buddy wanted - ttc after ectopic surgery to remove a tube or more

[Amcolecchi]

Hilso-my cousin is pregnant and is getting twinges in her rib area too and she is perfectly fine!! So no worries!!

 

[hilslo]

Ooh - thank you so much. You've given me hope! x

 

[ladyluck84]

Hislo congratulations!

I had my surgery 17 days ago. But felt ready last night so I did. Though I think DH was scared of hurting me. I'm not going to actively try until after first period but I'm not going to prevent. But yes I started trying straight after my first miscarriage so straight back on it after the ectopic. I WILL HAVE A BABY! My due date is in 4 and a half weeks so feeling more determined

 

[Beeks]

Hi guys,
I've never written on a forum before, only read with interest from afar!
I had a m/c in Aug last year on our first cycle ttc. After a few months "mending" we ttc again. I fell pregnant in April only to find it was ectopic. I lost the baby and my right tube in May. Anyway, two months on and monthly cycles are back in sync, although shorter (26 days now, used to be 28), and we're back on the ttc roller coaster ride! CD1 today so fingers crossed for cycle 3!!! Come on left tube, you can do it!!! x

 

[ladyluck84]

Hi beeks. We are in a similar situation, one miscarriage and one ectopic. I too lost my right tube so willing that little left tube to do a good job!

 

[hilslo]

Welcome Beeks - I'm sorry that you've had to join us but very glad you've found us Great news that your cycles are back on track - that was a big worry for me. Mine were wonky before and were still wonky afterwards so I'm always a little jealous of those with lovely 28 day cycles!

I've been getting some sharper twinges on my good side today. I phoned EPU but they don't do scans on saturdays (god knows what happens if yu ruptured on a Saturday - they made me wait for EPU to open when mine ruptured on a Friday morning so i supsect they may tell you to come back!) but they do on Sundays on a first come first served basis so we're going to head down there first thing and preay that they can see something in the right place. I know they won't be able to see much as I'll only be 5 weeks but the worry is now making me feel physically sick (not morning sickness lol!)

I'm out for a Firend's birthday this afternoon and will be with a friend whose due date is 3 weeks after mine. I really can't handle being around pregnant women, it makes me cry without fail so I don't know how I'm going to cope. They're all big drinkers too so keeping this quiet (I really don't want people to know this time - I announced at 12 weeks after our scan last time and 10 days later had to "unannnounce" and it was awful.

Keep your fingers corssed for me ladies! x

 

[ladyluck84]

I can't believe they don't scan on a Saturday that's ridiculous! I ruptured on a Sunday afternoon and didnt have my "emergency surgery" until the Tuesday because they were so busy. On half hourly obs which meant by the time I went in Tuesday I was a mess emotional, in pain and extremely hungry and tired as the obs woke me and I wasn't allowed to eat.

Keeping everything crossed for you. Do u feel the same as you did last time? I feel that I would immediately know that feeling again. I to just don't want to be around pregnant people including my best friend who announced she was pregnant 5 days after my surgery

 

[hilslo]

I didn't get any pain, twinges or spotting last time so had no idea until it ruptured. This time I 've been told to look out for any slight twinges and to have a very low threshold for pain. The twinges have continued and are getting sharper so I'm not expecting good news.

I'll update you guys either way. So, so scared.

 

[ladyluck84]

Keeping everything crossed for you!!

 

[hilslo]

There's hope for us all ladies. Sat nav baby on board! Let's hope this is the first of many!!!!

 

[ladyluck84]

Woop woop! one and counting....

 

[c.m.c]

Welcome becks! So sorry for your losses


Hilslo..yippee for baby sat nav!


AFM...I ruptured on a Monday morning and had surgery a few hrs later...when in he ward before I went down I could hear the dr telling a lady beside me tht her elective surgery wasn't happening as an emergency came in...obviously me...I felt a bit bad but am o thankful how fast the NHs was with me

 

[ladyluck84]

I was in a day and a half before surgery. Went in late Sunday night and they said I would be emergency on the Monday morning but apparently there was a big car crash so on Monday evening they came to me and said it was my choice they could wake me middle of the night and take me down or schedule me in for Tuesday morning as my obs look fine and pain was being managed. I chose that route because I couldn't bare lying and waiting but if I had a time I knew I could just sleep.

 

[Sophiagrace]

Hi I have just registered as I am feeling the very same I have just had an eptopic I am one week post surgery had right tube removed feel like I have being robbed of my chance to have my babies and wonder what if this didn't happen I would be 9 weeks pregnant lookin forward to my first scan my heart is broken and I feel broken

 

[Amcolecchi]

Sophia-I felt the same way with my ectopc. I had my surgery May 20th, lost my left tube! My husband has sperm issues so we got prego with an IUI...so not only were we told my husband has issues, we paid $1000 for an IUI, make it $2000 because I got prego on the 2nd IUI then I ended up losing it to ectopic!!! I was DEVASTATED and pissed to the world...8 weeks to the day after my surgery I got my first period. Now, my husband and I tried naturally and if it didn't work, we will be doing and IUI in August. I have read LOTS of women who have only one tube and get prego!!! So do not give up!! Lots of ladies in this forum got prego with one tube...So this is a great place to be if you feel devastated. These ladies are awesome and will help you out!!

 

[c.m.c]

I think I got my BFP today at 9 dpo!

 

[hilslo]

Hi I have just registered as I am feeling the very same I have just had an eptopic I am one week post surgery had right tube removed feel like I have being robbed of my chance to have my babies and wonder what if this didn't happen I would be 9 weeks pregnant lookin forward to my first scan my heart is broken and I feel broken

I'm so so sorry hon - we all know what you're going through and how cheated you must feel . It is soul destroying to know you had a healthy little bean but just growing in the wrong place. How are you feeling physically? If there are any questions you have, no matter how intimate we're here to help or even if you just need to rant and rave about how unfair it is (and it is!!!) we're here for you.

Have you found the ectopic pregnancy trust yet? www.ectopic.org.uk/. Their Q&A page is very useful in answering a lot of questions. They are quite conservative on when they advise starting to try again but I overlooked what they said as my surgeon said I could go for it as soon as i felt ready as I'd not had the metho shot. If it's any consolation I got my next positive pregnancy test 1 day short of 3 months after my op - our first real attempt at trying and it's in the right place this time (though still very very early days) so considering it took 5 months for the first with two tubes and only one month with one tube - dont count yourself out just yet!!!!

Look after yourself and don't rush things, take your time to grieve, I promise you it will start to get better.

 

[hilslo]

I think I got my BFP today at 9 dpo!

wooooo hoooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2 in a row! who's next to test? You know what they say about good luck coming in threes......

 

[Amcolecchi]

CMC & Hilso-CONGRATS!!!!! I am too early to test but hopefully we have a ton more!!!!

 

[c.m.c]

Yes AM you could be number 3! I'm so terrified though