Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[Pearls18]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

You came into this when you saw how many of us had this opinion if you read through the thread you would have known what you were getting in for. You aren't reading my posts properly, I don't care how you nurse, I care that you care how everybody else nurses. You have made it quite clear you do not agree with women 'unnecessarily' expose themselves (though haven't acknowledged not everyone can help this) and offered a list of ridiculous alternatives that suit you.

i dont think you are reading my posts properly. i never said i care how you nurse. i said the unneccessary exposure is from ladies leaving their breasts out AFTER feeding, nit while feeding! geez louise! and those where not ridiculous alternatives, it was very rude to said that since i use those alternatives. just another example of how others dont give a crap about others.

Why do you care?? How many times have you seen a woman leaving her breast out after feeding, and if she did do you think she was doing it for you to check her out? Make you feel uncomfortable? No, she was finishing feeding her baby! They were ridiculous because Tasha had said time and time again they weren't suitable for her, and telling us to go feed our babies in a toilet- that isn't ridiculous?!

 

[TennisGal]

Plenty of people do plenty of things in public that offend me all the time. Spit. Smoke next to my girls. Swear loudly (little ears love repeating new words!) Pick their nose. You name it, I'm probably offended by it. However, I would never expect them to stop doing any of those out of consideration to me. Because I have no right. Well, I'd probably tut if someone lit up next to my girlies...butthats a different thread

Just as I don't expect anyone to dare tell me not to nip. I nip proudly, but discretely. I have no intention of moving from where I sit and I would never, ever sit in a toilet and nurse. No way.

I have a three year old and a nursing toddler. Often, moving just isn't an option. If we go out for lunch, there's only one of me - ask a three year old to stop eating her lunch and shift somewhere else for a feed? No chance.

As women, we should be supporting each other in making public nursing the norm. Boobs do know how to multi-task, but we shouldn't forget what nature intended them for...and Kelly Brook wasn't what Mother Nature had in mind.

 

[Pearls18]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

I came back just so you know that you aren't alone. There have been several people in this argument with your same feelings, they have unfortunately had their words twisted or misunderstood and the. Been made to feel bad about the. So they aren't on this thread anymore. Thing is its pointless to share your opinion here because they don't believe people should feel uncomfortable seeing their or anyone else's breast and therefore don't care if it does make them feel so. They can't understand why you and I would take others feelings into consideration because they believe the way others feel is wrong, and you can't change that or even make them understand that. I just wanted to come in here and say good for you for being able to be a nursing mother while still being a considerate member of society. I think it's mothers like you that will make more ground in the fight to make BFing normalized. And that's really the only reason I care about this. I'm not telling anyone they shouldn't bf how they want. I'm just sharing my opinion that I think it brings negativity to nursing in general when people show no regard for people around them and have the attitude my baby matters and no one else does. Well done you for attempting to get your point across and I just didn't want you to feel alone. I do not wish to get back into this debate. There is really nothing left for anyone to say really because everyone is just repeating themselves 1000 times.

thank you so much! its so hard to debate alone! i feel the exact same as you, and thank you so much for your kind words. this thread has kinda made me feel like a monster!

I don't think you are a monster at all, as I say I understand your pov, I just think there should be a little bit more support and solidarity between women. If BF mothers are imposing BF restrictions against other BF mothers how will we ever make NIP the norm to the rest of society?

 

[Dragonfly]

why are we only sitting on toilets to nurse? you could move to a quiet part of the restaurant, or a family or handicapped bathroom where it cleaner and larger then the average stall. there are often couches or chairs in the bathroom where you can sit. i have no problem nursing in our car either where i live we have several other options. i understand you might not have as many options, but i do believe if you were to talk to a staff member of a restaurant or whatever they could accommodate you with a nice quiet hygenique place to nurse.

So again breastfeeding woman should move to please others. If a mum dosnt want to move she shouldnt have to. You may want to but dont get to say where others breastfeed. Family rooms what are they? never heard of seen one ever. Disabled toilets are for disabled people not breastfeeding mums and its still a toilet. If you choose to feed in a toilet then thats up to you but every one dosnt have to do it also and you dont get to tell them they should. I think its the whole dictating thing thats really getting to me here.

 

[louandivy]

I personally think its kind of fucked up that women can't go topless in the same public places that men can.

 

[LegoHouse]

I've actually been told to "stop doing that" because it isn't allowed, under a towel at a swimming pool. I complained and the life guards both got a caution.

 

[Lina]

I guess it's an issue of being offended on behalf of those who are emotionally immature, who are also usually men. So depressing that an natural function has been hijacked in this way and used as a weapon against the owner.

