BFP and overweight?

[hippylittlej]

Jennifer that sucks.

 

[amitootold]

Jennifer, that is awful!!! What nasty things to say. Not what you need at a time like this. Sending hugs xx

 

[MommyV]

Hi ladies,

I'd like to join you. I'm considered obese have been for my other 2 pregnancies as well. I typically don't gain much during pregnancy 8lbs with my ds and 11lbs with dd it's after I have the baby that I can't seem to lose the extra weight and usually gain a little more. I have had gestational diabetes and high blood pressure with both previous pregnancies so I'm trying to get more exercise and me careful of what I'm eating.

Jennifer I'm sorry that the doctors talked to you that way. I would think it is much more likely that your baby will be healthy than that he/she will have any problems

 

[Lynnsey]

Hi all,
I'll join you too! I am 5'3" and weigh 238. EEK! I actually was at 250, but lost a few pounds and got pregnant. I absolutely hate being this big, and I have PCOS, but so far things have been going well for my pregnancy. This is my first, and I'm 38. We have been TTC for two plus years off and on. Even tried a couple fertility treatment cycles with no luck. I have been very lucky that my doctors don't make my weight a big deal. I mean, it comes up, but not in a "you are doomed, look at how unhealthy you are" kind of way.

My doctors are always very surprised at my weight because I don't look like I weigh that much, but that's what the stupid scale says! Don't get me wrong, I look very big, but not almost 250 pounds big! I wonder what I will look like in a few months? Shudder!

 

[Ashley8806]

Hi ladies... I am 5'9" and 320 lbs... I"m embarrassed, never thought I'd let myself get this heavy.... I don't look that heavy at all, nobody can believe that's how much I weigh, but I do. My doctor gave me a big lecture, made me feel guilty about being pregnant and this heavy, and won't let me do a VBAC because of it. It makes me feel like I'm a failure because I'm big I've had such bad self-esteem since my dr appointment, I feel like a big blob of fat. I'm healthy - no diabetes, no high blood pressure, nothing. Just fat lol. With my daughter I did have high blood pressure towards the end, but it was controlled and went away after I had her. I have been eating super healthy and have actually lost some weight, but still feel really bad about how much I weigh. I guess there's no changing it now, just try to be healthy for the rest of the pregnancy

 

[MissyBee]

I'm slightly overweight, by Army standards. For my height I'm only allowed to weigh 150lbs and I've always been 5 to 10lbs over that. I have to get taped measured every month to check my body fat percentage and it's always only 1 or 2% less than I'm allowed Just found out I'm pregnant and not looking forward to more weight gain, though the funny thing is that in the last week since I've found out I started eating way healthier and I've actually lost 6lbs.

 

[Lolabelle]

Missy Bee I wouldn't consider you overweight at all!!

I think I'm more concerned about carrying the extra weight. I'm being really good and giving Sunday as treat day. I had some ice cream yesterday as my treat!

 

[Jacobnmatty]

I am 104kg or 225pounds for non metric ladies. I have tummy overhang which hate and want to lose it so I can just grow nice babybump.
I've cut out all sugary snacks and drinks and fatty foods now that I am pregnant.
I'm only 5ft 7in so should weigh about 154 pounds

 

[Broody1976]

I am 104kg or 225pounds for non metric ladies. I have tummy overhang which hate and want to lose it so I can just grow nice babybump.
I've cut out all sugary snacks and drinks and fatty foods now that I am pregnant.
I'm only 5ft 7in so should weigh about 154 pounds

I'm similar to you 228lbs and 5'6

Just got my BFP at the weekend and now dreading my Dr's appt in case tey make me feel terrible for being this overweight.

Only good thing is, I've actually lost some weight as I'm doing Slimming World. I'm going to stick to it too, throughout my pregnancy.

 

[chichestermum]

im a chunky mummy too! i was a size 18 with my DD and now im a size 20-22 this time the midwife went mental about the risks of being overweight and i had to sign a form saying i knew i was putting my life and the babys life at risk as i was overweight, i thought that was a tad over the top as i havnt changed much from DD its just that i feel more comfortable in the bigger clothes as they hang over the lumpy bits that i have. made it worse that the midwife wasnt exactly on a size zero eating plan! her bottom hung over the sides of our dining room chairs! at least my bum fits on them haha!
ooph that turned into a bit of a rant! haha x

 

[chichestermum]

Hi ladies... I am 5'9" and 320 lbs... I"m embarrassed, never thought I'd let myself get this heavy.... I don't look that heavy at all, nobody can believe that's how much I weigh, but I do. My doctor gave me a big lecture, made me feel guilty about being pregnant and this heavy, and won't let me do a VBAC because of it. It makes me feel like I'm a failure because I'm big I've had such bad self-esteem since my dr appointment, I feel like a big blob of fat. I'm healthy - no diabetes, no high blood pressure, nothing. Just fat lol. With my daughter I did have high blood pressure towards the end, but it was controlled and went away after I had her. I have been eating super healthy and have actually lost some weight, but still feel really bad about how much I weigh. I guess there's no changing it now, just try to be healthy for the rest of the pregnancy

