POMsMom, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I forget - are you at RMA NY or NJ?
I have found you need to be super assertive in your own care. I ended up switching from RMA NY to RMA NJ, because I didn't love my doctor at RMA NY and felt much more comfortable with my current doctor at RMA NJ. Initially I wasn't happy with my nurse, but I complained about the issue I was unhappy about, and it's never happened again, and now I love my nurse. For monitoring, there are multiple office locations in NJ, and I go to the locations where my favorite doctors are monitoring, and when I check in, I will request to see the specific doctor that I like and am familiar with.
As a general rule, most doctors keep conversations very short during monitoring hours, but I'm usually able to get my most pressing questions/concerns addressed. My nurse is also great at passing my questions along to my doctor and getting them answered for me. My doctor has also called me a few times, once from her cell phone, to address my questions directly. So if you are unhappy with your care and/or have questions/concerns, you have to be aggressive about getting the care you DESERVE (we are paying enough for it).
Update on me - FET cycle starting August 3rd! It's 2 weeks away. Transfer will be the week of August 20th.
I go to RMANJ. in northern NJ. The RE i saw today is at my primary location, so i may run into him in some other time. i voiced my concern with my nurse---she stated he is not a man of many words (watever) - the only consolation i have is that my E2 level went up to 160 so thats a good sign even though we didnt see a growth on the scan.(atlesat the way he did it-not thorough enough in my opinion.) I go back Sunday morning before i head to mini vacation. Like you said we are paying a lot for this to happen and i would atleast like some kind of support from whiever doctor is there.
I am still learning the acronyms---but i wish nothing but the best on your FET cycle! do you still have to do estrogen shots and what not to prepare. I have no clue how it works?