Bumpkins & Babies Chat Thread

[Maffie]

Honesty is he best policy, she'll learn that you are family one day. Some people just dont realise how lucky they are sometimes

 

[jo_79]

fleur x

maybe email/text your sister saying that your deleting her on FB till her friends stop attacking you? I know that sounds harsh, me and my sister have the same sort of relationship as you and yours and thats what i would do if her friends did that to me! They sound like a right bunch of skanks with nothing better to do with their lives than keep arguements going on FB!!

And as for calling harry a squinny on FB thats plain cruel, i had to look up what it meant on urban dictionary though lol Harry's a bloody baby you cant bring him into it, plus all babies are meant to whinge and cry!!!!

 

[jo_79]

maffie i forgot to say it was me adding you on FB

 

[aimee-lou]

Flora - I think all the other girls have already said what I was going to say but there is a quote that I feel is appropriate:

'Never Argue with idiots - they will only bring you down to their level then beat you with experience.'

Colsy - I'm intrigued - may go and have a sneaky peak in the forbidden realms of Natural Parenting! lol

Happy birthday Chaos (errrr now I'm not sure that I'm wishing the right person Happy Birthday.....hope I got it right )

Well - what a few days we've had. Hubby eventually go back last night at about 6ish - he had been on the horses at Ascot and came home the 1900Euros in his pocket!! We can now move without issue, he's got himself a new laptop (Macbook no less) and we're even booking ourselves a trip to Ireland and our holiday that we've been promising ourselves. It's going to be tight still to get all of this but you know what.....life is too short.

My Dad is still in hospital. My brother finally called me to let me know - I've called a few times and the nurses jut say 'Yes he's fine' and that's it. They tried to discharge him on Friday but my brothers were having none of it as he's far from right and still very weak. Unfortunately and I hate saying this but none of us can take him on so it looks like he's going to have to go into care, at the very least temporarily. Not a nice thing to have to say.

Earl is doing great - he's come on great guns and is talking to anyone and everyone lol. He's had a busy week developmentally (does anyone find that when they learn new skills they also get more hair? Must be the blood supply to the brain or something) and he has grown massvely and hasa had full of curls!! He looks like Tin Tin!!

Anyoo's - I'm off I think. Earl tart tomorrow and a busy week ahead. This time next week we'll be in Essex following our first trip down with vans - ahh lovely! lol

 

[Maffie]

Jo I figured that out from your pic

I checked your friends first before adding, gosh am I paranoid

 

[Chaos]

Fleur ~ You're welcome chica. I aint having her talk to you like that, sister or not. Bunch of f'ing kids.

She actually made her self look dumb as a box of rocks when she said "It isn't public, its a facebook status" .. I'm like, darling, she has 467 friends, that's public.

I know sisters argue, but she seems very immature to me .. and insulting a baby like that to get a dig just proves it. I'm sorry if your Dad is mad at you (re his comment on your page)



So I've also discovered why lil miss has been such a terror the last 2 days. She's cut 2 teeth at once!!! She now has both middle top two, one to the left of them and bottom middle two. Shesh.

Aimee ~ Yup, my bday. 29 forever now Yay for winnings!! Sorry your dad is still poorly

 

[Maffie]

Morning all, well Noah didnt sleep well the heat as really bothered him, I must admit it was getting too warm in the house. My brother was fanning himself and the breeze let Noah nod off He's still teething but still none have cut.

8 Months today

 

[colsy]

Colsy- that thread has turned stupid silly I think you had a good point tbh- natural parenting has gradually become an expensive fluff appreciation society. I'm guilty of posting pics of new fluff too but I agree that the high volume of nappy posts can drown out any non-nappy related stuff. Your thread isn't the only one that has cropped up about all the newbie cloth posts- people have been moaning about all the "tell me everything there is to know about cloth" in recent weeks. Looks like it just touched a nerve when that obviously wasn't the intention No advice on rolling babies atchange time-- our problem is her grabbing her feet and not wanting to let go, making it hard to do up a nappy. Glad to hear Monty is sleeping better :hugs

Something I didn't say in the thread, but actually really wanted to, is that all these people spending a fortune on BRAND-NEW nappies on what seems like a daily basis is quite possibly the absolute antithesis of what I consider natural parenting. My main reason for using cloth nappies is to reduce my and Monty's ecological footprint - IMHO buying new cloth nappies each week is just as bad as buying disposables. Blimey, all our cloth nappies are either second hand or damaged stock that can't be sold otherwise. We will also keep them all for if/when we have a second baby. THAT is what I think natural parenting is about, not showing off in just the same way that other people might show off about their new designer clothes or sports car. Sorry, I just feel so strongly about this and I needed to vent, and obviously the NP thread is so not the place to vent cos I've already caused big time offence

