to expect this but I'm taking the no contact as a good sign that they aren't concerned.
It's just the worst experience that my family has ever been through.