Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[Tasha]

I think that too. When its really hot in the summer sometimes I would love to take my top off to cool down. Actually I'm not sure if its not allowed or not but I never see anyone else doing it so I don't dare.

In the UK you theoritically could, as you wouldnt be breaking the law but no one does it, so I guess it isnt going to start happening too soon

 

[LegoHouse]

My issue is not with feeding in the toilets, it's people thinking that, that is an appropriate suggestion to make to a woman who is quite happy to NIP.

 

[LegoHouse]

I think that too. When its really hot in the summer sometimes I would love to take my top off to cool down. Actually I'm not sure if its not allowed or not but I never see anyone else doing it so I don't dare.

In the UK you theoritically could, as you wouldnt be breaking the law but no one does it, so I guess it isnt going to start happening too soon

Right, you NIP and I will go topless........... Kidding x

 

[Natsku]

Yes there are people in the world that don't agree with public nursing and that's sad. I guess that's why I am passionate about this because I believe there are people that feel that way because of people who show no consideration to others like the woman who left her boob out to shock a teen etc etc. I think if we all nursed with a little discretion (sorry if that isn't possible for you but You shouldnt feel like you had to stop nursing even if people were rude to you or because people like me feel this way, ebm in a bottle is an alternative and if you quit nursing your baby obviously took a bottle) then BFing would be considered completely normal in public

Yes she did take to a bottle but that doesnt mean expressing is an option.

I could never express And using a bottle, even though its ebm, does nothing to promote NIP and breastfeeding in general. Almost everyone I've seen feeding in public have used bottles and that made me think that it wasn't considered ok to NIP here.

 

[Tasha]

Hahahaha Legohouse.

 

[Dragonfly]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

You came into this when you saw how many of us had this opinion if you read through the thread you would have known what you were getting in for. You aren't reading my posts properly, I don't care how you nurse, I care that you care how everybody else nurses. You have made it quite clear you do not agree with women 'unnecessarily' expose themselves (though haven't acknowledged not everyone can help this) and offered a list of ridiculous alternatives that suit you.

i dont think you are reading my posts properly. i never said i care how you nurse. i said the unneccessary exposure is from ladies leaving their breasts out AFTER feeding, nit while feeding! geez louise! and those where not ridiculous alternatives, it was very rude to said that since i use those alternatives. just another example of how others dont give a crap about others.

Why do you care?? How many times have you seen a woman leaving her breast out after feeding, and if she did do you think she was doing it for you to check her out? Make you feel uncomfortable? No, she was finishing feeding her baby! They were ridiculous because Tasha had said time and time again they weren't suitable for her, and telling us to go feed our babies in a toilet- that isn't ridiculous?!

I DONT care! so what if ive fed my baby on a toilet? are you judging me? hmmmm, interesting!

She didnt say anything about you feeding in a loo she said about you telling us to go feed in toilets. Theres a difference. You choose the toilet where not every one will. Freedom of choice.

 

[Tasha]

I could never express And using a bottle, even though its ebm, does nothing to promote NIP and breastfeeding in general. Almost everyone I've seen feeding in public have used bottles and that made me think that it wasn't considered ok to NIP here.

Many women cant express, can they? Upsetting for you but it is normal

Also BF just may not want to introduce a bottle.

 

[Natsku]

I think that too. When its really hot in the summer sometimes I would love to take my top off to cool down. Actually I'm not sure if its not allowed or not but I never see anyone else doing it so I don't dare.

In the UK you theoritically could, as you wouldnt be breaking the law but no one does it, so I guess it isnt going to start happening too soon

Yeah I won't dare do it if no one else is doing it!

 

[TennisGal]

My daughters are boob monsters - well, Lizzie is weaned now - but bottles = furious screeching.

I'm bloody sick of lemon sucking faces of disapproval when it comes to public feeding, extended feeding or, in some cases, just feeding! How did society get so totally upside down?