 

[Kte]

Morning all,

Flora: Forgot to say, yep got the sauce out, I blitzed it with an anti bac wipe as soon as I got it back before the sauce had time to dry Shame your sis isn't letting you go to the party, that isn't exactly fair on your nephew! Hope she cools down a bit, she sounds like she depends on family so i'm guessing she will re-appear soon asking for forgiveness, tail between legs and all that. My other cousin has chosen her mates over her family too for no real reason, she is getting married in July and becasuse she can't said no to her mates about bringing in their kids for fear of upsetting them she has said no to everyone - meaning myself, my sister, my aunt and uncle, her sister, her other cousin,and her brother can't go - she has three kids herself, so a tad confusing - families eh?!? I missed what else happened on FB but sounds nasty, huge

Colsy: Glad the Osteopath helped Monty, hope this is the beggining of happier sleeps for him and you I agreed you had a valid point too about lots of cloth posts and even a mod said they were sorting something out so don't know why people got a bit OTT with your thread.

Maffie: Happy 8 Months for Noah! Main reason I don't venture into natural parenting too much is there are quite a lot of cloth bum threads and to me it's a whole new language! - All those brands etc Weaning wise I defo keep clear usually, I mean I get why people BLW and I really wanted to do it, it's just not transpired that way. I am very much go with the Chloe-flow. She has finger food but main meals are spoon fed. TBH it gives me and her a bit of one on one interactive time together after a busy day if that makes sence. I'm not tarnishing all BLW'ers with the same brush as there is just the odd defencive or opiniated few I'd just rather keep away from as it's easier! I agree, it's great to be able to come here and chat to us all

Aimee: Yey on the winnings! Lol, I was joking about the lotter but looks like all that bad luck lately was to counter this good fortune! Hurray! Sooo jealous of the Ireland hol! Should be fab! Sorry to hear about your Dad, it must be hard to send him into care Lol I wish Chloe would get more hair - she is still a little baldie locks!

Chaos: Congrats on Autumn's new teeth! Did you do anything nice for your birthday?

OMG I am soooo worn out from public transport and it's only day two! Yesterday I got on the first bus and my purse fell off the pram and my change went everywhere! I though, okay laugh it off. The second bus up to Chloe's nursery was okay. I walked to work as its only 20mins walk or a 20min wait for next bus. I made it to work for 8.30 tho, not bad for a 7.00am set off time. On way home I set off from work at 4.15, bus up to nursery was like and oven, so stuffy I collected Chloe and waited for the bus back into town - wish I had walked it again! The bloomin' bus had steps! Outside a nursery! One disgruntled mum with a pram got off with the assistance of a passenger. I got on and he helped me on. The bus driver just said the next one will be flat! The next one is a 30 min wait! Getting off was a right phaff - the passenger had got off, I had to dump my bags on the bus station floor, pop Chloe on the floor (I put a bit of the foor muff cover down for her to sit on) and then had to wrestle with the bloomin' pram to get it open. It's such an awkward pram if it isn't folded down exactly right and I had been rushing to get on the bus so after I couldn't open it, had it on it's side forceing the thing to click shut (Aimee - you have / had a Silvercross 3D, does yours do this?) Anyways, I got it open and set off for the next bus home. When I got there there was a wheel chair user waiting in the que, which meant I wouldn't fit on the next bus I would have to get the one after. Thankfully they both came at the same time. I then had to walk up the hill home and got in about 6.35/6.40 ARGH!! (At least Nij had made tea). This morning my first bus was late and the second one missed so I arrived at work at 9.30 instead. I decided to take Chloe in the carrier today but she got tired and cranky so it's back to the other pram tomorrow with 1 bag!! So I officially HATE public transport!!!

 

[florabean1981]

Jo, I have unadded her thismmorning as a friend on FB as she sent me a text saying I all kindsa nasty stuff & about how I apparently had Josh in tears last night because my mum & dad wouldn't speak to him before he went to bed because they were angry at me & my sister. Both of them have, as usual, taken my sister's side because she pulled out the poor me card, yet again.
I replied to her text saying that for the forseable future I'd rather not have her round (I think hubby would kill her, lol), and that I'll drop Josh's bday presentsa round, but wont be coming to his party to sit with a bunch of morons. Shje was like, 'well, consider yourself an only child now coz niether me nor Charles (our bro who no one speaks to, or rather he he speaks to no one, lol) want you in our lives anymore, so fuck off & be a loner with your loner child & loner life you bitch.' So, I replied, oh well, shit happens. it'll be cheaper for me not to have you lot in my life anyway, and it's not like you can do anything for me that a friend couldn't, so I guess the only ones really losing out are your kids. nevermind. see ya!'