 

[Dk1234]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

I came back just so you know that you aren't alone. There have been several people in this argument with your same feelings, they have unfortunately had their words twisted or misunderstood and the. Been made to feel bad about the. So they aren't on this thread anymore. Thing is its pointless to share your opinion here because they don't believe people should feel uncomfortable seeing their or anyone else's breast and therefore don't care if it does make them feel so. They can't understand why you and I would take others feelings into consideration because they believe the way others feel is wrong, and you can't change that or even make them understand that. I just wanted to come in here and say good for you for being able to be a nursing mother while still being a considerate member of society. I think it's mothers like you that will make more ground in the fight to make BFing normalized. And that's really the only reason I care about this. I'm not telling anyone they shouldn't bf how they want. I'm just sharing my opinion that I think it brings negativity to nursing in general when people show no regard for people around them and have the attitude my baby matters and no one else does. Well done you for attempting to get your point across and I just didn't want you to feel alone. I do not wish to get back into this debate. There is really nothing left for anyone to say really because everyone is just repeating themselves 1000 times.

The issue is, I'm feeding my son, there's a big fat baby head infront of my breast, you can't see any of it! They're offended by my baby being fed, not seeing my breasts, because they cannot actually see my breasts. What they're offended by, is them imagining my breasts because my son is hungry.

I know you weren't here when I was debating but I didn't say women should cover. A baby head in front of your boob is fine by me. I consider that discrete. I don't however consider baring your whole breast without an attempt to cover discrete. Boob out with nipple in babies mouth showing as much as a swimsuit is fine by me and anyone else I've seen talk about discretion in here.

Thank you for clearing that up





I just never understand why it is offensive if people can tell my son is feeding, but it is not offensive if my son is feeding in his carrier because no one can tell he might be.

I'm still going to feed my son everywhere and anywhere despite what people think, but it does make me sad that people thing it is dirty, and should be done in private.

Yes there are people in the world that don't agree with public nursing and that's sad. I guess that's why I am passionate about this because I believe there are people that feel that way because of people who show no consideration to others like the woman who left her boob out to shock a teen etc etc. I think if we all nursed with a little discretion (sorry if that isn't possible for you but You shouldnt feel like you had to stop nursing even if people were rude to you or because people like me feel this way, ebm in a bottle is an alternative and if you quit nursing your baby obviously took a bottle) then BFing would be considered completely normal in public

 

[meli1981]

why are we only sitting on toilets to nurse? you could move to a quiet part of the restaurant, or a family or handicapped bathroom where it cleaner and larger then the average stall. there are often couches or chairs in the bathroom where you can sit. i have no problem nursing in our car either where i live we have several other options. i understand you might not have as many options, but i do believe if you were to talk to a staff member of a restaurant or whatever they could accommodate you with a nice quiet hygenique place to nurse.

So again breastfeeding woman should move to please others. If a mum dosnt want to move she shouldnt have to. You may want to but dont get to say where others breastfeed. Family rooms what are they? never heard of seen one ever. Disabled toilets are for disabled people not breastfeeding mums and its still a toilet. If you choose to feed in a toilet then thats up to you but every one dosnt have to do it also and you dont get to tell them they should. I think its the whole dictating thing thats really getting to me here.

i was NOT dictating. tasha was asking where i lie because i mentioned couches in family bathrooms. i was giving akternative IVE used, never said she or anyone else HAD too. im getting tired of saying ive never said not to nip. if you dont want to be private about it, dont be. i could care less.

 

[LegoHouse]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

I came back just so you know that you aren't alone. There have been several people in this argument with your same feelings, they have unfortunately had their words twisted or misunderstood and the. Been made to feel bad about the. So they aren't on this thread anymore. Thing is its pointless to share your opinion here because they don't believe people should feel uncomfortable seeing their or anyone else's breast and therefore don't care if it does make them feel so. They can't understand why you and I would take others feelings into consideration because they believe the way others feel is wrong, and you can't change that or even make them understand that. I just wanted to come in here and say good for you for being able to be a nursing mother while still being a considerate member of society. I think it's mothers like you that will make more ground in the fight to make BFing normalized. And that's really the only reason I care about this. I'm not telling anyone they shouldn't bf how they want. I'm just sharing my opinion that I think it brings negativity to nursing in general when people show no regard for people around them and have the attitude my baby matters and no one else does. Well done you for attempting to get your point across and I just didn't want you to feel alone. I do not wish to get back into this debate. There is really nothing left for anyone to say really because everyone is just repeating themselves 1000 times.