 

[Dk1234]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

I came back just so you know that you aren't alone. There have been several people in this argument with your same feelings, they have unfortunately had their words twisted or misunderstood and the. Been made to feel bad about the. So they aren't on this thread anymore. Thing is its pointless to share your opinion here because they don't believe people should feel uncomfortable seeing their or anyone else's breast and therefore don't care if it does make them feel so. They can't understand why you and I would take others feelings into consideration because they believe the way others feel is wrong, and you can't change that or even make them understand that. I just wanted to come in here and say good for you for being able to be a nursing mother while still being a considerate member of society. I think it's mothers like you that will make more ground in the fight to make BFing normalized. And that's really the only reason I care about this. I'm not telling anyone they shouldn't bf how they want. I'm just sharing my opinion that I think it brings negativity to nursing in general when people show no regard for people around them and have the attitude my baby matters and no one else does. Well done you for attempting to get your point across and I just didn't want you to feel alone. I do not wish to get back into this debate. There is really nothing left for anyone to say really because everyone is just repeating themselves 1000 times.

The issue is, I'm feeding my son, there's a big fat baby head infront of my breast, you can't see any of it! They're offended by my baby being fed, not seeing my breasts, because they cannot actually see my breasts. What they're offended by, is them imagining my breasts because my son is hungry.

I know you weren't here when I was debating but I didn't say women should cover. A baby head in front of your boob is fine by me. I consider that discrete. I don't however consider baring your whole breast without an attempt to cover discrete. Boob out with nipple in babies mouth showing as much as a swimsuit is fine by me and anyone else I've seen talk about discretion in here.

Thank you for clearing that up





I just never understand why it is offensive if people can tell my son is feeding, but it is not offensive if my son is feeding in his carrier because no one can tell he might be.

I'm still going to feed my son everywhere and anywhere despite what people think, but it does make me sad that people thing it is dirty, and should be done in private.

Yes there are people in the world that don't agree with public nursing and that's sad. I guess that's why I am passionate about this because I believe there are people that feel that way because of people who show no consideration to others like the woman who left her boob out to shock a teen etc etc. I think if we all nursed with a little discretion (sorry if that isn't possible for you but You shouldnt feel like you had to stop nursing even if people were rude to you or because people like me feel this way, ebm in a bottle is an alternative and if you quit nursing your baby obviously took a bottle) then BFing would be considered completely normal in public

So your answer to not being to feed to your standards of discrete is to bottle feed with EBM? Seriously? Not adding anything else in fear of "putting words in your mouth"

Before I would quit nursing absolutely.

 

[Pearls18]

I managed to express really well until about 6 months then I could barely get anything, but I guess I was feeding less after 6 months so perhaps less milk. The sound of my electric pump still gives me nightmares ha.

 

[Natsku]

I could never express And using a bottle, even though its ebm, does nothing to promote NIP and breastfeeding in general. Almost everyone I've seen feeding in public have used bottles and that made me think that it wasn't considered ok to NIP here.

Many women cant express, can they? Upsetting for you but it is normal

Also BF just may not want to introduce a bottle.

I'm still going to try again next time but get an electric pump and see if that makes a difference as it would be so much better if I could pump and have ebm in store in case I can't feed at some point (like with Maria I had to go to the hospital a week after she was born so she was left with her dad all day and had to have formula which made me sad and my boobs very sore)

 

[Pearls18]

nothing is difficult for me to understand, it is you who doesnt even WANT to TRY to understand others pov.

I understand your pov, I respect your pov, I don't agree your pov should apply to everybody. If you came here and said "I choose to nurse semi-privately because I am aware some people feel uncomfortable about nip which in turns makes me uncomfortable" that would be fine I would have had nothing to add to that, but you came here and said every nursing mother should make the attempt to be discrete, and then had the absurd notion to question people about their abilities to nip discretely not believing their difficulties. That is my difficulty, and no I will never agree everyone should do as you see fit, I think everybody should do what makes them comfortable.