It's kinda weird. Me & my sister have arguements every few months, like all sister's do, but we always just fall back into line after a couple fo days & no appologies or anything & just carry on as normal. But this time, I'm not sure why, but it's different. I actually dont want her & all her drama in my life right now. and I'm actually ok with that... She will call us the next time she needs a lift to A&E, or the next time she's stuck somewhere & needs someone to pick Josh up from school coz none of her friends drive etc... Just like she always does. Yet in return, other than all the 2nd hand clothes I got from her, she actually contributes very little to mine or harry's life & I never realised that before...



ANYWAYS, moving on!

aimee, how's it going with the paddling pool?

 

[aimee-lou]

Thanks guys - the paddling pool is currently inflated in my living room. Earl is due for a nap, well, Now lol, and as soon as he's asleep it's going outside to be filled nad warm up a little. I'll take some piccies. Hubby is due home at 2.30 so hopefully he'll get to have a play too

Fleur - Big big It's difficult but sometimes you have to cut the deadweight. I have similar sentiments about my Mum at the moment but with my Dad the way he is at the moment I can't really cut myself off.

Kte - My 3D is at the MIL's at the moment and we're solely using the stroller. I also find it can be a awkward git to get open....the way you have to kind of flick it to get it to unclick.....not good with funny wrists. However, it's damned comfy for Earl - I think he's missing it as his stroller doesn't recline and it's a bugger to get him to nap. Still it folds to nothing which is kind of the idea.

Right - Sleep for a small one!

 

[florabean1981]

well, more developments. For some reason, my sister just text me "Oh and if I'm such a low life, time for some home truths. Ur son is a big squinny, he cant entertain himself for more than a couple of minutes, and everyn little noise he makes, you pick him up! U dont feed him anywhere near what he should have for his age. he IS too small, which is why the HVs want you to get him weighed every week & you that that & that's why you dont stay to speak to them. They will refer his sorry ass if he is still that small when he's one. Now fuck off."

I am in tears! Why the hell is she brining Harry into this? Harry is NOT too small- he's on the 9th centile for weight at the 25th-50th for head & length. He was born on the 9th centile, so he is actually following the exact path he should be. He has 2 meals a day (breakfast & tea) & then has snack like fromage frais, fruit chunks, toast, rice cakes etc for lunch as he refuses any 'real' food I give him then as he's either just about to go to sleep or just woken up & would rather have boob. He BFs 8 times a day & is only waking once per night now (around 4am ish). He is developing fine for his age and literally never cries. He makes a whiney noise if he's bored or tired, and when my sister has been round with her kids, he's more vocal, mainly because he's constantly being pulled at & licked, poked, people up in his face, taking his toys etc, so I pick him up to remove him from the situation, because on the occasions I didn't, her son sat on him, bit him, poked him in the eye, hit him obver the head nwith a building brick, etc etc etc.
How fucking dare she?!!! At least my son isnt fat like Caleb (99.6th centile for weight, 50th for head & length) or an emotional psycho flasher (kid has MAJOR issues bless him) like Joshy... UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is dead to me now. I've blcoked her number on my phne, removed her from all my contacts & later today will be doing a cull of my FB friends that are really her friends that I only knew through her.

family are not worth this crap.

 

[Chaos]

She's just saying it to get a reaction out of you because she's pissed off at you. It's low that she brings the kids in to it because the arguement is between her and you. I know you're mad, but don't stoop to her level.

What 8 month old can entertain them selves? They are not supposed to be able to entertain them selves, they are totally dependant on US as mothers to do everything for them. 8 months is also prime time for separation anxiety.

Your mothering skills are nothing to do with her. If you want to pick him up, then pick him up. You are his mother and that is your right. She does not have to deal with him, so why should her opinion on it matter to you?

As for Harrys size, he looks perfectly fine to me. He's in proportion to his body. He's not skinny. Some people are just petite, and Harry may be one of them. Not every boy has to be a strapping 6ft 2, 15 stone hulk yanno?

If he is in-line with the %ile that he was born in, you have nothing to worry about chica.

Don't let her upset you so, just remember, its her aim to get a rise out of you and to upset you. People like that are vile. She wants attention and for you to respond. I guarantee that you ignoring her and not saying a thing to her is pissing her off a lot more than it would if you argued back

Just let her dig her own hole. Keep the abusive texts and such and when this blows over and she tries to crawl back you can show them to her and know that you didn't go that low and she'll look like the arsehole.

well, more developments. For some reason, my sister just text me "Oh and if I'm such a low life, time for some home truths. Ur son is a big squinny, he cant entertain himself for more than a couple of minutes, and everyn little noise he makes, you pick him up! U dont feed him anywhere near what he should have for his age. he IS too small, which is why the HVs want you to get him weighed every week & you that that & that's why you dont stay to speak to them. They will refer his sorry ass if he is still that small when he's one. Now fuck off."