dont be embarrassed chick, im 127kg and 163.5 cms ( i havnt got a clue how to change them into lbs and feet! haha) my bmi is 47.5 so ridiculous for my height, but like you i dont look that big, i felt so horrible when midwife came and she was saying that i can not have a homebirth and that i must have someone in hospital with me who is strong incase i need to be moved into a different position, i was like yea i have had a child before and i was big and i can still move now!! i have to have a specialist care pathway because im apparently too big to keep myself healthy, which is ridiculous, im a size 20-22 and can do everything that iv always been able to do (especially since iv always been big so im used to it!) i have to have extra scans (which im not complaining about i get to see baby more ) but i also have to keep a food diary and i had to sign a form saying i knew i was putting myself and baby at risk because i was overweight, it was like they were saying that because you are obese you should have an abortion because otherwise you will hurt yourself, im very annoyed at al this anyway, as is my partner, it stressed me out so much that OH has said he will make sure he comes to all future midwife appointments so that if she starts having a go at me that he can give her what for!
its not like i eat ridiculous amounts of food, i have PCOS so i cant lose weight easily and the tablets they put me on made me so ill that i couldnt look after my LO i had to stop them and Dr refused to change them.
I think the whole way that us heavier mums are 'cared' for during our pregnancy is a joke, they make the whole thing so horrible for us, it will just make us want to keep future pregnancys to ourselves for longer in future.
i think having the extra pounds is good, imagine how much more protected our little beans are inside us! if we had a bump to the tum our beanys wouldnt know about it! if a size zero skinny woman had a bump to the tum the bean would feel a lot more, plus we can handle being in labour for longer without eating because we have our reserves of fat to keep us going!
wow this is another rant of mine!!
i think that as long as you are happy and you feel healty in yourself then who cares what anybody else thinks!
im happy to be chunkier my wrinkles wont show when i get old hehe!

 

[Lolabelle]

Wow am pretty shocked at the way you girls have been treated.

 

[pbuggy2284]

I'm shocked too....that isn't right. I'm just waiting for the lecture about my weight. My doctor did say you need to lose some but not to worry until after the baby. You would think because of the "risks" they would try and keep you calm instead of making you more stressed. Ugh!!!
o yeah...im a size 22/24 us.

 

[Lolabelle]

Its terrible. Its not like we choose to be overweight. All we want are healthy babies no judgement thanks very much!

 

[TMG1980]

Hi Ladies...

I am in a similar boat to you all....

I lost 61 lbs prior to getting pregnant over 2 years..... so I am 5'4" 189 lbs 32 BMI..... My doctor didn't seem at all concerned about my weight- I asked about what was a healthy weight gain for me because I am concerned about it.... She said 20-30 lbs was my ideal range.... I have have been gaining about a lb a week because I am not dieting .... but that is too quick so I think I am going to journal my food choices... when I am writing it down it makes me think even if I am not counting calories. I do exercise regularly as I was before getting pregnant....

I have just been so hungry lately! I hope that settles down soon! Ahhhhhh... I need to buy more fruit to snack on! ha ha ha

 

[pbuggy2284]

Yeah, the hunger is killing me too! Every two hours my tummy is yelling at me. So I end up eating a lot of fruit

 

[rachelle1975]

ME!! I'm a chunky monkey!!!

I've always been curvy and BMI of around 32.... had 2 rounds of IVF and the BMI is not looking pretty - gained 20lb through treatment before the and now wearing a badge saying I'M NOT FAT I'M PREGNANT Oh dear!!

 

[chichestermum]

ME!! I'm a chunky monkey!!!

I've always been curvy and BMI of around 32.... had 2 rounds of IVF and the BMI is not looking pretty - gained 20lb through treatment before the and now wearing a badge saying I'M NOT FAT I'M PREGNANT Oh dear!!

hehe i wish i had a badge like that!! tho the way my midwife was talking youd think id be in a wheelchair getting pushed around! maybe i should get 1 and then go on pimp my ride tho knowing my luck it would miss heard and id end up having fat and pregnant! haha!

 

[pk4]

Hey someone sent me a link to this forum as I am concerned about piling on weight again. This is my 2nd pregnancy and my daughter has just turned 1. I put on 3 stone on my 1st pregnancy and never got rid of the weight. I really don't want to put that on again! I was pretty lazy with my 1st pregnancy and didn't care what I ate. I used my pregnancy as an excuse to eat what I wanted. I regret that now and am really making an effort to not overeat. Thing is I have always been on the larger side and am very weak when it comes to food. I have no willpower. I only found out last monday that I was pregnant so I've been quite good with food.
My meals are healthy as I love my veggies and always have veggies with rice, pasta, noodles etc. My weakness it snacking in between meals. Foods like chocolate, crisps etc. Also my partner eats like a horse (and is slim). He can eat what he wants and never puts on weight. I tend to snack with him as I can't control myself. During the week he works but if I am home I get bored and snack and at weekends when he's home I snack with him. Terrible I know. But I'm making a conscious effort to be good and I'm doing well. But I know what I'm like and will give in eventually. Just really don't want to do that so GOING to be strong!! I can do it!

 

[rachelle1975]

Chichestermum.... Check out eBay for the badge

Some midwives are so rude! I've found the younger ones I've encountered to be more supportive on the weight front & the breast feed vs bottle feed view which is what you want, information not criticism!

Yeah don't really wanna gain too much either as I already feel like my health is suffering at 5'3 and BMI of 39. I've gained 7lb since getting preggers so would like to gain no more than 20lb which they say is the max for being overweight??x