Margerle
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For DH and I it's 'time spent' factor.
I have spent 99% with LO and though he's around, he tends to be very distant. If she cries, she's automatically "hungry" and I get baby back.
He's just not comfortable around babies. They are fragile things, and though he is loving and gentle, he's not very confident.
Now, when she's 3 and up, I'd wager he'll be MUCH more involved, and able to interact and comfort. lol
My boss and my younger brother are completely opposite though, they have lots of confidence around infants, and can settle baby even though each have only held her a dozen or so times. I think it entirely depends on the daddy and his comfort level.
As far as leaving Sharlotte, I find it extremely difficult. I was the same or worse with my first, and I have to tell myself to chill when others want to have her.
In fact, DH, DD#1 and I went to a local Vietnamese place for dinner yesterday. We are probably considered regulars, though we don't go but ever couple of weeks or so. Anyway when our food came, the lady owner asked in her broken Englilsh if she could help with baby... in other words hold her while I ate. Though I was thankful for the offer, adn did let her take LO, I've never eaten so fast in all my life and I could barely keep from staring over at her making sure LO was alright.
She has a 1yo herself that toddles around the restaurant so I knew to trust her from a logical perspective, but it seemed awfully personal to just hand over my baby...
I have spent 99% with LO and though he's around, he tends to be very distant. If she cries, she's automatically "hungry" and I get baby back.
He's just not comfortable around babies. They are fragile things, and though he is loving and gentle, he's not very confident.
Now, when she's 3 and up, I'd wager he'll be MUCH more involved, and able to interact and comfort. lol
My boss and my younger brother are completely opposite though, they have lots of confidence around infants, and can settle baby even though each have only held her a dozen or so times. I think it entirely depends on the daddy and his comfort level.
As far as leaving Sharlotte, I find it extremely difficult. I was the same or worse with my first, and I have to tell myself to chill when others want to have her.
In fact, DH, DD#1 and I went to a local Vietnamese place for dinner yesterday. We are probably considered regulars, though we don't go but ever couple of weeks or so. Anyway when our food came, the lady owner asked in her broken Englilsh if she could help with baby... in other words hold her while I ate. Though I was thankful for the offer, adn did let her take LO, I've never eaten so fast in all my life and I could barely keep from staring over at her making sure LO was alright.
She has a 1yo herself that toddles around the restaurant so I knew to trust her from a logical perspective, but it seemed awfully personal to just hand over my baby...