I am in tears! Why the hell is she brining Harry into this? Harry is NOT too small- he's on the 9th centile for weight at the 25th-50th for head & length. He was born on the 9th centile, so he is actually following the exact path he should be. He has 2 meals a day (breakfast & tea) & then has snack like fromage frais, fruit chunks, toast, rice cakes etc for lunch as he refuses any 'real' food I give him then as he's either just about to go to sleep or just woken up & would rather have boob. He BFs 8 times a day & is only waking once per night now (around 4am ish). He is developing fine for his age and literally never cries. He makes a whiney noise if he's bored or tired, and when my sister has been round with her kids, he's more vocal, mainly because he's constantly being pulled at & licked, poked, people up in his face, taking his toys etc, so I pick him up to remove him from the situation, because on the occasions I didn't, her son sat on him, bit him, poked him in the eye, hit him obver the head nwith a building brick, etc etc etc.
How fucking dare she?!!! At least my son isnt fat like Caleb (99.6th centile for weight, 50th for head & length) or an emotional psycho flasher (kid has MAJOR issues bless him) like Joshy... UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is dead to me now. I've blcoked her number on my phne, removed her from all my contacts & later today will be doing a cull of my FB friends that are really her friends that I only knew through her.

family are not worth this crap.

 

[colsy]

I second what Chaos says, Florabean. Can I ask how old she is? I'd expect this sort of behaviour from a 16-year-old whose best mate has just offended her by saying her hair's the wrong colour or something

 

[florabean1981]

I second what Chaos says, Florabean. Can I ask how old she is? I'd expect this sort of behaviour from a 16-year-old whose best mate has just offended her by saying her hair's the wrong colour or something

LOL! She'll be 26 next week. (I'm 29 in a couple of months). She is a very young 26 though, if that makes sense, and has had a very secluded life, like she's never been out of England (despite me living in Wales for 4 years!), doesn't drive, has only had 3 jobs (asda, a cafe in a library & a carer at an old ppls home- she was sacked from all 3!) & looks quite young too. Most people think she's only about 20.

Thankyou for your support on this everyone. I am definitely ignoring her from now on. My husband has also removed her now that she's sinking so low as to get harry involved, and has said she is not welcome round ours again, regardless of her kids & that she will learn the hard way in the end.

I am going to the baby sensory group tomorrow, so while I'm there, I'll pop across to the weigh in place & get him weighed again for my own piece of mind.

Chaos, harry will never be a 6 footer, lol. I'm 5'4 & hubby is only 5'7, so he's never gonna be a big boy. He is acrually quite chubby- has skin folds, fat rolls, double chin etc, just like all babies do. He's just not that heavy at the moment. I was only 6lbs 3 at birth & OH was only 7lbs 7 & he was 2 weeks late, so again, he was never gonna be big like her kids were. (9lbs 12oz, lol)

Thankyou though everyone. It really means a lot to me to have some back up & support & keep me from finding an Uzzi & shooting her down, lol. (just kidding)

 

[florabean1981]

also, I dont want to offend any of you who do have bigger babies, as from what I can see, your babies (aimee, I was thinking of Earl, sorry!) seem really well propertioned & do not look fat- you can tell they're tall & solid rather than actually fat. My nephew Caleb is actually fat- even the Drs have told my sister she needs to feed him less, and stop giving him follow on milk now that he's almost 2 and to give him cows milk & to stop giving food like fishcakes & chips & chocolate biscuits all the time too. Josh on the other hand is verging on food phobic & only eat chicken, mash, fish fingers, peas & breakfast cereals & cakes/sweets. He wont even touch anything else, let alone put it in his mouth.

 

[Kte]

Flora: I'm not so great with words sometimes but a lot of what the other ladies have said I agree with. We're here for you Harry seems totally fine imo and I consider Chloe (my Chloe) to be a bigger baby and I know what you meant don't worry


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On another note, I just really needed to share this and you ladies are the only ones I kind of can with! (SORRY) Today was the first time I went to the loo and it didn't hurt! It's only been like 7 months! So happy!!!

 

[Chaos]

On another note, I just really needed to share this and you ladies are the only ones I kind of can with! (SORRY) Today was the first time I went to the loo and it didn't hurt! It's only been like 7 months! So happy!!! [/QUOTE]

who'd have thunk this time last year we'd been discussing our pooing habbits with each other?

 

[Kte]

On another note, I just really needed to share this and you ladies are the only ones I kind of can with! (SORRY) Today was the first time I went to the loo and it didn't hurt! It's only been like 7 months! So happy!!!

who'd have thunk this time last year we'd been discussing our pooing habbits with each other?

 

[florabean1981]

yay for painless pooing!