Breastfeeding Support - 6 months and beyond!
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I'm having a hard time these last couple weeks and I'm not sure what to do about it.
Lately, especially this past week, Ronan's been extremely fickle about nursing. He will occasionally have a good solid feed, but more often than not, he has no interest after a few minutes, even if it's been ages since he last fed and then he pushes me away (or bites with a grin).
The worst of it is that he's been waking more frequently through the night (I know, there are plenty of you ladies who've got LO's who still and have always woken frequently), but for a long time, Ronan has happily gone to bed and slept well, and when he's woken in the night it's only once or twice, sometimes 3 times, it's usually only for a feed, or else he settles really quickly again but now if he doesn't get boob, he will scream like his world is ending and he doesn't want to feed, he just wants to comfort suckle to get back to sleep.
Again, I never really minded him doing that before, but he hasn't done it in forever, and now that he's wanting to do it again and will scream and fight sleep tooth and nail until he gets it, and yet at the same time doesn't really want to nurse to feed day or night, I find myself feeling resentful for it and hating myself for feeling that way.
I end up in tears, I'm exhausted physically and emotionally and I just need to know that I dunno, I'm not alone and it happens and it will get better?
Lately, especially this past week, Ronan's been extremely fickle about nursing. He will occasionally have a good solid feed, but more often than not, he has no interest after a few minutes, even if it's been ages since he last fed and then he pushes me away (or bites with a grin).
The worst of it is that he's been waking more frequently through the night (I know, there are plenty of you ladies who've got LO's who still and have always woken frequently), but for a long time, Ronan has happily gone to bed and slept well, and when he's woken in the night it's only once or twice, sometimes 3 times, it's usually only for a feed, or else he settles really quickly again but now if he doesn't get boob, he will scream like his world is ending and he doesn't want to feed, he just wants to comfort suckle to get back to sleep.
Again, I never really minded him doing that before, but he hasn't done it in forever, and now that he's wanting to do it again and will scream and fight sleep tooth and nail until he gets it, and yet at the same time doesn't really want to nurse to feed day or night, I find myself feeling resentful for it and hating myself for feeling that way.
I end up in tears, I'm exhausted physically and emotionally and I just need to know that I dunno, I'm not alone and it happens and it will get better?
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I'm having a hard time these last couple weeks and I'm not sure what to do about it.
Lately, especially this past week, Ronan's been extremely fickle about nursing. He will occasionally have a good solid feed, but more often than not, he has no interest after a few minutes, even if it's been ages since he last fed and then he pushes me away (or bites with a grin).
The worst of it is that he's been waking more frequently through the night (I know, there are plenty of you ladies who've got LO's who still and have always woken frequently), but for a long time, Ronan has happily gone to bed and slept well, and when he's woken in the night it's only once or twice, sometimes 3 times, it's usually only for a feed, or else he settles really quickly again but now if he doesn't get boob, he will scream like his world is ending and he doesn't want to feed, he just wants to comfort suckle to get back to sleep.
Again, I never really minded him doing that before, but he hasn't done it in forever, and now that he's wanting to do it again and will scream and fight sleep tooth and nail until he gets it, and yet at the same time doesn't really want to nurse to feed day or night, I find myself feeling resentful for it and hating myself for feeling that way.
Sorry your having these problems hun
Do you think the night wakings could be due to separation anxiety and he wants the comfort of the boob?
I'm not sure what's happening in the day but have you tried feeding without distractions? Or try and wind him down a little so he is relaxed before a feed?
I know Evie isn't the same age but sometimes if there is too much going in she won't feed
xx
hivechild
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I'm pretty sure it's a developmental thing so yeah, there is probably some separation anxiety and clinginess going on. It's just hard to be rational sometimes and step outside the situation to look at things when they're happening to you and not someone else!
As for feeding without distractions and during quiet time, yeah I definitely try that, usually either before or just after nap times and sometimes it helps but other times well if he doesn't want it, he doesn't wantit. It's all the more frustrating when a half hour later he melts down and is all but trying to rip my shirt off because he's remembered he's starving and must eat right this second!
As for feeding without distractions and during quiet time, yeah I definitely try that, usually either before or just after nap times and sometimes it helps but other times well if he doesn't want it, he doesn't wantit. It's all the more frustrating when a half hour later he melts down and is all but trying to rip my shirt off because he's remembered he's starving and must eat right this second!