WHERE did i say EVERY nursing mother should make an attempt to nurse discreetly? im being jumped on because i have a differing pov then everyone else. did it ever occur to you, you are making ME feel bad about how i choose to nurse! no, because you are the only ine that matters. (that was not directed only to you marine)

I came back just so you know that you aren't alone. There have been several people in this argument with your same feelings, they have unfortunately had their words twisted or misunderstood and the. Been made to feel bad about the. So they aren't on this thread anymore. Thing is its pointless to share your opinion here because they don't believe people should feel uncomfortable seeing their or anyone else's breast and therefore don't care if it does make them feel so. They can't understand why you and I would take others feelings into consideration because they believe the way others feel is wrong, and you can't change that or even make them understand that. I just wanted to come in here and say good for you for being able to be a nursing mother while still being a considerate member of society. I think it's mothers like you that will make more ground in the fight to make BFing normalized. And that's really the only reason I care about this. I'm not telling anyone they shouldn't bf how they want. I'm just sharing my opinion that I think it brings negativity to nursing in general when people show no regard for people around them and have the attitude my baby matters and no one else does. Well done you for attempting to get your point across and I just didn't want you to feel alone. I do not wish to get back into this debate. There is really nothing left for anyone to say really because everyone is just repeating themselves 1000 times.

The issue is, I'm feeding my son, there's a big fat baby head infront of my breast, you can't see any of it! They're offended by my baby being fed, not seeing my breasts, because they cannot actually see my breasts. What they're offended by, is them imagining my breasts because my son is hungry.

I know you weren't here when I was debating but I didn't say women should cover. A baby head in front of your boob is fine by me. I consider that discrete. I don't however consider baring your whole breast without an attempt to cover discrete. Boob out with nipple in babies mouth showing as much as a swimsuit is fine by me and anyone else I've seen talk about discretion in here.

Thank you for clearing that up





I just never understand why it is offensive if people can tell my son is feeding, but it is not offensive if my son is feeding in his carrier because no one can tell he might be.

I'm still going to feed my son everywhere and anywhere despite what people think, but it does make me sad that people thing it is dirty, and should be done in private.

Yes there are people in the world that don't agree with public nursing and that's sad. I guess that's why I am passionate about this because I believe there are people that feel that way because of people who show no consideration to others like the woman who left her boob out to shock a teen etc etc. I think if we all nursed with a little discretion (sorry if that isn't possible for you but You shouldnt feel like you had to stop nursing even if people were rude to you or because people like me feel this way, ebm in a bottle is an alternative and if you quit nursing your baby obviously took a bottle) then BFing would be considered completely normal in public

So your answer to not being to feed to your standards of discrete is to bottle feed with EBM? Seriously? Not adding anything else in fear of "putting words in your mouth"

Before I would quit nursing absolutely.

I respect that, but why quit nursing on these grounds alone? We should be making every woman feel comfortable about NIP then it needn't come down to alternatives.

 

[Natsku]

My daughters are boob monsters - well, Lizzie is weaned now - but bottles = furious screeching.

I'm bloody sick of lemon sucking faces of disapproval when it comes to public feeding, extended feeding or, in some cases, just feeding! How did society get so totally upside down?

Society really is turned upside down when bottle feeding is the norm and breastfeeding is seen as sometime to be done behind closed doors

 

[Dk1234]

I didn't say she should have. She said thats why she quit. Personally I wouldn't have. I just said she could have expressed instead of quitting.

 

[Tasha]

I did try expressing and I could do it but she point blank refused breast milk out of a bottle. Dont think I didnt try everything I did. I even tried ff just whilst we were out but it ended up if I was out all day a couple of days in a row then it affected my supply and so I would spend two or three days trying to get it back.

Nats, that sounds like a good idea.

 

[Tasha]

I didn't say she should have. She said thats why she quit. Personally I wouldn't have. I just said she could have expressed instead of quitting.

And you dont know that I didnt.

 

[LegoHouse]

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[Pearls18]

I didn't say she should have. She said thats why she quit. Personally I wouldn't have. I just said she could have expressed instead of quitting.

Sorry I'm with you now, Tasha obviously had her reasons, hers was a different situation to yours, I can't imagine it was an easy choice.

 

[Dk1234]

Lego I tried to respond to you earlier and I don't think it came up.

I didn't think that was you who quit I tried to sit it aside but I can see how it looked like it was to you obviously.

About the pool, I think that's terrible. I am def pro nip and I want it to be normal. I just think some people in here and I have a different opinion a out what will help that to happen.