The issue is, I'm feeding my son, there's a big fat baby head infront of my breast, you can't see any of it! They're offended by my baby being fed, not seeing my breasts, because they cannot actually see my breasts. What they're offended by, is them imagining my breasts because my son is hungry.

I know you weren't here when I was debating but I didn't say women should cover. A baby head in front of your boob is fine by me. I consider that discrete. I don't however consider baring your whole breast without an attempt to cover discrete. Boob out with nipple in babies mouth showing as much as a swimsuit is fine by me and anyone else I've seen talk about discretion in here.

Thank you for clearing that up





I just never understand why it is offensive if people can tell my son is feeding, but it is not offensive if my son is feeding in his carrier because no one can tell he might be.

I'm still going to feed my son everywhere and anywhere despite what people think, but it does make me sad that people thing it is dirty, and should be done in private.

Yes there are people in the world that don't agree with public nursing and that's sad. I guess that's why I am passionate about this because I believe there are people that feel that way because of people who show no consideration to others like the woman who left her boob out to shock a teen etc etc. I think if we all nursed with a little discretion (sorry if that isn't possible for you but You shouldnt feel like you had to stop nursing even if people were rude to you or because people like me feel this way, ebm in a bottle is an alternative and if you quit nursing your baby obviously took a bottle) then BFing would be considered completely normal in public

That wasn't me, that was Tasha. I wouldn't stop because of what other people think. mostly because my OH wouldn't let me haha. He keeps me strong!

 

[Dk1234]

DK1234, you cant expect people not to reply just because you say you arent getting involved again.

I dont know how many times I have said, yes some people dont care if they make people uncomfortable, perhaps because they feel this will change society. They might not be right in their opinion but then you might not be right in your opinion that being discrete will change things. None of us know for sure.

And some of us DO care but we have no other choice.

You wait, when that rainbow baby comes along we are going out and I will personally growl at anyone who even looks funny

Made me smile, thank you. I seriously am coming round to you for my first NIP experience

I didn't expect people not to reply. I said I didn't want to get involved again but when Lego replied to me I replied to her.

 

[louandivy]

I've actually been told to "stop doing that" because it isn't allowed, under a towel at a swimming pool. I complained and the life guards both got a caution.

Omg that is awful, I would have been devastated. It upsets me thinking about how scared I was to NIP when ivy was a baby, I have more confidence now so would be fine with a new baby but when ivy was a newborn I would feed in the toilet because I was so terrified of someone giving me a look :/ And I lived in an area with a very high breastfeeding rate.

 

[Pearls18]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

I came back just so you know that you aren't alone. There have been several people in this argument with your same feelings, they have unfortunately had their words twisted or misunderstood and the. Been made to feel bad about the. So they aren't on this thread anymore. Thing is its pointless to share your opinion here because they don't believe people should feel uncomfortable seeing their or anyone else's breast and therefore don't care if it does make them feel so. They can't understand why you and I would take others feelings into consideration because they believe the way others feel is wrong, and you can't change that or even make them understand that. I just wanted to come in here and say good for you for being able to be a nursing mother while still being a considerate member of society. I think it's mothers like you that will make more ground in the fight to make BFing normalized. And that's really the only reason I care about this. I'm not telling anyone they shouldn't bf how they want. I'm just sharing my opinion that I think it brings negativity to nursing in general when people show no regard for people around them and have the attitude my baby matters and no one else does. Well done you for attempting to get your point across and I just didn't want you to feel alone. I do not wish to get back into this debate. There is really nothing left for anyone to say really because everyone is just repeating themselves 1000 times.

The issue is, I'm feeding my son, there's a big fat baby head infront of my breast, you can't see any of it! They're offended by my baby being fed, not seeing my breasts, because they cannot actually see my breasts. What they're offended by, is them imagining my breasts because my son is hungry.

I know you weren't here when I was debating but I didn't say women should cover. A baby head in front of your boob is fine by me. I consider that discrete. I don't however consider baring your whole breast without an attempt to cover discrete. Boob out with nipple in babies mouth showing as much as a swimsuit is fine by me and anyone else I've seen talk about discretion in here.

Thank you for clearing that up





I just never understand why it is offensive if people can tell my son is feeding, but it is not offensive if my son is feeding in his carrier because no one can tell he might be.

I'm still going to feed my son everywhere and anywhere despite what people think, but it does make me sad that people thing it is dirty, and should be done in private.