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Just remember that you will get thru it and soon enough you will have forgotten all about it 
For us I think it was a developmental thing as evies 'language' has boomed now and she is very vocal
I was a walking zombie last week and broke down a few times too but I just kept telling myself that each day that passes we are closer to the end and it's not her fault
Is he close to reaching a milestone?
xx
For us I think it was a developmental thing as evies 'language' has boomed now and she is very vocal
I was a walking zombie last week and broke down a few times too but I just kept telling myself that each day that passes we are closer to the end and it's not her fault
Is he close to reaching a milestone?
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Is driving mummy to drink a milestone?
I'm not sure if it's any specific milestone so much as just being in the throes of brain rewiring atm. That being said, his mobility has improved recently and he's cruising very causally without relying on stuff for so much support like he was before so it wouldn't surprise me if he takes off walking in the next few weeks. Just what I want just before we have 24 hrs of travel and flying ahead of us in March!
I'm not sure if it's any specific milestone so much as just being in the throes of brain rewiring atm. That being said, his mobility has improved recently and he's cruising very causally without relying on stuff for so much support like he was before so it wouldn't surprise me if he takes off walking in the next few weeks. Just what I want just before we have 24 hrs of travel and flying ahead of us in March!
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I'm having a hard time these last couple weeks and I'm not sure what to do about it.
Lately, especially this past week, Ronan's been extremely fickle about nursing. He will occasionally have a good solid feed, but more often than not, he has no interest after a few minutes, even if it's been ages since he last fed and then he pushes me away (or bites with a grin).
The worst of it is that he's been waking more frequently through the night (I know, there are plenty of you ladies who've got LO's who still and have always woken frequently), but for a long time, Ronan has happily gone to bed and slept well, and when he's woken in the night it's only once or twice, sometimes 3 times, it's usually only for a feed, or else he settles really quickly again but now if he doesn't get boob, he will scream like his world is ending and he doesn't want to feed, he just wants to comfort suckle to get back to sleep.
Again, I never really minded him doing that before, but he hasn't done it in forever, and now that he's wanting to do it again and will scream and fight sleep tooth and nail until he gets it, and yet at the same time doesn't really want to nurse to feed day or night, I find myself feeling resentful for it and hating myself for feeling that way.
Thomas went back to waking in the night at 11 months after having slept through since nine and a half. I put it down to me going back to work at that time but it could have been developmental too I guess. I went along with it at the time but I'm afraid that it didn't really get better until I night weaned him at twelve and a half months. That was a very hard decision for me to make but I feel that the time was right for us and he immediately started sleeping through again the majority of the time and also now I can comfort him at night without him looking for a feed. I wasn't ready to night wean him at 11 months though, I didn't feel that he was ready at that age. I guess every baby and every situation is different anyway.
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Miss_Bump, we're going back to Australia to see my family.
Polaris, I'm not ready to 'cut him off' yet either, and in part because of our trip home. I admit that I want the fail safe of booby to settle him if he gets cantankerous while we're in the air!
Polaris, I'm not ready to 'cut him off' yet either, and in part because of our trip home. I admit that I want the fail safe of booby to settle him if he gets cantankerous while we're in the air!
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I don't usually feed K through the night as she has a soother and takes it happily. If she isn't settling down I will offer and she won't refuse lol. I don't push it on her and she is nursing a lot less during the day. sometimes only 2 times, and some still 4-5 but short nursing, as she doesn't want to be tied down lol.
William has gave me 2 hours of sleep last night, crying all fecking night and feeding! Alex was throwing up all night feeds because I ate from lindas I reckon its the peppers and colslaw as i havnt had one in a while and he hasnt thrown up feeds I predicted he would now I know for sure,Alex got more sleep than me! Darren the cheeky git went to go back to sleep this morning at 9 and complained he was up since 7! WTF I was up all night I have only slept from 7! I am tierd. And Alex still throwing up its like curdled milk and I stink of baby sick and have no hot water 
wouldnt get to far would be sleeping feet from you on the floor on a mattress. someone here boarding hole up now and its being sound proofed and stuff because he working up there and maybe doing it up. went for a walk with william and Alex and 5 cats in tow lol
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IOg Harry wakes up in the night, which is quite rare these days, I do feed hiome back to sleep, mainly because I don't like the idea of CC or CIO & I dont see what 10-20 mins of me being up giving him a hug & a feed coz something's up with him is a problem? Generally he only wakes up if his teeth are hurting him- he's got molars coming through at the mo & had a stinking cold, so he was sometimes waking up at about 5am really upset. I wont 'cut him off' with night feeds until I know he can settle himself, which at the moment, he's not that good at without lots of crying & I dont like seeing him cry
How's everyone doing?
How's everyone doing?