Yes there are people in the world that don't agree with public nursing and that's sad. I guess that's why I am passionate about this because I believe there are people that feel that way because of people who show no consideration to others like the woman who left her boob out to shock a teen etc etc. I think if we all nursed with a little discretion (sorry if that isn't possible for you but You shouldnt feel like you had to stop nursing even if people were rude to you or because people like me feel this way, ebm in a bottle is an alternative and if you quit nursing your baby obviously took a bottle) then BFing would be considered completely normal in public

So your answer to not being to feed to your standards of discrete is to bottle feed with EBM? Seriously? Not adding anything else in fear of "putting words in your mouth"

 

[Tasha]

Yes there are people in the world that don't agree with public nursing and that's sad. I guess that's why I am passionate about this because I believe there are people that feel that way because of people who show no consideration to others like the woman who left her boob out to shock a teen etc etc. I think if we all nursed with a little discretion (sorry if that isn't possible for you but You shouldnt feel like you had to stop nursing even if people were rude to you or because people like me feel this way, ebm in a bottle is an alternative and if you quit nursing your baby obviously took a bottle) then BFing would be considered completely normal in public

Yes she did take to a bottle but that doesnt mean expressing is an option.

 

[LegoHouse]

I've actually been told to "stop doing that" because it isn't allowed, under a towel at a swimming pool. I complained and the life guards both got a caution.

Omg that is awful, I would have been devastated. It upsets me thinking about how scared I was to NIP when ivy was a baby, I have more confidence now so would be fine with a new baby but when ivy was a newborn I would feed in the toilet because I was so terrified of someone giving me a look :/ And I lived in an area with a very high breastfeeding rate.

I was livid. I got out of the pool, got dressed, went and complained. I was really cross. More so because if it hadn't been me, and someone else, they may have thought they actually weren't allowed!

 

[LegoHouse]

My son is 7 months old and it still takes me half an hour to pump an oz?? lol

I only pump for food purposes. I wouldn't give him a bottle.

 

[meli1981]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

You came into this when you saw how many of us had this opinion if you read through the thread you would have known what you were getting in for. You aren't reading my posts properly, I don't care how you nurse, I care that you care how everybody else nurses. You have made it quite clear you do not agree with women 'unnecessarily' expose themselves (though haven't acknowledged not everyone can help this) and offered a list of ridiculous alternatives that suit you.

i dont think you are reading my posts properly. i never said i care how you nurse. i said the unneccessary exposure is from ladies leaving their breasts out AFTER feeding, nit while feeding! geez louise! and those where not ridiculous alternatives, it was very rude to said that since i use those alternatives. just another example of how others dont give a crap about others.

Why do you care?? How many times have you seen a woman leaving her breast out after feeding, and if she did do you think she was doing it for you to check her out? Make you feel uncomfortable? No, she was finishing feeding her baby! They were ridiculous because Tasha had said time and time again they weren't suitable for her, and telling us to go feed our babies in a toilet- that isn't ridiculous?!

I DONT care! so what if ive fed my baby on a toilet? are you judging me? hmmmm, interesting!

 

[Natsku]

I personally think its kind of fucked up that women can't go topless in the same public places that men can.

I think that too. When its really hot in the summer sometimes I would love to take my top off to cool down. Actually I'm not sure if its not allowed or not but I never see anyone else doing it so I don't dare.

 

[LegoHouse]

I've had to feed my son in the toilets before. Now he is older he will NOT feed in a very public place unless he is sleepy I wouldn't use the disabled ones though x

 

[Pearls18]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

You came into this when you saw how many of us had this opinion if you read through the thread you would have known what you were getting in for. You aren't reading my posts properly, I don't care how you nurse, I care that you care how everybody else nurses. You have made it quite clear you do not agree with women 'unnecessarily' expose themselves (though haven't acknowledged not everyone can help this) and offered a list of ridiculous alternatives that suit you.

i dont think you are reading my posts properly. i never said i care how you nurse. i said the unneccessary exposure is from ladies leaving their breasts out AFTER feeding, nit while feeding! geez louise! and those where not ridiculous alternatives, it was very rude to said that since i use those alternatives. just another example of how others dont give a crap about others.

Why do you care?? How many times have you seen a woman leaving her breast out after feeding, and if she did do you think she was doing it for you to check her out? Make you feel uncomfortable? No, she was finishing feeding her baby! They were ridiculous because Tasha had said time and time again they weren't suitable for her, and telling us to go feed our babies in a toilet- that isn't ridiculous?!

I DONT care! so what if ive fed my baby on a toilet? are you judging me? hmmmm, interesting!

Nice try lol but no I am not judging you, I have fed in my fair share of toilets but I wouldn't ever dream of suggesting to anyone else to do so, I did it out of embarrassment and wouldn't want anyone else to feel that way. It is not an alternative, a public toilet is an alternative to a home toilet, not a feeding place so I wouldn't offer it as one in a serious discussion. There shouldn't need to be alternatives, this is my point...